I am in my mid forties. I have two teen boys. For the last three or four years we have been using bigger and bigger dildos. I have read all of the stuff that says a vagina is a muscle and it cannot get stretched out. I used to think two fingers was a lot. Now I have a toy with girth similar to a soda can. How can I do that without getting looser. Also when I get turned on I get really for lack of a better word loose. I have changed a lot over the past several years. I don’t know if it is age or toys or what. What is yalls opinion. I know I have talked about similar before so please forgive me for bringing it up again. Thanks for reading all of this.
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newhere2learn
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I'd agree. Over the decade I've been with my wife, I've gone from making her "nicely full" to me bring unable to feel anything, especially if she's really wet.
My cock hadn't changed. Her pussy is slack and overly wet.
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Nothing to worry about...
Hey darlin'
Nothing to apologize for, nor for us to forgive. My thoughts are:
1. Yes, the vagina is a muscle that can expand and contract. Over the years of using your toys, you may have incepted some "muscle memory" that has your pussy relaxing when it gets excited in anticipation of being penetrated by a large cock-like object.
2. As long as your pussy can grip your lover's cock and he's not complaining, I wouldn't worry.
3. If you're concerned, you can lay off the larger toys and also add some kegel exercises to your daily routines to keep your vaginal muscles strong and responsive.
Regardless, if your lover(s)
is(are) satisfied, you have nothing to worry about.
Now get out there and fuck someone's brains out!
Best,
A.I.T.
Hey darlin'
Nothing to apologize for, nor for us to forgive. My thoughts are:
1. Yes, the vagina is a muscle that can expand and contract. Over the years of using your toys, you may have incepted some "muscle memory" that has your pussy relaxing when it gets excited in anticipation of being penetrated by a large cock-like object.
2. As long as your pussy can grip your lover's cock and he's not complaining, I wouldn't worry.
3. If you're concerned, you can lay off the larger toys and also add some kegel exercises to your daily routines to keep your vaginal muscles strong and responsive.
Regardless, if your lover(s)
is(are) satisfied, you have nothing to worry about. Now get out there and fuck someone's brains out!
Best,
A.I.T.
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A Coke Can...?
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Kegels?
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You and your teen boys stretch your pussy?
No teen boys have nothing to do with it just giving background information. Toy is called American bombshell war daddy. Girth is over 8 inches.
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Kegel exercises.
The statement sounds terse, but this is the answer. You can grip a toothbrush tightly with practice no matter how wet you are.
Also, practice them sometimes after you've had an orgasm. Orgasms tend to make your muscles extra relaxed, and that can make you feel "loose", so you can try doing it under that condition.
Additionally, kegels will help you with bladder control and will improve the sensation for you as well as your partner.
The statement sounds terse, but this is the answer. You can grip a toothbrush tightly with practice no matter how wet you are.
Also, practice them sometimes after you've had an orgasm. Orgasms tend to make your muscles extra relaxed, and that can make you feel "loose", so you can try doing it under that condition.
Additionally, kegels will help you with bladder control and will improve the sensation for you as well as your partner.
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I had a thing for insertion of large objects when I was younger. Thankfully it was short lived. But I could also work a pencil in and out of myself so I wasn't stretched out. I do try to work out and exercise regularly, including Kegels. I suggest that you look into those if you haven't already. I also have special weights that I use.
Then there is having a baby. Long story short, due to complications, I had 17 stitches with left my opening very tight. Not quite what I wanted. So something could have happened to you during childbirth. Maybe the Dr. did something he shouldn't have or should have done something that he/she didn't do.
Then there is age. When you go into peri-menopause, the tissues thin out down there and you can get more dry. This can get worse with menopause. Have your Dr. check your levels of progesterone and estrogen. There are OTC things like yam cream or phystoestrogen creams, or herbs such as black cohosh that can help.
You could also look into vaginal tightening pills. I got some on Amazon and OMG! I didn't even buy them for that. Bought for dryness. Only had to take a few and what a difference those made! Can't recommend highly enough. Will get you the name of what I bought. Major Curves is the brand.
Then there is having a baby. Long story short, due to complications, I had 17 stitches with left my opening very tight. Not quite what I wanted. So something could have happened to you during childbirth. Maybe the Dr. did something he shouldn't have or should have done something that he/she didn't do.
Then there is age. When you go into peri-menopause, the tissues thin out down there and you can get more dry. This can get worse with menopause. Have your Dr. check your levels of progesterone and estrogen. There are OTC things like yam cream or phystoestrogen creams, or herbs such as black cohosh that can help.
You could also look into vaginal tightening pills. I got some on Amazon and OMG! I didn't even buy them for that. Bought for dryness. Only had to take a few and what a difference those made! Can't recommend highly enough. Will get you the name of what I bought. Major Curves is the brand.
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Wow! That seems unusual to me but then maybe I am unusual. Just last night I was playing around with a glass dildo. Probably the size of an average cock. I had just the head inside of me. Was just holding it lightly in my hand and my pussy was just instinctively moving it in and out.
Then again, an old BF was into Tantric sex. We did that a lot. Involves just sort of hugging each other with his cock inside of you. You remain as still as you can, just enjoying each other's bodies but the genitals can move. We used to do it facing each other and sitting up. Sometimes we would talk or kiss while we did it but he never thrust in and out. I just used my muscles all over his cock. It's a very different kind of sex and very enjoyable but you need a big chunk of time to do it. Can bring you much closer to your partner though.
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Okay. Definitely start doing kegels. It will change your sex life. There are lots of resources on line you can read or videos for how to get started. And, with kegels it doesn't matter how "loose" you are, because your muscles can still grip.
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Getting older is the pits. My wife developed vaginismus (an intolerance of vaginal penetration) after menopause, which is sort of the opposite of your situation. But maybe the solution can be similar if you have a partner who enjoys stimulating your clit with fingers or tongue.
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Will you marry me?
Sorry. Marriage is not my thing!
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In that case can you just sit on my cock
I have a feeling you're too far away.
Yeah, I probably am, but you can get to London from anywhere in the world if you feel the need for travel and sex
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That is actually called yab yum, and along with the cyclical breathing included. A very small but gratifying part of tantric sex.
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