Ghosting...

[Bjerget]

You have to ghost people sometimes when they get annoying

Hey! You're kind of a jerk! But you know what? The more people that quote this message, the more people associate it with your name, and the less people will have to suffer your idiocy intimately.

I guess it's good that you put a label on yourself.

 

[Dodger93]

Just for the purposes of the narrative:

I'm currently sat in a pub with IntelligentFem, and she's informed me she puts pubes in her mouth.

Avoid like the plague, lads. Ghost away...

 

[Dodger93]

Just for the purposes of the narrative:

I'm currently sat in a pub with IntelligentFem, and she's informed me she puts pubes in her mouth.

Avoid like the plague, lads. Ghost away...

Update:

She slapped my arm and called me a f*cking arsehole.

She's abusive, too

 

[Intelligentfem]

Update:

She slapped my arm and called me a f*cking arsehole.

She's abusive, too

All of the above is true!!!!

 

[Dodger93]

All of the above is true!!!!

"Intelligent", lol

Flagrant false advertising. X

 

[Intelligentfem]

"Intelligent", lol

Flagrant false advertising. X

Not my fault I'm on too high an intellectual level for you to follow my conversation...

 

[Bjerget]

Hold on while I get some popcorn...


Okay commence with the beatings and arguings!

 

[PacificCoast]

Just say it’s at the end and why so both parties can move on.

I don’t get the phenomenon

I've selectively quoted above, but generally agree with those who have said that where one has made a substantial investment of time, a brief and simple message to say goodbye is the decent thing to do.

 

[EdEc]

It's so easy to say, "This isn't working for me". At least the other person knows not to wait around for a reply.

 

[Sacslt19]

If someone disappears after chatting briefly its annoying but oh well. If they disappear after youve been communicating for a while its just cowardly. Tell me im not what youre looking for & move on, but at least tell me something.
Which is worse though, being ghosted or having someone pretend to be someone else? Meaning you build a relationship with the person as the present themselves then later you find out its all been a lie?

 

[soulfulfriend]

...isn't cool, boys and girls. Just sayin'.

I sometimes wonder how this became acceptable. I think it is ok if your not compatible with someone that you should just say so. Be kind, give them closure and wish them well and good bye. Obviously I know this does not work for everyone (some people are abusive). Then you have to block or ignore them.

My deepest sympathies to any of you who are feeling anxious or hurt because of someone being insensitive. They just did not deserve you. And I say that knowing I knew someone for a couple months, then out of no where they just disappeared. I wish I knew what happened. I actually felt really anxious for a couple weeks (they were important to me). Alls I can say is in friendship value needs to go both ways. Otherwise its just unhealthy. Good luck to you all.

 

[Dodger93]

To be honest, any lad who ghosts IntelligentFem is a fool. - she gives a cracking blowjob (as I discovered last night...)

 

[Intelligentfem]

To be honest, any lad who ghosts IntelligentFem is a fool. - she gives a cracking blowjob (as I discovered last night...)

See if I respond to this and deny it, I'm doing myself out of a rather charming review... if I respond and confirm, I'm a slut... decisions decisions!!!

 

[Dodger93]

See if I respond to this and deny it, I'm doing myself out of a rather charming review... if I respond and confirm, I'm a slut... decisions decisions!!!

I just hope your jaw isn't aching too much, dear x

 

[Intelligentfem]

I just hope your jaw isn't aching too much, dear x

Can I take the 5th amendment????

 

[Glazedcorneas]

This is the oddest thing, I just read this term “ghosting” yesterday and I see again. Very interesting, agree not a nice thing, but I can’t speak to it as I never know what the other folks were thinking or feeling at the time they feel they have to do something as dramatic as cut themselves out of a relationship.

Wish all healing, compassion and strength as a result of this act of ghosting

 

[Misshotndeep]

It's a chicken shit and childish way of running from honesty.

About sums up my thoughts on the subject.
I personally like to burn the bridge and throw a bunch of profanity on the way out. No take backs! lol

 

[bi11ionaire]

As a man, I've been ghosted a fair bit on here. I used to feel terrible about it before (and it isn't easy not to, I'll admit).

Over time, I've realized it's a by-product of abundance of choice and the nature of the medium of communication that makes it so easy and dispassionate.

It definitely makes me value those women who are direct about not feeling interested in engaging anymore and value even more those women that click with me for us to stay in touch.

 

[Runbow]

I understand when people ghost because they are having mental health issues, and they don’t have the capacity to respond to people. Or if they feel the other person person is abusive or manipulative. Sometimes just leaving the conversation is better than to keep interacting.

But ghosting because you are bored of the conversation, or just don’t want to interact? Yeah it is shitty and hurtful.

 

[HayleyLuvsSex]

eh, if someone is being rude to me, i see nothing wrong with ghosting them.

 

[nyguy1980]

Too common..

I would say ghosting is part of this internet game we all are playing.

I do think people like to pretend and live out their fantasies here. So they make up stories, they lead us on but eventually real life catches up with them and they are faced with the reality of having to run.

It can be very hurtful but I have gotten used to the idea that, even if things seem like they going well, they can always just disappear. Jaded outlook? I guess its a way to save a bit of heartache/frustration.

 

[Nubbin2Declare]

"Ghosting": the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.

In a marriage after having exchanged vows to love and honor each other for life, there out to be a compelling reason. In an anonymous internet forum, what did you expect?

It takes two willing participants to make or continue a relationship. As soon as either one of them isn't interested, it's over. How it ends isn't all that important. It's over. Giving an explanation or reasons here is counter-productive. You can't send someone a message to say that you don't want to exchange messages. If you want to stop receiving them, you have to stop sending them.

Does it hurt? Sure, but whose fault is it that I feel as though I wasted my time with that person who just ghosted me? My decision to waste that time was made the moment, I opened my browser and went to an anonymous internet forum. If someone was able to ghost me at all, then it wasn't a real personal relationship to begin with. It was ephemeral, a fantasy.

Live life in three dimensions, and not through a two-dimensional glowing screen, and you won't find yourself ghosted.

Having been ghosted, and not liking it, and after taking responsibility for your decisions leading to it:

"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened." (Dr. Seuss)

 

[Bjerget]

"Ghosting": the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.

In a marriage after having exchanged vows to love and honor each other for life, there out to be a compelling reason. In an anonymous internet forum, what did you expect?

It takes two willing participants to make or continue a relationship. As soon as either one of them isn't interested, it's over. How it ends isn't all that important. It's over. Giving an explanation or reasons here is counter-productive. You can't send someone a message to say that you don't want to exchange messages. If you want to stop receiving them, you have to stop sending them.

Does it hurt? Sure, but whose fault is it that I feel as though I wasted my time with that person who just ghosted me? My decision to waste that time was made the moment, I opened my browser and went to an anonymous internet forum. If someone was able to ghost me at all, then it wasn't a real personal relationship to begin with. It was ephemeral, a fantasy.

Live life in three dimensions, and not through a two-dimensional glowing screen, and you won't find yourself ghosted.

Having been ghosted, and not liking it, and after taking responsibility for your decisions leading to it:

"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened." (Dr. Seuss)

You must be fun at parties.

 

[Chillygirl]

Just happened to me. Granted he doesn’t owe me anything but I thought he was better than that. Is asking for a little honesty too much?!

 

[nyguy1980]

Just happened to me. Granted he doesn’t owe me anything but I thought he was better than that. Is asking for a little honesty too much?!

Funny you should say that. Honesty doesn't cut it anymore.
But I feel for you.

It is a shame how we know we shouldnt let us bother us, but emotions are so weak!