Do you sleep with your SO?

[Jada59]

I am watching a podcast with a guy from India. He said that for a better relationship, each person should sleep in their own room/bed. They should make dates though and spend time together otherwise.

This got me thinking. In the past, I loved sleeping with my guy, except for the man I married. Although he appears to be the cuddly type, he is not. He would steal the covers and flop around, bumping me with his knees, elbows, whatever. Being in the bed with him was not pleasant.

Early on in my pregnancy, I began sleeping in the spare room because he kept bumping my tummy as he flopped around. And it was all downhill from there. The bed thing wasn't the only issue but sleeping in another bed sure didn't help.

Thoughts?

 

[mjolnir_1]

I always slept with my SO. I quit sleeping with my then wife after about 15 years though because I was having trouble sleeping in the same bed due to the mattress and ultimately having sleep apnea. I relocated in the house but the marriage was suffering for multiple reasons by then.

My girlfriend and I sleep together but she is a nurse and makes sure I put on my CPAP machine when I go to sleep. Besides she is so awesome to curl up with .

 

[Jada59]

I always slept with my SO. I quit sleeping with my then wife after about 15 years though because I was having trouble sleeping in the same bed due to the mattress and ultimately having sleep apnea. I relocated in the house but the marriage was suffering for multiple reasons by then.

My girlfriend and I sleep together but she is a nurse and makes sure I put on my CPAP machine when I go to sleep. Besides she is so awesome to curl up with .

I don't know how you can sleep with a CPAP. I had one. Could not sleep at all with it on. Made me miserable.

 

[Bigspurt]

I separated from sleeping with my wife some years ago. Mostly because we get better sleep alone. She likes to stay up and read and watch the first round of so called funny nighttime hosts. When I moved out it was Seinfeld. The fwappy bass between scenes was not conducive to sleep.
When I go to bed, I want to go to sleep.
We do still have a Sunday AM sex life. Three or four mornings a month. Occasionally a Saturday morning, but not today. She woke up with a headache and I brought her a cold compress from the freezer.

 

[mjolnir_1]

I don't know how you can sleep with a CPAP. I had one. Could not sleep at all with it on. Made me miserable.

I don't have the full facemask, just the one with the nose pillows. It made a huge difference in my sleep quality and my kids appreciate that dad doesn't sound like a bear.

I'm a large guy which a huge neck which plays a big part into this. I'm 6 foot 2 and about 280 on a good day. A firm mattress solid pillow and that CPAP and I sleep like a rock.

 

[Nurseguy75]

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[Morton81]

My wife is the reason I have a CPAP. I share a bed with her and it is great. Also, I have trouble sleeping without my CPAP now.

 

[BackwoodsMama]

I currently sleep with my husband, but for various reasons we have slept apart throughout our marriage. I prefer to sleep alone. He prefers to sleep with me. I think of we had been better at managing intimate time he would be more okay with sleeping apart. Sleeping apart has some significant advantages, in my opinion.

 

[klippert]

We have a King Sleep Number Bed...That's like sleeping in separate rooms anyhow. On the other hand... the Indian guy can keep his advice. I have advice for him...clean your country up....its a Dump

 

[QuasiSemiDemiEsqueIsh]

I am watching a podcast with a guy from India. He said that for a better relationship, each person should sleep in their own room/bed. They should make dates though and spend time together otherwise.

This got me thinking. In the past, I loved sleeping with my guy, except for the man I married. Although he appears to be the cuddly type, he is not. He would steal the covers and flop around, bumping me with his knees, elbows, whatever. Being in the bed with him was not pleasant.

Early on in my pregnancy, I began sleeping in the spare room because he kept bumping my tummy as he flopped around. And it was all downhill from there. The bed thing wasn't the only issue but sleeping in another bed sure didn't help.

Thoughts?

I sleep with my nesting partner. I considered sleeping in the guest room about a year ago because our bed was too small to be comfortable for both of us. We’re both chubby; he sleeps with his knee bent and pulled up toward his hip; and I sleep with my hands by my head, elbows pointing straight out, and my heels pulled up toward my groin, knees splayed to either side. It was... causing some problems. Lol

But then I had a genius idea, and we rotated our bed 90 degrees and put a couch facing the bed up against the new foot of the bed. So now we’re essentially sleeping sideways with our feet on the couch—we stacked body pillows to level out the height of both—and we both have room to starfish as necessary.

 

[13Fantasies]

My wife and I sleep apart.

It started when we lived apart for jobs, so during the week, we were alone. However, on weekends, we slept together.

After moving back in together, we slept in the same bed until the birth of our first child. Since then, we have only done it once at a wedding. We don't now because we are co-sleepers. I have the older two boys and she has the youngest.

Will it change when they grow older and sleep in their own beds? No idea.

 

[OldFred65]

I sleep with my wife unless we have friends over and we swap!

 

[CelesteWoods]

I sleep with my husband but our bed is large enough that we have our own space.

 

[CornishWiseMan]

Partner and I have been together for 12.5 Years, lived together for 11, of that time, probably spent 85% in seperate rooms.

For a multitude of reasons:
~Preferred different mattress
~Preferred different Duvet
~Differing shifts that/next day
~Feeling unwell
~I like to sleep up against a wall (currently main bed is in middle of room)

We both agree it does us no harm, in fact, both enjoy having a better nights sleep.

Spontoneous sex is over-rated - what with the wanting to brush teeth, use the loo, freshen up and kick the pets out. With either of us having to change rooms, makes no difference to us, obviously apart from who has to change their sheets afterward...

 

[Whiskeyjack]

We sleep apart about half the time. In the summer it gets too hot in our room to share a bed, so one of us usually winds up on the downstairs couch where it's cooler. And in the winter, one or both of us usually gets a cold which means we snore to wake the devil. We like to sleep together when we can, but it's not always practical.

