Share your Lit experience...

[Freckles4]

I'm pretty new to interacting in the Lit community. I joined last month, to further explore my fantasies and actually interact with like minded people. Before joining I was a lurker, as you know, some of the authors are amazing. Reading a well written erotic story does more to arouse me than any porn video ever could. Kudos to the many talented writers of Lit who have the ability to take this woman from zero to ten in a few short paragraphs. I appreciate you!!! Lol

After my first post, I had the opportunity to chat with a variety of people who had similar interests as myself or....wanted to see if I was interested in the things that turn them on. Some attempted to chastise me for my fantasies, but when I went to their profile to see what their interests are and/or what they post....their interests/fantasies seem to be kinkier than mine! Lol. Some tried to push me into their fantasies. With some there was an easy chat flow, others...it was like pulling teeth. The different interactions I had after my first post were varied and quite interesting.

I'm posting today interested in what your experience has been on Lit. Why did you join? Which part of the site do you enjoy most? What were your expectations and have they been met? I'm also curious about how the Lit experience is different for men vs women? Have you met anyone in person? Browsing the threads I've seen some interesting comments and/or rants about a poster's experience on Lit which made me what to know more. Someone posted about looking for someone to chat with but didn't want to be a part of a love triangle...is a virtual love triangle a thing? In another post I read, a woman mentioned wanting to have a chat relationship with a guy who is focused on one woman...she then mentioned that she monitored his posts and knew he was talking to other women..or trying to anyways. Is chatting with someone you met on Lit about shared sexual interests expected to be exclusive to two people? I mean, what is the general expectation? Is there one? The kinky person you express on Lit...are you the same way in real life? There's a moderator who I've seen pop up on multiple threads saying something slick about the op or some other poster. It's hilarious every time! Has anyone else peeped that? When I read the comment, it's always in a Kevin Hart voice in my head. Lol Please share any comments or experiences good, bad, or just interesting. If you don't feel comfortable posting, feel free to pm. Please excuse any typos

 

[simpletimes]

I've been a member for over 5 years. Like most it was the stories that brought me in. I decided to Hou and attempt to write a few stories. In the playground I met a great group of people. I have been with 1 lit member in rl, lasted 2 1/2 years.
I've recently got back onto the boards after a bit over a year away.

 

[socalgrl]

I have loved my time here!! Lots of naughty fun, safely behind my keyboard.

I have shared naughty PMs with lots of horny people, had a few orgasms in the process and caused many

I know many come here hoping to find a personal connection, I do not. I am here to play. All fantasy for me. I am happy to talk dirty through PM, but not interested in meeting anyone.

 

[Freckles4]

I've been a member for over 5 years. Like most it was the stories that brought me in. I decided to Hou and attempt to write a few stories. In the playground I met a great group of people. I have been with 1 lit member in rl, lasted 2 1/2 years.
I've recently got back onto the boards after a bit over a year away.

Thanks for sharing. That is so interesting....my view of Lit was just exploring virtually. I didn't think people actually met in real life...I guess that's kind of naive. I have to check out the playground...I haven't browsed there yet. The person you met irl...are they back on Lit too? If so, is it awkward? Sorry if I'm being too nosy...

 

[Freckles4]

I have loved my time here!! Lots of naughty fun, safely behind my keyboard.

I have shared naughty PMs with lots of horny people, had a few orgasms in the process and caused many

I know many come here hoping to find a personal connection, I do not. I am here to play. All fantasy for me. I am happy to talk dirty through PM, but not interested in meeting anyone.

Thank you for sharing!! I think I viewed Lit the same way. What better place to be free w/your sexual desires than the anonymity of a screen name! Lol. After reading some posts I was getting the impression people are here a variety of reasons.

 

[simpletimes]

Thanks for sharing. That is so interesting....my view of Lit was just exploring virtually. I didn't think people actually met in real life...I guess that's kind of naive. I have to check out the playground...I haven't browsed there yet. The person you met irl...are they back on Lit too? If so, is it awkward? Sorry if I'm being too nosy...

I don't believe she has ventured back. I should have stuck to the writing and chatting. Oh well, maybe someday the "wise" will catch up to the "old".
Mostly now I just read stories and browse the boards.
Lesson learned.

