Ghosting...

[Thepenismightier0813]

True that.

With a name like heavy balls and the beast as your profile picture I'm sensing a theme hear HB that makes me giggle!

 

[Ocean33]

Sucks

I got ghosted recently it fucking sucked

 

[HeavyBalls]

With a name like heavy balls and the beast as your profile picture I'm sensing a theme hear HB that makes me giggle!

Im not even gonna try....

 

[Dribble]

Im not even gonna try....

https://youtu.be/4U-Q_SJ01Rw

Not heavy...but sure are big

 

[SinfuIDreams]

Oh yeah. I’ve done it. It’s definitely shitty. But I’ve done it. There are times where you could’ve asked me, ‘would you rather punch a dolphin or talk to X,’ and I would’ve, without hesitation, started shadow boxing.

That’s when I’ve ghosted someone — when talking to her was indescribably offensive.

I think every single person has been in a situation where they just wanted to run from someone in both rl and online.

I've ghosted before but mine is more out of rl issues. I still do try my very best to make it known what's going on. But still there is always a friend I miss out on letting know, It takes a certain person to get butt hurt over a genuine explanation.

 

[Thepenismightier0813]

I think every single person has been in a situation where they just wanted to run from someone in both rl and online.

I've ghosted before but mine is more out of rl issues. I still do try my very best to make it known what's going on. But still there is always a friend I miss out on letting know, It takes a certain person to get butt hurt over a genuine explanation.

Of course! There are different situations and certainly things you can understand in terms of why someone might do what they do.

 

[Ocean33]

Ghosting is awful. Especially if someone has taken time to get to know you and then just disappears after you hookup.

It hurts you think you have a connection and them boom they're gone

 

[pmichael]

It's a chicken shit and childish way of running from honesty.

 

[SinfuIDreams]

Of course! There are different situations and certainly things you can understand in terms of why someone might do what they do.

Some are very understanding and will always be a big part of my online life.

Some are way more hurt then they should be.. 2 pms exchanged doesn't mean you own someone lol.
I had that one recently.. I came back to 12 msgs of accusations and name-calling.

I do agree with the other posters calling it a horrible nasty thing to do and if it's planned it's horrible and I have been on the receiving end of it as well.

I always try to see it as rl has taken over and stopped whoever from replying not that they are deliberately trying to hurt me.

 

[Thepenismightier0813]

Some are very understanding and will always be a big part of my online life.

Some are way more hurt then they should be.. 2 pms exchanged doesn't mean you own someone lol.
I had that one recently.. I came back to 12 msgs of accusations and name-calling.

I do agree with the other posters calling it a horrible nasty thing to do and if it's planned it's horrible and I have been on the receiving end of it as well.

I always try to see it as rl has taken over and stopped whoever from replying not that they are deliberately trying to hurt me.

Sinful you sound like a wonderful person and a true treat to be around we must talk sometime.

I agree to a point? I've talked a bit about my most recent experience and while it wasn't beyond tow pms it was a short term thing. Probably about a week? A very passionate intense week but we hadn't talked as much.

I can understand that person not feeling the "need" to message me and just up and ghost but at the same time it hurt me incredibly not knowing. Especially since said person was still posting regularly.

That being said closure is good for the soul! Even if that closure just make people mad. You certainly don't deserve a name calling or anything like that.

 

[lustfulraj]

...isn't cool, boys and girls. Just sayin'.

It happens. Maybe they didn’t like what you wrote, maybe it was something you said, maybe they freaked out, maybe they lost interest, maybe they got busy with someone else, maybe they are just busy ... it could be anything. You learn to deal with it.

 

[lustfulraj]

Some are way more hurt then they should be.. 2 pms exchanged doesn't mean you own someone lol.
I had that one recently.. I came back to 12 msgs of accusations and name-calling.

That’s not ghosting, that’s kicking an empty can to the curb

 

[SinfuIDreams]

Sinful you sound like a wonderful person and a true treat to be around we must talk sometime.

I agree to a point? I've talked a bit about my most recent experience and while it wasn't beyond tow pms it was a short term thing. Probably about a week? A very passionate intense week but we hadn't talked as much.

I can understand that person not feeling the "need" to message me and just up and ghost but at the same time it hurt me incredibly not knowing. Especially since said person was still posting regularly.

That being said closure is good for the soul! Even if that closure just make people mad. You certainly don't deserve a name calling or anything like that.

I don't know about me being wonderful but I have my moments lol

You see that situation is different to me there was a connection between you and your ghoster.
My whole exchange with the name caller was above board. I very rarely go to the naughty zone at all.

It has to be a pretty big connection for me to be dragged away from my writing for that long
Hell I had skype for 2 days and deleted it I would much rather keep all my friends in the one place, Here. I don't have the attention span to jump from this place to apps and back and forwards.

