Just want some unbaised advice to start 2018 off right

[Brea0981]

Anyway, hey everyone! This is my first post on this forum. I mostly been posting in the pics forum but after lurking here seems like this is the right place to ask a question and get some feedback. OK so I been feeling a little guilty cause I got these three guys interested in me and I want and need to just commit to one. I been talking to all there but I don't wanna go into 2018 like that.

OK so the first one is my son's dad. Frankly in general he's been an asshole for most of our relationship, constantly cheating and taking me for granted but he's starting to get better because he knows I have a new boyfriend and I can tell he
wants to get back with me. Of the three guys, he's the only one I've had sex with. It's pretty good and were comfortable with each other so I guess I let my guard doen with him.

Next, there's my new boyfriend. I guess I can call him that even though we haven't had sex yet. We've been dating for about two months and we've came pretty close. We're going out for New Years and I pretty sure he's expecting us to go all the way. He's been really nice and mostly a gentleman but sometimes it's hard adapting to a new relationship.

Finally, there's my bossyeah that's right I said my boss. He's been flirting with me at work for the last few months and here recently the relationship has gone to the next level. I won't get into the details but a couple of weeks ago he gave me some extra money and a couple days later he texted me something very unexpected. I don't know what I was thinking (I guess curious) but I texted him back and that opened the door. My boss is like 47, married with kids but frankly he's fine AF. He's always nice and knows how to treat a woman. Anyway, I would appreciate any feedback regarding which direction I should take. I want to be settled in 2018 and not have all this relationship drama. Thanks, Brianna.

 

[richard_daily]

Anyway, hey everyone! This is my first post on this forum. I mostly been posting in the pics forum but after lurking here seems like this is the right place to ask a question and get some feedback. OK so I been feeling a little guilty cause I got these three guys interested in me and I want and need to just commit to one. I been talking to all there but I don't wanna go into 2018 like that.

OK so the first one is my son's dad. Frankly in general he's been an asshole for most of our relationship, constantly cheating and taking me for granted but he's starting to get better because he knows I have a new boyfriend and I can tell he
wants to get back with me. Of the three guys, he's the only one I've had sex with. It's pretty good and were comfortable with each other so I guess I let my guard doen with him.

Next, there's my new boyfriend. I guess I can call him that even though we haven't had sex yet. We've been dating for about two months and we've came pretty close. We're going out for New Years and I pretty sure he's expecting us to go all the way. He's been really nice and mostly a gentleman but sometimes it's hard adapting to a new relationship.

Finally, there's my bossyeah that's right I said my boss. He's been flirting with me at work for the last few months and here recently the relationship has gone to the next level. I won't get into the details but a couple of weeks ago he gave me some extra money and a couple days later he texted me something very unexpected. I don't know what I was thinking (I guess curious) but I texted him back and that opened the door. My boss is like 47, married with kids but frankly he's fine AF. He's always nice and knows how to treat a woman. Anyway, I would appreciate any feedback regarding which direction I should take. I want to be settled in 2018 and not have all this relationship drama. Thanks, Brianna.

I don't get it.

 

[Saint_Ann]

I don't get it.

I wish I had a nickel for everytime I heard you say that.

 

[Que]

The boss and the ex are horrible choices so my money is on you ignoring the guy without the baggage. You like making bad choices.

Which is probably for the best because he is never going to provide you with the level of drama that you crave so if you get together with him inevitably you'll go off and do something dramatic, affecting both of your lives.

 

[Richard_P_Feynman]

Anyway, hey everyone! This is my first post on this forum. I mostly been posting in the pics forum but after lurking here seems like this is the right place to ask a question and get some feedback. OK so I been feeling a little guilty cause I got these three guys interested in me and I want and need to just commit to one. I been talking to all there but I don't wanna go into 2018 like that.

OK so the first one is my son's dad. Frankly in general he's been an asshole for most of our relationship, constantly cheating and taking me for granted but he's starting to get better because he knows I have a new boyfriend and I can tell he
wants to get back with me. Of the three guys, he's the only one I've had sex with. It's pretty good and were comfortable with each other so I guess I let my guard doen with him.