 

[simpletimes]

I have loved my time here!! Lots of naughty fun, safely behind my keyboard.

I have shared naughty PMs with lots of horny people, had a few orgasms in the process and caused many

I know many come here hoping to find a personal connection, I do not. I am here to play. All fantasy for me. I am happy to talk dirty through PM, but not interested in meeting anyone.

A very smart way to be.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

First off, Welcome to Lit! It's always great to see new posters starting to communicate with others. I hope your stay here is fulfilling for you.

I have some 50,000 posts. Mine is a tale of woe. I do not actively seek companionship or eroticism all the time I post. I flirt and pretend to stalk frequently. I am the type that thinks, on occasion, a woman doesn't always get the type of public gratification of being told they are yummy enough - so I like to try and make them feel welcome and desired.

When I DO have the opportunity to play, it is always with the knowledge that I am temporary. Once the sexual tension starts dissipating, almost always the woman stops corresponding with me. Frequently, one of us will take a short trip while in the heat of the moment. But, upon returning it is easy to see that, "the moment was lost."

Some women want more of a friendship than a romance. When I write to them,
and we start chatting, it becomes easy to see that they wanted romance after all - just not with me. They stop writing (presumably due to being "busy.") and even that for of communication dries up to nothingness.

Continuing my tale of, "loser-ness," even with 50,000 posts, nobody really knows me. That's OK since I am not actively trying to stay with anyone. The various "Who do you appreciate" threads that crop up occasionally remind me of the lack of impact I have on the boards. Again, that's OK. I usually just play in the word game threads, and occasionally flirt and stalk women relentlessly...but all in good fun.

So, while my particular tale is, most likely, NOT like any of the other guys in Lit,
the takeaway shouldn't be that I can't keep a girlfriend...lol...it is that I am still here. I still enjoy the bantering, the flirting, the threads I frequent. It continues to be an enjoyable way to pass time.

And when, on the infrequent occasions I stumble upon a woman i enjoy chatting with, and decide to woo, the exhilaration remains. I doubt that much of what I've written applies to ANY woman....but this is one man's perspective of being on Lit.

Good luck with your search and enjoy your play time....

I'm pretty new to interacting in the Lit community. I joined last month, to further explore my fantasies and actually interact with like minded people. Before joining I was a lurker, as you know, some of the authors are amazing. Reading a well written erotic story does more to arouse me than any porn video ever could. Kudos to the many talented writers of Lit who have the ability to take this woman from zero to ten in a few short paragraphs. I appreciate you!!! Lol

After my first post, I had the opportunity to chat with a variety of people who had similar interests as myself or....wanted to see if I was interested in the things that turn them on. Some attempted to chastise me for my fantasies, but when I went to their profile to see what their interests are and/or what they post....their interests/fantasies seem to be kinkier than mine! Lol. Some tried to push me into their fantasies. With some there was an easy chat flow, others...it was like pulling teeth. The different interactions I had after my first post were varied and quite interesting.

I'm posting today interested in what your experience has been on Lit. Why did you join? Which part of the site do you enjoy most? What were your expectations and have they been met? I'm also curious about how the Lit experience is different for men vs women? Have you met anyone in person? Browsing the threads I've seen some interesting comments and/or rants about a poster's experience on Lit which made me what to know more. Someone posted about looking for someone to chat with but didn't want to be a part of a love triangle...is a virtual love triangle a thing? In another post I read, a woman mentioned wanting to have a chat relationship with a guy who is focused on one woman...she then mentioned that she monitored his posts and knew he was talking to other women..or trying to anyways. Is chatting with someone you met on Lit about shared sexual interests expected to be exclusive to two people? I mean, what is the general expectation? Is there one? The kinky person you express on Lit...are you the same way in real life? There's a moderator who I've seen pop up on multiple threads saying something slick about the op or some other poster. It's hilarious every time! Has anyone else peeped that? When I read the comment, it's always in a Kevin Hart voice in my head. Lol Please share any comments or experiences good, bad, or just interesting. If you don't feel comfortable posting, feel free to pm. Please excuse any typos

 

[DrDelirium]

