Does anyone else feel like a cuckold just in the way your partner acts? We are an older couple, and I know age might have something to do with it. But my wife knows I love sex, and that I have fantasies about other men having sex with her, and that I masturbate all the time. We do fool around on the weekends but there are things I want, she won’t do. She won’t mention these other guys, she use to but not anymore. She will get ready for work and I’ll see her walking around in her black pantyhose. She knows this turns me on so much. I don’t believe my wife has another guy, but she won’t dress as sexy in bed like she use to. She use to wear sexy panties like thongs during the day on the weekends and let me sniff those soiled panties as she blows me in the morning. Now she doesn’t even wear them to bed. I’ve asked her to wear crotchless pantyhose to bed, she use to but not anymore. So now I’ve been having trouble staying hard, but know if she would act more slutty in bed, give me her dirty cunt smelling thong , and shared in my thoughts of being her cuckold. Omg! I would stay so hard and cum for her, but I know she doesn’t seem as much Interest in sex. This makes me feel like a cuckold in chastity, I can only get turned on thinking she has another man and just denies me better sex. These are my thoughts to getting off now. So do other husbands get feeling this way , and it’s your out, to feel like a real cuckold because your wife’s lack of interest?
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Hi,
I don’t think it’s purely an age thing. Me and my wife are only early 30’s and she has a pretty distinct lack of sexual interest since we had kids.
I don’t think it’s purely an age thing. Me and my wife are only early 30’s and she has a pretty distinct lack of sexual interest since we had kids.
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Wow! Very close to being an exact match here. It is not an uncommon situation. Perhaps that is why I have taken to sucking cock for the past few years.
Nice to read i'm not alone
I've had lots of fantasies about sucking cocks, I think of sucking all those guys i think about fucking my wife. I have been getting more and more feeling of being a submissive sissy cuckold.
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I understand completely. I just wish there was some kind of spark that would light my wife's fire again. To have her there to watch me enjoy a hard, fat cock before turning it over to her would be a long time dream cum true.
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Identical here. Pre-kids, she had lingerie/toys/ideas.
Kids. Boom.
Now, a 2 minute quickie on her terms every few months.
If I can't cum instantly, then there's something wrong with me.
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I am 60 wife 58 we haven't had sex in 5 years she hasn't sucked me in 7 years. She stop dressing for me right after menopause. She use dress in skirts or dresses with no panties just garter belt and stockings. She all so showed off her cleavage. She use love to suck me but not now. I gave up begging for sex it was like hurry up get it over with. I to had trouble staying hard just wasn't in to it with her. So I started up with guys in the same boat as me. It is hot with another guy and I stay hard to.
I've had a lot of thoughts of trying a guy, but wouldn't know where to start, and afraid of complicating my life. But I do masturbate to gay sex. along with cuckolds cleaning up after watching wife fucked. I love smells, even smelling my own soiled underwear, getting a scent of stale piss and thinking of another guy I'm sucking. I know pathetic. My wife has no idea I think of sucking cocks.
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There are a lot of common areas between us and our wives. My experiences with other men started right around 3 years ago. I had been denied sex for far too long and didn't want another woman, whom might make matters way too complicated. I have found t hat I can meet another guy, have our fun and be on our way without any romantic entanglement. Sucking cock is as far as I have gone, but the thoughts of fucking/getting fucked are growing.
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Once you do it and get over feeling guilty because gay sex is taboo, so they say. You will love it whats not to love giving pleasure and getting pleasure from a willing and in to it person.
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My wife will moan about lack of sex, but like today all she has done is sat on the sofa, legs out straight and her laptop screen at 90 to her lap.
It looks like a killing zone before the bunker wall.
And she doesn't dress up at all these days...
Oh and when we do have sex she won't suck me but expects me to suck her for hours if possible, I've been known to suck her for so long I have gone completely flaccid...
My wife will moan about lack of sex, but like today all she has done is sat on the sofa, legs out straight and her laptop screen at 90 to her lap.
It looks like a killing zone before the bunker wall.
And she doesn't dress up at all these days...
Oh and when we do have sex she won't suck me but expects me to suck her for hours if possible, I've been known to suck her for so long I have gone completely flaccid...
she wears the sexy undies for me, but she aint gonna tell her cuck that. is she?
and dont refer to her pussy as the C word........thats what we call you.
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Seconded. As I've explained elsewhere, my wife is early thirties and has zero interest in sex since giving birth. As the days become years, kisses and cuddles join "ban list", as does any form of affection.
She knows her body arouses me, and seems to enjoy me being frustrated. Lengthy back and leg rubs for her result in me sporting a leaking hard on. She then goes to bed. Leaving me hanging.
So yes, I'd agree. Its possible to be cuckold even if she's not getting her back doors stoved in by BBC.