Next, there's my new boyfriend. I guess I can call him that even though we haven't had sex yet. We've been dating for about two months and we've came pretty close. We're going out for New Years and I pretty sure he's expecting us to go all the way. He's been really nice and mostly a gentleman but sometimes it's hard adapting to a new relationship.

Finally, there's my bossyeah that's right I said my boss. He's been flirting with me at work for the last few months and here recently the relationship has gone to the next level. I won't get into the details but a couple of weeks ago he gave me some extra money and a couple days later he texted me something very unexpected. I don't know what I was thinking (I guess curious) but I texted him back and that opened the door. My boss is like 47, married with kids but frankly he's fine AF. He's always nice and knows how to treat a woman. Anyway, I would appreciate any feedback regarding which direction I should take. I want to be settled in 2018 and not have all this relationship drama. Thanks, Brianna.

Nice tits. Are your nipples sensitive?

 

[Brea0981]

I don't get it.

Just looking for some advice

 

[Richard_P_Feynman]

The boss and the ex are horrible choices so my money is on you ignoring the guy without the baggage. You like making bad choices.

Which is probably for the best because he is never going to provide you with the level of drama that you crave so if you get together with him inevitably you'll go off and do something dramatic, affecting both of your lives.

Another rare instance of me agreeing with Queef. OP is immature AF.

 

[Brea0981]

The boss and the ex are horrible choices so my money is on you ignoring the guy without the baggage. You like making bad choices.

Which is probably for the best because he is never going to provide you with the level of drama that you crave so if you get together with him inevitably you'll go off and do something dramatic, affecting both of your lives.

Yeah, I know deep down that my ex will probably never act right and this thing with my boss is wrong but how can you say I like making bad choices? I don't think anyone likes making bad choices.

 

[Brea0981]

Nice tits. Are your nipples sensitive?

Uhh, OK... not exactly the answer I was looking for but thanks I guess

 

[Que]

Yeah, I know deep down that my ex will probably never act right and this thing with my boss is wrong but how can you say I like making bad choices? I don't think anyone likes making bad choices.

It's you doing the choosing, and you are presently contemplating two bad choices. Therefore, you like something about the outcome that you know these bad choices will lead to.

You can't honestly think that you choose things that you don't like?

Some of this is impulse control issues. In other words you're having a yearning to do something and you're having a hard time keeping yourself from doing the thing you know you shouldn't do.

If what you know these consequences will be doesn't stop the impulse, you obviously like the result of the bad choice.

Craving the excitement the drama brings is not unusual but when you can't put it aside because you know the consequences outweigh the benefit, you'll keep getting the results that you've been getting.

 

[LiamAnthony]

How much is your boss giving you on the side for sex?
Sounds like you should milk that guy for a while.

 

[cleaver]

this was the wrong place...
no one here cares - even if your story is true.

the pic thread is nice enough...
but the gb eats souls like cheetos
then wipes its bony orange'd fingers
on anything that's left of you...

samples above.

myself?
i'll be honest...
i don't care - if your story is true...
i tend to doubt that it is;
as it has all the lovely demure elements
of a prologue to what will become
an over-written offering in 'loving wives' or somesuch...

seeking advice in this cesspool comes with all the risks
you should have discerned during your display in ampics
and forays into side fora...

and yet still...
fuck it!
i mean the 2 month guy!
and write up a report for us....
happy new year.
chat is still down
and karen is still ken

 

[clistenovena]

I don't get it.

I wish I had a nickel for everytime I heard you say that.

Heh.

Anyway, hey everyone! This is my first post on this forum. I mostly been posting in the pics forum but after lurking here seems like this is the right place to ask a question and get some feedback.

You picked the GB for your first post?? And it's about your life and relationships?? Dang. You're either very naive or brave or...something else.

OK so I been feeling a little guilty cause I got these three guys interested in me and I want and need to just commit to one.

You don't feel guilty, but whatever.

Anyway, I would appreciate any feedback regarding which direction I should take.

Not that this is advice so much as commentary, and not that you'll listen to anyone's advice anyway (if you're even real in all this). And with your inability to make good choices, words here are probably in the wind already. That said...

I want to be settled in 2018 and not have all this relationship drama.

Not that I believe you mean that, but just for grins and giggles, you really only have one choice- new guy. Why? Well, let me just say...

