Lonely desperate horny spiteful house wife

[Desperatehousewifey]

I've been with my husband for 4 years now. He was reall into me at the beginning now he doesn't show the slightest. It if interest. He would much rather be by himself and watch porn than be with me. It's getting out of hand and idk what to do. I'm mad, sad, horny, just all these things. I'm staying to think I should stop worrying about him and letttinf it have a hold of me. I'm starting to think I need to do my own thing too. Just like super out of practice but wanna be a freak but I don't have anyone to turn to. I just wanna scream!!

 

[MagnusRichard]

He is probabably here, yes?

 

[Super-Surprise]

He is probabably here, yes?

And his name is Lace, yes?

 

[Zeb_Carter]

Get all dolled up and tell him you have a date, then just leave. Don't come home until late. Mess up your hair and makeup and kind of stumble in telling him you have a very, very good time. Then go straight to the bedroom, get undressed and get into bed.

If he joins you, you made your point. Of course this could lead to complications.

If comes in yelling at you about cheating on him...laugh and tell him the truth.

If he does neither, well, you know where you stand. It might be time to leave him.

Just my opinion.

 

[1HF]

I've been with my husband for 4 years now. He was reall into me at the beginning now he doesn't show the slightest. It if interest. He would much rather be by himself and watch porn than be with me. It's getting out of hand and idk what to do. I'm mad, sad, horny, just all these things. I'm staying to think I should stop worrying about him and letttinf it have a hold of me. I'm starting to think I need to do my own thing too. Just like super out of practice but wanna be a freak but I don't have anyone to turn to. I just wanna scream!!

Oh gosh, you poor thing.

 

[Mrtenant]

Have him share his porn with you. Stop being spiteful. Make some of your own skin flicks together. Be thankful his sex drive is actually operating and get to work on meeting him and redirecting it back to you. Spite and resentment get in your way. If you love him and want him, act like it.

 

[adrina]

Have him share his porn with you. Stop being spiteful. Make some of your own skin flicks together. Be thankful his sex drive is actually operating and get to work on meeting him and redirecting it back to you. Spite and resentment get in your way. If you love him and want him, act like it.

If we are to judge him by the words you have applied to her, it is logical to say he doesn't love her or want her as he is not showing it.

 

[snugglestruggle]

I've been with my husband for 4 years now. He was reall into me at the beginning now he doesn't show the slightest. It if interest. He would much rather be by himself and watch porn than be with me. It's getting out of hand and idk what to do. I'm mad, sad, horny, just all these things. I'm staying to think I should stop worrying about him and letttinf it have a hold of me. I'm starting to think I need to do my own thing too. Just like super out of practice but wanna be a freak but I don't have anyone to turn to. I just wanna scream!!

He could already be cheating on you. If he doesn't show interest then you have a green light to find someone who does IMO.

 

[MagnusRichard]

The majority of the people here are here cheating on their spouse, so you will find much support for cheating, yes?

 

[Mrtenant]

If we are to judge him by the words you have applied to her, it is logical to say he doesn't love her or want her as he is not showing it.

Idk how you come up with that. There are likely many other factors not stated. To say otw is illogical and assuming. Sounds to me like she's gotta start somewhere. A no bullshit conversation needs to happen in any case. This way they can meet on some kind of common and ground and resolve the differences together. They just might even have some fun along the way. Spite and resentment can go nowhere and push people away in many cases.

 

[MagnusRichard]

Does he complain that you talk too much?

A man says he strangled his wife three years ago because he "just wanted her to stop talking" before hiding her body in a plastic bin on his patio and then burying her in the backyard of their home.

After he killed her*—*strangling her with his hands and then his belt —*Burgess put Madill's body in a plastic bin that sat through the winter on the patio of the home they shared in the Ramsay neighbourhood.

When the ground thawed, Burgess dug a hole in his lawn and buried her there, covering her body in dirt and branches.

"I chose my lawn because I just didn't want her to leave," Burgess told police after his arrest seven months later.

 

[adrina]

Idk how you come up with that. There are likely many other factors not stated. To say otw is illogical and assuming. Sounds to me like she's gotta start somewhere. A no bullshit conversation needs to happen in any case. This way they can meet on some kind of common and ground and resolve the differences together. They just might even have some fun along the way. Spite and resentment can go nowhere and push people away in many cases.

I don't see you how you don't understand the implication of your words. You made a rather harsh statement that implied that she didn't love him or want him because she is feeling neglected and frustrated. Yet apparently you don't apply the same conclusion to him - as he is the one actually doing the neglecting and ignoring.

Frankly your skills at deduction are lacking.

Yes they need communication. But to say that she is not acting as if she loves him or wants him - duh, she's frustrated and posting here, obvious signs of still caring - is frankly belittling to her and very judgmental.

It is just as easy to say if he loves her and wants her, then he should start acting like it.

Here's another roll eyes for you, I'll stick to one though as I don't need to over do it.

 

[plesmoreagain]

He is probabably here, yes?

I'm sorry that I have nothing to add.
But I am in love with this water sport..............

