A lesbian author writing gay stories

[LucyHall2]

Hello everyone. I am a 44 year old, recently widowed closet lesbian with submissive tendencies who is a budding erotic author. Obviously writing about women is my wheelhouse but ultimately it's about the way power dynamics and forbidden desire between two people of the same sex effects the emotions and psyche that I seek to weave into my stories. And this dynamic can translate to either sex. I have been trying out writing gay as well as lesbian stories. Does the idea of a lesbian woman writing gay erotica appeal or is there a certain preference for authors to stay in their particular lane?

 

[pdp68]

It does for me. I would love to know what a sensual woman likes about the notion of two men experiencing one another. You know, it seems to be a popular notion of the woman in a dominant, or at least assertive, role in the action between the men.

 

[LucyHall2]

Thank you for your reply, although for me, my stories are either strictly lesbian or gay. I find the presence of the opposite sex robs the scene of it's forbidden/secretive nature. It needs that clandestine and taboo thrill and a member of the opposite sex being involved kind of gives the scene a sense of acceptability which diffuses the intimacy of the forbidden. I know it's just me but I have always felt like that. Stories where a husband gets involved wth a lesbian tryst, changes the dynamic completely. It gives a stamp of approval to something I want to be wicked and takes the fear and excitement of something being wrong but so good one cannot resist. That fear and secrecy is reliant on hidden same sex unions. The bisexual aspect kind of places it in a more above board light.

 

[Jenna2641]

I've read another author's take on gay erotica who was primarily a lesbian author in the distance past. I thought she did it well & I enjoy all her offerings. With gay, lesbian, or bisexual in nature. Your approach sounds like there is more emphasis on an emotional level & that might be good. I often find the best stories are those that making you invested in the characters. Even when the sex is the ultimate achievement of the story. I look forward to seeing your work. I would say, while I like the emotional engagement, in general, the male reader, or maybe just me, likes detail of the action. That being said, detail in the emotions related to the physical interaction can be just as exciting. Ultimately, have fun in the writing process. Take anyone's advice, accept, adjust, or ignore as needed, & follow your heart.

 

[bookworm69]

Thank you for your reply, although for me, my stories are either strictly lesbian or gay. I find the presence of the opposite sex robs the scene of it's forbidden/secretive nature. It needs that clandestine and taboo thrill and a member of the opposite sex being involved kind of gives the scene a sense of acceptability which diffuses the intimacy of the forbidden. I know it's just me but I have always felt like that. Stories where a husband gets involved wth a lesbian tryst, changes the dynamic completely. It gives a stamp of approval to something I want to be wicked and takes the fear and excitement of something being wrong but so good one cannot resist. That fear and secrecy is reliant on hidden same sex unions. The bisexual aspect kind of places it in a more above board light.

I say: go for it. As long as a story is sensual and evocative, I don't believe the author's gender choice plays any role in the reader's enjoyment of the story.

I totally agree with you about the nature of the dynamic when a second gender is made a part of a gay story. What excites, for me (as you point out), is the taboo nature of the tryst. Succumbing to "the forbidden/secret" temptation brings a scintillating measure of excitement, that is hard to resist.

Thanks for your thoughtful, provocative query.

 

[LincolnDuncan]

The psychological motivations behind domination and submission have always been far more interesting to me that the act itself. Most writers, from my perspective don't seem to be able to imagine that.

 

[yukonnights]

I've read another author's take on gay erotica who was primarily a lesbian author in the distance past. I thought she did it well & I enjoy all her offerings. With gay, lesbian, or bisexual in nature. Your approach sounds like there is more emphasis on an emotional level & that might be good. I often find the best stories are those that making you invested in the characters. Even when the sex is the ultimate achievement of the story. I look forward to seeing your work. I would say, while I like the emotional engagement, in general, the male reader, or maybe just me, likes detail of the action. That being said, detail in the emotions related to the physical interaction can be just as exciting. Ultimately, have fun in the writing process. Take anyone's advice, accept, adjust, or ignore as needed, & follow your heart.

