Some poly, some kink, some other stuff ...

[KimGordon67]

Sorry to hear that. But hopefully this will be the start of a new kinky phase of your life, hopefully with new people, kinky situations, and a period of stimulating experimentation!

LOL ... that's not really at the forefront of my mind right now. Although I'm looking forward to being able to have more extended time with the BF.

 

[Deleted member 1177770]

I guess a lot happened, and I sort of lost track of this thread.

One of the things ... which was actually a while back now, but I think I've only really felt like writing about it now ... is that me and my husband are separating. We decided ... gosh, nearly a year ago now. But we had to get him into a more financially secure position first. We signed a contract to sell the house last week, so that's really the final thing.
It's been interesting ... while the non-monogamy was probably a contributing factor, it wasn't the only thing at all. And he's also been really clear that even that contributing factor isn't MY fault - we just want different things.

That must have been a lot to deal with! I hop things look up for you soon

 

[KimGordon67]

That must have been a lot to deal with! I hop things look up for you soon

We're actually fine. It was difficult when we first realised that was the best thing to do, because we do really love each other ... we just can't live together, and ultimately we want different sorts of relationships. But we've been together 18 years, which is a pretty good run, and done some really amazing things together, and we'll both leave the marriage better people than when we started. You can't really ask for much more than that. And we'll stay close.

 

[Deleted member 1177770]

We're actually fine. It was difficult when we first realised that was the best thing to do, because we do really love each other ... we just can't live together, and ultimately we want different sorts of relationships. But we've been together 18 years, which is a pretty good run, and done some really amazing things together, and we'll both leave the marriage better people than when we started. You can't really ask for much more than that. And we'll stay close.

yes I'm sure it's been a great journey, but a parting of sorts always is a little sad. It's great that's theirs no discord. To new beginnings or continuation of more of the things you like ought to set the ball rolling again !

 

[KimGordon67]

yes I'm sure it's been a great journey, but a parting of sorts always is a little sad. It's great that's theirs no discord. To new beginnings or continuation of more of the things you like ought to set the ball rolling again !

Oh, it's definitely sad, but sad like when you finish a book you've really enjoyed reading, because now the book has finished. But really, more people should separate while they're still getting on OK. It makes everything a heap easier. We haven't visited a lawyer yet, and I think we just might not bother doing that at all.

 

[Deleted member 1177770]

Oh, it's definitely sad, but sad like when you finish a book you've really enjoyed reading, because now the book has finished. But really, more people should separate while they're still getting on OK. It makes everything a heap easier. We haven't visited a lawyer yet, and I think we just might not bother doing that at all.

Yeah will lead to much less unpleasantness. I didn't know you can be separated without the involvement of a lawyer, you can apply and get all the necessary paperwork done all by yourself? that must be really nice that you parted off so well.
Your journey has been a rollercoaster all along. I hope you have better times in-store with the BF

 

[KimGordon67]

Yeah will lead to much less unpleasantness. I didn't know you can be separated without the involvement of a lawyer, you can apply and get all the necessary paperwork done all by yourself? that must be really nice that you parted off so well.
Your journey has been a rollercoaster all along. I hope you have better times in-store with the BF

There isn't any paperwork. We're just selling the house and take half the money each (after a couple of things have been paid off), and dividing our stuff however we see fit, and working out a sensible arrangement regarding the child. I guess if we decide to divorce, there may some legal stuff that has to be done then, but here the only way you get a divorce is living apart for two years, so that's a way down the track.

 

[Gwanji2]

I found Kim’s analysis about what she did and didn’t feel guilty about very honest and reflective. She doesn’t let herself off lightly, but she’s clear about what she considered acceptable and what was not. Of course, that’s her assessment, her husband may have felt differently had he known, but that was her call. (Sorry, Kim, I’m talking about you in the third person in your own thread... )

I think I meant the question about infidelity more generally, though, than specifically about Kim’s story here.

