Daddy's Little Girl: Second Edition

[Wild_Honey_66]

Apparently the (ahem) offer still... stands.

*scampers*

 

[cascadiabound]

Totally off topic, but can I get a hug?

You could make your way to the hug thread ....

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1369896

 

[DarkSimian]

Honey offered my bosom before.

You could make your way to the hug thread ....

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1369896

If you are who I think you are....I like your bosom

Thanks Cas......on my way

 

[barefootgirl69]

Totally off topic, but can I get a hug?

There's always a hug for my beastie friend.
#heldcaptivebymymom
#hidinginbathroom

 

[DarkSimian]

There's always a hug for my beastie friend.
#heldcaptivebymymom
#hidinginbathroom

#sneakoutthruthedoggiedoor
#you'resmallenoughtodoit

 

[barefootgirl69]

#sneakoutthruthedoggiedoor
#you'resmallenoughtodoit

We call that a "Fairy Door" in this thread

 

[DarkSimian]

We call that a "Fairy Door" in this thread

yes dear

 

[cascadiabound]

Thanks Cas......on my way

And anyone else who needs hugs or likes to help give hugs might like to amble over there sometime too.

 

[Nzerxx]

OK a Question here...not completely sure this is the right place so feel free to re direct me elswhere....

What is it about the words GOOD GIRL? They have such a strong instant effect on me when said by my Sir in any tone and I can't figure out why exactly.....I can't be the only one?

 

[lillianaZ]

Totally off topic, but can I get a hug?

(((Hugs)))

Hugs are really important. I don't get many myself but I do know that a hug can make a day much better. Even virtual ones are good!

 

[lillianaZ]

OK a Question here...not completely sure this is the right place so feel free to re direct me elswhere....

What is it about the words GOOD GIRL? They have such a strong instant effect on me when said by my Sir in any tone and I can't figure out why exactly.....I can't be the only one?

You aren't the only one. "Good girl" or "Well done" or other approving phrases turn me into a little eager to please jello puddle. I'm sure it's some deeply rooted psychological quirk from the far past but I choose not to examine it too closely. It is what it is.

(And they say tequila makes her clothes fall off...If they only knew what words can do!)

 

[AlwaysFara]

OK a Question here...not completely sure this is the right place so feel free to re direct me elswhere....

What is it about the words GOOD GIRL? They have such a strong instant effect on me when said by my Sir in any tone and I can't figure out why exactly.....I can't be the only one?

Good Girl only works if said by him.
Other than that, I bristle.

 

[lillianaZ]

Good Girl only works if said by him.
Other than that, I bristle.

Oh, absolutely. It has to come from the right person to have any effect.

(But then I think I've discussed my selective listening abilities before!)

 

[barefootgirl69]

OK a Question here...not completely sure this is the right place so feel free to re direct me elswhere....

What is it about the words GOOD GIRL? They have such a strong instant effect on me when said by my Sir in any tone and I can't figure out why exactly.....I can't be the only one?

Good girl makes me melt. I love the affirmation.
It pleases me when my friends say it, but it doesn't have the same affect as when he does.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Feeling really little now

Honestly, I just wanted to be little all day today but couldn't. I had to adult and put my foot down on a few occassions. Tomorrow, I am going to start my day with tea and toast and the only thing I am going to adult in is fixing my sauce in the slow cooker. Then, I'm going to color ALL day, if I want to.

So there!

 

[Nzerxx]

Good Girl only works if said by him.
Other than that, I bristle.

Oh, absolutely. It has to come from the right person to have any effect.

I agree 100%

 

[Nzerxx]

You aren't the only one. "Good girl" or "Well done" or other approving phrases turn me into a little eager to please jello puddle. I'm sure it's some deeply rooted psychological quirk from the far past but I choose not to examine it too closely. It is what it is.

(And they say tequila makes her clothes fall off...If they only knew what words can do!)

There might be a couple of other things that have that effect on me (and my Sir knows it!)

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Hi everybody!

I was thinking about discipline and wondering how everyone feels about It in your relationship...

Is it a fundamental part of DD/lg for you?
How do you define it?
How does it look?
Why do you feel its important (or not)?

I don't want to share my answer yet but I'll be back later.

 

[Nzerxx]

Hi everybody!

I was thinking about discipline and wondering how everyone feels about It in your relationship...

Is it a fundamental part of DD/lg for you?
How do you define it?
How does it look?
Why do you feel its important (or not)?

I don't want to share my answer yet but I'll be back later.

Hi Ms Honey

Discipline When I first started with this 18 months ago I thought I would never want it. Over time as I have read more and understand what this dynamic is and means for me I think its very important

As I'm in a LDR this looks quite different then usual I think but for me the need to be what he needs and deserves is strong, so even tone in voice has the desired effect when needed. The realisation I have disappointed him is very sobering

Discipline is not regular for us, (nor would I want it to be) and not particularly harsh, so it FEELS harsh when given (as it should) I would be interested in trying maintenance spanking I think but this is quite separate to discipline and not achievable in a LDR for us

Why its important to me is all about our connection. His aim is to help me be the best I can be, if discipline is needed it reminds me of his commitment, our connection, his leadership, his wants for me, his belief in me. It makes me feel safe and secure and I know he is on my side and his forgiveness and aftercare are second to none

