Ladies need advice

[Draven_Crow13]

Post here often but get no replies. Any willing to look at my post history to see where I have gone wrong in finding a connection or friend here? Any assistance would be greatly appreciated from the lovely ladies of lit erotica

 

[Rackham75]

I'm a straight dude, but I'll offer my advice even though you're looking for it from the ladies:

I would avoid the "I wish someone would respond but I doubt they will" comments - try showing more confidence in your posts. Confidence works.

You seem like a good guy. I read some of your posts - you like football, Star Wars and coffee. Me, too! I'd probably get coffee with you and talk sports and argue about which Star Wars film is the best (Empire, obviously). Or discuss how in the hell Jabba was able to have sex with that Twi'lek slave girl.

Put yourself out there in a positive way. It makes all the difference in the world.

Of course, I've been on this site for three days so I might not know what I'm talking about. Haha.

 

[greengamegirl]

I can’t really tell who you are from your posts. What is it really like to have a conversation with you? Responding to other posts will help people see more of your sarcastic humor you speak of.

Your interests also aren’t going to be a high priority on a sex site. People here are more interested in your sexual interests. You seem to be into football and star wars. You might be able to work with that as part of a role play.

You’re limiting yourself by being specific. Maybe just leave some mystery, something like bored and looking for a chat. Maybe add something sexy about you. Something physically appealing about yourself. Or maybe something you would be up for sexually.

Post here often but get no replies. Any willing to look at my post history to see where I have gone wrong in finding a connection or friend here? Any assistance would be greatly appreciated from the lovely ladies of lit erotica

 

[pornochic]

be sexy, and erotic, with visuals

 

[Draven_Crow13]

Thank you all for the replies, sexually speaking then I love foreplay and role play, fav role play is office scenes the whole sexy office girl look is crazy hot. I also have a creative naughty mind and pleasing a, woman cums first and foremost. Keep the advice coming plenty to think of and improve upon. Who knows may even get a cool female to vibe with.

Have Snapchat if anyone else does hmu chris_wolflover

 

[Lonelywife1205]

Being funny gets me every time. Don’t be desperate. Reading you are into Batman and the joker is a turn off to be honest, but maybe it would do something for some women who are into that. Every deep connection I have ever made, and I have had several, is because someone took the time to send a thoughtful and fun personal message that grabbed my attention immediately. Women on Lit have many men to choose from, so you need to do something that sets you apart and gets someone’s attention. I also find being sincere and authentic also helps when looking for a real connection. Best of luck to you.

 

[trojank]

If I'm honest mate and I'm not an expert but your posts come across as needy ...put up one post or two looking for connections, if it isn't forthcoming get involved in the conversations and go from there, sometimes you have to put yourself out there to make a mutual aquaintance !

Just an observation !

T.

 

[Draven_Crow13]

Here is a mental pic for the ladies. I would love to blindfold you, slowly strip you to your birthday suit and then lie you down as I tie your hands above your head. Then I would plant soft kisses all over your body so only I know where and when next kiss would be.

"Complicated" Relationship status 6' slim build blue eyes which always get loads of compliments lol

 

[Spiritedlady]

I agree with all the previous posters...you’ve got to project an image of someone that you want to spend time with. No one wants to hang out with someone who moans about their life ( a lot of us are looking to escape that ourselves ). You need to show the positive version of yourself whether that’s funny, geeky confident whatever. There are 2 personal ads that spring to mind that stand out to me - one is entitled “ Tumbling down the rabbit hole hand in hand” which is an absolute masterclass in how to sell yourself to my mind. The other is a funny ad which has had a lot of comments from women at the moment. I’m slightly loathed to say the name but I want you to know the guy who wrote that wrote an absolute dog of a personal ad a few months ago - he totally got his arse handed to him on a plate. He’s had a couple of other attempts since and he’s now come back and pitched it perfectly - he’s funny and irreverent and clearly just out to play ( not a relationship) but he’s no longer projecting the “ absolute dickhead” image from his initial attempt. I applaud his perseverance and determination to give it another go. I’m not telling you this for you to try and emulate any of that - you do you but the best you possible. Good luck

 

[Jada59]

I may have the wrong person here. But I believe we attempted to chat before. If I have the wrong person, please forgive me. Could be a person with a similar name. At any rate, this person didn't ask me very many questions and my questions were mostly met with one word responses. To me that wasn't really a conversation but... Maybe we just didn't make a connection. And again, forgive me if I have the wrong person.

