Daddy's Little Girl

[Farawyn]

Well I think I'm only "sort of" a little myself.
I think that we have to take what works for us and leave what doesn't?
That's true with pretty much all of it though right?

I’m just gonna watch.

 

[barefootgirl69]

What if I’m not a little? But I am curious.
How does that fit in with this? Or does it not?

I’m just gonna watch.

That's perfectly fine, the thread is in the PG for those who are curious. You may find aspects of yourself here, or not. Nothing is 100% in all of us, or sometimes we fluctuate between submissive and little in our "play"... that's a euphemism, not a term for roleplay.

We are all unique.

 

[Farawyn]

That's perfectly fine, the thread is in the PG for those who are curious. You may find aspects of yourself here, or not. Nothing is 100% in all of us, or sometimes we fluctuate between submissive and little in our "play"... that's a euphemism, not a term for roleplay.

We are all unique.

That, I know.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Climbs to the rooftop...

DADDY!!!!

I adore you!

You are so good to me. You hold my hand when I'm scared, encourage me, give me confidence when I don't feel adept at something. You give me ideas and you say 'good girl, I knew you could' when I've accomplished something.

Then you say you don't deserve me. It's I who don't deserve you and I will always appreciate that you are in my life.

May I have a cookie, please?

 

[Lost_Yonder]

What if I’m not a little? But I am curious.
How does that fit in with this? Or does it not?

That's perfectly fine, the thread is in the PG for those who are curious. You may find aspects of yourself here, or not. Nothing is 100% in all of us, or sometimes we fluctuate between submissive and little in our "play"... that's a euphemism, not a term for roleplay.

We are all unique.

Indeed, we are all unique, and too often we get caught up trying to fit into a label rather than being ourselves. The label is merely a means of connecting with others and opening ourselves up to possibilities, but should never be the definer of who we are.

Just be you! Unfortunately, society doesn't always allow that and thus we have to find alternative spaces and relationships to be ourselves, allow our inner desires to bubble forth...

 

[Farawyn]

Indeed, we are all unique, and too often we get caught up trying to fit into a label rather than being ourselves. The label is merely a means of connecting with others and opening ourselves up to possibilities, but should never be the definer of who we are.

Just be you! Unfortunately, society doesn't always allow that and thus we have to find alternative spaces and relationships to be ourselves, allow our inner desires to bubble forth...

Thanks.
I’m going to stay here awhile and just hang out if that’s okay.

 

[SubTulip]

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[Wild_Honey_66]

I've gone through a lot of changes in the last year, and so has my relationship. I don't know what I am anymore, but I am content to figure things out as i go, and i am grateful to have friends who are okay with that.

*curls my head in Far's lap, waves to bfg and tinky*

 

[Lost_Yonder]

I’m just gonna watch.

Ahhh, so the voyeur in you comes out!

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Yes, this is what I was trying to say several pages back. Thank you.

I thought this summed up quite well the things you had been saying! Always good to keep reminding ourselves...

 

[Farawyn]

Ahhh, so the voyeur in you comes out!

It was always out, and I make no bones about it.

 

[Angedesoleil]

It will be different for each little depending on their needs.

Littles like a routine, try not to break that or if you are not able to keep it give her fair warning and remind her of how much you care.

When a Daddy breaks the routine it makes the little anxious and insecure, they start to doubt and over analyse their actions. You truely would not believe how many thoughts can run through a littles mind in just a few seconds.

If you don’t have time to reply to a message how you would like to just let her know that her Daddy is busy and that as soon as you can, if you know how soon say that I.e. the time frame, you will reply properly but then use reassurance or a term of endearment so she knows she is not hassling you or being too needy.

If the style of your littles communication changes, no emojis, more straight talk or very short replies when she is normally emotive then she is probably needing reassurance and then you should ask what is on her mind.

At least that is what I would point out it might be different for other littles.

*pokes head in and waves at Tink*
This above is the first thing I've read that hits close enough to home that it caught me off guard.
Is this truly a commonality? The over think over worry with change in routine/ communication? The specific worry of being a "bother"? This is a thing for me, and I've always just labeled it insecurity or me being odd.
What you said about if her communication changes *ask* is also completely on point for me. That is usually my " I'm not OK, but I'm not going to burden you with it." Or " you aren't there enough so I can't keep putting all of me out there because I feel like I have to hold my own again... You aren't carrying me anymore..." If that makes any sense.

Random question: is it a commonality to have an issue appropriately assigning blame? Ie I blame myself and apologize for everything...always.

 

[barefootgirl69]

*pokes head in and waves at Tink*
This above is the first thing I've read that hits close enough to home that it caught me off guard.
Is this truly a commonality? The over think over worry with change in routine/ communication? The specific worry of being a "bother"? This is a thing for me, and I've always just labeled it insecurity or me being odd.
What you said about if her communication changes *ask* is also completely on point for me. That is usually my " I'm not OK, but I'm not going to burden you with it." Or " you aren't there enough so I can't keep putting all of me out there because I feel like I have to hold my own again... You aren't carrying me anymore..." If that makes any sense.

Random question: is it a commonality to have an issue appropriately assigning blame? Ie I blame myself and apologize for everything...always.

She was spot on about the communication, in my opinion. Especially the 'let her know you're busy'. Nothing gets me more concerned than not hearing from him. Did I do something wrong? Is he mad? Is he hurt or sick? Or worse... did he replace me, wasn't I good enough.

Thankfully, those aren't issues in my life right now (reassuring Daddy that he's doing a great job... )

I do the blaming thing, too .. but I wasn't sure if it was something inside me or something that became second nature after living with a narcissist for 20 years. I'm growing out of it, mostly because I'm hearing "stop that" from others that are helping me grow more confident.

