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[Wild_Honey_66]

Ah you dirty woman, I difnt mean docking in that senses
Its the Little Prince...its a childrens book

Hehe

Yes of course, now i remember!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I googled the quote and found this lovely piece:

http://eventingnation.com/you-become-responsible-forever-for-what-you-have-tamed/

 

[rlaflamme]

I googled the quote and found this lovely piece:

http://eventingnation.com/you-become-responsible-forever-for-what-you-have-tamed/

That is awesome

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Am have many layers to me. I recommend that book to all.

By favorite quote is:

The Fox telling the Little Prince "Here is my secret. It is very simple: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is invisible to the eye."...and later "The eyes are blind. One must look with the heart..."

That too has always stayed with me.

Imagine comprehending this at 16 years old and seeing that much of the world does not understand.

The Little Prince says "Grown-ups never understand anything by themselves, and it is tiresome for children to be always and forever explaining things to them."

We make things complicated.

J.

True.

Reminds me of The Velveteen Rabbit.

https://youtu.be/NHLYvs5zOUU

 

[Bjerget]

Am have many layers to me. I recommend that book to all.

By favorite quote is:

The Fox telling the Little Prince "Here is my secret. It is very simple: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is invisible to the eye."...and later "The eyes are blind. One must look with the heart..."

That too has always stayed with me.

Imagine comprehending this at 16 years old and seeing that much of the world does not understand.

The Little Prince says "Grown-ups never understand anything by themselves, and it is tiresome for children to be always and forever explaining things to them."

We make things complicated.

J.

I might know a thing or two about this fox...

 

[Bjerget]

And my own two cent's about the conversations I find on this forum,if I may. I get a lot of random messages from fellows bombarding me with requests that range from asking my name (no!) To my age (didn't look at my profile) or demanding I regale them with personal anecdotes about my sexual adventures, my secrets, stories from my childhood (wtf?) Or straight up asking for cyber sex. What in the world makes a person who doesn't even know me, feel so entitled to barge their way inside?! It kinda does my head in. I never respond to those kinds of messages. They aren't clever or unique and I can see plainly through to the actual motivation for writing.

The kinds of messages I do respond to are from folks who seem like theyre interested in talking to me, not just for sexy times.

Also, I get a lot of messages about my story and someone offering to star in part 2. That's not gonna happen lol.

 

[Bjerget]

Another thought, about this. Time zones and shifting schedule at work has killed a good few conversations for me as well. I find that if people are not constant in chatting, especially on messenger I lose interest. Maybe I'm a flake deep down inside too, but I have routines and need some stability in my relationships.

Okay i won't keep spamming your lovely thread. Thanks for making an interesting place to discuss things like this.

 

[Bjerget]

Birds of a feather flock together.

happy to see you.

J.

Nice to see you as well.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Another thought, about this. Time zones and shifting schedule at work has killed a good few conversations for me as well. I find that if people are not constant in chatting, especially on messenger I lose interest. Maybe I'm a flake deep down inside too, but I have routines and need some stability in my relationships.

This 1000% agree, you are going to lose my interest rapidly if you start playing the ghosting game, or not staying in very regular contact with me. We got intimate started a cyber relationship , have the decency to say ‘Hi’ most days, or tell me if you won’t be around for a few days.

 

[TomLonghorn]

Completely agree. Conversations are about respect and enjoy the moment.

 

[rlaflamme]

Another thought, about this. Time zones and shifting schedule at work has killed a good few conversations for me as well. I find that if people are not constant in chatting, especially on messenger I lose interest. Maybe I'm a flake deep down inside too, but I have routines and need some stability in my relationships.

Okay i won't keep spamming your lovely thread. Thanks for making an interesting place to discuss things like this.

Thank you for your insight. I think messages received that are simply "just a message" ones that show nothing about you was read, crude requests and the such are part of the problem with trying to find a decent on.

And time zones can make things very difficult as well.

(I would have quoted both of your posts, but, I don't know how yet lol)

 

[rlaflamme]

Completely agree. Conversations are about respect and enjoy the moment.

I think that sometimes, not always, that is what it starts as, respect and enjoy, but the enjoyment can wear off, more so on site like this. How long can you keep a friendship alive that has little to no chance of ever being physical. Not sexual, but just being able to see one another and have a coffee together or whatever. What happens when the newness wears off?

 

[rlaflamme]

True.

Reminds me of The Velveteen Rabbit.

https://youtu.be/NHLYvs5zOUU

It is amazing how children's stories work into everyday lives. As they should. Conversation seems so simple, but can be so difficult.

 

[rlaflamme]

Can a conversation in cyberland be "killed" easier because of a simple misspelled word? How easily you can be misunderstood by only sharing words.

The advantage of not being able to see one another, which can make it a lot easier to open up as they other person cannot see you fidget or blush, can work quite the opposite as well. They cannot hear the tone of your voice which can turn a playful joke into a rude insult. And, it is easy to misspell a word making the sentence mean something far different.

As it is easier to leave the company of a person in cyberland, I wonder how often such things have disrupted a good conversation.

 

[rlaflamme]

How about age? Is there a barrier for most people with the age of the person they would talk to? I know I have seen "looking for older" and "looking for younger" but I am pretty sure those are mostly based on sex and such. Does the same restrictions fall on a conversation?