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sounds like time to find something on the side.
Of course you will be the bad guy and NO ONE will understand when you tell them about being denied sex but at least you'll get off.
Just be discreet and you won't have to pay the price...(good luck with that!)
Could be our wives are getting bored with the same old stuff when it comes to sex? Mine initiated a discussion with me about fantasies, bisexuality and anal play the other day. I mentioned a bit of curiosity about what it was like to be the receiver in anal play. She surprised me last night with a dildo and some lube and fucked the hell out of me with it. I'm still trying to sort it all out mentally this morning while sitting on a sore ass, but she was obviously very into it and I loved it.
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I asked my wife to bite, nibble my nipples once.
Her reply was "Sorry it doesn't do anything for me."
I almost replied going down on her for hours at a time with no reciprocation doesn't do anything for me!!"
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I'm a woman. I have gone through menopause. But I also gather that I'm atypical. I'm also not married. In my case, my ex had seemingly no interest whatever in sex. And he not only hated but was disgusted by anything like sexy lingerie, erotic talk, even the naked body. So for me, the last few times we did have sex, it wasn't at all pleasant for either of us. He wanted to get it over with quickly, perhaps only for a sense or duty and then not even that.
I just deleted many paragraphs because I was getting super wordy. But bottom line is that I'm recently divorced and getting my old self back. And I am also getting a lot of my old friends back. Some of them are turning to me for sexual advice because they know how I am deep inside.
From what I have heard, most women get vaginal dryness during and after menopause. This can make sex very painful. I guess I am lucky there. I used to get SUPER wet when younger. I still do sometimes but not as often. I am not normally as wet as I was though and some OTC phytoestrogen cream helped almost instantly with that. I used it twice a day at first. Now only once a day. Also tried some vaginal tightening pills that left me super horny and nicely wet. They're expensive. I found that I only needed to use them a few times. Maybe they just started the ball rolling or something. I also like using coconut oil if I need additional wetness. The jury is out on it being used with latex condoms or certain toys though.
We may need different underwear. I used to always wear fancy underwire bras but not necessarily matching panties. I am one who would typically only go all matchy matchy when dating some new guy. But now I find that I can't wear underwires at all. I get a weird rash from them. And panties? Those too can cause rashes, sweating or other strange problems. Maybe it's the fabric or the elastic or they just don't fit the way they used to. Can't tell you how many of my friends have complained about panties as they get older.
Now let me just say that I have *always* hated pantyhose. I find them to be super uncomfortable. I only ever found one kind that fit well. Round The Clock by Givenchy. I bought those in the days where we had to stand in line at the hosiery counter. Expensive but if I took good care, pair could last a year even with almost daily wear. Those are no longer being made. Thigh Highs are even worse in terms of comfort. Now I have never been with a guy who was into such things but if I was... I would wear them for him but beyond prancing around for him or having them on briefly in bed, it just wouldn't happen.
I think when women get older, a lot of us opt for comfort when it comes to what we wear. Ever notice how many older women you see wearing khaki, white or pastel colored pants? Ever wonder why? It's because they *can*. I spend a great many years wearing nothing but black or other dark colored pants/skirts. Why? I had unpredictable periods and they could sometimes be so heavy that nothing could contain the flow. Hopefully I won't be in that pastel group because...ew for me but...
As for lingerie and sexy nighties, I've always loved them and still do but I also find that things that were flattering on me when I was younger can look hideous on me now. Stuff shifts around on our bodies and doesn't necessarily fit the way it used to.
So what you will mostly find me wearing now are caftans, short or long nightgowns, maxi dresses, sheer dresses, typically loose fitting stuff. No underwear whatever at home. Now if I was with a guy who loved panties, I would wear them for him. Particularly crotchless ones. Probably not a thong unless I knew it was going to be coming off soon. Thong = Butt Floss. Ow and not a good kind of ow.
As far as other things that please a man... Someone mentioned nipples. I have tried nipple play with every man I've been with and the vast majority of them either didn't much care for it or flat out hated it. A couple of them said it was mildly stimulating and let me do it but I didn't get the sense that it was very arousing to them. If I had seen them getting aroused from it, then of course I would have done it because to me, seeing and hearing him getting aroused is very arousing to me! I just can't fathom that anyone would object to playing with or sucking another person's nipples. I mean... There's not even any bodily fluids or anything else I could think of that might be objectionable.
I do draw the line at some things though. For instance... Toes. I have used mine on a man's cock and have had him use his between my legs. But sucking on toes? That just isn't appealing to me at all. Neither as recipient or giver.
