Is money a turn on?

[Cabeza]

Disclaimer: I'm not talking about or encouraging prostitution!

There's a stereotype that women, in particular, are more inclined to sleep with someone who spends a lot of money on them. So I'm curious whether "living the high life" actually turns people on? Or is it just a desire to not date someone who's going to end up bumming money from you?

Personally, I get turned on by the idea of treating someone to fancy dinners, limo rides, champagne etc. Kinda "50 shades" except without being lame. But I also like dive bars and shots.

Thoughts?

 

[JugheadJane]

As a woman who knows a lot of women, this idea is a gross misunderstanding. That’s not what the vast majority of women want.

 

[Cabeza]

As someone who's not rich, I'm glad to hear that!

 

[Desiremakesmeweak]

Yeah fair questions/points.

I don't think women are necessarily MORE inclined to sleep with someone JUST because they spend money on them. In fact, no, I don't believe that at all...

But I mean one has to use some common sense and be reasonable about it all - having money provides a greater array of options for inexperienced people to 'experiment' with and thereby it can 'seem' sometimes that money 'grants' more sex.

Almost all the time these days on Literotica you will see talk about JUST sex - having it, more of it, with whom, et cetera et cetera.

Money cannot ever provide anyone with efficient paths to gaining absolutely key knowledge about QUALITY relationships, QUALITY lifestyles, QUALITY sex.

I'll give you an example of something I recently read hereabouts: 'I like to see someone expertly screwing my wife...'

'Expertly' screwing. 'Expertly??!!' What the hell is that?

Now if you're a kid with limited experience and knowledge about sex, you can think 'yeah well, so what...?'

There is no such thing as 'expertly screwing;' you need to be 1, an expert about yourself, and THEN, 2. you need to be clever enough to locate a partner with equivalent attributes, knowledge, or better. and 3. you need to be REALLY REALLY turned on to be 'expertly screwing' someone.

The more 'correct' terminology about great sex is 'expertly self-aware and expertly accommodated.'

Money is great though. Let's all have more of it.

As the saying goes, 'it's better to cry in a Lamborghini.'

 

[Jada59]

Disclaimer: I'm not talking about or encouraging prostitution!

There's a stereotype that women, in particular, are more inclined to sleep with someone who spends a lot of money on them. So I'm curious whether "living the high life" actually turns people on? Or is it just a desire to not date someone who's going to end up bumming money from you?

Personally, I get turned on by the idea of treating someone to fancy dinners, limo rides, champagne etc. Kinda "50 shades" except without being lame. But I also like dive bars and shots.

Thoughts?

Not for me. I never had the desire to be wealthy. I do realize that in this society, we need money to live. And if I have more money than I need, that's great! I can use it to help people.

I have had wealthy friends who bought me lavish gifts. Sometimes these things were to my liking but other times not. When not, I kind of felt like they were wasting their money.

And when we were dating, my ex husband used to shower me with expensive gifts but none were to my liking. When he was living in another state, he would fly in or drive up to where I lived. I'd come home and find the fridge full of food. Things like caviar and brie. Stuff that I wouldn't eat and worse still, stuff that he wouldn't eat. In fact, nobody I knew at that point in time would eat the stuff so it was a horrible waste of money.

Then one day after we were married, he did something that made me livid. I was complaining about him wasting money. I told him he might as well just throw it out the window. We were driving down the freeway at the time. He took 5, $100 bills out of his wallet, opened the window and let them fly. That's when I realized that I was in fact on the crazy train. But I digress.

If a guy really wants to impress me, he'll take note of what I like and if he wants to bring me a gift, it will be one of those things. Stuff like rocks. Polished, unpolished, purchased or just cool looking rocks that he found somewhere. Or maybe some wild flowers. Or some organic vegetables. Or even non-organic vegetables. Or a toy for my cats.

Okay... Maybe I'm weird. But those are the sorts of things that I like.

 

[screwher]

Apparently not as I don't have any. But we have an amazing sex life!

 

[slutindianwife]

Yea

 

[Nezhul]

Okay, a bit of human psychology 101 here.

Money is not a turn on for women as such.
But what you all forget is that money open up venues to better and more easily impress and entertain a woman, which in turn creates a better setting for her to get turned on.

Put it simply:
What each of you (regardless of sex) would enjoy more - a ride in a good car or a public transport?
Would you prefer to have a romantic dinner in a classy restaurant or a crowded KFC?
Do you like your partners dressed in stylish sharp-looking clothes or T-shirt from a wallmart?

For most people the answer to those questions is pretty straightforward. And in the end, the more we enjoy the time spent with another person - the more the chances that we fall for them. Regardless of sex. Our brain is one-dimentional in that respect - it evaluates the overall enjoyment we had rather than a list of factors.

That's why when a man dresses up sharp, picks a girl up in a good car, giving her a bouquet of roses or other choice flowers, then drives her to a good (not necessarily luxurious) restaurant - there's much less chance for her to be distracted by mundane, and she concentrates on him more. She also enjoys the comfort provided on a simple human level, which is also another step towards an evening well-spent.

Naturally, the man's natural qualities do play a role. But money do make it easier.

It doesn't mean that all women are greedy bitches. It simply means that all humans enjoy having a good time, and that money opens up venues to easier have this good time. A great man can charm anyone at any time of day dressed in old T-shirt and shorts. But it will take much more effort or natural talent from him than from a rich boy who rides Bentley, employs a good stylist and dresses up like he's a CEO of Microsoft.