Shout out to Fara, BB, AKL, and FGG for their encouragement.

 

[Farawyn]

She was spot on about the communication, in my opinion. Especially the 'let her know you're busy'. Nothing gets me more concerned than not hearing from him. Did I do something wrong? Is he mad? Is he hurt or sick? Or worse... did he replace me, wasn't I good enough.

Thankfully, those aren't issues in my life right now (reassuring Daddy that he's doing a great job... )

I do the blaming thing, too .. but I wasn't sure if it was something inside me or something that became second nature after living with a narcissist for 20 years. I'm growing out of it, mostly because I'm hearing "stop that" from others that are helping me grow more confident.

Shout out to Fara, BB, AKL, and FGG for their encouragement.

I was just going to post out to my girls. You all, Sassy, cookie...I’m humbled to say, too many to name.

Lit has changed my life for giving me even more great girlfriends! And I’m pretty lucky to begin with in the tangible life department.

My guy friends, here, too. The ones that have been steady. That love me even when I show them a no makeup pic in jammies. The ones that ask about my cats and my kids and my BF... who know my day to day schedule.

Plus, the love of my life.

As far as that all relates? It’s because of all of them I’m here in this thread, feeling that maybe I can listen more.
He watches my heart. My guy. I’ve never had that before. Not like this.

Is that how you feel?

 

[SubTulip]

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[LostGirlTink]

*pokes head in and waves at Tink*
This above is the first thing I've read that hits close enough to home that it caught me off guard.
Is this truly a commonality? The over think over worry with change in routine/ communication? The specific worry of being a "bother"? This is a thing for me, and I've always just labeled it insecurity or me being odd.
What you said about if her communication changes *ask* is also completely on point for me. That is usually my " I'm not OK, but I'm not going to burden you with it." Or " you aren't there enough so I can't keep putting all of me out there because I feel like I have to hold my own again... You aren't carrying me anymore..." If that makes any sense.

Random question: is it a commonality to have an issue appropriately assigning blame? Ie I blame myself and apologize for everything...always.

Same for me. Overthinking, change, routine, all terrible. All awful and heartbreaking.

And the blame.
God I always blame myself for everything.
Even the things that are completely beyond my control.

If we're doing shout outs I don't even know where to start.
Just... thank you to my people. Those that have helped me stand the last few weeks when that seemed like too much, seemed to hard and everything has been so awful.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Hi girls I'm just hanging.

I've been missing feeling like a 'babygirl,' even though he still calls me that. I still feel little in the sense of being vulnerable and wanting a provider/protector, though I don't know that I will ever want to call another man 'Daddy.'

I think it's possible that nothing is actually wrong with me, and that I'm just 'growing up,' but the unexpected change in myself and in my dynamic have left me feeling the loss very keenly.

I've been trying to think of myself as just slightly older, but lately I've noticed that somewhere along the line I stopped giving myself permission to be little when I need to, and I maybe need to go back and just re-think my needs, instead of throwing the babygirl out with the bathwater.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

A shout out to all of you littles, be you living your dream, curious, wondering, or seeking! You all are amazing in creating this space of support and in sharing so openly. For me, I've learned so much from each of you. I truly hope that each of you discover that which you desire, that which you so deserve...

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[Angedesoleil]

Thank you so much for your replies. isnt that the way of it; you think you have yourself pretty much figured then something comes round to say "nope, not quite yet!"
So, apparently I need to go back and read some more.
I find it interesting that the blame thing is a commonality. Anyone have a theory on the psychology behind it? For me,it goes hand in hand with the insecurity...it is easy for me to think I let someone else down and blame me. I can deal with that. It is devastating to me to have to deal with someone I trust having let me down. So it is more comfy fore to take it on me. Kinda like trust...I trust me. I have a hard time with middle ground. Either someone had my full trust or pretty much none. There is very little middle ground.

 

[SubTulip]

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[BindnCufTite]

You have every right to be here, as we all do. It is up to us to decide if we want to stay. Often that decision is incorrectly made by allowing others to judge us and our "suitability" to be a member of what they percieve the group to be.
Sometimes we are a better fit

 

[Angedesoleil]

Thanks BindnCufTite. I guess my next question is this: what other commonalities would you all say there are for folks not specifically into ageplay. How would you define someone in this category? What would be absolutely integral as far as your opinions are considered?

 

[barefootgirl69]

Thanks BindnCufTite. I guess my next question is this: what other commonalities would you all say there are for folks not specifically into ageplay. How would you define someone in this category? What would be absolutely integral as far as your opinions are considered?

Submission. It's a commonality and absolutely integral. From there I don't think it is 100% of anything because we're all so different.

What you're asking is hard to answer. Even various degrees of age levels... middles, littles, toddlers, babies. And, many of us really don't put an age on ourselves, we just are. Littles like to cuddle, but so do submissives. Some age players are into binkies, bottles, diapers... some aren't. Some like stuffies and coloring.

When I first came here, I was exploring my sexuality. I knew myself, but it seemed like a great thing to have the labels to define myself. Now, I couldn't care less.

 

[Angedesoleil]

Yep, it is a hard question...but that's why I'm grappling with it. I understand that at the end of the day a label is just a label, but at some points in the journey they matter. I'm at one of those points.

I never really paid attention to "other people" and have been a pretty close circle kinda person my whole life. I was never really aware that normal for me in a relationship wasn't really normal for everyone. It is those abnormalities that I'm trying to determine if they are by and large a commonality for littles. If so then my next step in understanding me would be to try to figure out when and why I came by those behaviors. My friend from college says I've been that way forever. I think even through high school...I'm just trying to understand me.