Am I Addicted to Sex?

[Devilynme]

I recently read the following article on the internet about a woman who wanted sex at least five times a day and that all she could think about was sex all the time.
http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-43921760

I often wonder if I also have the same addiction. I do think about sex all the time and masturbate as many as five times a day, sometimes more. I was recently in a relationship with a man where all I did was get high and have sex. Fortunately I got out before drugs destroyed me but I still think about sex all the time and recently have had sex with several strangers just because they wanted to have sex with me.

My question is this. Am I addicted to sex or do I just have a healthy sex drive but little willpower when it comes to controlling my urges?

 

[30bandits]

I recently read the following article on the internet about a woman who wanted sex at least five times a day and that all she could think about was sex all the time.
http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-43921760

I often wonder if I also have the same addiction. I do think about sex all the time and masturbate as many as five times a day, sometimes more. I was recently in a relationship with a man where all I did was get high and have sex. Fortunately I got out before drugs destroyed me but I still think about sex all the time and recently have had sex with several strangers just because they wanted to have sex with me.

My question is this. Am I addicted to sex or do I just have a healthy sex drive but little willpower when it comes to controlling my urges?

we should be each other's meds....

 

[Justfantasies]

I recently read the following article on the internet about a woman who wanted sex at least five times a day and that all she could think about was sex all the time.
http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-43921760

I often wonder if I also have the same addiction. I do think about sex all the time and masturbate as many as five times a day, sometimes more. I was recently in a relationship with a man where all I did was get high and have sex. Fortunately I got out before drugs destroyed me but I still think about sex all the time and recently have had sex with several strangers just because they wanted to have sex with me.

My question is this. Am I addicted to sex or do I just have a healthy sex drive but little willpower when it comes to controlling my urges?

Are you anxious about the situation or having fun?

 

[Devilynme]

we should be each other's meds....

LOL... as long as you don't run out of serum!

 

[Devilynme]

Are you anxious about the situation or having fun?

Both. I knew my life was spiraling downwards in the sex and drugs situation and I get anxious about not being able to (or wanting to?) say no to strangers but not about masturbation.

 

[Dribble]

There are 3 components to any addiction. All 3 must be present simultaneously.

Obsession
Compulsion
Self-centeredness

I have met many that say they are. None of them were. That does not mean they were using sex in what i thought was a healthy way. But my opinion doesnt matter.

 

[YoYoMa1]

I am addicted to sex and want to get off several times a day. Is that a bad thing. So what if you are. It doesn’t matter what other people think.

 

[lookmanobrains]

Now maybe this is me being naive. But are strangers coming up to you and asking for sex? Or are you asking them? It probably doesn't matter. I just curious.

 

[Justfantasies]

Both. I knew my life was spiraling downwards in the sex and drugs situation and I get anxious about not being able to (or wanting to?) say no to strangers but not about masturbation.

It’s hard to go cold turkey. Maybe you need several regular and safe lovers who understand your situation. How long have you been addicted l?

 

[Devilynme]

I am addicted to sex and want to get off several times a day. Is that a bad thing. So what if you are. It doesn’t matter what other people think.

I guess that is true as long as you are not in a relationship. I was married for several years and never cheated and never had the desire to do so. I also didn't think about sex all the time. The increase in my sexual urges is something more recent.

 

[ADogWithABone]

In general, if your interest in sex isn't causing serious negative consequences in your life, I'd say it's not a problem.

Whether you call it an addiction seems much less important than whether it's negatively impacting the rest of your life. I'd avoid the impact of such a judgemental term, and focus on the consequence to your life.

 

[jackstud]

I recently read the following article on the internet about a woman who wanted sex at least five times a day and that all she could think about was sex all the time.
http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-43921760

I often wonder if I also have the same addiction. I do think about sex all the time and masturbate as many as five times a day, sometimes more. I was recently in a relationship with a man where all I did was get high and have sex. Fortunately I got out before drugs destroyed me but I still think about sex all the time and recently have had sex with several strangers just because they wanted to have sex with me.

My question is this. Am I addicted to sex or do I just have a healthy sex drive but little willpower when it comes to controlling my urges?

I feel I am your last statement

 

[Oblimo]

I’ve been told th magic word about hypersexuality is “distress,” and being honest with yourself as to whether your proclivities are causing you any. Are you compulsively pursuing sexual activity even though doing so results in negative consequences for yourself or others?

I mean, if you’re bringing yourself to orgasm five times a day but are regularly selcted Employee of the Month, never miss a book club meeting, and have a regular group of swinger friends who you’d trust with your children, I say keep scratching that itch!

If on the other hand your cruising the parking lot of the nearest Motel 6 at 3 o’clock in the morning on a workday with sperm in your hair that you don’t know how it got there...

