Boyfriend growing tamer and tamer

[JasonStevens]

I'm a gay bottom and have been living with my boyfriend for the last few months. We are both busy with our full time jobs. He's always tired and getting tamer and tamer with our sex. I don't work as much and not only is my libido still up and running hot, it's getting hotter. I want to try new things.

Anyone other gays out there with boyfriends that are in this situation? What did you do when your boyfriend started tapering off with his desires for experimenting with new things?

It's getting me upset as even the things we used to do are starting to taper off.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

I'm not gay but when this started happening to my girlfriends with me it was because I was cheating just as quick as I could get some other girl to drop her drawers.
The way we handled that situation was for me to head down the road and looking for someone else to need.

 

[JasonStevens]

I'm not gay but when this started happening to my girlfriends with me it was because I was cheating just as quick as I could get some other girl to drop her drawers.
The way we handled that situation was for me to head down the road and looking for someone else to need.

Might be doing that soon! God I really want to try some new things in bed. Get the excitement back!!!

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

ya really want to get the excite back in your life?
Teach what you know to someone new...

 

[sdman31]

Like what?

Might be doing that soon! God I really want to try some new things in bed. Get the excitement back!!!

What are some of these new things that you want to try? It sounds like you and him are not on the same wavelength as far as your sexual needs. I suggest discussing it. You never know, maybe he wants to try these things too but is afraid to bring it up.

 

[JasonStevens]

What are some of these new things that you want to try? It sounds like you and him are not on the same wavelength as far as your sexual needs. I suggest discussing it. You never know, maybe he wants to try these things too but is afraid to bring it up.

Sounds like a good idea. I've brought some things up casually. But I need to sit down with him and discuss these things at length and tell him the reasons why I want to do these things.

I like wearing panties, he doesn't like me wearing them. I want to have some fun with bondage and BDSM (me being restrained) and he just kinda chuckles about it and it ends there.

I think he's just getting way into his job and working too much. I should talk to him about that too. Be a shame to blow up this relationship that has actually been pretty good over all.

Thanks for your input.

 

[Paintbox]

You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. People, and their interests can change however, so be prepared to consider that he's no longer the one for you. Good luck.

 

[Jada59]

Sometimes people think something is going to be really hot but in reality, it just isn't for them. I am thinking of some things in the fantasy realm that I've tried that really didn't turn me on or wound up being just plain laughable. That might apply here. Perhaps he was doing things to please you but those things really didn't please him.

 

[klippert]

Sounds like a good idea. I've brought some things up casually. But I need to sit down with him and discuss these things at length and tell him the reasons why I want to do these things.

I like wearing panties, he doesn't like me wearing them. I want to have some fun with bondage and BDSM (me being restrained) and he just kinda chuckles about it and it ends there.

I think he's just getting way into his job and working too much. I should talk to him about that too. Be a shame to blow up this relationship that has actually been pretty good over all.

Thanks for your input.

Sounds like you Boifriend is domesticated.

 

[photobuff56]

If he's not responsive to your suggestions, and since you've only been dating a few months I'd say it's time to move on.

 

[JasonStevens]

Great inputs! Thanks everyone. We discussed it and his attitude towards it is still cold. So might be time to look around!!!