Conversation

[rlaflamme]

Sometimes I wonder if people are hesitant to start a conversation because they feel like when they get one started and it goes for a bit and seems to be going well it will just end. The communication stops and they have no idea why. That risk of finding a good person and losing them without a word can override the desires to talk. Or, perhaps they feel if they find a good conversationalist they will get to attached and find themselves overly anxious for a reply, making it more stressful than it needs to be.

Such thoughts enter my mind and I have no clue how people feel about these things, but I like to share them. Everything is a risk to your emotional state of mind, but without risk there is little pleasure.

 

[Bjerget]

I'm a flake. If a conversation doesn't hold my interest for too long, I flake out. I sincerely apologise if I've hurt anyone because of it.

 

[rlaflamme]

I'm a flake. If a conversation doesn't hold my interest for too long, I flake out. I sincerely apologise if I've hurt anyone because of it.

Welcome back! I t has been a while. I think there are many that take off if a conversation isn't holding their interest.

 

[Buscando]

Help me out here, please

Sometimes I wonder if people are hesitant to start a conversation because they feel like when they get one started and it goes for a bit and seems to be going well it will just end. The communication stops and they have no idea why. That risk of finding a good person and losing them without a word can override the desires to talk. Or, perhaps they feel if they find a good conversationalist they will get to attached and find themselves overly anxious for a reply, making it more stressful than it needs to be.

Such thoughts enter my mind and I have no clue how people feel about these things, but I like to share them. Everything is a risk to your emotional state of mind, but without risk there is little pleasure.

After re-reading this several times, I'm still standing here with the old "WTF?" bubble above my head.
The first sentence seems to defy any logic at all, i.e., don't begin anything because it will just end.
The final paragraph appears to contradict everything that was previously stated.
I freely confess to being more than a bit confused.

 

[rlaflamme]

After re-reading this several times, I'm still standing here with the old "WTF?" bubble above my head.
The first sentence seems to defy any logic at all, i.e., don't begin anything because it will just end.
The final paragraph appears to contradict everything that was previously stated.
I freely confess to being more than a bit confused.

Well... the first is stating a potential reason for people not starting a conversation, and it continues with that thought process. Are you worried that a conversation will die quickly and never really be a conversation?

It is just thoughts.

 

[Bjerget]

Welcome back! I t has been a while. I think there are many that take off if a conversation isn't holding their interest.

I find the pace of forums to be slow anymore. It used to be exciting to have to wait for a little bit of entertainment, now it just feels tedious. I guess this is what teenagers probably feel like waiting for an email message lol.

 

[rlaflamme]

I find the pace of forums to be slow anymore. It used to be exciting to have to wait for a little bit of entertainment, now it just feels tedious. I guess this is what teenagers probably feel like waiting for an email message lol.

Lol, true. Quick responses instead of the anticipation building. It has its advantages and disadvantages. Still good to see you again

 

[Reed8]

I find the pace of forums to be slow anymore. It used to be exciting to have to wait for a little bit of entertainment, now it just feels tedious. I guess this is what teenagers probably feel like waiting for an email message lol.

I'm with Shiva on being a flake. My attention span is short. I have found this to be the case with others as well in this environment. Without trying to sound jaded, people often come across as one dimensional/flat and I can be no different. Life happens too and I just don't feel like responding. Sometimes, I just feel like reading the ensuing conversation and then move along especially if it doesn't rouse any thought. The forums can be slow and the pace of conversation allows my brain to wander to other subjects. Even my motivations for coming her change as often as the weather.

Anyways good on you flamme for keeping the thread going. Persistence is strong in you.

Hope everyone has a fun and productive day.

 

[rlaflamme]

I'm with Shiva on being a flake. My attention span is short. I have found this to be the case with others as well in this environment. Without trying to sound jaded, people often come across as one dimensional/flat and I can be no different. Life happens too and I just don't feel like responding. Sometimes, I just feel like reading the ensuing conversation and then move along especially if it doesn't rouse any thought. The forums can be slow and the pace of conversation allows my brain to wander to other subjects. Even my motivations for coming her change as often as the weather.

Anyways good on you flamme for keeping the thread going. Persistence is strong in you.

Hope everyone has a fun and productive day.

Thank you Reed for your input, I agree that many things change for people and real life takes us out of here and leaves us with wandering thoughts and other things to do. It is hard to have a real connection through online conversations. I think many come here, look through the forums, drink their coffee and move on. Completely understandable.

I do try to keep this thread going, just a little project I guess, something to keep my own mind moving a bit. Of course seeing interactions on it is always rewarding to me and I usually smile when I see it lit up with a new comment.

Enjoy your day

 

[rlaflamme]

Well it has been a while, so here I am again, jumping the thread back into the mix and watching the threads as they move.

