I sympathize for the torment you go through trying to find the right support. I think you would be much better off if you just wore the outfit that you're wearing in your avitar all the time, I - for one - would be thrilled. Of course, I'd also be hard all the time, and that's not nearly as fun as it sounds .. or so I'm told ...Well in all honesty, number 1 I am not sure yet last bra shopping was or Ls, number 2, I after looking at the pictures and video, I am actually pretty sure I need to be in a 36N US not M.
http://i.imgur.com/X8ZLSlvm.jpg
ok, so first, we see the obvious cup cutting in some up top, not awful but signs we have a cup that is simply too small. as we continue looking down, we see the gore isn't tacking up top, which is a sign something is wrong, but also the gore isn't tacking on the bottom. I am obviously wearing a bra with too small a cup size and too large a band to correct for the small cup. this is very proven by an easily successful titty drop later in that video. this means stress is likely being placed on my shoulders and back when it shouldn't be. this bra is a US 38L, so UK 38
however, we can also see the underwire locations are hitting correctly, going down a band size, I risk narrowing the cups, but going up cup sizes, will probably widen them, often too much, then too wide a gore, underwire hitting further back. also my torso isn't very long, especially for my height. so I need to figure out the correct size (likely 36N), but I also need narrow and deep cups, medium to short underwire, especially on the sides, and a narrow gore. bras are not only about the size. I mean I guess if smaller and they aren't really doing a lot of work, maybe those women can get away without, but bras have so many parts that go to fit besides size.
even worse is the fact that I really prefer t-shirt bras. at this point I am confident I have gone 100% past the possibility of a t-shirt bra, I don't even think I could find one in the size.
I will likely start with Freya, as the have a tendency to have the short underwire, narrow gore, deep narrow cup. They are UK sizing so I will probably order a 36J and a 36JJ because my measurements say J but my pictures look like 36JJ. I will order from somewhere with a better return policy. I will then find the closest to best fit, then I will take measurements of the bra. see there are places where hundreds of thousands of women take detailed measurements of every bra they try on to build a database.
so i will take measurements of the band unstretch and stretched, the cup width, depth, height. The wire length, the gore width, the gore height, the wing height, strap width, band width. I will first upload all this to the site, with pictures and details on bras manufacturer and model as to add for future users. I will then take the almost correct bra, and think what would make it correct, tweak those measurements, and search the database, which will hopefully spit out a couple of options that other women had captured. then I will look for those.
the ass kickers in general are yeah, I think I passed t-shirt bra, like i will simply not find one. Freya which is often my go to because of wings and gores and height and width and depth, stops in a K I think, so I have realistically 3 years most likely before I exceeded their options. Sometimes I can get lucky and find a panache, once even a curvy kate (who tends to be wide shallow cups mostly), sometimes a goddess.
next kicker is they few that spit out, I will likely not find them on sale, so now the most expensive part of my outfit is the part that no one sees.
and final is, it will only be the perfect fitting bra for a little. again my weight fluctuates. but on top is my boobs take the majority of the weight gain, but have very limited weight loss. so even if I go back to the exact same weight, the bra will never be correctly fitting again, because I will have gained a cup size or two at the exact same weight.
so how hard is it to find bras? well a lot better than without the internet. I could never walk into any store anywhere I have ever been in the US and actually just buy a bra. can't be done. my US size actually isn't made, period. hence shopping UK. if other women didn't struggle with all the other portions too, and thus try to design databases and global participation, I'd probably go through 30 or 40 UK bras, shipping back and forth, before I found one. Now I will probably succeed in about 5 I hope.
What were we talking about again?