❓ PLP Inquires❓

[LostGirlTink]

I only need/ want expect a response if we are actively talking/bantering.
I sometimes pm if someone says something i would like to discuss.

 

[standard1]

09.28.19

Lit Interaction

How important is it to you to get a response on something you post? Why? How often to you initiate a PM conversation? How does actual interaction with other posters factor into your coming to Lit? Do you need to feel heard or do you just want a place to read and say what's on your mind without judgement?

i’m not concerned if i get a response on my posts. if someone wants to engage me in post conversation, i’m always up for it, but my life doesn’t revolve around the popularity of my posts on Lit.

i infrequently initiate PM conversations these days, but i redpondly as promptly as possible to all PMs i receive.

direct interaction with others is a small factor of my being here. i generally enjoy what goes on here, whether it’s a conversation i’m part of or not. i enjoy observing human behavior, especially when smart, sexy people are involved. plus, i enjoy many of the AmPics threads. so, direct interaction isn’t essential to my involvement on Lit.

i don’t feel the need to be heard. if there are like-minded people who find things i post interesting, they’ll let me know. that’s enough of a voice for me.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

09.28.19

Lit Interaction

How important is it to you to get a response on something you post? Why? How often to you initiate a PM conversation? How does actual interaction with other posters factor into your coming to Lit? Do you need to feel heard or do you just want a place to read and say what's on your mind without judgement?

It entirely depends on what it is I am actually posting. Most of the time, I either do or don't get a response and that is fine.

Generally I don't initiate PM convos

Lit has just become a thing I pop into now and again, a lot of the appeal got rubbed off after seeing some people leave because they felt mistreated.

 

[LostGirlTink]

a lot of the appeal got rubbed off after seeing some people leave because they felt mistreated.

Unfortunately it happens. I know a lot that have left too.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

09.28.19

Lit Interaction

How important is it to you to get a response on something you post? Why? How often to you initiate a PM conversation? How does actual interaction with other posters factor into your coming to Lit? Do you need to feel heard or do you just want a place to read and say what's on your mind without judgement?

How important a response is to me depends on where I am posting. In the playground, it isn't really that important to me. Though, if I say something that someone finds humorous or resonates with them, I do appreciate them responding, and hopefully we will start a conversation. For the most part, I come to the playground to just hang out. If I am lucky, I might find some pleasant interactions or even meet someone I really enjoy, but I don't expect it. In Ampics, a reaction is what makes the activity arousing. Otherwise, I could just flash bushes. If Lit did not have an exhibitionist friendly subsection, I would probably not stay in the forums, and would just read the stories. I'd flash truckers instead, they do have those big....horns.

I do not initiate PMs often. I am all shy and shit. They generally have to say something really interesting and I must know more or they posted on a request a pm thread showing they want messages. Yes, it is nice to be heard, it absolutely makes the experience better, but it isn't what keeps me coming back. I enjoy conversing with people, but that is not what differentiates Lit from other internet forums. I often find conversation more free flowing elsewhere. It would also be nice to share without judgement, but this is still the internet, there will be judgement. Judgement and the internet are besties.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

If Lit did not have an exhibitionist friendly subsection, I would probably not stay in the forums, and would just read the stories. I'd flash truckers instead

<snip>

I am all shy and shit.

And with two sentences, I may have just fallen in love.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

And with two sentences, I may have just fallen in love.

Haha. Many people would think that the one precludes the other but I am proof of the existence of the introverted exhibitionist. You might also think the trucker thing is a joke, however it is not. I am fundamentally incapable of being in a convertible or t-top car without flashing a trucker. It is like staying at a hotel and trying to resist taking all the little bottles of toiletries from the room home with you. I simply cannot resist.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Haha. Many people would think that the one precludes the other but I am proof of the existence of the introverted exhibitionist. You might also think the trucker thing is a joke, however it is not. I am fundamentally incapable of being in a convertible or t-top car without flashing a trucker. It is like staying at a hotel and trying to resist taking all the little bottles of toiletries from the room home with you. I simply cannot resist.

No I get it. Human duality is one of my favorite things!

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

09.28.19

Lit Interaction

How important is it to you to get a response on something you post? Why? How often to you initiate a PM conversation? How does actual interaction with other posters factor into your coming to Lit? Do you need to feel heard or do you just want a place to read and say what's on your mind without judgement?

Not all that important. I am a champion thread killer. OTOH, I hate being skipped. Its rude.

Manners are important.

