What's the difference between RP and sexting?

[Jada59]

The other day, I assumed I was sexting with another person. At the end, I offered to clean him up with my tongue after he replied that he made a mess. He said something like he shot clear across the room and he wasn't into RP.

I was baffled. We were both being ourselves. So how was this RP?

 

[SgtSpiderMan]

The other day, I assumed I was sexting with another person. At the end, I offered to clean him up with my tongue after he replied that he made a mess. He said something like he shot clear across the room and he wasn't into RP.

I was baffled. We were both being ourselves. So how was this RP?

Whenever I sext someone I'm Pat Sajak, whether they know it or not.

 

[Spiritedlady]

I differentiate between sexting and RP. RP seems to be more imaginary scenarios ( let’s pretend I’m the teacher and you’re a naughty school boy, or some such situation) whereas sexting is more “ this is what I’d like to do to you “. I don’t like the former but happily do the latter

 

[MutualMatureMike]

Given that both are online (but I guess don't have to be, especially RP) it is more about what is sparked in one anothers imaginations and being flexible enough to move in a direction which is mutually fun. I have enjoyed playing a scenario we both set out on and also sexting more as you describe.

 

[Jada59]

I differentiate between sexting and RP. RP seems to be more imaginary scenarios ( let’s pretend I’m the teacher and you’re a naughty school boy, or some such situation) whereas sexting is more “ this is what I’d like to do to you “. I don’t like the former but happily do the latter

I'm with you!

 

[Jada59]

Whenever I sext someone I'm Pat Sajak, whether they know it or not.

Hehehe.

 

[Jada59]

Given that both are online (but I guess don't have to be, especially RP) it is more about what is sparked in one anothers imaginations and being flexible enough to move in a direction which is mutually fun. I have enjoyed playing a scenario we both set out on and also sexting more as you describe.

Thanks!

 

[glBock]

either one or the other

it seems to me there is no universally agreed-upon terminology. I would tend to agree most with Spirited Lady, but does it really matter what terms are used? When both fantasy partners are arousing each other, who cares whether that is happening from sexting or from a role play?

More important – so it seems to me – is what enticement exactly each "packs into" her/his words. I.e. whether exactly THAT kind of scenario is seen by the other as what he/she wants to hear - and dream about - at the moment.

 

[Jada59]

it seems to me there is no universally agreed-upon terminology. I would tend to agree most with Spirited Lady, but does it really matter what terms are used? When both fantasy partners are arousing each other, who cares whether that is happening from sexting or from a role play?

More important – so it seems to me – is what enticement exactly each "packs into" her/his words. I.e. whether exactly THAT kind of scenario is seen by the other as what he/she wants to hear - and dream about - at the moment.

It matters to me because I have no interest in RPing at all. It's not in the least bit arousing to me and I got nothing out of it the few times I tried it. I thought it was odd that this person made a comment based on what I said, that he wasn't into RPing. Did not seem like RPing at all.

To be fair, this was a younger person and perhaps not very experienced. Or maybe he just said that so he could leave.

 

[colddiesel]

Retinitis Pigmentosa: never thought this would come up on Lit.

 

[Jada59]

Retinitis Pigmentosa: never thought this would come up on Lit.

It's actually the Rendezvous Point. Ssssh... Don't tell the others. Especially not Robert Palmer!

 

[glBock]

It matters to me because I have no interest in RPing at all. It's not in the least bit arousing to me and I got nothing out of it the few times I tried it. I thought it was odd that this person made a comment based on what I said, that he wasn't into RPing. Did not seem like RPing at all.

To be fair, this was a younger person and perhaps not very experienced. Or maybe he just said that so he could leave.

What did you say in one of your other posts somewhere? You wanted to learn better to listen?

 

[Blase]

If you're online with someone and offer to clean them up, that bit is clearly roleplay: You're offering to describe a fantasy of something that can't physically happen.

Nothing says that a session can't have elements of both.

 

[Deleted member 861104]

Fantasy sex is both... I’m not creative enough to do the complete roleplay scenario. However, to just talk about what each other is doing (I am stroking my cock. I am rubbing my clit gently) can get a bit old. Statements such as “I want to fuck you in the ass”, I am licking the tip is your cock”, should be part of the sexting or cybering scenario. Fantasy, roleplay, imaginary fucking, I love it!