 

[Dribble]

I’ve been told th magic word about hypersexuality is “distress,” and being honest with yourself as to whether your proclivities are causing you any. Are you compulsively pursuing sexual activity even though doing so results in negative consequences for yourself or others?

I mean, if you’re bringing yourself to orgasm five times a day but are regularly selcted Employee of the Month, never miss a book club meeting, and have a regular group of swinger friends who you’d trust with your children, I say keep scratching that itch!

If on the other hand your cruising the parking lot of the nearest Motel 6 at 3 o’clock in the morning on a workday with sperm in your hair that you don’t know how it got there...

^^^^this about sums it up

 

[Devilynme]

I’ve been told th magic word about hypersexuality is “distress,” and being honest with yourself as to whether your proclivities are causing you any. Are you compulsively pursuing sexual activity even though doing so results in negative consequences for yourself or others?

I mean, if you’re bringing yourself to orgasm five times a day but are regularly selcted Employee of the Month, never miss a book club meeting, and have a regular group of swinger friends who you’d trust with your children, I say keep scratching that itch!

If on the other hand your cruising the parking lot of the nearest Motel 6 at 3 o’clock in the morning on a workday with sperm in your hair that you don’t know how it got there...

Thanks. I do think my obsession with sex has interfered somewhat with my becoming more active in other things but I was always a little reclusive that way. I am definitely not out looking but I also don't seem to be able to (or want to?) say no when it finds me. It has only happened with strangers twice recently and both were situations that were unique. I should add that I was married for a few years and felt inadequate sexually because my ex cheated on me constantly so maybe I'm still trying to prove my sexual worth. I do seem to be compulsive about masturbation and watching porn but I think it is from a lack of other things to fill my life.

 

[Hipshot1554]

I guess it comes down to...can you ever say "NO"?

 

[Funnbrandy]

Sex

To me sex addiction isn't about wanting it all the time....that's very normal and very common....its about not being able to control your urges, willing to lose everything to get it, not caring where it comes from....there are several questionnaires online to help diagnose you....I would say I was a sex addict in my past, now I'm more of a conaseur...lol

 

[OldButNotObsolete]

Even if you are a sex addict, its not the end of the world and there are ways to deal with that but I would second what ADogWithABone and Funnbrandy said..

Its not about how much but the impact its having in your life - if you are happy then dont sweat the details.

 

[13Fantasies]

Maybe, but unlikely. It seems that maybe you have changed after other aspects of your life changed, such as the divorce.

I never meet women like you.

 

[harry johnson]

It seems...

That as a woman gets into her mid thirties approaching 40, they, at least in my experience, are extremely more Randy....maybe this is you?

 

[CeriseBuss]

I recently read the following article on the internet about a woman who wanted sex at least five times a day and that all she could think about was sex all the time.
http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-43921760

I often wonder if I also have the same addiction. I do think about sex all the time and masturbate as many as five times a day, sometimes more. I was recently in a relationship with a man where all I did was get high and have sex. Fortunately I got out before drugs destroyed me but I still think about sex all the time and recently have had sex with several strangers just because they wanted to have sex with me.

My question is this. Am I addicted to sex or do I just have a healthy sex drive but little willpower when it comes to controlling my urges?

To me sex addiction isn't about wanting it all the time....that's very normal and very common....its about not being able to control your urges, willing to lose everything to get it, not caring where it comes from....there are several questionnaires online to help diagnose you....I would say I was a sex addict in my past, now I'm more of a conaseur...lol

I am pretty much always horny or on the verge of horny and, given the opportunity, I will alone or with my partner regularly have at least 8 or 10 orgasms per day. Nonetheless, if the circumstances are such that I do not have that opportunity, I can get by without sexual gratification for a whole day, although I will surely then make love or masturbate at the first available chance.

I guess this means that while my sex drive does control much of how I live my life and spend my time, I can control and overcome it when necessary. I sort of think of myself as a sex addict, but I'm not sure if this meets the criteria or not.

 

[Devilynme]

Thanks to everyone who replied. I now feel much better. I may spend a lot of time watching porn, reading stories, doing cyber and masturbating but it's comforting to know that my sex drive is normal. I do have a tendency to let men "use" me for sex but it doesn't happen often and they don't really use me because I also enjoy the sex. I just need to be a little more careful with men I don't know and not feel so guilty afterwards.

 

[30bandits]

LOL... as long as you don't run out of serum!

I have an unending supply....

 

[Dribble]

 

[RideFl71]

I dont think your can addict.. I think your just a healthy women that needs release.. As long as your not hurting someone OR yourself... Have fun we don't live forever...