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[Rosa2019]

inside the dark corners of someone's mind is exhilarating. The anonymity strips away the veneer of political correctness....
TJ

The dark corners of someone's mind are located at the deeper chambers of one's heart. It's true life glowing in the dark.

Anonymity has no names, no labels or rigid social conventions that inhibit the naked soul from singing and dancing in the rain.

 

[rlaflamme]

The dark corners of someone's mind are located at the deeper chambers of one's heart. It's true life glowing in the dark.

Anonymity has no names, no labels or rigid social conventions that inhibit the naked soul to sing and dance in the rain.

That is awesome

 

[Feistygirl13]

Yeah, I definitely get hit on by men or men pretending to be women a lot here (even though I’m a guy). It’s definitely a male centric community, wonder how to make this more welcoming to women.

I enjoy chatting with anyone but real life limits the length of time I have here on any given day. Add in that there are men who PM wanting to go from hello to indulge my fantasy in two exchanges because they have been on for hours and want to cum. It made me change my settings so it won't be obvious I'm on. I have my share of conversations that quickly dwindle into three word responses from guys. And I'm guilty of not responding for various reasons. Lack of time, many PM's from others, RL intruding, and the playground here.
Some chatting seems to do better in certain forums, but I am honestly a one guy kind of gal. If I am hitting it off with someone, I tend to focus on him but will try to be courteous and still respond to others.
Sometimes it's the way people prefer to communicate, via Kik or Skype etc and if I don't want to communicate that way, that ends the conversations. Lol.
It's complicated all around.
I guess, like others have said, you just keep on keeping on and hope to get lucky with meeting someone things click with.

 

[secondchances42]

I enjoy chatting with anyone but real life limits the length of time I have here on any given day. Add in that there are men who PM wanting to go from hello to indulge my fantasy in two exchanges because they have been on for hours and want to cum. It made me change my settings so it won't be obvious I'm on. I have my share of conversations that quickly dwindle into three word responses from guys. And I'm guilty of not responding for various reasons. Lack of time, many PM's from others, RL intruding, and the playground here.
Some chatting seems to do better in certain forums, but I am honestly a one guy kind of gal. If I am hitting it off with someone, I tend to focus on him but will try to be courteous and still respond to others.
Sometimes it's the way people prefer to communicate, via Kik or Skype etc and if I don't want to communicate that way, that ends the conversations. Lol.
It's complicated all around.
I guess, like others have said, you just keep on keeping on and hope to get lucky with meeting someone things click with.

This is exactly what I think and why I try different things to get to the point of conversation with a woman. I know that sometimes it may just lead to the message or two, many will ignore, maybe one will last longer. Who knows, but I am willing to try because it is the conversation and connection that i hope to find. Good luck to all of you as you continue to look at try to find the right people for your connection!

 

[rlaflamme]

I enjoy chatting with anyone but real life limits the length of time I have here on any given day. Add in that there are men who PM wanting to go from hello to indulge my fantasy in two exchanges because they have been on for hours and want to cum. It made me change my settings so it won't be obvious I'm on. I have my share of conversations that quickly dwindle into three word responses from guys. And I'm guilty of not responding for various reasons. Lack of time, many PM's from others, RL intruding, and the playground here.
Some chatting seems to do better in certain forums, but I am honestly a one guy kind of gal. If I am hitting it off with someone, I tend to focus on him but will try to be courteous and still respond to others.
Sometimes it's the way people prefer to communicate, via Kik or Skype etc and if I don't want to communicate that way, that ends the conversations. Lol.
It's complicated all around.
I guess, like others have said, you just keep on keeping on and hope to get lucky with meeting someone things click with.

I think that the conversation turning from "Hey, let's talk and get to know one another" to "So, how wet are your panties" in a just a few messages is what makes many not respond to messages they get. It becomes expected that that will happen and the hope of a real conversation dwindles. (Not that cybering isn't a conversation). I can see why people (I am sure women have it happen more often) stop responding or initiating.
There is no question that some forums carry wonderful conversation, more so in the playground area. You can get a feel for a person but the posts and some have very interesting conversations within them.
I think that trying other ways to communicate, skype, kik and such can be considered more personal to some people as it takes them from this little cyber land and brings them to a way to have constant communication. It ties in the cyberland and the RL of a person.
As for time, that can be a conversation killer. My thoughts about that are pretty simple, if you truly have a good conversation you can await a response and take it when you get it. We have real lives that we live and this is just a part of what we do. We visit and leave. RL is more important than coming here and scrolling through the forums, this is a break from the RL that we lead.