 

[Jada59]

My general observations:

Being funny seems to win all the ladies. The ads that get nearly all the comments from women are very witty. Some guys just know how to write and flirt online.

Ads that are original, eloquently written and make a woman's heart flutter also seem to be popular.

If you're bored, lonely, depressed, sad, angry, need company, appear desperate or make disparaging comments about your wife.....chances are that women won't want to write to you.

All that you say is very true!

 

[Karabare]

Post here often but get no replies. Any willing to look at my post history to see where I have gone wrong in finding a connection or friend here? Any assistance would be greatly appreciated from the lovely ladies of lit erotica

Solely from my experience, you need to lurk on the playground. Maybe throw in on a thread once in a while. Pay attention. It doesn’t take much work to see who is already attached, who plays and who probably doesn’t chat. And go ahead and be brave and PM someone that catches your attention. Maybe something about a witty comment she made on a thread.

 

[pornochic]

Here is a mental pic for the ladies. I would love to blindfold you, slowly strip you to your birthday suit and then lie you down as I tie your hands above your head. Then I would plant soft kisses all over your body so only I know where and when next kiss would be.

"Complicated" Relationship status 6' slim build blue eyes which always get loads of compliments lol

When did being "tied up" become sexy?

 

[generalname]

My general observations:

Being funny seems to win all the ladies. The ads that get nearly all the comments from women are very witty. Some guys just know how to write and flirt online.

Ads that are original, eloquently written and make a woman's heart flutter also seem to be popular.

If you're bored, lonely, depressed, sad, angry, need company, appear desperate or make disparaging comments about your wife.....chances are that women won't want to write to you.

This is great advice and a great thread for me. Thing is, what if my humour etc comes from actually having a conversation with someone and getting to know them?
I have this problem with dating app profiles as well, it seems to come across as forced and stilted, and don't get the opportunity to express myself more naturalisticly.

I certainly get the point about being desperate not helping.

I can’t really tell who you are from your posts. What is it really like to have a conversation with you? Responding to other posts will help people see more of your sarcastic humor you speak of.

Your interests also aren’t going to be a high priority on a sex site. People here are more interested in your sexual interests. You seem to be into football and star wars. You might be able to work with that as part of a role play.

You’re limiting yourself by being specific. Maybe just leave some mystery, something like bored and looking for a chat. Maybe add something sexy about you. Something physically appealing about yourself. Or maybe something you would be up for sexually.

Thank you for this, whilst I am not the OP this is great advice too, but how does one "build mystery"? Especially when we're also told to stand out from the crowd? It is difficult to stand out when everyone is doing it. I'd really like to learn how to present myself properly etc and get the kind of success I'm looking for.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

For me I agree with many of the other ladies here, humor gets my attention, followed by supreme confidence, but I love strong men.

I also agree to get into the Playground and interact. That’s how you start to make a flirty connection, and then don’t be too desperate or be post stalking too much, I personally like the chase and the tease.

The other way is to send a lady a PM, but it needs to be a good one to get a reply probably. Tell her about yourself, I appreciate a physical description (although I definitely don’t have a type & personality far outstrips looks for me). Tell her what you’re into sexually but not too much or too extreme at first. Include something interesting, flirty or conversational as a draw for her to reply and then do not bombard her every few hours if no reply.

Generally I agree you need to come across more confident and a little less needy, state what you are looking for here too.

Good luck

 

[Draven_Crow13]

When did being "tied up" become sexy?

