How to get my BF to make me cum...

[x_delicious_x]

I'm a female and I can make myself orgasm relatively easy, but no guy or girl has ever been able to do it. One guy spent half an hour and it just didn't fly. When I masturbate it's all clitoral stimulation and penetration just intensifies it if the right spot is hit. I was wondering if anyone has had a similar issue and they found a trick that worked.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

Teach them. Show them what you do. Then have them try it. I would bet I could get you to cum in under a minute just using my fingers. 30 seconds if I use my mouth.

 

[hadruprider]

Maybe you need to switch gradually. Like weaning yourself off from your usual way to orgasm. Practise each stage several times!
Stage 1. You masturbate, with partner watching. He (or she) will enjoy this, I promise you! Can you come with him watching? If so move on to
Stage 2. As stage 1 but with his hand on top of yours.
Stage 3. Your hand on top of his, guiding his movements.
Stage 4. His hand only, you telling him what to do, softer, faster, higher, whatever.
Stage 5. His hand only, he knows what to do, mission accomplished!

 

[Privates1stClass]

How to get my BF to make me cum...

Perhaps you could add a vibrator to your sex play. My wife found it difficult to orgasm until we added a vibrator. It made a world of difference.

 

[PuckIt]

I'm a female and I can make myself orgasm relatively easy, but no guy or girl has ever been able to do it. One guy spent half an hour and it just didn't fly. When I masturbate it's all clitoral stimulation and penetration just intensifies it if the right spot is hit. I was wondering if anyone has had a similar issue and they found a trick that worked.

A long, LONG time ago, I had a girlfriend with a similar problem.

The thing was, she could climax alone, but not with me (nor anyone else). Whether fortunately or unfortunately, I took this as a challenge. At the time I just didn't see how she could possibly be satisfied with me as a lover if I couldn't make her cum.

Now, this was pre-internet so there wasn't much to be done for the issue beyond experimentation. And study the old fashioned way which included books and magazines. (And I learned a hell of a lot more from Cosmo than I ever did from Penthouse!)

Here's the weird part. I ran across a rather disturbing factoid that the problem could be psychological on her part. Namely that she was so wrapped up and worried and just generally stressed that she couldn't relax enough to orgasm if anyone else was present.

Once I was clued in, I left behind the study of various cunnilingus techniques, finger stroking techniques, etcetera and turned my attention to her mental block.

It took about a month and a half, but eventually we did it. And once the dam was broken, I was typically able to bring her within just a few minutes where before it wasn't unusual for me to work on her for a good two to three hours.

Any rate, I think the first step to checking if this might be the issue you are facing was the first we checked to figure out that was what we were facing. Try bringing yourself off while your lover watches. If it's more difficult, then that may be what you are facing as well.

Ironically, that was also the first steps we took to rectifying the problem. She would "practice" bringing herself off with me in the room, watching her do it.

Then, we had to work a little more to get her able to let go and let it happen with my face "down there" as she would phrase it. (Which in retrospect should have been another flag.)

Anyway, hopefully that gives you something to investigate.