Sexless Marriages

[Nzerxx]

Subscribing to this fascinating thread

 

[CrowdedStranger]

From the posts in this thread it would seem that both men AND women think that PIV is the only possible sex there is. There are quite a few posts here with the idea that the wife has some illness that makes intercourse painful and so... there is no sex at all. For years. Ghm... Since when did vagina become the only organ that can possibly be used to satisfy either of the partners?

I totally agree. My wife and I were diverse in our fun and openly communicated but menopause and mental/emotional exhaustion ( our lives imploded) has her numb to any kind of intimacy at all now.

 

[CrowdedStranger]

My wife told me to find a girlfriend or fuckbuddy or whatever it's considered these days but I've never had much luck with ladies ( I firmly believe she took pity on me to begin with) so she isn't viscious or inconsiderate to my needs she simply can't respond sexually anymore. I always told her when I couldn't have a sex life anymore life,for me, was over. She thought I was kidding. 3 decades of being spoiled and I'm in freaking purgatory

 

[pennst8er91]

I don’t feel I can post on this thread anymore.... it’s a shame. It had a promising start but has been reduced to “ my wife is a bitch “

I hope I didn't come across that way. I just think there is more to it that she's not communicating. She obviously is not feeling the need or desire or something. But I don't know what I can do other than what I have been doing, which is trying to be patient and jacking off in the shower.

She can be bitchy at times, and I can be an ass at times. That's marriage.

 

[UgliestSon]

I hope I didn't come across that way. I just think there is more to it that she's not communicating. She obviously is not feeling the need or desire or something. But I don't know what I can do other than what I have been doing, which is trying to be patient and jacking off in the shower.

She can be bitchy at times, and I can be an ass at times. That's marriage.

Dude fix your avatar. Nobody wants to see your junk. That is probably the reason she does not want to post here. Fucking christ!

 

[AnnieLit]

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Please, keep your avatar! As most women I don't appreciate unsolicited dick pics in my PM, but I don't see anything wrong with them on the avatars. At least I don't need to dig into your profile to figure out if you are a man or a woman.

As for nobody wants to see... It's a nice cock, what's not to like about it?
I don't see anybody complaining about women showing their breasts...

 

[UgliestSon]

Please, keep your avatar! As most women I don't appreciate unsolicited dick pics in my PM, but I don't see anything wrong with them on the avatars. At least I don't need to dig into your profile to figure out if you are a man or a woman.

As for nobody wants to see... It's a nice cock, what's not to like about it?
I don't see anybody complaining about women showing their breasts...

First of all, rarely if ever have I seen bare breasts in an avatar. Typically they are covered by a bra or maybe cleavage. Also that is not a fair comparison. Now if you would've said pussy lips? And I honestly dont want to see some gal’s gash spread wide every time I scroll thru a thread either. Fuck that shit dog!

 

[AnnieLit]

First of all, rarely if ever have I seen bare breasts in an avatar. Typically they are covered by a bra or maybe cleavage. Also that is not a fair comparison. Now if you would've said pussy lips? And I honestly dont want to see some gal’s gash spread wide every time I scroll thru a thread either. Fuck that shit dog!

I would take a dick over a prude any time of the day

 

[UgliestSon]

I would take a dick over a prude any time of the day

I hate nudity and sex. I am here to save you from your ways. And the laughs.

 

[The_gladiator]

I'm one of the lucky ones. Never had a problem cumming through intercourse. Didnt know for yrs that this wasnt common for a lot of women

this is hot, just sayin. Your partners are lucky.

That is likely true to an extent. Although here, it could be seen as an insult toward his capabilities. I do agree with 'what got her off 5 years ago might not now'. That is so true. Things change. Bodies change. Doesnt mean we dont want any. And this goes for men and women equally.

People need to get less offended when given honest feedback, like, seriously, take the help she’s not insulting your skills.
I agree it is even true for me. I don’t have a hair trigger anymore, so I enjoy more teasing for example. Not that I would ever like go off unexpectedly, but people could not tease me for long. So that means I enjoy different things now that I’m older, of course a woman’s needs would change too, as her body and mind evolve.

 

[Spenser41]

First of all, rarely if ever have I seen bare breasts in an avatar. Typically they are covered by a bra or maybe cleavage. Also that is not a fair comparison. Now if you would've said pussy lips? And I honestly dont want to see some gal’s gash spread wide every time I scroll thru a thread either. Fuck that shit dog!

You are also very rude.... There is an nice way to say things and an asshole way of doing it and from your AV... you sure have the Asshole part down pat!

 

[MascaraRuns]

this is hot, just sayin. Your partners are lucky.



People need to get less offended when given honest feedback, like, seriously, take the help she’s not insulting your skills.
I agree it is even true for me. I don’t have a hair trigger anymore, so I enjoy more teasing for example. Not that I would ever like go off unexpectedly, but people could not tease me for long. So that means I enjoy different things now that I’m older, of course a woman’s needs would change too, as her body and mind evolve.

I enjoy reading your comments. Thanks for the Male perspective

 

[MascaraRuns]

Been married almost 23 years. Two teenage kids. Sex about once a week, mostly out of guilt imo. Wife has no libido and when we do have sex it’s always the same. Rarely foreplay. I’ve licked her pussy once in two years and near the same time for a blow job.
Some say I shouldn’t complain as I am getting it once a week. But it lacks passion and heat!

So, re licking her pussy...she doesn't enjoy it or wont let you?
In my marriage, I want that foreplay, dont get it often. He'd get a blow job more often if he took the time to get me all hot and bothered. Most certainly lacks passion and heat! Sex then, as you know, becomes boring and then dwindles away. I think you have reason to complain to yourself because although it is once a wk....quality is better than quantity!!!!! If one isnt going to have sex often, shouldnt the sex we have be the best we can make it?