Jenna, I must be one of the exceptions because I'm just the opposite of the typical male you've described. It's all about the inner conflict, the emotion and the tension of the two men that fires my button. I couldn't count the number of stories I've started, but backed out of once it became clear that it was just an exercise in physical descriptions of body parts and sex acts (not that I don't appreciate the sex acts )....But, I've been accused of being sorta weird

 

[jackstud]

I've read another author's take on gay erotica who was primarily a lesbian author in the distance past. I thought she did it well & I enjoy all her offerings. With gay, lesbian, or bisexual in nature. Your approach sounds like there is more emphasis on an emotional level & that might be good. I often find the best stories are those that making you invested in the characters. Even when the sex is the ultimate achievement of the story. I look forward to seeing your work. I would say, while I like the emotional engagement, in general, the male reader, or maybe just me, likes detail of the action. That being said, detail in the emotions related to the physical interaction can be just as exciting. Ultimately, have fun in the writing process. Take anyone's advice, accept, adjust, or ignore as needed, & follow your heart.

Very well said Jenna

 

[LucyHall2]

Damn how did I miss all these wonderful replies. I think you have all made excellent points and you have given me powerful inspiration to persue gay erotica as well as lesbian. I haven't been so inspired in years. Thank you Jenna, Bookworm, Lincoln and Yukon.

I have written something and got excellent constructive feedback from a few men (some who are present here. Thank you).

By all accounts I missed the mark not because of bad writing but because I failed to build up the tension before the seduction/domination/surrender.

That seems to be a unanimous decision but the majority opinion (but not unanimous) was that I also spent too much time talking about the emotions, when my readers wanted graphic descriptions of sex and body parts.

Part of me wants to stick to my guns and continue writing on the emotional plane and leave the gory details up to the imagination, but I have read some well crafted and surprisingly tasteful gratuitous sexual descriptions recently, so I don't see why my stories can't have the extra emotion and the graphic sex.

Best of both worlds.

I think I'm a bit burned out after writing my lesbian story which is pending then my first attempt at gay erotica all in less than a week. So I think a rest is needed.

By my creative spark is lit and I want to get writing asap.

 

[Jenna2641]

Jenna, I must be one of the exceptions because I'm just the opposite of the typical male you've described. It's all about the inner conflict, the emotion and the tension of the two men that fires my button. I couldn't count the number of stories I've started, but backed out of once it became clear that it was just an exercise in physical descriptions of body parts and sex acts (not that I don't appreciate the sex acts )....But, I've been accused of being sorta weird

I know in good dramatic television, you need that tension. And that can certainly be part of the draw in erotica that makes you appreciate the characters. I am not saying descriptive action needs to be the end all and be all. I am just voicing my appreciation of it.

 

[Jenna2641]

Damn how did I miss all these wonderful replies. I think you have all made excellent points and you have given me powerful inspiration to persue gay erotica as well as lesbian. I haven't been so inspired in years. Thank you Jenna, Bookworm, Lincoln and Yukon.

I have written something and got excellent constructive feedback from a few men (some who are present here. Thank you).

By all accounts I missed the mark not because of bad writing but because I failed to build up the tension before the seduction/domination/surrender.

That seems to be a unanimous decision but the majority opinion (but not unanimous) was that I also spent too much time talking about the emotions, when my readers wanted graphic descriptions of sex and body parts.

Part of me wants to stick to my guns and continue writing on the emotional plane and leave the gory details up to the imagination, but I have read some well crafted and surprisingly tasteful gratuitous sexual descriptions recently, so I don't see why my stories can't have the extra emotion and the graphic sex.

Best of both worlds.

I think I'm a bit burned out after writing my lesbian story which is pending then my first attempt at gay erotica all in less than a week. So I think a rest is needed.

By my creative spark is lit and I want to get writing asap.

I look forward to sampling the result. So glad all of us can give you some inspiration. Each in our own way! Have fun writing!

 

[LucyHall2]

I look forward to sampling the result. So glad all of us can give you some inspiration. Each in our own way! Have fun writing!

Thank you Jenna

 

[Jenna2641]

Thank you Jenna

You are welcome!