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

pretty sure it's kind of like the square is a rhombus, but the rhombus isn't a square.

If you're sexting...presumably via some online/mobile device, you are playing at being with each other.(as opposed to actually being with one another)..ergo..Roleplaying to some degree.

Roleplaying, however can also be done in person, say when you want to dress up like Oscar the Grouch, and Cookie Monster is bringing Bert and Ernie over for a circle jerk..

I'm not much of a fan of either.

 

[LupusDei]

At least in theory, Role Play doesn't even need to be sexual, in intend, process or result.

If we want to go all the way and nitpick, absolutely every interaction between humans is roleplaying. You're always projecting some kind of image, different aspects to each partner; every context puts its own limitations and expectations; every prior experience proves preconceptions.

 

[skippy34]

That’s how I feel too,I prefer to have a regular conversation discussing fantasies and experiences. To me, there is something much more arousing know that it is real.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

lol... I'd say it's all a bunch of hogwash.

 

[Jada59]

If you're online with someone and offer to clean them up, that bit is clearly roleplay: You're offering to describe a fantasy of something that can't physically happen.

Nothing says that a session can't have elements of both.

Well, realistically, nothing can happen between the two of us if we're only online!

What then would you call sexting?

 

[Jada59]

Fantasy sex is both... I’m not creative enough to do the complete roleplay scenario. However, to just talk about what each other is doing (I am stroking my cock. I am rubbing my clit gently) can get a bit old. Statements such as “I want to fuck you in the ass”, I am licking the tip is your cock”, should be part of the sexting or cybering scenario. Fantasy, roleplay, imaginary fucking, I love it!

What you describe is what I do.

 

[Jada59]

What did you say in one of your other posts somewhere? You wanted to learn better to listen?

What in the world does that have to do with the above?

 

[Jada59]

At least in theory, Role Play doesn't even need to be sexual, in intend, process or result.

If we want to go all the way and nitpick, absolutely every interaction between humans is roleplaying. You're always projecting some kind of image, different aspects to each partner; every context puts its own limitations and expectations; every prior experience proves preconceptions.

Okay then. Good points!

 

[Jada59]

I do not RP. Hate trying to deceive a mentality and go with it. It’s to fake for me. Sexting is best imo... just talking about it, with people, their thoughts, mentality, fantasies, is the way to go. I hate it when guys try to make me cum through messaging.

I can cum through messaging. Heck, if I wanted to cum, I could just sit here right now and make myself cum without even touching myself.

 

[Jada59]

That’s how I feel too,I prefer to have a regular conversation discussing fantasies and experiences. To me, there is something much more arousing know that it is real.

Yes.

 

[Toddc226]

Joining in

Hello gang,
Just my two cents. Many have fantasies about role play. ie: I'm a plumber and you want my crack. Or your a young innocent lady and I'm a sickening nasty old man. I suppose one could portray those into a sexting scenario. I, however just recently was a sexting virgin and a wonderful person and I started texting. Really just enjoying the text company over several days until she spoke of something she was doing or wearing and something in me went wild. At that point she texted only of her experiences and through her help I lost my sexting virginity.
We didnt tell each other what to do, though I hope our relationship might grow to that. Just simply talking about experiences we have actually had.

I ramble because it gets me excited thinking of her, my first. However, that to me was sexting. She was herself and didnt have to fake a thing. I was myself and was very honest with her. I doubt she will ever know how wonderful she is or how incredible that experience was but to me it was very real and extremely satisfying.
Many portray false fronts in life not just in sexual situations. ie: I'm smarter than everyone. I have a larger member than anyone. I am wealthier....etc. That is roleplaying and in a way, fabrication of self betterment. Many love roleplaying for that very reason. It makes them feel better about themselves.
Personally, I see nothing wrong with either form of cyber satisfaction or even in real life unless ofcourse you are roleplaying or taking part in illegal sickening acts. (Involving children or molestation) I just prefer being real and describing past or present feelings and desires with someone on the same page.
Thinking someone is being fake or lying turns me off immediately.

Well, you guys are magnificent and I'm enjoying very much my time and experiences here. Thank you for being understanding and welcoming.