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Hi Ms Honey

Discipline When I first started with this 18 months ago I thought I would never want it. Over time as I have read more and understand what this dynamic is and means for me I think its very important

As I'm in a LDR this looks quite different then usual I think but for me the need to be what he needs and deserves is strong, so even tone in voice has the desired effect when needed. The realisation I have disappointed him is very sobering

Discipline is not regular for us, (nor would I want it to be) and not particularly harsh, so it FEELS harsh when given (as it should) I would be interested in trying maintenance spanking I think but this is quite separate to discipline and not achievable in a LDR for us

Why its important to me is all about our connection. His aim is to help me be the best I can be, if discipline is needed it reminds me of his commitment, our connection, his leadership, his wants for me, his belief in me. It makes me feel safe and secure and I know he is on my side and his forgiveness and aftercare are second to none

Wonderfully thoughtful reply Nzerxx, as usual. Thank you so much for sharing.

You said some things that really spoke to me, about wanting to be the best for him, and about discipline making you feel safe and secure. Knowing they are in our side is really the best, isn't it?

I often comment that I've never really needed punishment, but discipline, gentle correction and guidance, is a marvelous thing to receive from someone who knows us, cares about us, and has our best interests at heart.

 

[PuckIt]

Eh, I wasn't going to say anything, but I've been ruminating on the whole question of discipline for a few hours since I spotted Honey's post from yesterday afternoon. And, of course, my first knee jerk reaction was that of course I don't carry the dynamic that far. First and foremost, Love was a grown ass woman, and a really strong, courageous, and competent one to boot.

Not to mention that spankings were reserved for when she'd been a good girl.


But, the more I ruminated, the more I thought back on some scenarios that might, possibly, could have been interpreted that way.

So, the first thing that sprang to mind was a look I get sometimes that she absolutely hated. She called it my "Guerrero" (from Jackie Earle Haley's character in "Human Target"). All it was, really,... er, I guess is, actually,... is that I will look maybe a little stern and tilt my head so I'm looking over my glasses and arch my left eyebrow. And just stare for several seconds while I process.

I hasten to add that it's not a conscious thing on my part. It's just... something I do when someone does something that surprises me. And not in a good way.

And "the look" was typically enough for her to feel like she'd disappointed me. Which brought on "stage two."

I didn't mean it bad. I really didn't mean anything by it at all. But, I would typically start... I don't know. Making excuses for her, I guess? Sort of that it was my fault, that I'd expected too much from her. I don't think I ever said anything remotely like that, but that was typically how she would take it. And, yeah. She would push herself harder than was really good for her for a while after one of those episodes.

*shrug*

I don't know. My little trips down memory lane probably don't even remotely have anything to do with the topic of discipline. Not like... oh... having her hold the keys she keeps losing between her butt cheeks...

Only... Only, I can't help but think that discipline, just as love, is a remarkably personal thing. What I mean is that maybe those memories were a time and place when Love felt disciplined by me, while it would seem unreasoningly cruel to somebody else, and nothing really worthy of note to others.

And I'm gonna shut the Puck up and let somebody else, no doubt smarter than me, come along and straighten out what I've Pucked up.

***leaves behind some organic lollipops as he wanders off in search of something else to Give a Puck about***

 

[cascadiabound]

More ruminations about discipline.
And thoughts about "good girl"
These are tied together for me to be honest.
I want to be a good girl. I need to be a good girl, I want to be HIS good girl and and crave to hear him say those words and the effect they have on me is palpable. Makes me melty and quivery and puts me halfway into that *little* space. Of course it makes me see RED if anyone other than my guy says it. Anyone else calling me a good girl or a little girl and they will get a *look* that will pretty much burn flesh.

That being said... and therefore my clear motivation to be *good*, follow the rules, do what is expected and try to even anticipate what would be pleasing are all part of my underlying personality and drivers of my submission - which means that punishment/ discipline is not a driver for me. It is not something that I need as a threat to do the right thing. I am motivated by praise, by adoration, by affection, by simply knowing I have done the right thing, by fear of disappointment, anxiety about failure. Which means... the words "good girl" as praise of anything big or small is deeply satisfying and tightens that bond between us (because no one else gets to use those words) and because of the visceral response those words have on me... the pleasure in knowing I have done well and pleased him.

However... there is a place for discipline in spite of all this. I make mistakes - sometimes almost willfully, and he needs to hold the leash tightly to remind me that this IS a power exchange relationship. The times that correction or discipline feels most fitting are when a rule regarding safety has been forgotten or transgressed, or when rules regarding self worth/ self care need to be reinforced. For me, the most effective discipline is writing lines. Hand writing - pen on paper - a sentence of his choosing, that drives the lesson home, again and again. It has such an effect to do this. For me... I always write lines, sitting on the floor, numbering the lines, the transgression high in my mind and the determination to not do it again and at the same time, the catharsis in writing again and again, watching my hand form the letters in cursive carefully again and again. 100 times. or 200 times. And then... it is over. My hand cramped. My legs cramped. And a tangible product of pages and pages of my discipline in my hands... because he assigned them to me.

 

[DarkSimian]

*wanders in, hugs Cas, wanders out*

 

[cascadiabound]

*wanders in, hugs Cas, wanders out*

thanks DS.

 

[AlwaysFara]

How does pet play/leash play differ from being a little? Does it overlap?