Baby-daddy shits on you constantly (you know that already) and is only sniffing around again because of new guy, and once new guy is gone (and he will be if you keep the back-and-forth happening with BD and Bossman), the shitting-on begins again, guaranteed. Think more of yourself, for mercy's sake.

Bossman is married (aka, "already claimed") and is simply testing the waters because he wants to delude himself that he's still all that (which he obviously isn't since he's willing to risk his career and his kids in this mess with you). Also, getting involved with Bossman could negatively impact your job situation, despite what you may be thinking. It's not about you. It's all about him. Know that at least.

Soooo, unless you just enjoy being shit upon time and again by the guy who wouldn't do right by you to begin with, or you just want to be a jobless cog in the tear-apart-a-family machine, go with new guy. Otherwise, you'll just be fucked. Metaphorically and figuratively. Felt the need to clarify that a bit.

Happy 2018

 

[Brea0981]

Some of this is impulse control issues. In other words you're having a yearning to do something and you're having a hard time keeping yourself from doing the thing you know you shouldn't do.

Yeah, I know I gotta do better. You said it just right.

 

[EternalFantasies]

I wish I had a nickel for everytime I heard you say that.

I wish I had a penny for every-time he didn't yet it was also the case.

Heh.

You picked the GB for your first post?? And it's about your life and relationships?? Dang. You're either very naive or brave or...something else.

How did her post count from April compute to you not understanding she meant in this section?

And your perceptual advice - wrote with certitude too - should be seen as valid?

 

[Brea0981]

How much is your boss giving you on the side for sex?
Sounds like you should milk that guy for a while.

We haven't had sex.

 

[EternalFantasies]

Anyway, hey everyone! This is my first post on this forum. I mostly been posting in the pics forum but after lurking here seems like this is the right place to ask a question and get some feedback. OK so I been feeling a little guilty cause I got these three guys interested in me and I want and need to just commit to one. I been talking to all there but I don't wanna go into 2018 like that.

OK so the first one is my son's dad. Frankly in general he's been an asshole for most of our relationship, constantly cheating and taking me for granted but he's starting to get better because he knows I have a new boyfriend and I can tell he
wants to get back with me. Of the three guys, he's the only one I've had sex with. It's pretty good and were comfortable with each other so I guess I let my guard doen with him.

Next, there's my new boyfriend. I guess I can call him that even though we haven't had sex yet. We've been dating for about two months and we've came pretty close. We're going out for New Years and I pretty sure he's expecting us to go all the way. He's been really nice and mostly a gentleman but sometimes it's hard adapting to a new relationship.

Finally, there's my bossyeah that's right I said my boss. He's been flirting with me at work for the last few months and here recently the relationship has gone to the next level. I won't get into the details but a couple of weeks ago he gave me some extra money and a couple days later he texted me something very unexpected. I don't know what I was thinking (I guess curious) but I texted him back and that opened the door. My boss is like 47, married with kids but frankly he's fine AF. He's always nice and knows how to treat a woman. Anyway, I would appreciate any feedback regarding which direction I should take. I want to be settled in 2018 and not have all this relationship drama. Thanks, Brianna.

Ur 3 options:

1. U're in for a major boot of drama with the new guy. About right after the first sex bout.

2. Most men will like to checkout the neighborhood. Mix it up start considering 3somes etc. (if u go back to him)

3. The boss thing is not a choice. That's clearly a sex thin only. Probably some secret dating doing fun stuff. But will most probably never be anything serious.

And you seem like you've giving him hope too - hope he won't get upset if you don't put up.


Your options are mostly 1 & 2 for serious stuff. 3 is optional either way.

You either go with neither 1 nor 2, and simply wait for what you'll feel is truly Mr Right for you;

Or......... (some thunder and stroboscope plz): put the ex. on a sizzler plate not knowing if he's in or out, and occasionally date the boss, and make sure he senses it's happening.

It's a wind surfing experience, but if you play it smart, you'll end up with an ex and more importantly son's dad that u're already comfortable with down the road (many months - probably over a year or two), who is now subdued more to you.

You throw in 3somes and/or group sex, he'll be putty in ur hands.

