Permission

[Trinique_Fire]

Under what circumstances and for what situations do you like to ask permission?

 

[ericandshannon]

Now a day. I’d ask everything.

 

[SissySalina]

If someone ask sissy to do something that sissy knows that She normally does not allow or for those things that She has predetermined that sissy needs to ask permission for.
Such as a friend requires sissy to help to do something and sissy's production schedule will be affected, normally permission is given with the understanding that punishment will be provided later.
Or one of Her friends pops around and request servicing by sissy, She must be notified and approval given prior in all cases of this type.

 

[Trinique_Fire]

If someone ask sissy to do something that sissy knows that She normally does not allow or for those things that She has predetermined that sissy needs to ask permission for.
Such as a friend requires sissy to help to do something and sissy's production schedule will be affected, normally permission is given with the understanding that punishment will be provided later.
Or one of Her friends pops around and request servicing by sissy, She must be notified and approval given prior in all cases of this type.

This is definitely on the extreme end of the spectrum for us. We're pretty laid back as far as rules and guidelines go. I'm not entirely sure how to put into words what I'm looking for, but I guess...I'm interested in how couples have explored this particular kink, and what are some ways my wife and I can explore it together. For reference, she's most definitely the top.

 

[CuteSlaveLisa]

This grandmother must be getting old. She thought she typed this out earlier. But it isn't here.

JMO but talking too much. I mean reasonable rational interactive speech is kinda off putting.

If your playmates love you. If they are attentive to you. If they are perceptive. Well, then you don't need notaries, lawyers and everything in writing.

If your playmates love you they are going to make sure that you get off, before they do. They will want for you to feel good. If they are attentive, your playmates will know what gets you off. Being smacked on the ass, having your nipple rings pulled, both hands inside of you. Whatever. If your playmates are perceptive, they can slowly, incrementally, try new things and gauge their applicability on your reactions.

Gotta go, my bro and the father of my children are waiting to double team me.

Lisa Ann

 

[barefootgirl69]

Under what circumstances and for what situations do you like to ask permission?

Every one of us is going to have a different answer, because each relationship is different.

For me, as a submissive, it isn't about "what situations I like to ask permission for" but what He requires I ask permission for.

Are you looking for ideas in every day situations or during play?

 

[Trinique_Fire]

Every one of us is going to have a different answer, because each relationship is different.

For me, as a submissive, it isn't about "what situations I like to ask permission for" but what He requires I ask permission for.

Are you looking for ideas in every day situations or during play?

Every day situations.

 

[Snowbunnie12]

If I’m gonna go clothes shopping lol$$$$$

 

[cookiecat]

I think it was what barefootgirl said - I really didn't come up with the things I wanted for which I had to ask his permission. He pretty much came up with the list.

But I think you're asking for ideas or for what others have done.

In the beginning of my bdsm life, it was exciting to, say, ask for permission to go to the bathroom when I was at work. Soooo - of course - he'd text back and say only if you put your fingers in your pussy and lick them off, or some such thing.

Orgasms were a big permission thing. I couldn't just rub one off on my own.

At times, when we had the time and it felt sort of... necessary??? he'd micromanage everything over the weekend. A bit like Sissy's relationship, I think. I had to ask permission for everything. To get up off the couch. To pee. How close did he want me to him? Could I go online? It was fun for like a day. It definitely helped get in to a mindset.

Often times, he used permission to help with things I needed help with. For example, I have an issue misplacing my car keys. So, before I left for work, I had to ask his permission to leave. He would then ask about my keys, did I have them?

I had to ask permission to do anything with my hair. Cut, color it. At first I bristled. How dare he?! But I realized he was the one who had to look at my face. I wanted to please him. He actually asked me to cut my hair super short and it looked great.

Once I "grew up" in my bdsm life, the permission thing has fallen away. There is a level of transparency I'm more aware of now. He had a hand in most of my business, as I did his - so the permission thing didn't feel necessary.

 

[Forgottenhusband1]

Recently it's happened where I can ask to keep my wife's worn panties against my cock all day in my boxers. We did try for a bit where I would have to get permission to cum while alone, it happened a couple of times but she feels uncomfortable doing that so that's ended

 

[barefootgirl69]

Every day situations.

I would be remiss if I didn't say you know your lifestyle best, so I would think of things that are done each day.

Get dressed or changed
Eat you dinner, etc
Get a haircut, grow/shave facial hair
Try a new soap or cologne

Keep trying things to see what suits you both, one-size does not fit all.

Best wishes

 

[barefootgirl69]

I had to ask permission to do anything with my hair. Cut, color it. At first I bristled. How dare he?! But I realized he was the one who had to look at my face. I wanted to please him. He actually asked me to cut my hair super short and it looked great.

(Let me preface this by saying my ex was domineering, not dominant - but, I've always been submissive)

I had to get permission for hairstyles and trims, too. I think the only time I rebelled or got angry was when my arm was broken and I wanted it shorter. He would wash my hair and bathe me, but the everyday upkeep was hard, especially since he left for work two hours before I got out of bed. No ponytails that year.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Sexual stuff. I check with him on “big” things that affect our time together, but I don’t ask.

 

[Whispor]

In my fantasies I'd have to ask permission to masturbate. Of course, there would always be "conditions" I would have to fulfill to receive permission such as:

- cumming in a tissue and bringing it to her afterwards
- ejaculating into a shot glass so she can examine it, and possibly make me swallow it
- video my ejaculation, or snap a pic of my semen on my stomach, table, sink, etc.
- how to masturbate, such as with something inserted in my anus, specific lube, hand
- what type of videos to watch, or specific videos that she has picked out

Just a few...

 

[Lascivity]

I sometimes have partners get permission from me before they masturbate. It's a reminder for them, and I enjoy controlling access to something so vital and intimate for them. Although, also, I think wanking is great, so I'm not often going to say no...

 

[CuteSlaveLisa]

Here is what I consider the funny thing (as I surf Literotica looking for something to do other than the productive work that I am supposed to be doing at 1.30 CST).

I neither ask permission nor does he who owns me body and soul (also known as my big brother or "George" in my mildly expunged autobiography) make demands. We know each other so well. I know what he likes, and that is what I do because he likes it. It isn't restrictive, its liberating. I am my beloved and he is mine stuff. I am most free when I am being 'perfect' to and for him.

Lisa Ann

 

[Trinique_Fire]

I want to thank everyone for their responses. Yes, what I was looking for was inspiration from others. I definitely appreciate hearing about all the various experiences. My wife and I are gradually finding our footing with this.

 

[midlifecrisispanties]

Under what circumstances and for what situations do you like to ask permission?

I think this can be a matter of personal protocol. In public, we have developed a way of silent deference. She orders for me in restaraunts, has me hold doors, has me cary the bags, pour her drink first, serve her first at the table... Etc. At home it is the same. We have a teen at home, so when he's present, it is quiet defference. In the bedroom, I ask permission for everything.

"What shall I wear to bed?"
"May I have my bath now?"
"May I lotion myself?"
"Do you need anything, Maam?"
"Anything else, Maam?"

Etc

In a session:

"May I touch it?"
"May I think of -----?"
"Please, may I cum now?"

Etc

Then back to silent deference. It works for us. I think protocol and expectations are important.

 

[inside_out]

I ask permission for two sorts of things.

Firstly, although we are monogamous, we do scene with others. However, we check in and get permission before scenes.

Secondly, we have a power exchange scenario related to my bedtime routine. If I want to alter it then I ask permission because of the power exchange. Anything with power exchange requires permission.