Social Experiment - Ladies, Send a PM to a Random Man on Lit for a Change

[AlliaPotestas]

A lot of people are complaining that they haven’t received a PM. I think it’s important to realize that Forum Presence is is key factor in this. You guys still have to leave an enticing mark to draw attention. I guess, in a sense, it’s not entirely “random” but rather, it’s a call for women to PM men who they might have never spoken to given the social norms of men approaching women.

Furthermore, what’s a random PM without substance? If she just sends you a PM for the sake of it rather than being truly intrigued by you, there’s a high likelihood that you wont hit it off anyway.

The thread is supposed to be for fun. You can feel free to mingle. If you talk with her here in the thread, she might hit you with a PM to take it private.

And if that happens, name your babies after me.

I have no intention of having babies but if I get a cat, you’re in... if for no other reason than it would confuse the fuck out of the neighbours as I shout for Chris Michael in my garden at night...

 

[Froya]

Almost every good connection I've made on Lit, and online generally, has started with me sending the first PM to the person I'm interested in. So, for me, sending a PM to a man isn't a change at all, though I don't know if I properly fulfill the 'random' part of the experiment. What constitutes random?

I tend to be a bit of a lurker, so not many people know me. In many instances, the men I've chosen to PM have not been ones with whom I've interacted with on the boards... I had never responded to any of their posts, nor they to mine. So, to them, I was random, but they were not random to me.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

A lot of people are complaining that they haven’t received a PM. I think it’s important to realize that Forum Presence is is key factor in this. You guys still have to leave an enticing mark to draw attention. I guess, in a sense, it’s not entirely “random” but rather, it’s a call for women to PM men who they might have never spoken to given the social norms of men approaching women.

Furthermore, what’s a random PM without substance? If she just sends you a PM for the sake of it rather than being truly intrigued by you, there’s a high likelihood that you wont hit it off anyway.

The thread is supposed to be for fun. You can feel free to mingle. If you talk with her here in the thread, she might hit you with a PM to take it private.

And if that happens, name your babies after me.

I have PMed at least 2 or 3 people so far. I'm only one person though. I do it just for the sake of it, at random sometimes without looking at past history comments. Letting my opinions be formed at the response rather than what is posted. Some may be shy. I used to select from the "what's in your inbox?" thread. I'm not everyone's cup of caramel as well. People do have preferences as well or those they have crushed on or those they may WANT to respond to them for whatever reason. Some picked from here and the Playground.

 

[justcurious1972]

Would be nice I reckon for women to message me for a change. When I do it cold, I feel like the woman thinks I am a creep or such

 

[Chris_Michael]

I have PMed at least 2 or 3 people so far. I'm only one person though. I do it just for the sake of it, at random sometimes without looking at past history comments. Letting my opinions be formed at the response rather than what is posted. Some may be shy. I used to select from the "what's in your inbox?" thread. I'm not everyone's cup of caramel as well. People do have preferences as well or those they have crushed on or those they may WANT to respond to them for whatever reason. Some picked from here and the Playground.

But are you having fun doing it, though? If you’re not enjoying it, I’d say don’t do it. You aren’t obligated to PM anybody, and nobody is entitled to a PM. You’re welcome to do as you please, even if you just want to post here and chat.

I sadly have to go to work. 2 more days until I’m free again.

 

[Tenderkiss]

I have received a couple of nice PMs. Thank you ladies. They have been appreciated. Hopefully they will continue to grow into a friendship. Always nice to make new friends. One never knows what a connection might bring.

 

[JerseyJade]

I have PMed at least 2 or 3 people so far. I'm only one person though. I do it just for the sake of it, at random sometimes without looking at past history comments. Letting my opinions be formed at the response rather than what is posted. Some may be shy. I used to select from the "what's in your inbox?" thread. I'm not everyone's cup of caramel as well. People do have preferences as well or those they have crushed on or those they may WANT to respond to them for whatever reason. Some picked from here and the Playground.