 

[Brea0981]

this was the wrong place...
no one here cares - even if your story is true.

the pic thread is nice enough...
but the gb eats souls like cheetos
then wipes its bony orange'd fingers
on anything that's left of you...

samples above.

myself?
i'll be honest...
i don't care - if your story is true...
i tend to doubt that it is;
as it has all the lovely demure elements
of a prologue to what will become
an over-written offering in 'loving wives' or somesuch...

seeking advice in this cesspool comes with all the risks
you should have discerned during your display in ampics
and forays into side fora...

and yet still...
fuck it!
i mean the 2 month guy!
and write up a report for us....
happy new year.
chat is still down
and karen is still ken

Thanks for the breakdown and the advice.

 

[Brea0981]

Heh.

You picked the GB for your first post?? And it's about your life and relationships?? Dang. You're either very naive or brave or...something else.


You don't feel guilty, but whatever.


Not that this is advice so much as commentary, and not that you'll listen to anyone's advice anyway (if you're even real in all this). And with your inability to make good choices, words here are probably in the wind already. That said...


Not that I believe you mean that, but just for grins and giggles, you really only have one choice- new guy. Why? Well, let me just say...

Baby-daddy shits on you constantly (you know that already) and is only sniffing around again because of new guy, and once new guy is gone (and he will be if you keep the back-and-forth happening with BD and Bossman), the shitting-on begins again, guaranteed. Think more of yourself, for mercy's sake.

Bossman is married (aka, "already claimed") and is simply testing the waters because he wants to delude himself that he's still all that (which he obviously isn't since he's willing to risk his career and his kids in this mess with you). Also, getting involved with Bossman could negatively impact your job situation, despite what you may be thinking. It's not about you. It's all about him. Know that at least.

Soooo, unless you just enjoy being shit upon time and again by the guy who wouldn't do right by you to begin with, or you just want to be a jobless cog in the tear-apart-a-family machine, go with new guy. Otherwise, you'll just be fucked. Metaphorically and figuratively. Felt the need to clarify that a bit.

Happy 2018

Uhh, OK

 

[Richard_P_Feynman]

We haven't had sex.

Yet.

Have you considered a threesome with the boss and his wife?

 

[LiamAnthony]

We haven't had sex.

Even better! Keep teasing him for extra cash, see your baby papa enough for him to pay child support and babysit on weekends, and hit the boyfriend on weekends.

That's the way most of the women here do it.

 

[clistenovena]

How did her post count from April compute to you not understanding she meant in this section?

Okay, so I didn't use all my words with complete clarity. Oh, the tragedy. I'd correct it if I cared to. Which I don't.

And your perceptual advice - wrote with certitude too - should be seen as valid?

Not at all. Lets' be clear on that. Why ever would I consider my words on a posting like this as valid? OP won't listen anyway. Still, someone put it out there and I responded. I mean, hello, purpose of these boards and all? You did the very same thing. Also, I prefaced with qualifying my words as commentary, not advice. You noticed the "first post" thing but not that? I'm disappointed. Actually, I'm not. See above for why not.

Right back at you.

Again, Happy 2018. (almost- just to be very clear)

 

[Brea0981]

Ur 3 options:

1. U're in for a major boot of drama with the new guy. About right after the first sex bout.

2. Most men will like to checkout the neighborhood. Mix it up start considering 3somes etc. (if u go back to him)

3. The boss thing is not a choice. That's clearly a sex thin only. Probably some secret dating doing fun stuff. But will most probably never be anything serious.

And you seem like you've giving him hope too - hope he won't get upset if you don't put up.


Your options are mostly 1 & 2 for serious stuff. 3 is optional either way.

You either go with neither 1 nor 2, and simply wait for what you'll feel is truly Mr Right for you;

Or......... (some thunder and stroboscope plz): put the ex. on a sizzler plate not knowing if he's in or out, and occasionally date the boss, and make sure he senses it's happening.

It's a wind surfing experience, but if you play it smart, you'll end up with an ex and more importantly son's dad that u're already comfortable with down the road (many months - probably over a year or two), who is now subdued more to you.

You throw in 3somes and/or group sex, he'll be putty in ur hands.

lol that's a lot to think about but I don't do the threesome thing

 

[Brea0981]

Yet.

Have you considered a threesome with the boss and his wife?

You so nasty

 

[jaF0]

I been talking to all there but I don't wanna go into 2018 like that.

Does that mean like ... doin' the Funky Monkey? The Mattress Mamba?