Social Experiment - Ladies, Send a PM to a Random Man on Lit for a Change

[Chris_Michael]

I was doing offline things. Today, I spent some time with my cousins. We went out for Turkish food tonight. Great dinner, good times.

I'm going out into the world again tomorrow, just so you know.

Wait wait no no no... you’re not allowed to do real life. That’s not approved by the committee. lol

 

[Froya]

Wait wait no no no... you’re not allowed to do real life. That’s not approved by the committee. lol

Oh, I'm afraid the committee is going to be very upset with me this week.

 

[Chris_Michael]

Oh, I'm afraid the committee is going to be very upset with me this week.

You really need to not have a life!

 

[KamaKamaSutra]

Wait who is on the committee? Are they elected?

 

[Froya]

You really need to not have a life!

Awwww... but it's so fun! And that's where the concerts are and stuff!

 

[Erodicus]

I'm still waiting ....

 

[Froya]

I'm still waiting ....

Well, since this is the first time you've posted to this thread, that can hardly be a surprise, can it?

 

[navytime09]

Well, since this is the first time you've posted to this thread, that can hardly be a surprise, can it?

So what's the minimum requirement? Asking for a friend.

 

[Froya]

So what's the minimum requirement? Asking for a friend.

Enough to get someone's attention so that they think, "hey, he seems like someone I'd like to talk to."

Unfortunately, I can't put a specific number on that. I just know that's how it usually works for me.

 

[MysteryToAll]

So what's the minimum requirement? Asking for a friend.

oh yeah... same... Asking for... uh... a friend hehe

 

[Chris_Michael]

I'm still waiting ....

So what's the minimum requirement? Asking for a friend.

So, it takes more than just waiting. If you wait, nothing will happen.

You have to put yourself out there. I mean, really all you’re doing is trying to make a friend, right? Well, to make a friend, you have to be open and approachable. That’s key to any woman actually taking the shot.

There are many different types of people. However, we’re all looking for similar things.

When I made this thread, it was a risk. It could have bombed. But it didn’t. And I’ve made some friends because of it - except Froya because she’s mean to me. jk

But you have to take the time and effort to be friendly if you have any hopes of receiving a PM.

Just my $0.02.

 

[navytime09]

So, it takes more than just waiting. If you wait, nothing will happen.

You have to put yourself out there. I mean, really all you’re doing is trying to make a friend, right? Well, to make a friend, you have to be open and approachable. That’s key to any woman actually taking the shot.

There are many different types of people. However, we’re all looking for similar things.

When I made this thread, it was a risk. It could have bombed. But it didn’t. And I’ve made some friends because of it - except Froya because she’s mean to me. jk

But you have to take the time and effort to be friendly if you have any hopes of receiving a PM.

Just my $0.02.

Okay, so where does the *Random aspect of this come in?

Post in a thread .... wait for a response... set yourself apart ... make a connection.

Seems to me like the same Lit board (especially PG) thread progression. The same 6 people going around the same affirmation circle.

Again, just asking for a friend.

 

[Illnevertell79]

Is this random pm or request a pm?

It depends on if you want random... lol it wouldnt be random if it was requested would it? Lol... this is me randomluly messaging you.. hoping you are having a wonderful night

 

[Chris_Michael]

Okay, so where does the *Random aspect of this come in?

Post in a thread .... wait for a response... set yourself apart ... make a connection.

Seems to me like the same Lit board (especially PG) thread progression. The same 6 people going around the same affirmation circle.

Again, just asking for a friend.

You’re right. You’re 100% right.

What do you expect from me, a porn star offered up on a silver platter? I have a hard enough time making and keeping my own goddamn friends and you expect me to have sympathy for you? Yeah, whatever dude.

 

[navytime09]

No sympathy required brother.

Just writing out the random ass crazy ideas floating around my dome.

I've come to the realization years ago I am here only talking to myself in between wonderful fuck/jerk off sessions. I'm cool with that even though I feel I have more to offer. Not your fault, definitely my own.

 

[Chris_Michael]

No sympathy required brother.

Just writing out the random ass crazy ideas floating around my dome.

I've come to the realization years ago I am here only talking to myself in between wonderful fuck/jerk off sessions. I'm cool with that even though I feel I have more to offer. Not your fault, definitely my own.

So, do you see my situation as better than yours?

Because it’s not. Trust me. If it were, I wouldn’t be here at all. I’d be talking to whoever “she” was or is.