Haha. Many people would think that the one precludes the other but I am proof of the existence of the introverted exhibitionist. You might also think the trucker thing is a joke, however it is not. I am fundamentally incapable of being in a convertible or t-top car without flashing a trucker. It is like staying at a hotel and trying to resist taking all the little bottles of toiletries from the room home with you. I simply cannot resist.

I have taken the top off my Jeep...just saying. If you take the back seat, you can hang on to the roll bar.

 

[Dribble]

09.28.19

Lit Interaction

How important is it to you to get a response on something you post? Why? How often to you initiate a PM conversation? How does actual interaction with other posters factor into your coming to Lit? Do you need to feel heard or do you just want a place to read and say what's on your mind without judgement?

Depends. I am an elephant...a very observant elephant.

 

[Paul_Chance]

09.28.19

Lit Interaction

How important is it to you to get a response on something you post? Why? How often to you initiate a PM conversation? How does actual interaction with other posters factor into your coming to Lit? Do you need to feel heard or do you just want a place to read and say what's on your mind without judgement?

I tend to pop in and out of Lit, so a response to a post or an acknowledgement is nice, but not required. I initiate PM's every now and then, maybe on a weekly basis, when someone says, does, shows something I think is interesting or engaging, or simply deserves the extra acknowledgement of a PM.

Interaction does factor in, but I also like to just read and express myself. Related to my work, I understand social media interaction, on any social media, is widely skewed between those who are just reading and those who are actively engaged. I will often write responses in Lit with the "silent reader" in mind. Most people read lots, but respond little.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I've really enjoyed everyone's answers so far. This has been on my mind a lot.

Partly because I see people getting really upset when they don't get a response to something they said. Sometimes, I can understand this depending on what they said. I think some of us just want to be acknowledged in someway, especially when we are talking about pain or difficulties.

The other part is, frankly, I used to be much better as responding and keeping conversations going and I've lost that somehow. Part of it is a busier life and the other part is sometimes... I just don't know what to say. That sounds really dumb but I want to feel like I'm actually saying something not just replying to reply. I hope that makes sense.

So, when appropriate, I'm working to be better at this in my own threads especially. I don't want to feel invisible and I want to make sure other people don't feel that way as well.

As far as PMs go, I almost never initiate a PM (unless it's for audiophiles). I feel like I'm bothering people or I don't have much to say. I'm also conscious of my intentions being misconstrued. Sometimes, I wonder how some people just know everyone a little and then I realize - they initiate conversation!! I'm not sure I'm going to change this much, maybe a little. I don't like to half ass anything so if I can't really invest in a conversation i'm hesitant to start it.

Disclaimer: It's 6 in the morning if none of that made sense.

 

[Willingtoshare]

09.28.19

Lit Interaction

How important is it to you to get a response on something you post? Why? How often to you initiate a PM conversation? How does actual interaction with other posters factor into your coming to Lit? Do you need to feel heard or do you just want a place to read and say what's on your mind without judgement?

I don't think it's important that I get a response to a post, I mostly steer clear of the more controversial type threads and stick with the ones that don't really warrant a response anyway.

I used to rarely initiate any PM's, recently I started to a bit more but given the lack of response or the conversation just not clicking, which I feel says more about me than who I'm trying to interact with... I've reverted back to not initiating.

Nope, don't feel the need to be heard as such but as someone with their own thread and here for a bit of escapism I feel it is quite important to interact with others, this can be lonely place if you don't at least make an effort.

 

[Mei5ter]

09.28.19

Lit Interaction

How important is it to you to get a response on something you post? Why? How often to you initiate a PM conversation? How does actual interaction with other posters factor into your coming to Lit? Do you need to feel heard or do you just want a place to read and say what's on your mind without judgement?

I post when I have time and when I have a mind to. I have vague hopes that someone might find a few of them faintly interesting or funny or diverting. I'd be very surprised if anyone bothered to PM me in consequence. Except on the word threads - it's fun to hide a word there in plain sight which means something significant to just one other Litster, and then to get a PM showing they saw it.

The very few people with whom I'd wish to share anything beyond flirty fun are people I can contact off Lit, where there is more privacy. I have learned to be careful in what I post publicly here.

And I don't initiate PM contact, because in my experience it seldom ends well.

Happy Sunday everyone...

 

[BadAmy]

09.28.19

Lit Interaction

How important is it to you to get a response on something you post? Why? How often to you initiate a PM conversation? How does actual interaction with other posters factor into your coming to Lit? Do you need to feel heard or do you just want a place to read and say what's on your mind without judgement?

I am an attention whore.