I think she (you, Kim) are a goddess. So honest, so sexy, so self-aware! I would be honored to be on your list one day.

 

[Tallcajun]

Subscribed..
I've got a lot of reading to do.

 

[CFMB_fan]

Subscribed..
I've got a lot of reading to do.

Spooky me too

 

[SalvDali]

Thanks for posting. Only a couple pages in but I will finish it later for sure.

 

[Olderthanthat]

Ha, on the poly sites, few have dipped their parts into online play and fewer are open to checking it out.

 

[KimGordon67]

I think she (you, Kim) are a goddess. So honest, so sexy, so self-aware! I would be honored to be on your list one day.

I think 'goddess' is maybe over-stating things just a tiny bit.

 

[Gwanji2]

I think 'goddess' is maybe over-stating things just a tiny bit.

I think not, but if it makes you feel better, we’ll just go with super-hero.

 

[KimGordon67]

I think not, but if it makes you feel better, we’ll just go with super-hero.

Actually, my alter-ego is Worst Case Scenario Girl. It's a very specialised super power ... only useful on the very odd occasion (but explains why I want cuffs that I can get out of myself if I need to).

 

[Gwanji2]

Actually, my alter-ego is Worst Case Scenario Girl. It's a very specialised super power ... only useful on the very odd occasion (but explains why I want cuffs that I can get out of myself if I need to).

It is always good to have a plan b. I was dating a woman a few years ago who cuffed me to her bed and was inspired to run out to get some champagne and chocolate so left me cuffed whilst she ran the errand. She had car trouble and had no way to let me know, as I had no way of answering the phone. Meanwhile, her roommate, who had no idea either of us were into bondage, came home. There was some explaining . . .

 

[CFMB_fan]

It is always good to have a plan b. I was dating a woman a few years ago who cuffed me to her bed and was inspired to run out to get some champagne and chocolate so left me cuffed whilst she ran the errand. She had car trouble and had no way to let me know, as I had no way of answering the phone. Meanwhile, her roommate, who had no idea either of us were into bondage, came home. There was some explaining . . .

Indeed...

Not sure if I'm into bondage as such but I do enjoy tie and tease both as the aggressor and victim.

Sadly the wife may enjoy being a victim once in a blue moon...

 

[Olderthanthat]

It is always good to have a plan b. I was dating a woman a few years ago who cuffed me to her bed and was inspired to run out to get some champagne and chocolate so left me cuffed whilst she ran the errand. She had car trouble and had no way to let me know, as I had no way of answering the phone. Meanwhile, her roommate, who had no idea either of us were into bondage, came home. There was some explaining . . .

Can I write the screenplay? What a story!

 

[Tallcajun]

I'm up to page 9.

Great read....
I gotta get some sleep, though.

 

[KimGordon67]

I'm up to page 9.

Great read....
I gotta get some sleep, though.

LOL ... I'm sure you can just skim quite a lot of it.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Actually, my alter-ego is Worst Case Scenario Girl. It's a very specialised super power ... only useful on the very odd occasion (but explains why I want cuffs that I can get out of myself if I need to).

As a person possessed with an innate curiosity - I am wondering what Worst Case Scenario Girl's superhero costume looks like.

 

[KimGordon67]

As a person possessed with an innate curiosity - I am wondering what Worst Case Scenario Girl's superhero costume looks like.

Very practical. Lots of pockets for all the things you might need ... just in case. A Swiss army knife. No capes.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Very practical. Lots of pockets for all the things you might need ... just in case. A Swiss army knife. No capes.

Capes are dangerously overrated.

I think of Mary Poppins when I think of being equipped with everything I may ever need.
That's sexy, right?

 

[KimGordon67]

Capes are dangerously overrated.

I think of Mary Poppins when I think of being equipped with everything I may ever need.
That's sexy, right?

Perfect! MP is definitely the archetypal WCSG. Right down to the multi-functional umbrella.

 

[Tallcajun]

Through page 16...
Fascinating!
I'll be caught up tonight.