Litiquette V

[Wild_Honey_66]

Expectations. We all have them and proper management of them is key to happiness. But we can't help having them. Wanting more, expecting the worst. Not having any expectations is apathaty and that's a sure way to lose yourself. But, how do you control them? Is there anything wrong with wanting more the next time?

For me, meeting raised expectations has a better return than lowering them and hoping for the best. What's your plan?

I very often don't realize that I've got expectations until I've been disappointed.

Then I learn what I can, make adjustments, and move on. Eventually.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Expectations. We all have them and proper management of them is key to happiness. But we can't help having them. Wanting more, expecting the worst. Not having any expectations is apathaty and that's a sure way to lose yourself. But, how do you control them? Is there anything wrong with wanting more the next time?

For me, meeting raised expectations has a better return than lowering them and hoping for the best. What's your plan?

ooooffffff....

I build up expectations all too often. It's something of an issue I think.
I think mostly, of myself, and then I get upset.
But sometimes, of other people. Not always good expectations (e.g. sometimes I expect the worst.)

I try to set realistic goals for myself though. I've gotten better at it over the years as I know what is in my control to achieve and what isn't.

 

[Suz_anne]

Dibs on Don Draper?

*oils up and stretches

I anticipate a full on 3-way brawl over this one. Aussie responds to the name "Don Draper" like Commissioner Gordon responds to a ringing Bat-Phone

*hydrates

She should be here any minute

*does push ups and waits

*YELLS* DON DRAPER!!!!!!

Where the heck is she??

Expectations. We all have them and proper management of them is key to happiness. But we can't help having them. Wanting more, expecting the worst. Not having any expectations is apathaty and that's a sure way to lose yourself. But, how do you control them? Is there anything wrong with wanting more the next time?

For me, meeting raised expectations has a better return than lowering them and hoping for the best. What's your plan?

There are certain areas in my life where I've learned to keep my expectations low. I know that having anything but will only result in disappointment. It's mostly centered around specific people and it's just the way it is.

But in other areas... areas more within my control or centered around people who have proven themselves to be marvelous... my expectations are super high. And in those situations, the high is amazing.

 

[Little_Sister]

https://draco1976.files.wordpress.com/2012/07/disappointment-expectation-reality.jpg?w=750

 

[SMNaughtywife]

*YELLS

There are certain areas in my life where I've learned to keep my expectations low. I know that having anything but will only result in disappointment. It's mostly centered around specific people and it's just the way it is.

But in other areas... areas more within my control or centered around people who have proven themselves to be marvelous... my expectations are super high. And in those situations, the high is amazing.

Couldn’t of said this any better. Spot on.

Nothing surprises me and I certainly don’t loose sleep over my disappointments.
Sometimes I except more from others because I’m willing to that much for them.
It’s a toss up if it holds true, and if not, I’m quite excellent telling myself ‘your loss, not mine’ and shrugging it off.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Dibs on Don Draper?

*oils up and stretches

I anticipate a full on 3-way brawl over this one. Aussie responds to the name "Don Draper" like Commissioner Gordon responds to a ringing Bat-Phone

*hydrates

She should be here any minute

*does push ups and waits

*YELLS* DON DRAPER!!!!!!

Where the heck is she??




There are certain areas in my life where I've learned to keep my expectations low. I know that having anything but will only result in disappointment. It's mostly centered around specific people and it's just the way it is.

But in other areas... areas more within my control or centered around people who have proven themselves to be marvelous... my expectations are super high. And in those situations, the high is amazing.

*Squeals*

Where?!

Next you'll be teasing me with Benedict Cumberbatch...

 

[curvyangel1969]

*Squeals*

Where?!

Next you'll be teasing me with Benedict Cumberbatch...

Benedict Cumberbatch you say? Clearly this man was meant for me.

https://youtu.be/7Nz0dLHMHOo

 

[rudrakshpathak]

So many lovely ladies.
Very few deserving gentlemen.

 

[hedonisatlurist]

So many lovely ladies.
Very few deserving gentlemen.

To be truthful there are not enough real men to satisfy all the ladies that need attention

 

[Suz_anne]

*Squeals*

Where?!

Next you'll be teasing me with Benedict Cumberbatch...

Does this get you all hot and bothered? #weirdpregnancyhormones

https://78.media.tumblr.com/1ce886375561aafcb164bf2dc35f8f4a/tumblr_p2zqkzssBW1try5b4o1_540.jpg

 

[ChainedUp]

Perhaps a Friday Feenzy, Sunday already had Funday. If you could just let go and toss those cares and concerns aside, what would you do? Now for the tough part, are those cares and concerns really holding you back or are they your security blanket protecting you against the risk?

 

[Endless_Night]

Oh! Oh! *waves hand*

I can answer this one. I am a "cares and concern" soul. Hands down. It might be the result of some impetuous youthful decisions. The type that landed me in not hot, but boiling water. Or it might just be my nature.

Whichever. I am slow to move. Cautious.

Just a *blankie* kind of girl.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Perhaps a Friday Feenzy, Sunday already had Funday. If you could just let go and toss those cares and concerns aside, what would you do? Now for the tough part, are those cares and concerns really holding you back or are they your security blanket protecting you against the risk?