In terms of a spouse who seems to lose interest in sex, there are just too many unknowns. Are we not living up to some pre-conceived notion that they have? Have we evolved to such a higher vibrational level that we can no longer mesh? I think that could be at least part of it in my case. I am constantly working on myself. How can I be a better person? How can I be more loving to myself and others? What can I do to make the world a better place? There are the sorts of things that my ex despised. He thought my only interest should be him. And yet he sort of lived like a bachelor. There was no give and take. It was all about him and if I didn't like that, oh well. That was how it was going to be and he thought I should get used to it. Nope.
Could it be a medical issue? My ex had some of those too but unfortunately he is the type who likes to ignore things and can never see cause and effect. You are probably not going to want to have sex if you are suffering in some way or on the wrong dose of a medication. Or your hormones are out of whack. I think it would be a good idea if everyone who was having sex drive issues would mention them to their Dr. And better still if the Dr. would pay attention and do some testing, which sadly, they won't.
Anyway... Just throwing some things out there to consider.
I just deleted many paragraphs because I was getting super wordy. But bottom line is that I'm recently divorced and getting my old self back. And I am also getting a lot of my old friends back. Some of them are turning to me for sexual advice because they know how I am deep inside.
From what I have heard, most women get vaginal dryness during and after menopause. This can make sex very painful. I guess I am lucky there. I used to get SUPER wet when younger. I still do sometimes but not as often. I am not normally as wet as I was though and some OTC phytoestrogen cream helped almost instantly with that. I used it twice a day at first. Now only once a day. Also tried some vaginal tightening pills that left me super horny and nicely wet. They're expensive. I found that I only needed to use them a few times. Maybe they just started the ball rolling or something. I also like using coconut oil if I need additional wetness. The jury is out on it being used with latex condoms or certain toys though.
We may need different underwear. I used to always wear fancy underwire bras but not necessarily matching panties. I am one who would typically only go all matchy matchy when dating some new guy. But now I find that I can't wear underwires at all. I get a weird rash from them. And panties? Those too can cause rashes, sweating or other strange problems. Maybe it's the fabric or the elastic or they just don't fit the way they used to. Can't tell you how many of my friends have complained about panties as they get older.
Now let me just say that I have *always* hated pantyhose. I find them to be super uncomfortable. I only ever found one kind that fit well. Round The Clock by Givenchy. I bought those in the days where we had to stand in line at the hosiery counter. Expensive but if I took good care, pair could last a year even with almost daily wear. Those are no longer being made. Thigh Highs are even worse in terms of comfort. Now I have never been with a guy who was into such things but if I was... I would wear them for him but beyond prancing around for him or having them on briefly in bed, it just wouldn't happen.
I think when women get older, a lot of us opt for comfort when it comes to what we wear. Ever notice how many older women you see wearing khaki, white or pastel colored pants? Ever wonder why? It's because they *can*. I spend a great many years wearing nothing but black or other dark colored pants/skirts. Why? I had unpredictable periods and they could sometimes be so heavy that nothing could contain the flow. Hopefully I won't be in that pastel group because...ew for me but...
As for lingerie and sexy nighties, I've always loved them and still do but I also find that things that were flattering on me when I was younger can look hideous on me now. Stuff shifts around on our bodies and doesn't necessarily fit the way it used to.
So what you will mostly find me wearing now are caftans, short or long nightgowns, maxi dresses, sheer dresses, typically loose fitting stuff. No underwear whatever at home. Now if I was with a guy who loved panties, I would wear them for him. Particularly crotchless ones. Probably not a thong unless I knew it was going to be coming off soon. Thong = Butt Floss. Ow and not a good kind of ow.
As far as other things that please a man... Someone mentioned nipples. I have tried nipple play with every man I've been with and the vast majority of them either didn't much care for it or flat out hated it. A couple of them said it was mildly stimulating and let me do it but I didn't get the sense that it was very arousing to them. If I had seen them getting aroused from it, then of course I would have done it because to me, seeing and hearing him getting aroused is very arousing to me! I just can't fathom that anyone would object to playing with or sucking another person's nipples. I mean... There's not even any bodily fluids or anything else I could think of that might be objectionable.
I do draw the line at some things though. For instance... Toes. I have used mine on a man's cock and have had him use his between my legs. But sucking on toes? That just isn't appealing to me at all. Neither as recipient or giver.
In terms of a spouse who seems to lose interest in sex, there are just too many unknowns. Are we not living up to some pre-conceived notion that they have? Have we evolved to such a higher vibrational level that we can no longer mesh? I think that could be at least part of it in my case. I am constantly working on myself. How can I be a better person? How can I be more loving to myself and others? What can I do to make the world a better place? There are the sorts of things that my ex despised. He thought my only interest should be him. And yet he sort of lived like a bachelor. There was no give and take. It was all about him and if I didn't like that, oh well. That was how it was going to be and he thought I should get used to it. Nope.
