Sexless Marriages

[ccs29745]

Day 4,632,017 of no sex. Went to hug and cup a breast this morning and was asked to check a bump on wife's head. Revenge was getting to pull couple hairs out this morning. Lol

Hope everyone else having a good day. Lol

 

[Fishing57]

I’m a female, I’ve been married for 8 years now, but we hardly ever have sex and I don’t think it’s normal since we are still pretty young. The sex between my husband and I changed instantly as soon as we got married. I have tried many things in the past and have offered various options to him, but he’s not interested in anything. I’m only 32, and we got married when I was 25. I thought we would be having sex all the time when we first got married, but nope. He used to give me the excuse that he was tired, but at the time his work schedule was very minimal (he would come home around noon or so almost everyday, and he doesn’t do physical work). I’m just to the point where I don’t care anymore and really want to leave. But I feel guilty wanting to leave just because of the lack of sex. I feel like I have a high sex drive, but I wouldn’t even know since we don’t have sex lol. I’m just rambling now, but I don’t know what to do anymore. I have so much lingerie that just sits in the closet or my dresser because he’s not interested. I have offered him threesomes, I have offered him a “hall pass”. I have asked him if he wants to try new things, and he’s just not interested. He doesn’t even touch me at all, and that has really killed any type of connection I had with him. I just don’t think it’s normal that a man in his early 30s doesn’t want any sex, especially because this all started when he was in his mid 20s.

Any advice? I’m not going to cheat, but being on the other side of this since it’s typically men that want sex and women don’t want it, it really sucks and I can see why people are unfaithful when it comes to sexless marriages. Sexless marriages basically turn into not having any sort of intimacy with your spouse at all, and a lot of this has really killed my confidence.

Well at 62, I am in the opposite situation. Menopause was not good for my wife, especially when she doesn't think it is a problem. Physical contact is zippo, kisses are pecks. It;s not like everytime I take a breath I think about sex.(ummm well some days, especially the ones that don't end in "Y").

In your situation, something changed, it does not sound like you. Maybe he has Low T or something.

Good luck to you.

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

I’m a female, I’ve been married for 8 years now, but we hardly ever have sex and I don’t think it’s normal since we are still pretty young. The sex between my husband and I changed instantly as soon as we got married. I have tried many things in the past and have offered various options to him, but he’s not interested in anything. I’m only 32, and we got married when I was 25. I thought we would be having sex all the time when we first got married, but nope. He used to give me the excuse that he was tired, but at the time his work schedule was very minimal (he would come home around noon or so almost everyday, and he doesn’t do physical work). I’m just to the point where I don’t care anymore and really want to leave. But I feel guilty wanting to leave just because of the lack of sex. I feel like I have a high sex drive, but I wouldn’t even know since we don’t have sex lol. I’m just rambling now, but I don’t know what to do anymore. I have so much lingerie that just sits in the closet or my dresser because he’s not interested. I have offered him threesomes, I have offered him a “hall pass”. I have asked him if he wants to try new things, and he’s just not interested. He doesn’t even touch me at all, and that has really killed any type of connection I had with him. I just don’t think it’s normal that a man in his early 30s doesn’t want any sex, especially because this all started when he was in his mid 20s.

Any advice? I’m not going to cheat, but being on the other side of this since it’s typically men that want sex and women don’t want it, it really sucks and I can see why people are unfaithful when it comes to sexless marriages. Sexless marriages basically turn into not having any sort of intimacy with your spouse at all, and a lot of this has really killed my confidence.

At that age, if he isn't getting it from you he's getting it somewhere else. I'd run, not walk, RUN!!

