did you choose to remain a virgin until marriage?

[dominatrixjane]

did you choose to remain a virgin until marriage?

if yes

then please tell us the reasons why you choose to remain a virgin until marriage

thank you

 

[Cumference]

Absolutely not!

That would be a bloody silly thing to have done.

 

[hcal]

yes

yes
and i don't know!

 

[hadruprider]

No. It would be like buying a car without going for a test drive!

 

[BBWSugarKitty]

No, for me sex is something that you shouldn't be ashamed for. It feels good and as long as you're safe, there's nothing wrong with it. personally I don't see a point in saving myself for marriage, it would be denying myself of something that feels good and I like, plus there's no telling when I'm going to get married and I don't want to wait that long!

 

[Isevil1976]

Hell no I didn’t!!!

 

[MrsDazzle]

Technically no, but I was married at a pretty young age and was pregnant at the time. My husband is the only guy I've had sex with.

 

[gtnlynn]

Although I had fingered my future wife hundreds of times, I chose to refrain from screwing until our wedding night for one reason: I loved her too much to risk the possibility of getting her pregnant. This was when The Pill was new and of questionable efficacy, and I had several friends who depended on condoms and ended up being fathers. What I didn't know was that she was screwing other guys, so she didn't wait. That's fine. She told me years after we were married.

 

[screwher]

Neither Mrs. Screwher or I waited til marriage. But I kind of wish my wife waited just a little longer before she "gave it away". Her first boyfriend was a complete jerk (don't worry mods. She was 18) and treated her like crap. She was a late bloomer and he was the first guy to really pay attention to her. Their relationship didn't last long and we got together right after. I know she regrets him and doesn't even acknowledge him when having "girl talk" with her friends. She tells everyone I was her first (and only to the people we want to keep our hotwife marriage from).

So she's a living cautionary tale. You can't unfuck someone.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

dear god no! I didn't marry until my 30s. My wife, however did (though to her first husband) and we were sexually involved before marriage.

I personally think marriage is an archaic, patriarchal pile of crap, so the whole idea of saving one self for marriage seems ridiculous - for me at least.

 

[Cumference]

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I personally think marriage is an archaic, patriarchal pile of crap, so the whole idea of saving one self for marriage seems ridiculous - for me at least.

Not to mention that “virginity” and the mythical hymen ia primarily a religious/social construct designed to control female sexuality and enforce that women are basically just another piece of property along with the livestock.

 

[policywank]

Not even close.

As others have mentioned keeping your virginity is a social or religious construct design to control female sexuality. It doesn't have any more objective rational than not eating ketchup before marriage. Sure it is one way of avoiding pregnancy, STDs or ketchup stains but there are lots of other ways to avoid those problems.

Frankly some of the pre-marital sex was good and some of it wasn't. Yes I fucked at least one guy who turned out to be a jerk. So what. It was a learning experience. I have sampled food I didn't like and gotten on amusement park rides that made me sick....I won't do it again but I see no reason to lament any of it.

Women get caught in this circular logic of expecting a guy to be prince charming, feeling damaged when he turns out to be a jerk, feeling bad about ourselves afterward then making that the rationale for holding out. The problem in this cycle isn't making a bad decision, it is letting society tells us that makes us damaged goods.

If a guy fucks a girl and she turns out to be a bitch or a lousy lover he might not stay with her. There might be negative feelings. He might wish he had never been with her. But unless he contracts an STD or she gets pregnant he rarely regrets the actual act of fucking her and he certainly doesn't beat himself up and lament how damaged he is for it. In fact he is more likely to lament the time with her if he didn't at least get to fuck her.

 

[JackOffer]

Of course not, why would anybody do that?

 

[jennyxiaoxoxo]

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[Edgeofreason]

Good Lord no, absolutely not.

 

[pplwatching]

Not even close.

As others have mentioned keeping your virginity is a social or religious construct design to control female sexuality.

Seems like a personal decision to me. Depending on the individual, it may or may not be rooted in those reasons but at the end of the day it's a personal decision. Whether others agree with the decision or the justification usually results in picking apart the rationale as if it's a personal attack on their own choice not to.

 

[fma20fma]

hi

no way

 

[VampirTARA]

did you choose to remain a virgin until marriage?
if yes
then please tell us the reasons why you choose to remain a virgin until marriage
thank you

I was a 21 year old virgin planning on saving it for my wedding night. But No....I got drunk one afternoon and I was horny as a Jack Rabbit to top it off. So that afternoon I gave my virginity to my grandfather. .

 

[policywank]

Seems like a personal decision to me. Depending on the individual, it may or may not be rooted in those reasons but at the end of the day it's a personal decision. Whether others agree with the decision or the justification usually results in picking apart the rationale as if it's a personal attack on their own choice not to.

Absolutely it is a personal decision. I probably didn’t leave enough latitude as to why people make their decisions but I didn’t attack anybody. I stated my view and attacked the logic that other people use to try to impose their view on me. That shame model isn’t simply a framework for a personal decision but a powerful tool used to impose judgment on women. As such it does need to be addressed.

 

[ronmcc2448]

No! I gave my virginity to my best friends Aunt who was 7 years older than us. She taught me a lot till she moved away. Then my next older lady completed my teachings. She was 12 years older than me. What a wild ride.

 

[ilCacciatore]

I lost my virginity to my wife, but it was before we were married, or even engaged. I saved it through high school in order to be the only kid in my generation of the family to graduate without having their own kid.

 

[SlutKelly]

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[writermanbrit]

Thankfully I didn't wait as I was extremely late arriving at the children and marriage situation, and could even have done with starting sooner, so I could have enjoyed my late teens a lot more instead of chasing everything in a skirt through lack of previous experience.

 

[Buttercup986]

Not even close.

 

[Ezeerider]

Of course!
Both times.