What Are You Thinking? Continued 4

[Moochienanu]

I’m thinking about my next tie and whether I should go with a corset or breast binding... decisions decisions...

 

[lacandy]

Why am I awake???

 

[BadAmy]

I am thinking that shaming another person because they are different than you is a horrible thing to do.

 

[Cthulhu1138]

I am thinking that shaming another person because they are different than you is a horrible thing to do.

I agree; shaming people is absolutely wretched behavior.

That said, we need a new word for when bigots and bullies reveal themselves and their horrid prejudice.

 

[Cthulhu1138]

My vacation has left me happy but absolutely exhausted

Some day soon I may be lucky enough to catch up on sleep!

As a gifted musician once said, "I need home for a rest."

 

[Bellissa]

Maybe I'm overthinking this...

 

[Fugu_B]

I’m thinking that they need to start drinking coffee

 

[Joe_Bob_Gautama]

Thinking that in 50 years my grandchildren may be able to sit on the hill where I’m sitting now and enjoy beachfront property. But the Walmart in town will be under water. It’s a tough trade-off.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I agree; shaming people is absolutely wretched behavior.

That said, we need a new word for when bigots and bullies reveal themselves and their horrid prejudice.

I have a word for them!

 

[cole4258]

I need to get me an alarm clock like JJ's hubby has...

 

[barefootgirl69]

I dont understand needing to ask another person permission to speak to someone. I feel like you should be able to monitor your own friendships

I don't understand why you would concern yourself with other people's relationship. It's not like they asked for, or care about, your advice or needed your permission.

With all the crap that goes on around here, you choose to comment about this?! It's almost like you're trying to shame them/their dynamic.

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My thought is that some thoughts should just remain in our heads because they're rude (and not in a good way).

 

[JerseyJade]

I need to get me an alarm clock like JJ's hubby has...

Lol

I'm thinking I have errands to run, but all I want to do is to stay home and sleep.

 

[CTski]

Nothing and loving it.

 

[ydahecnot]

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[AbsintheFather]

I don't understand why you would concern yourself with other people's relationship. It's not like they asked for, or care about, your advice or needed your permission.

With all the crap that goes on around here, you choose to comment about this?! It's almost like you're trying to shame them/their dynamic.

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My thought is that some thoughts should just remain in our heads because they're rude (and not in a good way).

I'm with PNW on this. Discussion of types of relationships are totally fair game, that's what this site is about.

Furthermore, I agree with her, I hate to see people, women especially be controlled. I've seen too many women be told who they can talk to, where they can or cannot go, have their freedom restricted by financial controls. Men who hold women back are weak and insecure.

There was a woman who I pm'd with a couple times. She always copied her Lit bf on all the pm's. Did he demand this? Did she just do it for transparency? I didn't know, but it smacked of insecurity and mistrust. Nothing I would ever want in a relationship.

I know there's a control dynamic that some people appreciate, I didn't get that PNW was shaming that. I didn't read that at all in her post, I took it at face value and happen I agree with her that telling a partner that they are not allowed to communicate without permission, sounds insecure, if not abusive to me.

 

[AbsintheFather]

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Extra butter and salt?

 

[ydahecnot]

Extra butter and salt?

Hey, I don’t judge

 

[barefootgirl69]

I'm with PNW on this. Discussion of types of relationships are totally fair game, that's what this site is about.

Furthermore, I agree with her, I hate to see people, women especially be controlled. I've seen too many women be told who they can talk to, where they can or cannot go, have their freedom restricted by financial controls. Men who hold women back are weak and insecure.

There was a woman who I pm'd with a couple times. She always copied her Lit bf on all the pm's. Did he demand this? Did she just do it for transparency? I didn't know, but it smacked of insecurity and mistrust. Nothing I would ever want in a relationship.

I know there's a control dynamic that some people appreciate, I didn't get that PNW was shaming that. I didn't read that at all in her post, I took it at face value and happen I agree with her that telling a partner that they are not allowed to communicate without permission, sounds insecure, if not abusive to me.

Then, again, you only see it from one direction...looking in. You aren't a part of their relationship and you aren't privy to what they've talked about. Yet, you'll make judgements about control. What if, God forbid, it's about protecting her from those who make her uncomfortable?

I GET what you're saying. I do. BTDT with a domineering, egotistical, narcissistic ex husband. No one wants that. But, don't just ascribe that "it's control" to everyone you see just because you don't understand it or it's not something you would do.

 

[Lothario1956]

surely its her choice? There are many fetishes on here that some don't understand or appreciate - I recall there was a thread about it. However i would defend her decision to make that condition, and the control aspect is what arouses many.

PNW chose to comment and I am sure many will argue for her freedom to do that, Sadly people often judge on here, unable to understand that some people desire the need for control, guidance, call it what you will.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I'm with PNW on this. Discussion of types of relationships are totally fair game, that's what this site is about.

Furthermore, I agree with her, I hate to see people, women especially be controlled. I've seen too many women be told who they can talk to, where they can or cannot go, have their freedom restricted by financial controls. Men who hold women back are weak and insecure.

There was a woman who I pm'd with a couple times. She always copied her Lit bf on all the pm's. Did he demand this? Did she just do it for transparency? I didn't know, but it smacked of insecurity and mistrust. Nothing I would ever want in a relationship.

I know there's a control dynamic that some people appreciate, I didn't get that PNW was shaming that. I didn't read that at all in her post, I took it at face value and happen I agree with her that telling a partner that they are not allowed to communicate without permission, sounds insecure, if not abusive to me.

Some women like it. It’s part of their kink.
Live and let live. The only person she’s hurting is the men who can’t get over on her.

 

[AbsintheFather]

Then, again, you only see it from one direction...looking in. You aren't a part of their relationship and you aren't privy to what they've talked about. Yet, you'll make judgements about control. What if, God forbid, it's about protecting her from those who make her uncomfortable?

I GET what you're saying. I do. BTDT with a domineering, egotistical, narcissistic ex husband. No one wants that. But, don't just ascribe that "it's control" to everyone you see just because you don't understand it or it's not something you would do.

If something is mutually discussed and agreed to between consenting adults - have at it. Who am I to judge? I don't think PNW was referring to that kind of situation and neither was I.

If that was what your marriage was like, good for you for getting out and getting out safely. Last thing I'm going to say on this is that it's guys like your Ex and many others I've seen who are insecure and who become controlling because of it. Guys who use express or implied threats, or other means to hold back their partners, they are the ones who deserve to be shamed.

 

[Fugu_B]

Live and let live. The only person she’s hurting is the men who can’t get over on her.

This ^^^^^^^^^^^

 

[AlwaysFara]

I am thinking that shaming another person because they are different than you is a horrible thing to do.

Don’t be sad, and don’t be shamed.
You are very loved, fun, beautiful and sexy. I’m sure you get tons of PMs despite your signature. If you want to keep your PMs platonic and have openness with Daddy, the pervs will just have to leave you alone. Because that’s what it’s about. Someone probably got his nose out of joint because you wouldn’t e-suck his e-cock.

Boo. Hoo.

You be happy. I’ve never seen you so happy or so much back to yourself.
Fuck everyone else.
Let them deal with their own relationships.

 

[AlwaysFara]

They don’t know you, Amy. Please don’t let their comments shame you. They are allowed to say what they want and to whom. We all are.
You are choosing to do Lit this way. Keep doing it.

 

[cole4258]

It's Saturday yeeeeeaaahhhh

College football

Baseball Playoffs(Go Astro's)

Great weather day

Fun with friends last night

Things could be worse