 

[Followmenow6969_2]

yes, unless he has a gf over or I have my gf over

but sometimes we all share the same bed

 

[Jada59]

I separated from sleeping with my wife some years ago. Mostly because we get better sleep alone. She likes to stay up and read and watch the first round of so called funny nighttime hosts. When I moved out it was Seinfeld. The fwappy bass between scenes was not conducive to sleep.
When I go to bed, I want to go to sleep.
We do still have a Sunday AM sex life. Three or four mornings a month. Occasionally a Saturday morning, but not today. She woke up with a headache and I brought her a cold compress from the freezer.

Glad that works for you!

 

[Jada59]

I don't have the full facemask, just the one with the nose pillows. It made a huge difference in my sleep quality and my kids appreciate that dad doesn't sound like a bear.

I'm a large guy which a huge neck which plays a big part into this. I'm 6 foot 2 and about 280 on a good day. A firm mattress solid pillow and that CPAP and I sleep like a rock.

Mine was the triangle that went over my nose and had water in it. Made me cold in the winter and hot in the summer. Plus I found that I couldn't breathe well with it on. They never could calibrate it properly because I was only able to sleep for a few minutes during my sleep study. I told them that I'm a night owl but I had to go to bed at 9 pm. The tech was new and put so much glue on me that I couldn't stand it. Took weeks to get it out of my hair.

The room reeked of lavender and made my eyes water and the mattress was horrid. It was really solid and yet I would sink down in it but be unable to move around. I have Fibromyalgia so if I stay in one position for too long, my muscles cramp up. I kept trying to kick my legs to free myself, to no avail. The Dr. said he'd never seen anyone move around that much.

I fought going to sleep because when the tech put the mask on me and made me wear it for 20 min. to show me what it was like, she strapped it on way too tightly. It hurt like hell and when she took it off, there was a bright red triangle over my nose. I kept gasping for air because I couldn't breathe with it on. Horrible experience. I finally did give in to sleep around 5 am. but then the tech gave me 5 min. to get out of the room. I had been told I would get a chance to take a shower and get breakfast before I left. Nope. She said she had a life and wanted to go home. She also made me put my own electrodes on because she didn't want to touch my body.

The experience was so bad that the Dr. wasn't going to put me through it again to calibrate the machine so they guessed at the setting.

 

[Jada59]

yes, unless he has a gf over or I have my gf over

but sometimes we all share the same bed

Thanks!

 

[Jada59]

We sleep apart about half the time. In the summer it gets too hot in our room to share a bed, so one of us usually winds up on the downstairs couch where it's cooler. And in the winter, one or both of us usually gets a cold which means we snore to wake the devil. We like to sleep together when we can, but it's not always practical.

Oh the cold! I haven't had one in years but I once slept in a room with two people who had them. It was sooo noisy!

 

[Jada59]

Partner and I have been together for 12.5 Years, lived together for 11, of that time, probably spent 85% in seperate rooms.

For a multitude of reasons:
~Preferred different mattress
~Preferred different Duvet
~Differing shifts that/next day
~Feeling unwell
~I like to sleep up against a wall (currently main bed is in middle of room)

We both agree it does us no harm, in fact, both enjoy having a better nights sleep.

Spontoneous sex is over-rated - what with the wanting to brush teeth, use the loo, freshen up and kick the pets out. With either of us having to change rooms, makes no difference to us, obviously apart from who has to change their sheets afterward...

Thanks! I slept against the wall for years but had to break myself of wanting that when I got a bigger bed and moved it to a different part of the room.

 

[Redneckgirl79]

Most nights no. Another sleep apnea person here.

 

[bobb_sledd]

I am watching a podcast with a guy from India. He said that for a better relationship, each person should sleep in their own room/bed. They should make dates though and spend time together otherwise.

This got me thinking. In the past, I loved sleeping with my guy, except for the man I married. Although he appears to be the cuddly type, he is not. He would steal the covers and flop around, bumping me with his knees, elbows, whatever. Being in the bed with him was not pleasant.

Early on in my pregnancy, I began sleeping in the spare room because he kept bumping my tummy as he flopped around. And it was all downhill from there. The bed thing wasn't the only issue but sleeping in another bed sure didn't help.

Thoughts?

Haven't slept in the same bed with the SO in about 10 years. Whoever got to sleep first would keep the other awake with their snoring. We also have differing desires when it comes to how many coverings we like. We sleep in separate rooms when home, and separate beds when traveling. It works for us.

 

[keith117]

I am watching a podcast with a guy from India. He said that for a better relationship, each person should sleep in their own room/bed. They should make dates though and spend time together otherwise.

This got me thinking. In the past, I loved sleeping with my guy, except for the man I married. Although he appears to be the cuddly type, he is not. He would steal the covers and flop around, bumping me with his knees, elbows, whatever. Being in the bed with him was not pleasant.

Early on in my pregnancy, I began sleeping in the spare room because he kept bumping my tummy as he flopped around. And it was all downhill from there. The bed thing wasn't the only issue but sleeping in another bed sure didn't help.

Thoughts?

We sleep in the same bed just fine. Unfortunately that's all that happens!

 

[MKvDeepSea]

Hey Jada59.

Sleeping with my SO, aka my wife, is a pleasure, even though we have different sleep patterns. I'm early to bed and early to rise whereas she stays up late and likes to sleep late. We've adapted to each other's sleep habits, snorts, snores, valving (she claims I sound like a SCUBA regulator) and even farts over the years.

But, each to their own and whatever works for them. We are friends with a couple who have been together over fifty years and they not only don't sleep together they live in separate houses built on the same land and love each other dearly.