Just binding hands lightly above head more of a look a day can't touch or well since blindfolded no look no touch to slowly build the sexual tension

 

[Jada59]

Just binding hands lightly above head more of a look a day can't touch or well since blindfolded no look no touch to slowly build the sexual tension

That appeals to me but I don't think it would appeal to most women.

 

[Draven_Crow13]

What about just the blindfold and not the tying of the hands portion?

 

[Jada59]

What about just the blindfold and not the tying of the hands portion?

Would appeal to me as well, but most women? Probably not.

 

[Fleurdelille]

Hello. I am no lady but if it means anything do you I'm going to offer a few thoughts anyway. Without reading what other posters have said, here's what I think.

People (ladies especially) will pick up on whatever energy you are projecting to the world. They will look for connections with others based on what you can offer them.

If you think someone will contact you out of the goodness of their hearts to cheer you up you got it all wrong -- Don't get be wrong, there's some truly good people out there that will reach out to cheer up a stranger every once in a blue moon -- Most of the times however, people seek an escape from their own lives and troubles. They seek an escape into something fun and exciting.

Some (if not many) of your posts seem jaded, even resentful. I understand all too well that it's easy to become jaded when your overall happiness is down, trust me I don't blame you. But you can't expect someone else to cheer you up.

You the only one that's going to cheer yourself up. Do yourself a favor and find your own happiness. Once you are in a better frame of mind people will come to you, and want what you have to offer

 

[Jada59]

Hello. I am no lady but if it means anything do you I'm going to offer a few thoughts anyway. Without reading what other posters have said, here's what I think.

People (ladies especially) will pick up on whatever energy you are projecting to the world. They will look for connections with others based on what you can offer them.

If you think someone will contact you out of the goodness of their hearts to cheer you up you got it all wrong -- Don't get be wrong, there's some truly good people out there that will reach out to cheer up a stranger every once in a blue moon -- Most of the times however, people seek an escape from their own lives and troubles. They seek an escape into something fun and exciting.

Some (if not many) of your posts seem jaded, even resentful. I understand all too well that it's easy to become jaded when your overall happiness is down, trust me I don't blame you. But you can't expect someone else to cheer you up.

You the only one that's going to cheer yourself up. Do yourself a favor and find your own happiness. Once you are in a better frame of mind people will come to you, and want what you have to offer

I love to reach out to people to brighten their day but that doesn't necessarily mean that I want a relationship with them.

 

[Draven_Crow13]

Thank you from all the Lovely Ladies of Lit for your advice maybe we could chat more. Would love more longerterm friends to vibe with either here or on my Snapchat as I use that a bit more

 

[Draven_Crow13]

One friendly bump to refresh to see if any more assistance cums my way. Had great advice so far. Maybe could lead to connection.

 

[DayDreamerZN]

My advice would be to just keep it real.
I'd much rather reply to a pm that from the onset makes me want to know more.

Funny, compassionate, honest, Intrique me...

To be able to hold a conversation that isn't just based on the size of your tools. You gotto know how to use them and more importantly you've got to use the right tool for the job.

But really... Im not going to invest time in you if you hit me straight up with sex.

 

[blulilacgrl]

I can’t really tell who you are from your posts. What is it really like to have a conversation with you? Responding to other posts will help people see more of your sarcastic humor you speak of.

Your interests also aren’t going to be a high priority on a sex site. People here are more interested in your sexual interests. You seem to be into football and star wars. You might be able to work with that as part of a role play.

You’re limiting yourself by being specific. Maybe just leave some mystery, something like bored and looking for a chat. Maybe add something sexy about you. Something physically appealing about yourself. Or maybe something you would be up for sexually.

I disagree with this comment so completely I want to scream. Yes this is a site that has a lot of sexual energy but that doesn't mean we don't want to know about you the person. In fact I think a majority of women on here don't give a shit about your sexual interests until they care at least a little about you.

I've noticed that the men who do well on this site are the ones who have either mastered the witty one liners and double entendre or can charm amd flirt. So get out on the boards and play some of the game threads. Be easy going and fun. Don't take it too seriously and let who you are stand out.

Good luck!