The intersection of Cheating and Submission

[ShesInsatiable]

Too the left

Not worn

 

[LauraWilling]

I do not think it is common at all,but there are a few of us who might under certain circumstances. Yours is probably the most likely. I think though she needs to be open and honest with you doing this.

 

[Blackandstrong]

There are married women who do enjoy the thrill of the cheat, tbh. Others have partners who like to hear about their exploits. No one size fits all.

 

[LauraWilling]

There are married women who do enjoy the thrill of the cheat, tbh. Others have partners who like to hear about their exploits. No one size fits all.

Absolutely! Well said and much better than I did. My past husband encouraged me to be with other men. I always told him about it though unless he was there to watch.

 

[cookiecat]

I'm not sure submission has anything to do with the cheating.

It's more about not getting what she wants sexually from you and thinking it's ok to cheat on you in order to get it.

 

[twister947]

Or maybe she's just promiscuous by nature, without any underlying "why".

 

[AnnieLit]

BDSM is not my thing. But my wife was into it before we met. I tried to scratch her submissive itch but I don't really do it well "it's like you're pretending" she says.
After a few years of marriage I caught her cheating with 3 different guys. Reading between the lines, they were the same "bad boy" types who scratched that itch for her. Without getting into it, I'm gonna just let her and not confront her anymore.

Is it common for a wife to enjoy being submissive and used by strange men?

Are we married? No, can't be, I am not caught yet
Don't know about pretending, but my husband can't do it too -- he is too afraid to really hurt me. Plus, domination shifts focus to the sub and he much prefers for things to be done to him, rather than being tbe one doing the work.

So eventually (as in after 25 years of marriage) I had enough and looked for another partner.

As for "srange men"... Are you sure about that? Unless your wife has a death wish, I don't think she will be reckless enough to submit to strangers. If it is true, this should worry you much more than the fact that she needs others to dominate her.

 

[Primalex]

I wish cuckolds would stop creating fake opinion polls just to have a reason to talk about their fetish, especially in BDSM Talk if they are not even related to BDSM.

 

[AnnieLit]

I wish cuckolds would stop creating fake opinion polls just to have a reason to talk about their fetish, especially in BDSM Talk if they are not even related to BDSM.

He is not, but his wife is related to BDSM...

 

[Primalex]

He is not, but his wife is related to BDSM...

Yeah, since he switched from Fetish & Sexuality Central to BDSM Talk.

 

[cookiecat]

I wish cuckolds would stop creating fake opinion polls just to have a reason to talk about their fetish, especially in BDSM Talk if they are not even related to BDSM.

He is not, but his wife is related to BDSM...

Yup. He is.

https://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=92015129&postcount=34

 

[AnnieLit]

Yup. He is.

https://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=92015129&postcount=34

Oh, well.

 

[ShesInsatiable]

Not in da clique

 

[cookiecat]

If my post was in some way inappropriate or violated some decorum rule I apologize. Thought I was careful not to delve into details unrelated to bdsm, and, if you read my post, make it clear that I am not interested in the topic but that my wife has a long standing interest in it. I noticed this board and thought I’d ask the experts and contribute since it seemed to be on topic. I had no idea that the focus of this thread was so narrow. My mistake.

Your post wasn't inappropriate. But the question was answered, yes?

Some folks are fortunate enough to have partners who want them to "cheat." Others answered some wives just like to cheat for the thrill.

Some of us (including me) said bdsm really has nothing to do with this cheating thing.

One person noticed you tend to post a lot about your cheating wife in another forum. I looked at your posts and agreed.

Not sure what else you're looking for?

If you have anything else to add to the conversation, that would be great!!

Do you think this is more about bdsm than cheating? Does it bug you that your wife cheats? From your other posts, it sounds like you enjoy it. Which is a-ok! But not really about bdsm.

 

[Nubbin2Declare]

Cookie has a good point. You posted this in a BDSM forum, but other than that your wife needs to be submissive for full sexual or personal expression, and you can't play convincingly at being a Dom, you give no information that would be useful to anyone who wants to share a tip, trick, or observation with you.

So, you're not Dominant, but if you are, in fact, submissive, you may be able to simply have her stop cheating by engaging openly. If she really is "insatiable," there is no point trying to have her stop seeking new partners. You either have to accept it, or end the marriage. You do have that choice.

If you are willing to agree to a non-monogamous relationship, at least as far as her activities go, you can incorporate knowledge of her activities with others into your play together.

 

[Catshadow]

While I enjoy being submissive, I don't believe there is any excuse for cheating. If your needs aren't being met you talk to each other and move on from there.... Maybe the answer is an open marriage/relationship maybe it's ending the current one, but first you need to start a conversation.