 

[ccs29745]

I’m a female, I’ve been married for 8 years now, but we hardly ever have sex and I don’t think it’s normal since we are still pretty young. The sex between my husband and I changed instantly as soon as we got married. I have tried many things in the past and have offered various options to him, but he’s not interested in anything. I’m only 32, and we got married when I was 25. I thought we would be having sex all the time when we first got married, but nope. He used to give me the excuse that he was tired, but at the time his work schedule was very minimal (he would come home around noon or so almost everyday, and he doesn’t do physical work). I’m just to the point where I don’t care anymore and really want to leave. But I feel guilty wanting to leave just because of the lack of sex. I feel like I have a high sex drive, but I wouldn’t even know since we don’t have sex lol. I’m just rambling now, but I don’t know what to do anymore. I have so much lingerie that just sits in the closet or my dresser because he’s not interested. I have offered him threesomes, I have offered him a “hall pass”. I have asked him if he wants to try new things, and he’s just not interested. He doesn’t even touch me at all, and that has really killed any type of connection I had with him. I just don’t think it’s normal that a man in his early 30s doesn’t want any sex, especially because this all started when he was in his mid 20s.

Any advice? I’m not going to cheat, but being on the other side of this since it’s typically men that want sex and women don’t want it, it really sucks and I can see why people are unfaithful when it comes to sexless marriages. Sexless marriages basically turn into not having any sort of intimacy with your spouse at all, and a lot of this has really killed my confidence.

Think I agree with mary. He's getting out from somewhere else I think. I'd find a fwb to help with feeling alone in this situation.

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

I’m a female, I’ve been married for 8 years now, but we hardly ever have sex and I don’t think it’s normal since we are still pretty young. The sex between my husband and I changed instantly as soon as we got married. I have tried many things in the past and have offered various options to him, but he’s not interested in anything. I’m only 32, and we got married when I was 25. I thought we would be having sex all the time when we first got married, but nope. He used to give me the excuse that he was tired, but at the time his work schedule was very minimal (he would come home around noon or so almost everyday, and he doesn’t do physical work). I’m just to the point where I don’t care anymore and really want to leave. But I feel guilty wanting to leave just because of the lack of sex. I feel like I have a high sex drive, but I wouldn’t even know since we don’t have sex lol. I’m just rambling now, but I don’t know what to do anymore. I have so much lingerie that just sits in the closet or my dresser because he’s not interested. I have offered him threesomes, I have offered him a “hall pass”. I have asked him if he wants to try new things, and he’s just not interested. He doesn’t even touch me at all, and that has really killed any type of connection I had with him. I just don’t think it’s normal that a man in his early 30s doesn’t want any sex, especially because this all started when he was in his mid 20s.

Any advice? I’m not going to cheat, but being on the other side of this since it’s typically men that want sex and women don’t want it, it really sucks and I can see why people are unfaithful when it comes to sexless marriages. Sexless marriages basically turn into not having any sort of intimacy with your spouse at all, and a lot of this has really killed my confidence.

You say he works half days. Do you work? This is sounding to me like his bread is buttered and he's gonna ride the train. Girl, you've offered everything except taking him trolling for hookers. WAKE UP!

 

[EroticaFan82]

I feel your pain

I’m a female, I’ve been married for 8 years now, but we hardly ever have sex and I don’t think it’s normal since we are still pretty young. The sex between my husband and I changed instantly as soon as we got married. I have tried many things in the past and have offered various options to him, but he’s not interested in anything. I’m only 32, and we got married when I was 25. I thought we would be having sex all the time when we first got married, but nope. He used to give me the excuse that he was tired, but at the time his work schedule was very minimal (he would come home around noon or so almost everyday, and he doesn’t do physical work). I’m just to the point where I don’t care anymore and really want to leave. But I feel guilty wanting to leave just because of the lack of sex. I feel like I have a high sex drive, but I wouldn’t even know since we don’t have sex lol. I’m just rambling now, but I don’t know what to do anymore. I have so much lingerie that just sits in the closet or my dresser because he’s not interested. I have offered him threesomes, I have offered him a “hall pass”. I have asked him if he wants to try new things, and he’s just not interested. He doesn’t even touch me at all, and that has really killed any type of connection I had with him. I just don’t think it’s normal that a man in his early 30s doesn’t want any sex, especially because this all started when he was in his mid 20s.

