Finding people?places?near pa

[loveroflove]

I am kinda new to all of this. However I have always been interested in certain aspects. One of them being the bondage part. I want to find a guy to tie me up someday. However I cannot even find a place to start! I live in pa. Out near gettysburg. One of my biggest issues is that I am so freaking shy! Ugh! I dont feel comfortable going to munches? (Side note why are they called this? It is so weird!) I seriously need someone to push me! Grrr!

 

[DVS]

I am kinda new to all of this. However I have always been interested in certain aspects. One of them being the bondage part. I want to find a guy to tie me up someday. However I cannot even find a place to start! I live in pa. Out near gettysburg. One of my biggest issues is that I am so freaking shy! Ugh! I dont feel comfortable going to munches? (Side note why are they called this? It is so weird!) I seriously need someone to push me! Grrr!

The term munches is basically something that many groups used to do, when they had open meetings like a munch. Munches are always held in a public place, usually in a resturante or similar eating place. That's mostly how the name got started.

On side note, people who smoke pot often get the munchies, after smoking. This might have been sideways borrowing of the term from this, since some people like to eat after sex. Well, some also like to eat before sex, and some like to eat during sex. I think I'm off topic a little bit.

There is no sex at a munch, and because it's in a public establishment, nobody could tell this group from maybe a reunion or other social gathering of a bunch of friends.

Nobody uses a last name, and some have nick names, like here at Lit. I'm known as DVS in a few places and nobody knows my real name, where I work or where I live. Only those I choose to know ever find out.

There is also usually a Sgt. at Arms who keeps people acting civil. There is no excuse for anybody getting out of hand, or overly friendly with anybody and the Sgt. is there to make sure everything is civil.

Even in a regular group meeting (not a munch) where some sex or sexual activities can happen, there should be someone like a Sgt. at Arms to make sure nobody is forced into doing something they don't want. And like in a munch, everybody is on the first name basis or nick name basis and the whole group is also on the look out for people getting out of hand.

Especially with newbies, most groups have members who care and they watch to make sure the newbie is having a good time, or is at least calm and not under duress by anybody or anything.

I'm sure there are a lot of munch groups in the PA are. You might seek them out and if you can, contact group members to see if they feel their group is a good one, etc. Contacting the leader of the group might get you a line of "yes, we're the greatest group in PA", just because they want members.

If they allow you to talk to any other submissives, you should voice our concerns with this person and makes sure your visit will be what you expect. Maybe they will have someone represent you at the munch, introducing you to others, and things like that.

If they do offer you a representative to introduce you, tell this person you are very shy. I think they have been in your shoes before and will be able to explain things that will help with your shyness. Being shy is far from abnormal. You'd be surprised how many people are shy, when it comes to sex and when it comes to meeting a group of strangers who enjoy sex.

I know thinking of them all in their underwear might not help in this case, but go into this munch thinking you are the most popular person in the place. Trust me, you will be. Just stay calm, be polite, smile at others, expect the same from them and act like you are the best looking person there.

I went to one munch were I totally felt like an outsider. Nobody talked to me and I felt like I was the police and they were all criminals. I didn't go back again. If they want you as a member, they should be nice to you, cater to your wishes and make you feel at ease.

Don't commit yourself to going back unless you really feel you like the people. That way, you shouldn't feel obligated to do anything you don't want to do. I really think going to a munch is your best bet. Sure, because you're shy, you will have problems at first. But, once you meet the people, your shyness will go away. Trust me.