Sometimes it is easier to talk to someone that is not face to face with you, you can open up more or explore your thoughts a bit easier. There is no facial expressions that you can misunderstand and no body movements for you to see that make you wonder if they are bored or annoyed, just words on a screen. So smile and find a friend

 

[Bjerget]

Lol, true. Quick responses instead of the anticipation building. It has its advantages and disadvantages. Still good to see you again

Thanks m8 but I just banned you cos of that Ray Gun. You're gonna have to turn in your badge and sidearm.

 

[Bjerget]

I'm with Shiva on being a flake. My attention span is short. I have found this to be the case with others as well in this environment. Without trying to sound jaded, people often come across as one dimensional/flat and I can be no different. Life happens too and I just don't feel like responding. Sometimes, I just feel like reading the ensuing conversation and then move along especially if it doesn't rouse any thought. The forums can be slow and the pace of conversation allows my brain to wander to other subjects. Even my motivations for coming her change as often as the weather.

Anyways good on you flamme for keeping the thread going. Persistence is strong in you.

Hope everyone has a fun and productive day.

Heh you sound like me. I'm both terrified and curious.

 

[rlaflamme]

Heh you sound like me. I'm both terrified and curious.

You terrified? Really? You are so fun on the boards and seem so secure, but that is what I mean, it is hard and people don't realize the fear until they do it. Message me any time you want Shiva, I'll be nice

 

[Bjerget]

You terrified? Really? You are so fun on the boards and seem so secure, but that is what I mean, it is hard and people don't realize the fear until they do it. Message me any time you want Shiva, I'll be nice

Fuck no I'm not terrified! I was just being cheeky I don't scare away that easily and not for something as silly as confronting a person similar to myself but only with a dong.

Anyway, PM's here are SO 2009. I'm on discord, hit me up there.

 

[rlaflamme]

Fuck no I'm not terrified! I was just being cheeky I don't scare away that easily and not for something as silly as confronting a person similar to myself but only with a dong.

Anyway, PM's here are SO 2009. I'm on discord, hit me up there.

I'm stuck in the past I think lol. I don't have discord, I have *look at my phone* kik and Skype. I don't even know what I have lol.

 

[rlaflamme]

I am still lost on how many different apps there are to communicate with people. I know of Kik, Skype, Hangouts, does MSN messenger still exist? Discord I have heard of, but I don't know if I ever used it. There are so many and I am sure I have never heard of most of them.

 

[Ivy1979]

It amazing that some people will stop talking to you when you can’t give them what they want. Why can’t you just talk?

 

[rlaflamme]

It amazing that some people will stop talking to you when you can’t give them what they want. Why can’t you just talk?

I have heard of that happening a lot as well. I think that with this site being what it is some believe that all conversations should lead to the erotic. There are many that are here to just chill and relax, find a friend, an ear as you will to share thoughts and life with and have no other expectations, it just seems to be rare.

I wish you luck Miss Ivy.

 

[rlaflamme]

A simple hello can be the start of a wonderful friendship. It is amazing the opportunities we have to meet people all around the world now. With all the meet sites and information sites, all the different ways to instant message and e-mail, the world is so open to us. You can find yourself learning about all types of lives and cultures with the start of a conversation. You can help people through difficult times or find help through your own. Learn and teach, discover and explore. Isn't it wonderful?

 

[rlaflamme]

Conversations are great. Especially when you can get a good one going. I chatted for 5 hours with my new friend last night. I was on cloud 9. It's like he flew me to the moon and back. I don't even mind being sleep deprived today. Good conversation is hard to find. Take it when you can get it.

Isn't it amazing how that works? You find the right person and time flies by.

 

[rlaflamme]

It really does

A simple hello can go a long way, information passes and soon you find a friend, for at least a little while, and that can move onto a much longer term. I am happy for you

 

[rlaflamme]

Like buckle your seatbelts. We are prepated for take off. Destination unknown, but simply relaxe and enjoy the ride

Exactly. Just a little time and effort can go a long way

 

[Lonelynotlonely]

Hi! New here and just kinda looking to chat with people. I'm single and don't really have any friends so I miss having conversations about everything and nothing. I tried to update my profile but it won't save, so I'll try again later tonight.

 

[rlaflamme]

Sometimes, all you want and need is a plain old conversation

Plain conversation is great. Always great to see someone likes you for your mind as well as your tits

Hi! New here and just kinda looking to chat with people. I'm single and don't really have any friends so I miss having conversations about everything and nothing. I tried to update my profile but it won't save, so I'll try again later tonight.

A plain conversation is a good conversations. You don't have to talk about sex, even if we are sitting here on an erotic site, you can just talk. You can meet people and create friendships. You can kill off some loneliness, share feelings and thoughts, and just relax.

 

[rlaflamme]

Wow! I have been quiet for a while huh? I guess I should give this thread a little bump as it is buried deep in the listings.

The wonderful things about a conversation is it can make the mind move and help us through things that we let dwell inside. Finding new people to talk to and gaining new perspectives is usually a good thing.

Have a great day everyone