Any advice? I’m not going to cheat, but being on the other side of this since it’s typically men that want sex and women don’t want it, it really sucks and I can see why people are unfaithful when it comes to sexless marriages. Sexless marriages basically turn into not having any sort of intimacy with your spouse at all, and a lot of this has really killed my confidence.

This sounds familiar...and it really sucks. He has NO clue how good he has it. I've got the reverse scenario...so sadly I can relate.

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

I am very much awake, and have thought that perhaps he was cheating. I have snooped, etc. And have found nothing so I don’t know if he actually is.
The story is a bit complicated. When we first got married we were both working, he mostly got off around noon or a little after. But I was working until 6:30pm. At this point we were arguing a lot about sex, I would cry about it, I would basically beg him, and he just never really responded to any of it.

Fast forward a couple years, I wasn’t working anymore and he was working longer days at a different location. I knew he was tired then, so I tried not to complain because of his long work days and his job was physical at this point.

Now we are back to him not working as much again, and I did go back to work for about a year, but now I’m back to not working. I know he’s not tired now. But we’ve had sex once since June. We have more alone time now (we had a child in between all of this, who is now in school full time). So idk. I’ve done just about everything I can think of. I know I messed up along the way because I do everything for him at home ( his only responsibility is to take the trash out). I know to everyone the obvious answer is that he’s cheating, trust me I get it. I have thought that maybe he has low testosterone levels, but he refuses to get it checked. I’m basically at the end of my rope here. He’s a good person and doesn’t treat me badly, he supports me in everything that I do. But there’s a serious lack of intimacy and other things going on.

Hon, I empathize. I've been there. And I'm usually the last one to say end it. I've been married 38 years and was sexless for 12 straight of those (48-60). There were periods before all the medical stuff started happening where we'd not touch each other at all. So I've been there. My story is well chronicled on here. Maybe he is having medical issues that he's embarrassed to share.

If you ever want to talk in private, feel free to PM me. I'll help all I can and if nothing else give you a shoulder to lean on.

 

[UgliestSon]

If you aint getting none at home my advice is to just go get loaded every night and run thru a bunch of whores. It helps. Trust me.

 

[Rt127]

53 yo male here sexless for 1.5 years. She just up and told me one day not to expect sex. I was leveled, didn't know how to react. It is a menopausal problem but I said some things I shouldn't have because I had no idea what was going on with her body. I did some research and found that I probably acted like a total shit after reading some articles. I didn't ask for this to happen but it has, and I guess I will have to live life "sexless". It's a shame because what we had was great and now here I sit always horny and missing my lover...sad!

 

[ccs29745]

53 yo male here sexless for 1.5 years. She just up and told me one day not to expect sex. I was leveled, didn't know how to react. It is a menopausal problem but I said some things I shouldn't have because I had no idea what was going on with her body. I did some research and found that I probably acted like a total shit after reading some articles. I didn't ask for this to happen but it has, and I guess I will have to live life "sexless". It's a shame because what we had was great and now here I sit always horny and missing my lover...sad!

I'm not sure what turned wife off either.thought she was too young for menopause, but now body is acting normal, don't know what's going on. Besides fact she don't trust me. sometimes wished i had cheated when had the chance, last then she have something true to be mad me about

 

[Beachaged]

I don’t want that though, I could easily cheat if I wanted to. There’s no real point in being married if I’m just going to cheat. I understand why people do it though, it’s just not for me. I have brought up divorce to him, and he did seem to want to change things for a short while, but now he’s back to the same things

There is a lot of us in that situation. We don’t want to cheat but we are frustrated by the lack of sex. It further gets complicated when the relationship is otherwise good. The lack of sex is the only problem but it’s a big problem.