 

[filt]

I've said it on other threads...age is just age.

The brain is a wonderful thing. Why limit my interactions because of age? I have had meaninful conversations and most are with men my age or older. I would never turn away a 25 yr, for example, but are his interests the same? Can he have detph in his conversation ...if yes, perfect!

And I only say men, because women dont PM me, which is ok...but simpky because Im not sexualy attracted to women doesnt meant I cant have a conversation.

This is Lit, sex is at the core of conversations. That factors in...

But age? Does sexiness and intelligence have an age? I guess if you're simply focused on the exterior ...yes.

There speaks a lady with great wisdom. The joy of words, especially the very minimal few on here that are good with them, is that allows you to learn about the other person. If you mix well, then see where the journey takes you.

Why let age or any other ideals in the confines of your imagination potentially deny you from meeting a good chat partner!

 

[boo56]

There speaks a lady with great wisdom. ...

Another believer in the wisdom of Josie!

 

[Pawleys16]

I've said it on other threads...age is just age.

The brain is a wonderful thing. Why limit my interactions because of age? I have had meaninful conversations and most are with men my age or older. I would never turn away a 25 yr, for example, but are his interests the same? Can he have detph in his conversation ...if yes, perfect!

And I only say men, because women dont PM me, which is ok...but simpky because Im not sexualy attracted to women doesnt meant I cant have a conversation.

This is Lit, sex is at the core of conversations. That factors in...

But age? Does sexiness and intelligence have an age? I guess if you're simply focused on the exterior ...yes.

When you get older like me and your body starts saying enough .... your mind still says go .... you find it is easier and you are better performing with a lady’s mind than her body. What young guys don’t get is women are mental animals and men are visual animals. Fuck her mind - not in a bad way - and she will be a happy camper and share the visual side much easier.

 

[rlaflamme]

Is it that most people here are really looking for sex, or cyber sex?

I have often wondered as such. I know it is an erotic website, but is the chance of having a conversation that does nor flow into cybersex reduced because of that?

 

[rlaflamme]

A bit of a continuation of my previous thought....

Does a conversation here that does not elevate to sex, or sex talk, does that kill the conversation?

Again, I would like to thank everyone for contributing to this thread. When I started it I had no idea it would evolve to what it is, but I am glad it did.

 

[rlaflamme]

I don't have much to add to my last post, but I saw I was at 999 posts, so it was only fitting to make my 1,000 here

 

[Scubasteve1337]

How about age? Is there a barrier for most people with the age of the person they would talk to? I know I have seen "looking for older" and "looking for younger" but I am pretty sure those are mostly based on sex and such. Does the same restrictions fall on a conversation?

I don’t think age is as important in a conversational sense. Common experiences, mutual respect, genuineness, and interest are more aspects I seeing as important for a conversation to really happen. Most times you can see through someone’s attempts at a conversation for what they really are if their motives are more than conversation.

 

[rlaflamme]

^This x1000.

I jump if I see Miss in the message title.
It usually means a good connection right away.

Anything overtly sexual like *finger fuck* gets deleted. smh
Also Sweetie and Honey. Ugh.
I don’t mind babe, babe is fine.

I had a one-off with a guy that messaged me *hey babe*
and it was awesome.

I’ve never had a one night stand irl, but I don’t mind doing
it online once in awhile. I love sex chat, and I’m really
good at it. I also like to flirt and have fun chatting or playing
in the threads.

Yes, I respect myself, don’t have low self esteem, or any of
that other bullshit—so don’t judge, because I know some
of you are.

I have my own *rules* too. They’re just the direct opposite of
what many of yours are.

Interesting thread. I’ll have to come back again.

Thanks, especially to the ladies & rlaflamme for your POV’s

I have thought about what to call a person a few times, and do not think I have used any titles or pet names in an introduction message. Does that make a big difference when deciding to respond?

I figured a crude name might be dismissed quickly for most, but I would also guess that is what some want. I'm not sure.

Thank you for your insight.

 

[AlliaPotestas]

I have thought about what to call a person a few times, and do not think I have used any titles or pet names in an introduction message. Does that make a big difference when deciding to respond?

I figured a crude name might be dismissed quickly for most, but I would also guess that is what some want. I'm not sure.

Thank you for your insight.

Using pet names when you don’t know me comes across as arrogant and presumptive... plus there are a shit load I really don’t like in real life.

But as you state, some women doubtless like them, which is why my usual advice on these things is be yourself, you’ll click with some, not with others - but that’s the way of the universe... if you’re a man naturally inclined to call every woman baby, you’ll probably never click with a repressed soul like me who cringes at the thought and it’s probably better that’s cleared up quickly...

That said, my username is at least a name, so it is easier for folks to avoid pet names... it must be difficult knowing how to start an interaction when conversing with a more random username...

 

[rlaflamme]

I don’t think age is as important in a conversational sense. Common experiences, mutual respect, genuineness, and interest are more aspects I seeing as important for a conversation to really happen. Most times you can see through someone’s attempts at a conversation for what they really are if their motives are more than conversation.

Thank you. I tend to think very similarly. I think all ages can have a decent conversation, you just need to find the connection.