 

[MagnusRichard]

I don't see you how you don't understand the implication of your words. You made a rather harsh statement that implied that she didn't love him or want him because she is feeling neglected and frustrated. Yet apparently you don't apply the same conclusion to him - as he is the one actually doing the neglecting and ignoring.

Frankly your skills at deduction are lacking.

Yes they need communication. But to say that she is not acting as if she loves him or wants him - duh, she's frustrated and posting here, obvious signs of still caring - is frankly belittling to her and very judgmental.

It is just as easy to say if he loves her and wants her, then he should start acting like it.

Here's another roll eyes for you, I'll stick to one though as I don't need to over do it.

It is just as easy to say she is a he or she is you, yes?

He she it will probabably never post again.

Too bad this general forum has no real discussions, just name calling games.

Stupid bitches, show us your tatas.

 

[Rightguide]

I don't see you how you don't understand the implication of your words. You made a rather harsh statement that implied that she didn't love him or want him because she is feeling neglected and frustrated. Yet apparently you don't apply the same conclusion to him - as he is the one actually doing the neglecting and ignoring.

Frankly your skills at deduction are lacking.

Yes they need communication. But to say that she is not acting as if she loves him or wants him - duh, she's frustrated and posting here, obvious signs of still caring - is frankly belittling to her and very judgmental.

It is just as easy to say if he loves her and wants her, then he should start acting like it.

Here's another roll eyes for you, I'll stick to one though as I don't need to over do it.

Is it possible there's a reason why he's lost interest in her?

 

[adrina]

Is it possible there's a reason why he's lost interest in her?

Yes. I'm sure there is. But to automatically assume it's her fault is making an assumption and judgmental.

He could be a porn addict. He could have had unrealistic expectations about marriage. There are all sorts of things it could be. But to be harshly judgmental without knowing them is unfair at best.

Men usually get sympathy in these situations. Women usually get judgment.

If a man isn't getting sex from his wife, it is usually asked "What's wrong with her?"

If a woman isn't getting sex from her husband, it is usually asked "What's wrong with her?"

The double standard is appalling.

 

[Rightguide]

Yes. I'm sure there is. But to automatically assume it's her fault is making an assumption and judgmental.

He could be a porn addict. He could have had unrealistic expectations about marriage. There are all sorts of things it could be. But to be harshly judgmental without knowing them is unfair at best.

Men usually get sympathy in these situations. Women usually get judgment.

If a man isn't getting sex from his wife, it is usually asked "What's wrong with her?"

If a woman isn't getting sex from her husband, it is usually asked "What's wrong with her?"

The double standard is appalling.

Actually, women can be just as judgmental.

 

[thør]

Spiteful is a bit of a turn-off.

 

[removed9556]

 

[MagnusRichard]

Is it possible there's a reason why he's lost interest in her?

No doubt!

 

[adrina]

Actually, women can be just as judgmental.

Absolutely. Judgementalism is an equal opportunity bastard. Just like women can learn to be sexist and black people can learn to be bigoted. I'm not sure I really understand your point.

Spiteful is a bit of a turn-off.

Yes it is. But it is an assumption to say she is spiteful in general and not just reacting to the repeated rejection. Men and women are only human and when feelings get hurt, people don't always act how we want them to.

That depends somewhat on the venue. It is certainly true here. But see, for example, here , or here - and note the first few responses. I have certainly encountered the precise opposite of what you note, several times.

This isn't a competition, and I don't doubt what you say. I do think people of both sexes are far too ready to weigh in with absolutes about situations which are about as individual and deeply personal as it is possible to get.

No it is indeed not a competition. And thankfully there are people that do not get judgmental - especially on Lit. I've seen the threads here which give support. And some unfortunately, that don't - to both men and women. It's a shame as I think that when a person is paired with someone that is rejecting them it is hard on that person, and the relationship.

I defended her simply because his post was, I felt, pretty judgmental when it need not have been.

 

[thør]

Yes it is. But it is an assumption to say she is spiteful in general and not just reacting to the repeated rejection. Men and women are only human and when feelings get hurt, people don't always act how we want them to.

That's quite an assumption. As for who the spitefulness is directed at, if any singular person, it matters not to me.

 

[adrina]

That's quite an assumption. As for who the spitefulness is directed at, if any singular person, it matters not to me.

I don't understand what you mean.

How is it an assumption that we are all only human? I mean I'm not talking abotu Spock here.

Long term rejection does some real doozies on people. Anger, sadness, wanting to strike out... those things are all human emotions that happen in the real world. It would be ideal if everyone controlled themselves and kept those kind of negative feelings from affecting their actions, but that's not realistic.

 

[Aglaopheme]

Spiteful is a bit of a turn-off.

As is desperate.

 

[thør]

I don't understand what you mean.

How is it an assumption that we are all only human? I mean I'm not talking abotu Spock here.

I have known some people to be less than human beings. That might sound arrogant, but it's really a sad commentary of some of our society. I make no assumptions regarding the OP.