 

[Froya]

There is no random PM. The only "random" is the way it may feel for the recipient. For instance, I have PMed at least one person from this thread that I have never interacted with on the thread. That may have felt random to him.

But, for the person sending a PM, it is never random. Something made that person decide to click the "send a private message" button. If you get a "random" PM, it's because you were chosen for any number of reasons.

The best way to be chosen is to be seen. It's just as simple as that.

 

[navytime09]

No, not at all.

These situations we live through are impossible to project onto another person. We try like hell but that transfer is impossible. They are our own baggage and something we drag around with us on a daily basis.

You do you my friend, and they will do them.

Struggles are struggles no matter if they happen to the strongest of us or the weakest. All we can do is see in each other what we would wish others would see in ourselves. (I have Sassy and EY to thank for thank for that)

This thing of ours is special and I'm just offering tiny but of advice in regards to inclusion instead of judgement. Take it for the worth of the paper it is written on.

 

[Chris_Michael]

Thanks, man. I appreciate it.

 

[navytime09]

The best way to be chosen is to be seen. It's just as simple as that.

This actually brings tears to my eyes because of the number of invisible individuals walking around our social and physical spaces every day. Those that yearn to be seen but aren't. Those that wish to be heard but aren't. Those that want to share a tiny smile they experienced but can't. ... Those that walk down that bridge with tears in their eyes that we don't notice.

I'm sorry for being a drag but I spent my whole day on the phone with struggling brothers and sisters who only long for their pain and isolation to stop. Can't help but wonder how far a random act of kindness can go.

 

[Froya]

This actually brings tears to my eyes because of the number of invisible individuals walking around our social and physical spaces every day. Those that yearn to be seen but aren't. Those that wish to be heard but aren't. Those that want to share a tiny smile they experienced but can't. ... Those that walk down that bridge with tears in their eyes that we don't notice.

I'm sorry for being a drag but I spent my whole day on the phone with struggling brothers and sisters who only long for their pain and isolation to stop. Can't help but wonder how far a random act of kindness can go.

I don't disagree with you, but the likelihood of a woman closing her eyes and randomly picking a man to say hello to in a place like this is pretty low. Sometimes, just responding to a random hello in our inboxes results in being verbally shit on.

You've had a very rough, emotional day, and I respect you for being able to do that.

 

[Chris_Michael]

Like... me?

I’m a 30-year-old virgin who literally spends every day trying to experience life through the lense of a videogame. Diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and Major Depressive Disorder, I live my life trying to be invisible to anyone outside. I numb all emotions with Xanax. I fall asleep only because of Xanax. I have a mother, a father, a dog, and a best friend. Nobody else knows me.

Two popular guys from high school live across the street from me and I avoid them at all costs. They only know of me from what my parents tell them.

I don’t look anybody in the eye - not my mom, not my dad, not my colleagues, not my patients, not my boss. Nobody.

 

[navytime09]

Normally it isn't this tough but today was different. I spoke about it with the wifey and she pulled me close and cheered me up in the best way she knows how.

I apologize for Mr. Whiskey bringing out the child in me.

You all are wonderfully authentic and thoughtful characters, thank you for the distraction.

-C Micheal's Micheal, you're a bad ass and I find it surprising that you don't see that. Your thread is one of the most popular here on the entire board, not just PG but the whole thing!

Life long changes take time but are far from impossible. Toss me a PM my friend if you are ever in need or want to shoot the shit. I make no promises about solving all the issues with the world but I will offer what little help I can, even if it is just to tell you of my own colossus mistakes in the past.

 

[pikmin1388]

This thread has taken a different turn overnight but if it's got people talking about how they feel so its all good
We all need somewhere to escape to especially if like Chris and others it's not a someone and you feel isolated and alone . It's easy to put a front on here be fun tease chat banter but then it ends and the real world grabs you back again and you're still alone
This thread has worked maybe not many random pms but I'm making friends on here I hope to chat long term

 

[Ins_spacetime87]

This thread has taken a different turn overnight but if it's got people talking about how they feel so its all good
We all need somewhere to escape to especially if like Chris and others it's not a someone and you feel isolated and alone . It's easy to put a front on here be fun tease chat banter but then it ends and the real world grabs you back again and you're still alone
This thread has worked maybe not many random pms but I'm making friends on here I hope to chat long term

Ifeel what you mean, but it does highly depend on what you are looking for on Lit. Sometimes short spells of fun banther can be enough, though I too prefer repeated short spells of fun banther with the same person