 

[Bpar721971]

Sexless marriages

And maybe it becomes a compatibility issue. Traditionally men are older than their wives. Maybe, and men correct me if I wrong, men get a little less energetic in the foreplay department, women arent ready on the spot when they get a bit older. Men also seem to think intercourse is all there is. Women, (again correct me if I'm wrong) know there is a lot more to SEX than intercourse. COMPATIBILITY!

It depends on the man and if enjoys foreplay. I for one enjoy foreplay especially fir getting a woman which makes the sec all the better. However, the if one partner has a high sex drive and the other doesn’t, then it doesn’t matter. Both parties have engage in the first step of sex in order for fore play to happen. But it makes the sex a whole lot better.

 

[The_gladiator]

I enjoy reading your comments. Thanks for the Male perspective

Thank you, that really means a lot to me. I love talking about this because letsbe honest if we don’t communicate and learn how can we grow?

 

[The_gladiator]

So, re licking her pussy...she doesn't enjoy it or wont let you?
In my marriage, I want that foreplay, dont get it often. He'd get a blow job more often if he took the time to get me all hot and bothered. Most certainly lacks passion and heat! Sex then, as you know, becomes boring and then dwindles away. I think you have reason to complain to yourself because although it is once a wk....quality is better than quantity!!!!! If one isnt going to have sex often, shouldnt the sex we have be the best we can make it?

I love your comments here. They are so true. When I really take the time to push all of my wife’s buttons and really get her going she can sometimes almost beg to suck my cock, but if all the effort isn’t put forth by me it’s not going to happen and that’s fair. So this brings up a difference in time to get aroused, I think a lot of men forget that women are wired differently and can’t be ready to go at the drop of the hat, at least most can’t. I know I find it frustrating at times that she doesn’t seem like she wants me as quickly or as much as I do her, but patience rewards me much more than impatience or laziness.

 

[AnnieLit]

When I really take the time to push all of my wife’s buttons and really get her going

If this is the case, if you really CAN get her going, try different ways of pushing those buttons or find a new ones, but do something, that will let you combine worming her up AND enjoying the process at the same time.

Try to think of this not as a chore, but a reward in itself. If, say, for whatever reason sex became an activity where neither of you could ever touch your cock, what would be the next best thing? What is there that does not get you off but still brings a lot of pleasure? Can that be done together? Will that turn her on?

Are there things that you can ask her to do to you, that turn her on too? Not suck you or give you a handjob, but something sexual, that is pleasant and exciting and still guaranteed NOT to make you cum? I automatically think of femdom, but I am sure there must be other things as well.

 

[The_gladiator]

If this is the case, if you really CAN get her going, try different ways of pushing those buttons or find a new ones, but do something, that will let you combine worming her up AND enjoying the process at the same time.

Try to think of this not as a chore, but a reward in itself. If, say, for whatever reason sex became an activity where neither of you could ever touch your cock, what would be the next best thing? What is there that does not get you off but still brings a lot of pleasure? Can that be done together? Will that turn her on?

Are there things that you can ask her to do to you, that turn her on too? Not suck you or give you a handjob, but something sexual, that is pleasant and exciting and still guaranteed NOT to make you cum? I automatically think of femdom, but I am sure there must be other things as well.

My mind went to femdom too, though that’s not really an option for her saddly for me. One thing that I think is positive is that she has recently joined lit and seems to be exploring things she enjoys. She’s never really been able to articulate her needs to me and I think being on lit is helping her put words to her desires, which in turn helps me to please her. She’s talked to people that seem to have helped her think about her sexuality on a deeper level. Something I thought I had tried to do and have discovered that perhaps I was too emotionally invested and grew frustrated too easily. She has said she wanted me to dominate her for years, but didn’t really bring that out in me because she came across as passive, not submissive, and I’ve seen as she has changed so have I and now I can dominate more easily because I know more of what she needs. She seems to be doing some of the mental exploration of her sexuality that I’ve done for years and always hoped she would... I’d like to build on this so perhaps my relationship could feel closer.

 

[UgliestSon]

You are also very rude.... There is an nice way to say things and an asshole way of doing it and from your AV... you sure have the Asshole part down pat!

Here is the thing...

 

[AnnieLit]

Here is the thing...get fucked homie.

You do realise that in this particular thread "get fucked" is an encouragement, not an insult?

 

[AnnieLit]

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[Uneklensane]

If this is the case, if you really CAN get her going, try different ways of pushing those buttons or find a new ones, but do something, that will let you combine worming her up AND enjoying the process at the same time.

Try to think of this not as a chore, but a reward in itself. If, say, for whatever reason sex became an activity where neither of you could ever touch your cock, what would be the next best thing? What is there that does not get you off but still brings a lot of pleasure? Can that be done together? Will that turn her on?

Are there things that you can ask her to do to you, that turn her on too? Not suck you or give you a handjob, but something sexual, that is pleasant and exciting and still guaranteed NOT to make you cum? I automatically think of femdom, but I am sure there must be other things as well.

I personally LOVE your train of thought. Letting her be in charge and feeling the power of control over me is a true turn on for her. And my buttons are getting pushed too.

 

[AnnieLit]

I personally LOVE your train of thought. Letting her be in charge and feeling the power of control over me is a true turn on for her. And my buttons are getting pushed too.

Your buttons are easy to push, getting her to be in charge is usually a much bigger challenge. But if you managed to pass that milestone, you are all set for years to come.

 

[UgliestSon]

You do realise that in this particular thread "get fucked" is an encouragement, not an insult?

You are right. And I should not have said that. Now I am being rude.

 

[Spiritedlady]

You are right. And I should not have said that. Now I am being rude.

Causing a rumpus U.S? Can’t take you anywhere x