I guess what I'm saying is anything involving a connection to me is a reason to make sure I let them know what's going on. Even if it's a I'm not feeling where this is headed.

 

[Thepenismightier0813]

I don't know about me being wonderful but I have my moments lol

You see that situation is different to me there was a connection between you and your ghoster.
My whole exchange with the name caller was above board. I very rarely go to the naughty zone at all.

It has to be a pretty big connection for me to be dragged away from my writing for that long
Hell I had skype for 2 days and deleted it I would much rather keep all my friends in the one place, Here. I don't have the attention span to jump from this place to apps and back and forwards.

I guess what I'm saying is anything involving a connection to me is a reason to make sure I let them know what's going on. Even if it's a I'm not feeling where this is headed.

Hey! From what I see your pretty dang awesome!

Still I get it! You make a dang good point. I also like how we're all talking about this! It's nice to have the forum!

Hope all you beautiful people out there are enjoying your Sunday and getting some rest before getting back to the grind!

 

[SinfuIDreams]

That’s not ghosting, that’s kicking an empty can to the curb

I actually thought I dodged a bullet with that one

I really shouldn't laugh about it though he obviously thought we had something going on in those 2 pms

Hey! From what I see your pretty dang awesome!

Still I get it! You make a dang good point. I also like how we're all talking about this! It's nice to have the forum!

Hope all you beautiful people out there are enjoying your Sunday and getting some rest before getting back to the grind!

I don't post a great deal in forums but I just wanted to let everyone know it's not always because someone is sick of talking to you. Sometimes it really is just a necessity thing.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

I know how you feel, just had this happen to me last week and I'm still tying to recover from it.

If the person doing the afore mentioned ghosting is not showing up anywhere then remember it could because something happened to them and might not be entirely their own fault.

However if they are around or about or whatever I can only give you the advice I've been trying to tell myself. That they didn't care enough about you in the first place or respect you enough to be honest and upfront about their feelings. If so then your better off without them.

Either way your a wonderful person who deserves better and will find better I promise.

Very interesting perspective.

 

[filt]

Sadly ghosting is part and parcel of these kind of places. I guess we come here to escape the real world and there comes a time when the person obviously needs to escape.

Just this week I was told that they were very taken by me, then said they need to go and it is nothing to do with me (I know not ghosted) but then they continue to show as being active in my contacts list.

You just have to dust yourself down, remind yourself that you’re not a bad human or to blame move on because the next person you interact with might be someone who is actually worthy of your time.

However, the manner in which it done is questionable but you’ll never escape it in these environs.

 

[snowhitez]

Being ghosted by someone who you only chatted with a couple of times come with the online world. But being ghosted by someone you had regular contact with for a months is insulting. I get RL being first priority. But don’t tell me you can’t send a quick message letting the other person know.
And still being around but not letting the other person now why is just ignorant and cowardly.

 

[Mtnmike]

Being ghosted by someone who you only chatted with a couple of times come with the online world. But being ghosted by someone you had regular contact with for a months is insulting. I get RL being first priority. But don’t tell me you can’t send a quick message letting the other person know.
And still being around but not letting the other person now why is just ignorant and cowardly.

Thank You for your insight, spot on !!!

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Being ghosted by someone who you only chatted with a couple of times come with the online world. But being ghosted by someone you had regular contact with for a months is insulting. I get RL being first priority. But don’t tell me you can’t send a quick message letting the other person know.
And still being around but not letting the other person know why is just ignorant and cowardly.

I would add ‘cruel’ to your last sentence... but totally spot on.

I have also had instances where I have swapped a handful of pm’s and then a guy has got a little bent out of shape if I don’t contact them first again. It’s rare it happens but it has... and in my situation it really is inexplicable, as I have only had a month in the last 18 when I would have said I was available! Generally I’m in a committed relationship, it just seems to happen to me, and I never try to hide it and give anyone false hope of more. My buttons lay it out!

So I think the term ghosting can be misused, in my mind there has to be a mutual acknowledgement of a relationship for it to be true ghosting.... but that’s just imho

 

[mentalsexiness]

Hi, If my Bio sounds of interest to you, let me know. I think we might get along.

 

[sexywriterfla]

Yeah, it sucks. And it hurts, especially when you've invested a lot of time, energy, feelings and effort. I've had good Lit friends drop out over the years here because of RL issues and that's understandable. But dropping out with no word, no explanation, no nothing? Fucking sucks.

 

[MohanSingh]

You have to ghost people sometimes when they get annoying

 

[LaidBackInToronto]

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[UKMind]

You have to ghost people sometimes when they get annoying

Why don’t you just validate your ownership of a pair of bollocks and politely say “thanks but no thanks” rather than be a coward?

I mean, every human on the planet, even a sexual Adonis like yourself, has the potential to be “annoying” in combination with another human. So why run, just say it’s at the end and why so both parties can move on.

I don’t get the phenomenon