I think that generally I balance risk well. I think my "cares and concerns" are typically well founded and well thought through cares and I ignore them when the time/circumstances are right. I'm certainly not perfect on that, and sometimes I think they do hold me back. And I think other times, maybe they should have, but they didn't.

That said, as I sat to write this, I had this moment of...wow. As I contemplated the extreme of "what would I do if I could just...do." And...the answer really surprised me. Really....

Oh! Oh! *waves hand*

I can answer this one. I am a "cares and concern" soul. Hands down. It might be the result of some impetuous youthful decisions. The type that landed me in not hot, but boiling water. Or it might just be my nature.

Whichever. I am slow to move. Cautious.

Just a *blankie* kind of girl.

Wow...someday, I would love to hear the EN story...(and yes, I know, it's unlikely, and that's totally OK....you're a good egg.)

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Perhaps a Friday Feenzy, Sunday already had Funday. If you could just let go and toss those cares and concerns aside, what would you do? Now for the tough part, are those cares and concerns really holding you back or are they your security blanket protecting you against the risk?

Right at this moment I’m thinking something like this.

What’s holding me back, it’s a distance thing tonight. He’d be sound asleep by the time I got there. But, pretty sure I could get him to rise to the occasion.
https://78.media.tumblr.com/9ab5783a7520587d81ed2b8785f54076/tumblr_nudno8Syzu1s1rl90o1_400.gif

 

[ChainedUp]

It's been too long to quote the above and comment but needless to say, I support this type of activity.

So a more functional question, how far back should someone go to quote another lost? Or to quote and bring one back from its slumbering state. Or does it really even matter, and you should post to whatever inspires you?

 

[lakesailer_mi]

It's been too long to quote the above and comment but needless to say, I support this type of activity.

So a more functional question, how far back should someone go to quote another lost? Or to quote and bring one back from its slumbering state. Or does it really even matter, and you should post to whatever inspires you?

Well, it really depends on the thread I think.
Certainly, there are cases where it makes sense to me to quote whatever, but all too often there is a "conversation" in a a thread. Unless the thing you're quoting is relevant to that, it often seems like an interruption or a non-sequitur.

Which is not that big a deal, but I guess I would say, quoting things without looking at what's actually going on in the thread is kind of...well not quite rude...but....

That said, in the grand scheme of things, this rises to slightly annoying.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Post where you feel inspired to say something. I reside mostly on the HT bit I also post frequently on the GB and the PG. I happily float around wherever. Just recently a very old thread was bumped that sent me down memory lane. It was a nice stroll full of lovely reminders of another time and love.

My point is, sometimes bumping the old can bring something new whether it be an idea or an emotion. Go nuts.

Oops. I misread the question. Soz bout it.

I thought your answer was fine.... (I mean, not that I'm the self appointed judge of answers). And I agree about bumping old threads...it can be wonderful!

 

[Trekka]

I bump when I feel the urge. Why not? What's the harm?

Disagree Chainey-- 72 hours after SMN posts a sexy fuckin gif? You can respond directly to that. No excuses. Now bend over.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I bump when I feel the urge. Why not? What's the harm?

Disagree Chainey-- 72 hours after SMN posts a sexy fuckin gif? You can respond directly to that. No excuses. Now bend over.

Bend over huh?! I like it.

 

[dacoach44]

Our memory....

It's been too long to quote the above and comment but needless to say, I support this type of activity.

So a more functional question, how far back should someone go to quote another lost? Or to quote and bring one back from its slumbering state. Or does it really even matter, and you should post to whatever inspires you?

Isnt perfect, but still, you should not repeat a fave quote that you put up, say, just a couple of months ago.

 

[hotwords229_A]

72 hours after SMN posts a sexy fuckin gif? You can respond directly to that. No excuses. Now bend over.

Bend over huh?! I like it.

Why do I have the sudden urge to respond to this in 72 hours!

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Why do I have the sudden urge to respond to this in 72 hours!

Because you’re a filthy man. Probably even slightly hard at the thought of your tight little ass getting filled. Have a preference who wears it, Trekka or I? Always the option of a spit roast if you’re feeling ballsy.
*waits*

 

[Trekka]

Because you’re a filthy man. Probably even slightly hard at the thought of your tight little ass getting filled. Have a preference who wears it, Trekka or I? Always the option of a spit roast if you’re feeling ballsy.
*waits*

https://media.giphy.com/media/PXkPK8rhuPvzy/giphy.gif

 

[hotwords229_A]

Because you’re a filthy man. Probably even slightly hard at the thought of your tight little ass getting filled. Have a preference who wears it, Trekka or I? Always the option of a spit roast if you’re feeling ballsy.
*waits*

https://media.giphy.com/media/PXkPK8rhuPvzy/giphy.gif

Let this be a lesson to me. If I play with fire I may get burned, or in this case spit-roasted.


··Pokes finger in the flame··

 

[Suz_anne]

Because you’re a filthy man. Probably even slightly hard at the thought of your tight little ass getting filled. Have a preference who wears it, Trekka or I? Always the option of a spit roast if you’re feeling ballsy.
*waits*

https://media.giphy.com/media/PXkPK8rhuPvzy/giphy.gif

http://cdn.playbuzz.com/cdn/cb7a30b8-a7b9-4b94-8c10-eb20d967852a/507a2c80-1e23-4f2f-8233-8d622f9ddf86.gif