Men, just like women, enjoy the same. We enjoy to get presents, and I certainly would never turn down an evening full of entertainment that I don't have to spend money on. I wouldn't turn down flowers from my date, to be honest - this would be a very pleasant sign of attention and interest to receive.
It's just that our Western society is built on a principle that it's a men who should pick up a girl on a date night in his car - not vice versa. It's man who should bring flowers. In many cases - it's man who should pay the bill in a restaurant.
It's just how things are. Men simply rarely end up in situations where they can be called greedy and only wanting her money - and in those rare cases they are instantly called out by society on it and are called gigolo or something. Women on the other hand may enjoy their partner's wealth and presents without instantly falling into a "greedy whore" category - because it's socially acceptable and even often expected that the man pays the bills.

p.s. I'm not saying here women don't put a lot into dating or anything - they do. And it costs money too.

 

[Fucktoy92]

Money doesn't do much for me. I've been on the cusp of being homeless, and now I'm living pretty comfortably. I've met saints and assholes amongst my peers in both situations. Money certainly makes life easier and nicer and if I were single I wouldn't want to start a relationship with someone who'll make my life more difficult by being a financial drain, but I also wouldn't choose one person over another because they had more money.

Some people, and I'm going to word this carefully, some people with money, are cunts, and having money makes it so much easier for them to demonstrate that.

The village where my bf's family live is full of old-money types and (especially given that I'm a scruffy foreigner) they are some of the nicest people I've ever met. I never see anyone in a suit there though (something to think about).

I don't need fancy food and jewellery, just the ability to pay my bills and buy Red Dead Redemption 2 when it comes out. And those things are my responsibility, not the responsibility of the person I'm fucking.

 

[Jada59]

Yeah fair questions/points.

I don't think women are necessarily MORE inclined to sleep with someone JUST because they spend money on them. In fact, no, I don't believe that at all...

But I mean one has to use some common sense and be reasonable about it all - having money provides a greater array of options for inexperienced people to 'experiment' with and thereby it can 'seem' sometimes that money 'grants' more sex.

Almost all the time these days on Literotica you will see talk about JUST sex - having it, more of it, with whom, et cetera et cetera.

Money cannot ever provide anyone with efficient paths to gaining absolutely key knowledge about QUALITY relationships, QUALITY lifestyles, QUALITY sex.

I'll give you an example of something I recently read hereabouts: 'I like to see someone expertly screwing my wife...'

'Expertly' screwing. 'Expertly??!!' What the hell is that?

Now if you're a kid with limited experience and knowledge about sex, you can think 'yeah well, so what...?'

There is no such thing as 'expertly screwing;' you need to be 1, an expert about yourself, and THEN, 2. you need to be clever enough to locate a partner with equivalent attributes, knowledge, or better. and 3. you need to be REALLY REALLY turned on to be 'expertly screwing' someone.

The more 'correct' terminology about great sex is 'expertly self-aware and expertly accommodated.'

Money is great though. Let's all have more of it.

As the saying goes, 'it's better to cry in a Lamborghini.'

That's funny. I remember a guy saying that he wanted to fuck like a pro.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

Yeah fair questions/points.

I don't think women are necessarily MORE inclined to sleep with someone JUST because they spend money on them. In fact, no, I don't believe that at all...

But I mean one has to use some common sense and be reasonable about it all - having money provides a greater array of options for inexperienced people to 'experiment' with and thereby it can 'seem' sometimes that money 'grants' more sex.

Almost all the time these days on Literotica you will see talk about JUST sex - having it, more of it, with whom, et cetera et cetera.

Money cannot ever provide anyone with efficient paths to gaining absolutely key knowledge about QUALITY relationships, QUALITY lifestyles, QUALITY sex.

I'll give you an example of something I recently read hereabouts: 'I like to see someone expertly screwing my wife...'

'Expertly' screwing. 'Expertly??!!' What the hell is that?

Now if you're a kid with limited experience and knowledge about sex, you can think 'yeah well, so what...?'

There is no such thing as 'expertly screwing;' you need to be 1, an expert about yourself, and THEN, 2. you need to be clever enough to locate a partner with equivalent attributes, knowledge, or better. and 3. you need to be REALLY REALLY turned on to be 'expertly screwing' someone.

The more 'correct' terminology about great sex is 'expertly self-aware and expertly accommodated.'

Money is great though. Let's all have more of it.

As the saying goes, 'it's better to cry in a Lamborghini.'

After spending the last 60 years studying people and their actions and reactions I'm inclined to disagree...at least with some things said here.
Altruism and the myth of human love and kindness are all fine, when you're in the parlor sipping martini's with your guests. But out on the streets, in most of the bars, malls, restaurants, gyms and most any place else where you can find, that women and men congregate with intentions of meeting someone for what ever purpose.
The main driving force of MOST all the people I see, is greed.
And the thing driving the greed is the lust for power.
Whether it the power to dictate to someone when they can or cannot orgasm, how they will accomplish this or How much 'they' need to give up to attain such relief.
More MONEY absolutely means MORE SEX, MORE DRINK, MORE FOOD, MORE COMFORT...
And as for the NOTION of 'QUALITY' since there are no absolutes nor standards it is all a subjective notion.

I do believe the more self aware and self assured one is the better the sex will be for them at least, if not for the other person as well.


And as for crying in a Lambo---- shiiiiit! Better not happen when I'm walking by.