Was This Too Mean?

[EmpressJosephine]

To me, Literotica is first and foremost a writing site.

Accordingly, I expect the people with whom I interact here to put some effort into writing. Here is a recent exchange of correspondence I had with a man (whose handle I've redacted out of kindness), which started with an unsolicited PM from him:

interested in hearing more from you

Okay.

okay what ? hoping for a little more than that am a novice here

You wrote you're "interested in hearing more from" me. What did you want to hear?

what you like to do what are your interests what ever you are looking for in these post or real life

I like, am interested in, and look for proper capitalization and punctuation in all correspondence.

Was my response too mean, or was it appropriate?

What might you have done?

 

[lovecraft68]

I may be the wrong person to ask because I'm born and raised in RI meaning I'm East Coast blunt and sarcastic to the core. I'm also a mocker of safety pins and safe places from 'harsh words' so I tend to not find much offensive.

But to me your response was fine because I got the vibe based on what little you showed that this person was not interested so much in your writing, but chatting. The hazard of being a female author on an erotica site I suppose.

Hopefully he's not a sub or your snark will only egg him on

 

[tomlitilia]

I don't do much chatting on Literotica, and certainly not for the sake of pick-ups. But back when I used to do internet dating, I always rejected those without any decent grammar or coherence. When text is your only communication, you better make at least a rudimentary effort if you want to make a good impression.

 

[policywank]

You were not too mean at all. Not only is he too lazy or inept to use reasonable sentence structure but he expects you to do all the work to have a conversation. He gives nothing then complains that he was hoping for more from you.

 

[lovecraft68]

You were not too mean at all. Not only is he too lazy or inept to use reasonable sentence structure but he expects you to do all the work to have a conversation. He gives nothing then complains that he was hoping for more from you.

Most men in a nutshell and it doesn't end with chat it continues right into the bedroom.

 

[ElectricBlue]

Was my response too mean, or was it appropriate?

What might you have done?

Quite appropriate. He's not making much effort, is he?

 

[ThatsTheGuy]

This is my opinion.

The conversation itself?

No. Not mean at all. The poster you were conversing with seems to be one of lit's latest "straw man" instigators. The primary focus of that particular alt seems to be focused on starting arguments between other posters - especially posters who rarely, if ever, engage in conversation.

I suggest ignoring that poster. Do not feed the troll.

^^^^End of my observation on that^^^^

Now, onto an entirely different subject.

Being a grammar nazi when someone posts? Now that's just childish, foolish, nit picky behavior. Come on, this is a conversation - not a freaking book writing session nor editing process for approval of the masses.

When conversing w/others in r/l, do people honestly think "gee, I wonder how that person is spelling THAT word or is their punctuation "proper" before they utter a word? Duh geeze - ain't that accent kinda funny and lacking proper etiquette?

Colored words annoy me, but I rarely point it out.

Having said all this, I'm sure someone, somewhere viewing this thread will now proceed to troll and stalk me throughout the galaxy.

Have a good day folks.

 

[ThatsTheGuy]

I don't do much chatting on Literotica, and certainly not for the sake of pick-ups. But back when I used to do internet dating, I always rejected those without any decent grammar or coherence. When text is your only communication, you better make at least a rudimentary effort if you want to make a good impression.

You were not too mean at all. Not only is he too lazy or inept to use reasonable sentence structure but he expects you to do all the work to have a conversation. He gives nothing then complains that he was hoping for more from you.

I'll, uh, have to remember this if I should ever converse w/you.

Which also means, I doubt if I will. Truly stand offish before the conversation begins.

 

[lovecraft68]

The conversation itself?

No. Not mean at all. The poster you were conversing with seems to be one of lit's latest "straw man" instigators. The primary focus of that particular alt seems to be focused on starting arguments between other posters - especially posters who rarely, if ever, engage in conversation.

I suggest ignoring that poster. Do not feed the troll.

^^^^End of my observation on that^^^^

Now, onto an entirely different subject.

Being a grammar nazi when someone posts? Now that's just childish, foolish, nit picky behavior. Come on, this is a conversation - not a freaking book writing session nor editing process for approval of the masses.

When conversing w/others in r/l, do people honestly think "gee, I wonder how that person is spelling THAT word or is their punctuation "proper" before they utter a word? Duh geeze - ain't that accent kinda funny and lacking proper etiquette?

Colored words annoy me, but I rarely point it out.

Having said all this, I'm sure someone, somewhere viewing this thread will now proceed to troll and stalk me throughout the galaxy.

Have a good day folks.

I've also found that it can be a case of a English as second language at times, meaning I give them credit for trying, and if people are using their phone capping is a PIA and spellcheck does weird things.

The grammar wasn't off putting to me in this example, just the obvious 'so, hey talk dirty to me' that it was eventually heading for was.

But its important to some people so to each their own.

 

[Bdm20]

Most men in a nutshell and it doesn't end with chat it continues right into the bedroom.

Ouch! I think you've been in the bedroom with the wrong men.

 

[ThatsTheGuy]

I've also found that it can be a case of a English as second language at times, meaning I give them credit for trying, and if people are using their phone capping is a PIA and spellcheck does weird things.

The grammar wasn't off putting to me in this example, just the obvious 'so, hey talk dirty to me' that it was eventually heading for was.

