Anal for first time
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lube and start small... and don't just let some guy rip your hole apart.
big key....in and out; cpl inches...in and out...on about the 3rd or 4th....before you enter....squeeze your hole as tight as you can. like your trying not to pee...squeeze hard...then start pushing your toy in....then "relax"... repeat.
its a good thing to practice relaxing your pelvic bottom...if you've heard of kegel exercise, its the opposite. Don't push like your taking a deuce....that will promote bowel activity...trust me...I've know guys that ended up with shit dick...
big key....in and out; cpl inches...in and out...on about the 3rd or 4th....before you enter....squeeze your hole as tight as you can. like your trying not to pee...squeeze hard...then start pushing your toy in....then "relax"... repeat.
its a good thing to practice relaxing your pelvic bottom...if you've heard of kegel exercise, its the opposite. Don't push like your taking a deuce....that will promote bowel activity...trust me...I've know guys that ended up with shit dick...
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Since I am still bi curious I probably shouldn't offer advice but just like doing it with a female nice and easy does it......would love to try it with you.
spraybomb13
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I've found that riding it makes it easier to get started. You'll be able to control the pace and how much you can take until he's completely inside. (And it feels amazing too!) Once you've gotten used to it, then doggy or missionary is no problem.
hey...
So--, you are saying that your fear of pain is what is keeping you from exploring?
Get yourself one of those little butt plugs lube it up and before you insert it, in marker write the word 'pain' on the handle. Lay down get comfortable, look at that plug and that word..., fix its intended location of insertion in your minds eye...and push it in. Then relax as much as you can let yourself relax. If after a bit you can get up and move around without discomfort--, do it. When you can no longer casually feel the physical presence of the plug, without actually thinking about it, you are on your way to overcoming the fear of that pain.
Then you are on your way to 'whatever' fear further hinders you and never mix up your fears. Your fear of [pain] ISN'T..., your fear of rejection or fear of humiliation BUT in overcoming the fear of "that" pain, you begin building a bulwark to aid you in overcoming ALL your fears.
So--, you are saying that your fear of pain is what is keeping you from exploring?
Get yourself one of those little butt plugs lube it up and before you insert it, in marker write the word 'pain' on the handle. Lay down get comfortable, look at that plug and that word..., fix its intended location of insertion in your minds eye...and push it in. Then relax as much as you can let yourself relax. If after a bit you can get up and move around without discomfort--, do it. When you can no longer casually feel the physical presence of the plug, without actually thinking about it, you are on your way to overcoming the fear of that pain.
Then you are on your way to 'whatever' fear further hinders you and never mix up your fears. Your fear of [pain] ISN'T..., your fear of rejection or fear of humiliation BUT in overcoming the fear of "that" pain, you begin building a bulwark to aid you in overcoming ALL your fears.
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box13
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I don't think everyone's anatomy is such that you can insert something larger than your typical stool diameter much past your anus...it may take some practice before you can, or before it's comfortable. Warming up a toy in warm water also helps relax things.
Are you already taking PrEP? If you aren't, you should.
Are you already taking PrEP? If you aren't, you should.
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naughtymind
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Practice!
In most ways anal isn’t so different from anything else; it takes practice! If you are only able to insert a little bit of the dildo now, just enjoy that little bit. I’d guess that a big part of why you aren’t able to go further yet is your fear of pain, which causes you to tense. Just take it slow and easy, and be sure to enjoy the process. Don’t feel like it’s a test or a race to the finish line. Find what feels best. Don’t forget about the rest of your body either.
Most of all, just enjoy it.
In most ways anal isn’t so different from anything else; it takes practice! If you are only able to insert a little bit of the dildo now, just enjoy that little bit. I’d guess that a big part of why you aren’t able to go further yet is your fear of pain, which causes you to tense. Just take it slow and easy, and be sure to enjoy the process. Don’t feel like it’s a test or a race to the finish line. Find what feels best. Don’t forget about the rest of your body either.
Most of all, just enjoy it.
porn actresses will often fast sometime before an anal shoot, only eating a couple hours before their scene. they then irrigate their colon with a couple enemas or three to remove any fecal matter from the lower tract. this also will often make the anus less resistant to penetration. perhaps you could also do this in conjunction with toying to get your bum used to anal activity.
when my wife and i began having anal sex it was a gradual process over several love-making sessions, which involved much analingus and playing with her backdoor while fucking her pussy. this allowed her to get used to being stimulated there and she came to even crave it, often being the one to ask for anal on any given night.
but know that your ability to receive anal sex is quite variable. your lower g.i. tract is not a stable enviroment and has a job to do, unlike the vagina that just sits around waiting for her lover and eating bon=bons. (just kidding ladies... i know veejayjay has a very important job and if the perpetuation of the species relied upon me crapping out a bowling ball every couple of years, well, we're gonna go extinct i can assure you.) Illness, what you have eaten, when you ate it, and even outside stressors can affect how your bumhole will respond. It's like the weather, hard to predict when there will be a shit-storm hitting.
Also, your trust in your partner is very important, and how you relate to him. Once i had a top who was very good for like three sessions, but the last time i think some poop descended and was being impacted and i felt an excruciating pain with each thrust deep in my gut. i tried to get him to stop but he wouldn't until he came. which is why that was the last time. so try to find someone who puts your well-being before his need to get off.
when my wife and i began having anal sex it was a gradual process over several love-making sessions, which involved much analingus and playing with her backdoor while fucking her pussy. this allowed her to get used to being stimulated there and she came to even crave it, often being the one to ask for anal on any given night.
but know that your ability to receive anal sex is quite variable. your lower g.i. tract is not a stable enviroment and has a job to do, unlike the vagina that just sits around waiting for her lover and eating bon=bons. (just kidding ladies... i know veejayjay has a very important job and if the perpetuation of the species relied upon me crapping out a bowling ball every couple of years, well, we're gonna go extinct i can assure you.) Illness, what you have eaten, when you ate it, and even outside stressors can affect how your bumhole will respond. It's like the weather, hard to predict when there will be a shit-storm hitting.
Also, your trust in your partner is very important, and how you relate to him. Once i had a top who was very good for like three sessions, but the last time i think some poop descended and was being impacted and i felt an excruciating pain with each thrust deep in my gut. i tried to get him to stop but he wouldn't until he came. which is why that was the last time. so try to find someone who puts your well-being before his need to get off.