 

[rlaflamme]

A simple conversation can be a wonderful distraction for the "real world." Just a person to sling words with and spend some time with. It does not have to go on for days, although that is a wonderful thing as well. Just having some time away from what is going on around you can do wonderful things and allow you to relax a bit.

 

[TheRealLJS]

I think that the conversation turning from "Hey, let's talk and get to know one another" to "So, how wet are your panties" in a just a few messages is what makes many not respond to messages they get. It becomes expected that that will happen and the hope of a real conversation dwindles.

And sometimes it doesn't take even a few messages to get the proverbial "How horny are you" message. If that's what you're looking for, then that's fine. I can only speak for myself, but I expect the "Let's fuck" message to come a bit later from the initial "Hi, how are you" rather than by the second or third message. Sometimes I just want to talk to people about things that aren't sex related. Once I indicate that I want to talk about things that don't center on his hard dick, I get dropped really fast.

A simple conversation can be a wonderful distraction for the "real world." Just a person to sling words with and spend some time with. It does not have to go on for days, although that is a wonderful thing as well. Just having some time away from what is going on around you can do wonderful things and allow you to relax a bit.

Agree. A great conversation doesn't necessarily have to go on for days. A couple exchanges that put smiles on our faces is worth its weight in gold, at least to me.

 

[RBWN]

Yep, agreed, and it's mostly why I lurk

 

[RBWN]

Yep, agreed, and it's mostly why I lurk unless I'm posting a specific response. Difficult to just 'get it on'. Guess I'm just not built that way

 

[DeadlyDream]

Maybe I don't have enough experience yet. But just from the short time that I have been here. The few conversations I have tried to have. Not many have been interested in actual conversation. It quickly moves to wanting to go elsewhere for conversations. Or wanting to take conversation to a different level. All in a manner of maybe 4 private messages. That also made me back away kind of quickly also.

 

[rlaflamme]

And sometimes it doesn't take even a few messages to get the proverbial "How horny are you" message. If that's what you're looking for, then that's fine. I can only speak for myself, but I expect the "Let's fuck" message to come a bit later from the initial "Hi, how are you" rather than by the second or third message. Sometimes I just want to talk to people about things that aren't sex related. Once I indicate that I want to talk about things that don't center on his hard dick, I get dropped really fast.

Yep, agreed, and it's mostly why I lurk unless I'm posting a specific response. Difficult to just 'get it on'. Guess I'm just not built that way

Maybe I don't have enough experience yet. But just from the short time that I have been here. The few conversations I have tried to have. Not many have been interested in actual conversation. It quickly moves to wanting to go elsewhere for conversations. Or wanting to take conversation to a different level. All in a manner of maybe 4 private messages. That also made me back away kind of quickly also.

That is really too bad. You know, I understand the frustrations, not that I get the "let's play" message very often being a guy and all. It seems that women get that message a lot though and some are looking for just that, but not all and not as many as people think. I do hear it happens quite often though and have received messages in the past that pretty much asked for that right off, or started what they were going to do to me. I have received some where I replied to them letting them know I had the wrong parts for what they were describing lol.

It can happen though, a basic conversation. Finding one can be difficult and every start of one is a risk that the "Let's fuck" will come up quickly. I wish you all luck. Just keep going on and enjoy the site as you browse through it.

Thank you all for your input.

 

[TheRealLJS]

Maybe I don't have enough experience yet. But just from the short time that I have been here. The few conversations I have tried to have. Not many have been interested in actual conversation. It quickly moves to wanting to go elsewhere for conversations. Or wanting to take conversation to a different level. All in a manner of maybe 4 private messages. That also made me back away kind of quickly also.