Could it be a medical issue? My ex had some of those too but unfortunately he is the type who likes to ignore things and can never see cause and effect. You are probably not going to want to have sex if you are suffering in some way or on the wrong dose of a medication. Or your hormones are out of whack. I think it would be a good idea if everyone who was having sex drive issues would mention them to their Dr. And better still if the Dr. would pay attention and do some testing, which sadly, they won't.
Anyway... Just throwing some things out there to consider.
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Jada...
Honest and insightful. Thanks.
Honest and insightful. Thanks.
Thanks for the perspective Jada59. My wife and I had another discussion about sex yesterday and I'm starting to think that things had just got too vanilla for her for too long and with me keeping a lot of my kinks to myself we pretty much just stopped having sex. And from our discussions this past week, I'm starting to think she might have as much kink as I do.
I told her about a week ago that I was open to anything she wanted to try. If something doesn't do anything for me, but turns her on, I'll let her continue to indulge herself.
I told her about a week ago that I was open to anything she wanted to try. If something doesn't do anything for me, but turns her on, I'll let her continue to indulge herself.
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I can relate to everyone who has written here. My wife and I have been married 43 years, engaged for a year before marriage, dated for a year before engagement, and have known each other since we were 16 in high school and dated on and off back then. We have known each other 50 years.
We went through all the dysfunction you all have. We seem to be on the other side of that now. We made it with patience, understanding, perversion, kink, and meds. Thank God for Testosterone injections and Viagra. We both take Viagra, male and female. It makes her feel and fuck like she did when we were in college. I highly recommend them both (Viagra and Testosterone injections).
When I used T gel, we used to rub two pumps into her back daily. Contrary to what you hear, she was absolutely insatiable. She came so hard she passed out for a moment. She’d get soaking wet. Her clit grew to the size of a small cock. But when she started to develop light facial hair she quit.
I too have become Bi. Not because of a failing sex life, but I think I’ve always known that deep down inside I have always liked both guys and ladies. At this point in my life I am VERY discreet and only see men who like myself are married, have responsibilities, and like to have man/man sex.
So, don’t feel guilty if your wife insn’t interested in sex, or being sexy. That doesn’t mean she hates you now, women change in life. If you find having Bi tendencies works for you, then go for it! Once you share sex with a man, you can never resist that urge again. Life is short, enjoy all you can from it
Pm me if you care to share more...
I can relate to everyone who has written here. My wife and I have been married 43 years, engaged for a year before marriage, dated for a year before engagement, and have known each other since we were 16 in high school and dated on and off back then. We have known each other 50 years.
We went through all the dysfunction you all have. We seem to be on the other side of that now. We made it with patience, understanding, perversion, kink, and meds. Thank God for Testosterone injections and Viagra. We both take Viagra, male and female. It makes her feel and fuck like she did when we were in college. I highly recommend them both (Viagra and Testosterone injections).
When I used T gel, we used to rub two pumps into her back daily. Contrary to what you hear, she was absolutely insatiable. She came so hard she passed out for a moment. She’d get soaking wet. Her clit grew to the size of a small cock. But when she started to develop light facial hair she quit.
I too have become Bi. Not because of a failing sex life, but I think I’ve always known that deep down inside I have always liked both guys and ladies. At this point in my life I am VERY discreet and only see men who like myself are married, have responsibilities, and like to have man/man sex.
So, don’t feel guilty if your wife insn’t interested in sex, or being sexy. That doesn’t mean she hates you now, women change in life. If you find having Bi tendencies works for you, then go for it! Once you share sex with a man, you can never resist that urge again. Life is short, enjoy all you can from it
Pm me if you care to share more...
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This isn't your wife's action, it's your fantasy. You can't force it on her, and if you love her, then stop trying to. It's not happening, you're better off cheating on her with other men, and keeping it hidden from her, than forcing any of your sexuality on her when she's not willing.
Talk to your wife. We can't help you. If you're looking for other husbands who share your experience to sympathize with, that's great, but empathize with your wife, or let her go. She's the one you have to live with, and you're the one she has to live with.
That's more important than any sexual experience, or fantasy.
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Some interesting comments and thoughts there.
So thank you for sharing
Ultimately there neds to be willing communication on both sides to discuss the issues whatever they may be.
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You might just be on different sexual pages. She might have done some things in order to make you happy and be playful but she might not be into it as much as you seem to be. Different people all have different sexual drives and how far and how often those drives kick in. My husband and me are a perfect example as I have a very high sex drive and he is fine with sex about once to twice a month. Now you can look into it being age, health, libido, sex with someone else on the side or whatever but honestly the best thing might be to just sit down and have a conversation about it and see where both of you sit.
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The thought has crossed my mind