Definition of Attention whore:
Someone who needs to be validated for every post they make otherwise they are crushed to oblivion for being passed over.

I send pm's frequently... Especially if i post something that might be misconstrued by the recipient.

The point of me being here is the interaction with everyone.
I got no where else to go. And you guys put up with my shit and keep me off the ledge most times.
I cant handle judgement. But I know I am judged.


Eta...i have a fever...am on Dayquil....and feel a pm coming on.

 

[Suz_anne]

09.28.19

Lit Interaction

How important is it to you to get a response on something you post? Why? How often to you initiate a PM conversation? How does actual interaction with other posters factor into your coming to Lit? Do you need to feel heard or do you just want a place to read and say what's on your mind without judgement?

My knee jerk reaction to this was being annoyed that people get upset about being skipped or not acknowledged in a thread. But then I realized that it does happen to me. I don't get feelings if someone I don't know or only know casually skips over me on a thread. But if someone I consider to be a friend does it - it gives me pause.

I rarely initiate a PM conversation outside of my relatively small circle of friends. Interaction with that group of pervs is the main reason I still am on Lit.

I wouldn't say I feel the need to be heard or even use this place to vent or express what's on my mind. I am here for fun. And if I'm not having fun, I log out.

 

[Suz_anne]

I also thought this was appropriate for the topic.

https://66.media.tumblr.com/02c6bb555ada12f025a290dfff249b5e/tumblr_pi8xmictFY1ta62e7_500.jpg

 

[BadAmy]

I also thought this was appropriate for the topic.

https://66.media.tumblr.com/02c6bb555ada12f025a290dfff249b5e/tumblr_pi8xmictFY1ta62e7_500.jpg

https://media.giphy.com/media/65ODCwM00NVmEyLsX3/giphy.gif

i just did this.
lol

 

[standard1]

I also thought this was appropriate for the topic.

https://66.media.tumblr.com/02c6bb555ada12f025a290dfff249b5e/tumblr_pi8xmictFY1ta62e7_500.jpg

the definitive attention whore.

(not you Suz, the dude in your post!)

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I am an attention whore.

Definition of Attention whore:
Someone who needs to be validated for every post they make otherwise they are crushed to oblivion for being passed over.

I send pm's frequently... Especially if i post something that might be misconstrued by the recipient.

The point of me being here is the interaction with everyone.
I got no where else to go. And you guys put up with my shit and keep me off the ledge most times.
I cant handle judgement. But I know I am judged.


Eta...i have a fever...am on Dayquil....and feel a pm coming on.

I am so judging you right now.

*waits for pm*

 

[BadAmy]

I am so judging you right now.

*waits for pm*

https://media.giphy.com/media/dxHjAhJfqZnkQ/giphy.gif

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

All Hail The Queen Of Gifland!

 

[Paul_Chance]

I also thought this was appropriate for the topic.

https://66.media.tumblr.com/02c6bb555ada12f025a290dfff249b5e/tumblr_pi8xmictFY1ta62e7_500.jpg

That's too good. I didn't spit my coffee like Bad Amy, but that's only because I wasn't drinking coffee at the time. I did laugh out loud and now have a crazy smile. I'll definitely be sharing that with people I know.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

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I have taken the top off my Jeep...just saying. If you take the back seat, you can hang on to the roll bar.

Well, I have never flashed a trucker from a Jeep. I, actually, have never been in a Jeep. Nts, add test drive Jeep and flash trucker from aformentioned Jeep to the bucket list.

I also thought this was appropriate for the topic.

https://66.media.tumblr.com/02c6bb555ada12f025a290dfff249b5e/tumblr_pi8xmictFY1ta62e7_500.jpg

Hum, maybe that is my husband's problem. In my defense, it takes all my power not to unfriend him from social media. I would if it didn't seem so wrong, well that and sometimes he posts a cute picture of the kid, but, overall, his social shares are like reading the GB.

 

[Mei5ter]

Well, I have never flashed a trucker from a Jeep. I, actually, have never been in a Jeep. Nts, add test drive Jeep and flash trucker from aformentioned Jeep to the bucket list.



Hum, maybe that is my husband's problem. In my defense, it takes all my power not to unfriend him from social media. I would if it didn't seem so wrong, well that and sometimes he posts a cute picture of the kid, but, overall, his social shares are like reading the GB.

I feel your pain. I have never properly read anything on the GB. I just see the thread titles on my way here and that is enough.

Unless that's a clever plan to keep people away, and it's really all about rainbows and unicorns. Like my social media pages.