Chemistry

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Difficult to describe, unmistakable when it appears, chemistry is that wave of unexpected compatibility that adds depth and richness to anything people can share. Heady stuff, and I’ve been mystified by it most of my life.

The effects of shared chemistry can be so profound, that when I was younger and just coming of age, I sometimes questioned my own authenticity because I could feel so differently in the company of different people. Am I this… or that? Turns out we’re both this and that, in turn, and no one will be all they can be at all times. Certainly, one of the forces shaping what we can be, and will be, is this elusive thing called chemistry.

Most residents of (or visitors to) the Lit-mosphere have a taste for intimate chemistry. In a community defined by sensual open-mindedness, what we seek revolves around the unique preferences and desires that drove us here in the first place. Such inclinations are particularly vulnerable to the rapport, or lack of it, that two people share. For many of us, the fantasies that gun our engines would be problematic if actualized in our day to day lives, but to connect with someone else resonating in a compatible way can free those energies and allow them to be realized in a thrilling but safe way. Such is the magic of good chemistry.

I’ve posted to Lit a few times over the years, but it’s never been in the cards for me to make sharing here a consistent part of my world. Still some of the connections I’ve made have been wonderfully rewarding, and every now and then it’s good to drop by, toss a coin in the lake and see what waves back.

You may be like me, may even feel a little out of place browsing the posts here, not trying to satisfy some sudden pounding lust (not knocking it, folks, just sayin’), but rather feel yourself driven by a deep curiosity and powerful sensual impulse. I haven’t hung out a laundry list of things I “want” in this post because this isn’t just about me. What chemistry can create is more interesting, and there are things to discover I’ll never think of on my own. Maybe we should connect.
 
..... this elusive thing called chemistry..

Is that what you are chasing after?
Butterflies chase smoke too.
Have you ever tried to be a chemist ?
Chemist's father Alchemist has been showing him how to convert base metal into gold.
 
Is that what you are chasing after?
Butterflies chase smoke too.
Have you ever tried to be a chemist ?
Chemist's father Alchemist has been showing him how to convert base metal into gold.

I'm pretty sure "chasing" is too strong a word. I fucking hope it is. I'm an optimist, but not an idealist. That tendency was mostly eliminated the hard (but effective) way(s).

Realistically, we're all chemists, and I think I've learned to try to be a creative but responsible one.

And I wouldn't put too much stock in anything MY father says!
 
I expect that's true in many cases, but I'm sure it's not so common one could assume it and never be wrong.
 
I neglected to put my gender in the original post, and I didn’t put my relationship status there either. Not trying to be cagey or cool - Neither of them seemed initially relevant to my interest and inquiry. I imagined that if I was lucky enough to earn a response, it could be from either a male or female, single or committed. If a conversation followed, we could both choose to reveal that or not. And if not, that’s cool too, because I think it can be considered a personal matter.

If you’re here looking for a partner, then yes, gender and status up front, makes sense. It could also be that what's important to me in that regard may be a little atypical.

If there are any doors to open here, I would be interested in opening them gently and with a little more subtlety. I don’t think there’s any codified “right” way to make a post in this forum, and it is by definition “personal” - so it seems fair to extend some latitude to anyone who makes an effort as long as they’re not being abrasive. Yeah?
 
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I neglected to put my gender in the original post, and I didn’t put my relationship status there either. Not trying to be cagey or cool - Neither of them seemed initially relevant to my interest and inquiry. I imagined that if I was lucky enough to earn a response, it could be from either a male or female, single or committed. If a conversation followed, we could both choose to reveal that or not. And if not, that’s cool too, because I think it can be considered a personal matter.

If you’re here looking for a partner, then yes, gender and status up front, makes sense, and it could also be that what's important to me in that regard may be a little atypical.

If there are any doors to open here, I would be interested in opening them gently and with a little more subtlety. I don’t think there’s any codified “right” way to make a post in this form, and it is by definition “personal” - so it seems fair to extend some latitude to anyone who makes an effort as long as they’re not being abrasive. Yeah?

Most people consider gender and marital status pretty important factors before contacting someone via PM. Just ask all the dudes who found out they were talking to other dudes when they asked for nudes :rolleyes:
 
Most people consider gender and marital status pretty important factors before contacting someone via PM. Just ask all the dudes who found out they were talking to other dudes when they asked for nudes :rolleyes:

Ha! Life's just full of surprises, right? Talking to some dude *might* just wind up being the best fucking thing that ever happened to them.
 
For me, the amazing thing about Lit is that if you put yourself out there with some... enthusiasm, the connections you can make are like drawing a card out of the middle of a deck. Married or single, and whatever unique interactions follow from them, I enjoy the uncertainty.

All the coolest things any of us will yet uncover will come straight out of the unknown.
 
Chemistry is the biggest thing. You know it when it hits You. It's a great feeling !
 
Chemistry is the biggest thing. You know it when it hits You. It's a great feeling !
. It really is. And maybe it leads to something intimate and wild, but maybe it's something else, and that's all cool.

One of the more elusive things to reveal in short posts like these is humor. My personality revolves around humor, it's absolutely essential. I love the absurd and bizarre, used to devour National Lampoon magazine (and miss it dearly.. sorry Onion), always a Python fan, etc., the kind of stuff you either really get or absolutely can't stand!
 
Most people consider gender and marital status pretty important factors before contacting someone via PM. Just ask all the dudes who found out they were talking to other dudes when they asked for nudes :rolleyes:

This. Personally, I'm not going to invest much time in someone who feels that revealing gender/relationship status should be "need to know". But that's just me. Good luck and happy hunting.
 
Might be the right season to try this again

While it's not too tough to make connections here, so many variables in how people do or don't gel. Thought it might be worth revisiting the possibilities.
 
Chemistry is fun!

I agree -
At the end of the day .... it's 99% chemistry
It's either there or it's not.

Good luck on your search.

99% seems about right, and it’s a real crap shoot so you have to keep rolling the dice. What comes up may be amazing, or boring, or, god forbid, dangerous. You take two (or more!) ridiculously complex compounds, stir them together, and buckle up. Some combinations spark, some ignite, barely glowing, like a sterno can, while another might explode in a wall of technicolor flames. Some sputter, like, a lot, while others leap all over the fucking place like a lemur smoking crack. Others freeze, or stink, or belch out an endless column of black smoke that squeals like the howling of a thousand lost souls as it curls up around your ceiling fan. Chemistry is fun!
 
Chemistry is the most important thing and I think you have a great ad. I like that it’s not just a laundry list of what you want. Also part of me is thinking, in a Jesse Pinkman voice, “science bitch.”
 
A ray of light

Chemistry is the most important thing and I think you have a great ad. I like that it’s not just a laundry list of what you want. Also part of me is thinking, in a Jesse Pinkman voice, “science bitch.”

Thank you! Capacity for appreciation is a function of the topic of discussion, so cheers to you, macymadison.

The apparent assumption that there must be a set of uniform declarations in every ad placed on this forum is almost certainly the lingering result of disappointment and bitterness. I have some sympathy for that, truly. But no one individual’s post is going to diminish the prospects or possibilities available to anyone else here, so regardless of what one’s sensibilities may prefer, strive to be more magnanimous and let each of us try this in our own way. It’s asking very little, isn’t it?

And it’ll save you self-appointed ad critics time as well as wear and tear on your otherwise magic fingers if you skip the sanctimonious replies. I hear carpal tunnel is a bitch, better safe than sorry.
 
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