I can't imagine anyone NOT liking you

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

I can't imagine anyone NOT liking you

Awwwwwwwww....thank you...you are always so kind

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

But are you having fun doing it, though? If you’re not enjoying it, I’d say don’t do it. You aren’t obligated to PM anybody, and nobody is entitled to a PM. You’re welcome to do as you please, even if you just want to post here and chat.

I sadly have to go to work. 2 more days until I’m free again.

Yes, I am enjoying this process. No, I'm not doing this out of obligations, I'm doing it because I genuinely like to meet new people. I did the same as I approached you a while back.

 

[Chris_Michael]

Yes, I am enjoying this process. No, I'm not doing this out of obligations, I'm doing it because I genuinely like to meet new people. I did the same as I approached you a while back.

OH YEAH! That is how we met. Holy shit I forgot! lol

That was what... over a year ago? Time goes by so fast.

 

[GreenEyedTiger]

I did this today without knowing this thread existed. Quite enjoyed the conversation that ensued. Hopefully it continues.

 

[jstar2081]

Seems like a fun and exciting way to get a conversation happening between people

 

[Popsikle211]

Hmmm

Is there a list to sign up for this? All the randoms I’ve received are from dudes... and I don’t get down like that.

 

[Chris_Michael]

Is there a list to sign up for this? All the randoms I’ve received are from dudes... and I don’t get down like that.

Hm I haven’t really thought about making a list. Maybe somebody could if they wanted. I can’t with work. Too busy.

 

[Spenser41]

Yes, I am enjoying this process. No, I'm not doing this out of obligations, I'm doing it because I genuinely like to meet new people. I did the same as I approached you a while back.

You’ve always been a sweetheart. I always enjoy hearing from you.

 

[magicmikeaustin]

Got zero

Yes. Zero

 

[lovetporoleplay1]

Well done Cgris!

Back when I was a "lit guru" with lots of posts and friends, I would get random PM's from women I never met. Quite surprising and I was flattered bNow that I'm a "virgin" after being locked from my posting privledges (for apparently no reason) I lost my buddy list. It would be nice to build it up again. Just wanted to vent and not beg. Lol. Great idea Chris. I think it's a great experiment to get people to be more open to new people. I've always enjoyed getting to know new people.

 

[Chris_Michael]

Yes. Zero

Have you considered talking to any woman on Lit without mentioning anything sexual at all?

Because from what I’ve gathered, you can’t suppress perverted thoughts.

But bruh, we all think perverted thoughts. That doesn’t mean we can drop those tbought by sentence 3 of our first PM. You should set yourself a goal to talk to ONE female on Lit without bringing up sex at all. I bet it will change your experience on Lit. You’ll see how awesome it is having a female friend just in general. And if things naturally move on to sex, great. If not, you should still be happy you made a friend.

Then come back here with that experience and your number of PMs will most likely grow.

 

[Chris_Michael]

Back when I was a "lit guru" with lots of posts and friends, I would get random PM's from women I never met. Quite surprising and I was flattered bNow that I'm a "virgin" after being locked from my posting privledges (for apparently no reason) I lost my buddy list. It would be nice to build it up again. Just wanted to vent and not beg. Lol. Great idea Chris. I think it's a great experiment to get people to be more open to new people. I've always enjoyed getting to know new people.

Hey thanks man. I appreciate it. I hope you fill your buddy list up fast.

....why isn’t Gracie on my buddies list?

OH GRACIE?! Where did that woman get off to?

Hey thanks again man. Good luck!

 

[Gracie13]

I didn’t even know there was a buddy list.

Just my favorite ignore list

 

[lovetporoleplay1]

Wait?! There's an ignore list? Lol

 

[Chris_Michael]

I didn’t even know there was a buddy list.

Just my favorite ignore list

Hey pretty lady!

May I have the honor of being your first buddy?

 

[bobb_sledd]

Ohhh do I get a new boyfriend out f this?

Maybe a new pen pal...

 

[Kelleebabes]

Hey pretty lady!

May I have the honor of being your first buddy?

ahhh, I think that's sweet...

 

[Wetsider]

I haven't been a member here very long. I did receive one random PM, totally unrelated to this thread. It's really made me want to stick around.

Thank you, you know who you are.