There are few that want an extended conversation that doesn't include some degree of sexuality. To be fair, it is a sex site, so there are some expectations to be had. Those who are looking for just a conversation that doesn't necessarily include the topic of sex, we can more often than not end up wanting. The good thing is that the more you talk with people on here, you can pick up pretty quickly ones that are just looking for a cyber tryst and those who want to talk to really get to know you better with no strings attached. Persistence and patience are two virtues that help to have fun on Lit. And, of course, you can always reserve the option of telling someone to fuck off if they really piss you off.

 

[soulfulfriend]

I've been reading this thread the past day and can't help but appreciate the points being made. I've also found myself lurking or just reading in the stories section. When I was in college (many moons ago) I would always enjoy coming on to share a conversation and perhaps learn to look at things in different ways. And atleast for me, a couple people I met were part of my inner circle through my life. But now I find that the art of conversation has turned to very short, and more directed. Like its a transaction. So I find myself just going out in the real world and attending meetups. Its not as free as online. But it has it benefits.

So maybe the bigger question, what can we do to make things more meaningful?

P.S. I have not given up on finding the persons I want to share with. Perhaps trying to be more cautious about the time i devote.

 

[RBWN]

A big part of the attraction for the Lit conversation as opposed to real life is the anonymity it allows. We can truly be ourselves without fear of judgement and censure. The sex(real or imagined) is a big part of the site and the need for that anonymity. Many of us here though I believe search for something more fulfilling, whatever that means for us individually. Depending on where you are from, what type of relationship you are in, the job you do, your family......those things define us in so many ways.

 

[rlaflamme]

I am glad that the thread is still being read and added to, I think it is awesome. Many people are here looking for something beside basic conversation, but I think many are looking for just that. Of course being what this site is it is no surprise that many conversations are started with the hope of naughty talk and such. Hopefully those looking for conversation find it and those that are looking for more find that as well. It is a fun place here in cyberland, where we can do so much.

 

[TheRealLJS]

It is a fun place here in cyberland, where we can do so much.

I think this is ultimately the reason why people, myself included, keep coming back. Sometimes we get pissed off over things, but most of us come back sooner or later, because it is ultimately a fun place to interact.

 

[Erotic69er]

Well said.

A big part of the attraction for the Lit conversation as opposed to real life is the anonymity it allows. We can truly be ourselves without fear of judgement and censure. The sex(real or imagined) is a big part of the site and the need for that anonymity. Many of us here though I believe search for something more fulfilling, whatever that means for us individually. Depending on where you are from, what type of relationship you are in, the job you do, your family......those things define us in so many ways.

I could not have put it better. On here we can be ourselves and chat about the things that interest us. We can also express ourselves freely and open up our minds to new things. We can also interact with kindred spirits. In essence it is all about having fun and stimulating our minds and libido.

 

[rlaflamme]

I think this is ultimately the reason why people, myself included, keep coming back. Sometimes we get pissed off over things, but most of us come back sooner or later, because it is ultimately a fun place to interact.

I could not have put it better. On here we can be ourselves and chat about the things that interest us. We can also express ourselves freely and open up our minds to new things. We can also interact with kindred spirits. In essence it is all about having fun and stimulating our minds and libido.

And that is really it. It is a place to find interaction, share thoughts and feelings. A place to just unwind and hope to get some smiles from.

 

[rlaflamme]

It is funny how opening your page and seeing a message can make you smile, just a simple hello, how are you doing? Something there waiting for you. It is the little things in life that can mean so much or turn a bad day into a good day. The simplicity that makes us smile is a wonderful thing and we have the ability to make someone smile.

Just a random thought this morning. Have a great day all and smile

 

[rlaflamme]

Isn't it amazing what we can find out about a complete stranger and about ourselves when we have a conversation? I think it is pretty cool how some people can completely open up to another on here, share thoughts, feelings, life experiences, hopes and dreams. It is really, really cool.

 

[TheRealLJS]

Isn't it amazing what we can find out about a complete stranger and about ourselves when we have a conversation? I think it is pretty cool how some people can completely open up to another on here, share thoughts, feelings, life experiences, hopes and dreams. It is really, really cool.