But its important to some people so to each their own.

You're so awesome. Not as awesome as me of course, but fairly close.

There should be a Lit "Awesomess" club for all the cool kids.

 

[lovecraft68]

You're so awesome. Not as awesome as me of course, but fairly close.

There should be a Lit "Awesomess" club for all the cool kids.

You mean the GB isn't the cool kids club?

Oh, right...its not

 

[Bramblethorn]

Was my response too mean, or was it appropriate?

What might you have done?

I generally don't snark at people's spelling or grammar unless they've invited it, but I wouldn't have given him much time either. I think he probably would've started humping your leg the moment you gave an encouraging reply.

 

[loquere]

I do not think it was too mean. Speak your mind whithin reason.

To me, Literotica is first and foremost a writing site.

Accordingly, I expect the people with whom I interact here to put some effort into writing. Here is a recent exchange of correspondence I had with a man (whose handle I've redacted out of kindness), which started with an unsolicited PM from him:





Was my response too mean, or was it appropriate?

What might you have done?

 

[JerseyGirlDownUnder]

But to me your response was fine because I got the vibe based on what little you showed that this person was not interested so much in your writing, but chatting. The hazard of being a female author on an erotica site I suppose.

Really? You mean I'm supposed to respond to those poorly worded PMs? I'm almost tempted to respond to the ones with good grammar and more importantly, something interesting to say.

I do not think the OP was out of line. Look at it this way: You've encouraged somebody to improving their communication skills. That helps everybody in the world.

 

[vizio]

I would say reasonable since you're and educator on the collegiate level.

 

[jaF0]

One of the biggest reasons I don't do 'chat' is because of lazy typists. I despise chat speak and all caps or all small case. It's just laziness, pure and simple.

In emails, PMs and board posts, I think it says a lot about the person behind the keyboard when they type like children.

I may be the world's worst typist and I make a lot of mistake. I try to catch and correct most of them, but a few still slip through. I use slang like 'y'all', but that's deliberate and used in context. I can forgive legitimate typos, but never chat speak.

 

[ThatsTheGuy]

Really? You mean I'm supposed to respond to those poorly worded PMs? I'm almost tempted to respond to the ones with good grammar and more importantly, something interesting to say.

I do not think the OP was out of line. Look at it this way: You've encouraged somebody to improving their communication skills. That helps everybody in the world.

https://images.duckduckgo.com/iu/?u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.gifbin.com%2Fbin%2F102011%2F1320344488_bee_cat_falls.gif&f=1

 

[lovecraft68]

Ouch! I think you've been in the bedroom with the wrong men.

Actually I haven't been in the bedroom with any men unless I count myself.

When I say things like that and men assume I'm a woman, it helps make my point at times.

I'm a guy, but not a member of the real men fraternity or the boys club.

 

[lovecraft68]

Really? You mean I'm supposed to respond to those poorly worded PMs? I'm almost tempted to respond to the ones with good grammar and more importantly, something interesting to say.

I do not think the OP was out of line. Look at it this way: You've encouraged somebody to improving their communication skills. That helps everybody in the world.

I didn't say she was out of line. I said her response was fine to me, but added in another post the grammar wouldn't have bothered me as much as the obvious ploy it was just to get to chat with her.

 

[lovecraft68]

One of the biggest reasons I don't do 'chat' is because of lazy typists. I despise chat speak and all caps or all small case. It's just laziness, pure and simple.

In emails, PMs and board posts, I think it says a lot about the person behind the keyboard when they type like children.

I may be the world's worst typist and I make a lot of mistake. I try to catch and correct most of them, but a few still slip through. I use slang like 'y'all', but that's deliberate and used in context. I can forgive legitimate typos, but never chat speak.

At this point I give a pass to younger people. They're raised with text and social media and learning this net version of shorthand and slang. Lazy parents and teachers don't help them realize they sound like dopes.

Nothing more annoying then older people doing it. Nothing dumber than mimicking something dumb and doing it to be young and 'cool'

 

[JerseyGirlDownUnder]

I didn't say she was out of line. I said her response was fine to me, but added in another post the grammar wouldn't have bothered me as much as the obvious ploy it was just to get to chat with her.

I know, darlin'; I know you were utterly polite. I was throwing in my personal opinion.

 

[lovecraft68]

I know, darlin'; I know you were utterly polite. I was throwing in my personal opinion. Or are you trying to get me to respond in order to chat with me???
(That was a JOKE.)

I assure you I was not trying to chat you up. Unless of course you're interested? Jersey's like three hours from here so you know, maybe we could...

Oh, wait doing this wrong

Yo, Joisy gal, how youse doin'? I sees you on a porn site so you must be pretty easy like all those other tramps, how bout I do you a favor and throw you a bone?

Jeez...this is why I got married because I suck at being single

 

[loquere]

https://images.duckduckgo.com/iu/?u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.gifbin.com%2Fbin%2F102011%2F1320344488_bee_cat_falls.gif&f=1

Nice gif.

 

[BadAmy]

My 2? Meh.. not mean. I would have taken it as constructive criticism.
But... I can also tell the general age of the typist..based on their ability or inability to convey their message with thought as well as being grammatically proficient.
Things change generationally I think.
But I've been wrong... So my opinion holds no merit.