 

[UgliestSon]

I don’t want that though, I could easily cheat if I wanted to. There’s no real point in being married if I’m just going to cheat. I understand why people do it though, it’s just not for me. I have brought up divorce to him, and he did seem to want to change things for a short while, but now he’s back to the same things

Yeah yeah yeah. Just go get your rocks off homie.

 

[spawnofdavey]

Yeah yeah yeah. Just go get your rocks off homie.

You do realise that this probably isn't helping her?

 

[UgliestSon]

You do realise that this probably isn't helping her?

I am here to help? Fuck that go on Dr Phil.

 

[johnpassion]

lol I don’t mind. I guess I just posted because some days it really gets to me and it helps to know I’m not alone. It feels that way since I’m the one that wants sex, but I know most people that have the same issue are males instead of females.

It does appear that the majority of people are males that are in a sexless marriage. It is interesting that there are females that have the same issues, wants, needs and desires but are not getting them fulfilled.

I have been writing my fantasies, stories and desires with the hopes that they may be fulfilled in the future. I have no idea if I am setting myself up for failure by creating expectations, but I am enjoying what I see in my mind and thinking it may happen.

The idea that a man does not have a sexual desire and lust for his wife makes me shake my head. He has no idea what a true gift he has, and he is letting it pull away.

 

[ccs29745]

lol I don’t mind. I guess I just posted because some days it really gets to me and it helps to know I’m not alone. It feels that way since I’m the one that wants sex, but I know most people that have the same issue are males instead of females.

It is very discouraging, but dont lose hope. Most of us are here to support ya.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

53 yo male here sexless for 1.5 years. She just up and told me one day not to expect sex. I was leveled, didn't know how to react. It is a menopausal problem but I said some things I shouldn't have because I had no idea what was going on with her body. I did some research and found that I probably acted like a total shit after reading some articles. I didn't ask for this to happen but it has, and I guess I will have to live life "sexless". It's a shame because what we had was great and now here I sit always horny and missing my lover...sad!

Ok I’m 53 and have been through menopause in the last 2 yrs and don’t believe everything you read. There may be hope for you, I have never been hornier and am truly at my sexuality peak in life.

I never had a symptom though, just sailed right through. I know this is not usually the case, but I have a couple of friends who after they were done found their drive came back.

I also have a couple of friends who had hormone implants and that helped too. I hope you resolve it but don’t give up hope

Sadly I have the opposite issue here, it’s almost laughable!

 

[HughManitee]

My wife is 51 going through menopause. I’d be shocked if her drive came back. Bleak and hopeless here.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

lol I don’t mind. I guess I just posted because some days it really gets to me and it helps to know I’m not alone. It feels that way since I’m the one that wants sex, but I know most people that have the same issue are males instead of females.

You are so NOT alone!

Totally sexless here, I’m like an 18yr old boy and I think I’m sexy, the guys here think so anyway! I’m not even sexually attracted to him anymore, he’s killed it for us and makes me feel like it’s me there’s something wrong with.

But I’m living with my best friend, I wish you well and totally understand.

 

[ccs29745]

Wb brit, missed you past couple days.

 

[ccs29745]

My wife is 51 going through menopause. I’d be shocked if her drive came back. Bleak and hopeless here.

Feel like I'm in same boat, but I keep plugging along each day and steal a look at her any time I can. Call it foreplay so too speak. There's just no play to go with it. Lol

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Wb brit, missed you past couple days.

Thank you, I’ve had drama to deal with but it’s over for good

 

[marshallrinkes]

Same here except I’m 26 and a female. I have a crazy sex drive. My husband is a little older but doesn’t like to have sex. We have sex a few times a year. Toys keep me sane.

 

[MutualMatureMike]

Thank you, I’ve had drama to deal with but it’s over for good

That must be a good feeling

 

[DDBustyBrit]

That must be a good feeling

More than you know, but I’m also very sad still at how it ended as I never wanted this, it’s going to take awhile