And not just a stranger, but someone who's not from your neck of the woods, so to speak. Someone on another continent that you otherwise may never have encountered but for the internet and a site such as Lit.

Back to your original thought on conversing with a stranger. I think that we're more likely to talk to a stranger about things we wouldn't discuss with those closest to us. Part of it might be due to embarrassment (I have this fetish, see, and it's like this where I really get turned on by...OMG!!! Dafuq is wrong with you???). Part also might be that we're afraid that those that know us would judge us, perhaps unfairly, for the things we think about or like. A stranger has no preconceived notions about us, nothing definite or concrete at least. We can chat to our heart's content about thoughts, feelings, lusts and desires, because I think we have a natural need to share them.

Some of us are more open than others. Me, I won't share shit at the drop of a hat. I really want to get to know someone before I start sharing things. YMMV.

 

[rlaflamme]

And not just a stranger, but someone who's not from your neck of the woods, so to speak. Someone on another continent that you otherwise may never have encountered but for the internet and a site such as Lit.

Back to your original thought on conversing with a stranger. I think that we're more likely to talk to a stranger about things we wouldn't discuss with those closest to us. Part of it might be due to embarrassment (I have this fetish, see, and it's like this where I really get turned on by...OMG!!! Dafuq is wrong with you???). Part also might be that we're afraid that those that know us would judge us, perhaps unfairly, for the things we think about or like. A stranger has no preconceived notions about us, nothing definite or concrete at least. We can chat to our heart's content about thoughts, feelings, lusts and desires, because I think we have a natural need to share them.

Some of us are more open than others. Me, I won't share shit at the drop of a hat. I really want to get to know someone before I start sharing things. YMMV.

Being able to talk to people around the world that you never would have had the chance to meet is one of the wonderful things about the site, it opens up so many opportunities to learn about other places, places you may never have the chance to go.

I agree. Opening up about things that are "taboo" or riske is a lot more difficult with friends and family than it is here. It is okay here, no judging and no weird looks. It is just words across the screen. With that, you may even find yourself turned on by something you never thought of. The site is full of people that have different thoughts and ideas.

I am pretty open, just sort of let my words fly and see if there is a response lol. I do wonder how many people read a message and have no idea how to respond though lol.

 

[TheRealLJS]

Being able to talk to people around the world that you never would have had the chance to meet is one of the wonderful things about the site, it opens up so many opportunities to learn about other places, places you may never have the chance to go.

I agree. Opening up about things that are "taboo" or riske is a lot more difficult with friends and family than it is here. It is okay here, no judging and no weird looks. It is just words across the screen. With that, you may even find yourself turned on by something you never thought of. The site is full of people that have different thoughts and ideas.

I am pretty open, just sort of let my words fly and see if there is a response lol. I do wonder how many people read a message and have no idea how to respond though lol.

I once chatted with a Litser a few years ago. He lived overseas and sent me several pics of different sites he had visited. Makes me want to take a trip and see some of them myself.

Lit has exposed me to many things sexual, some I had never even thought of to any degree. Some I found erotic, others I wish I could wipe clear of my mind. Each to their own.

 

[rlaflamme]

I once chatted with a Litser a few years ago. He lived overseas and sent me several pics of different sites he had visited. Makes me want to take a trip and see some of them myself.

Lit has exposed me to many things sexual, some I had never even thought of to any degree. Some I found erotic, others I wish I could wipe clear of my mind. Each to their own.

It is pretty sweet when you can connect enough to show photos of places you are or have been

There are some things I have heard and said, "UM, yes please!" and some that made me look the other way, no question about that lol.

 

[TheRealLJS]

It is pretty sweet when you can connect enough to show photos of places you are or have been

Yes, I really appreciated it when he would share pics like that with me (and not a single dick pic in the lot. Something else that I greatly appreciated!). He was a sweet man, I wish that he was still around.

There are some things I have heard and said, "UM, yes please!" and some that made me look the other way, no question about that lol.

Whatever floats one's boat I suppose. I guess that's what makes us unique. Still, when I see something that that gives me that WTF feeling, I'm always tempted to post something snarky, but I've gotten better, and more times than not I'll just walk on.