I haven't been on Lit long. I have some story projects I am working on, but life has been getting in the way, and besides, mostly I'm a visual artist. I've talked to a few interesting people and have found them saner, by and large, and contrary to expectations, than the people I've met on a vanilla dating site I recently signed up for, and so far nobody here has asked me for money!
As for expectations and intentions, not much of the former and the latter seem to be somewhat unusual- I enjoy talking to articulate women, including about sex, but I'm not really interested in getting off on-line. If I meet someone here who shares my interests and seems compatible, I'd much rather meet IRL and see what we can make happen. Some of the people that I've really enjoyed talking to are not people whose interests I share, and whom I would not care to have a 'relationship' with, but that seems to be a minority attitude.

 

[Freckles4]

First off, Welcome to Lit! It's always great to see new posters starting to communicate with others. I hope your stay here is fulfilling for you.

I have some 50,000 posts. Mine is a tale of woe. I do not actively seek companionship or eroticism all the time I post. I flirt and pretend to stalk frequently. I am the type that thinks, on occasion, a woman doesn't always get the type of public gratification of being told they are yummy enough - so I like to try and make them feel welcome and desired.

When I DO have the opportunity to play, it is always with the knowledge that I am temporary. Once the sexual tension starts dissipating, almost always the woman stops corresponding with me. Frequently, one of us will take a short trip while in the heat of the moment. But, upon returning it is easy to see that, "the moment was lost."

Some women want more of a friendship than a romance. When I write to them,
and we start chatting, it becomes easy to see that they wanted romance after all - just not with me. They stop writing (presumably due to being "busy.") and even that for of communication dries up to nothingness.

Continuing my tale of, "loser-ness," even with 50,000 posts, nobody really knows me. That's OK since I am not actively trying to stay with anyone. The various "Who do you appreciate" threads that crop up occasionally remind me of the lack of impact I have on the boards. Again, that's OK. I usually just play in the word game threads, and occasionally flirt and stalk women relentlessly...but all in good fun.

So, while my particular tale is, most likely, NOT like any of the other guys in Lit,
the takeaway shouldn't be that I can't keep a girlfriend...lol...it is that I am still here. I still enjoy the bantering, the flirting, the threads I frequent. It continues to be an enjoyable way to pass time.

And when, on the infrequent occasions I stumble upon a woman i enjoy chatting with, and decide to woo, the exhilaration remains. I doubt that much of what I've written applies to ANY woman....but this is one man's perspective of being on Lit.

Good luck with your search and enjoy your play time....

I appreciate your thorough and entertaining response! It's so interesting to hear how one person's experience is so different than the next.

 

[Freckles4]

I haven't been on Lit long. I have some story projects I am working on, but life has been getting in the way, and besides, mostly I'm a visual artist. I've talked to a few interesting people and have found them saner, by and large, and contrary to expectations, than the people I've met on a vanilla dating site I recently signed up for, and so far nobody here has asked me for money!
As for expectations and intentions, not much of the former and the latter seem to be somewhat unusual- I enjoy talking to articulate women, including about sex, but I'm not really interested in getting off on-line. If I meet someone here who shares my interests and seems compatible, I'd much rather meet IRL and see what we can make happen. Some of the people that I've really enjoyed talking to are not people whose interests I share, and whom I would not care to have a 'relationship' with, but that seems to be a minority attitude.

Thank you for your input. You said you like talking to articulate women...I've found that most of the people I've interacted with here are very articulate. More so than in other environments...I've wondered if it's because people often come to Lit to read the stories and people who read a lot tend to be more articulate...? Just a theory...

 

[Freckles4]

I haven't been on Lit long. I have some story projects I am working on, but life has been getting in the way, and besides, mostly I'm a visual artist. I've talked to a few interesting people and have found them saner, by and large, and contrary to expectations, than the people I've met on a vanilla dating site I recently signed up for, and so far nobody here has asked me for money!
As for expectations and intentions, not much of the former and the latter seem to be somewhat unusual- I enjoy talking to articulate women, including about sex, but I'm not really interested in getting off on-line. If I meet someone here who shares my interests and seems compatible, I'd much rather meet IRL and see what we can make happen. Some of the people that I've really enjoyed talking to are not people whose interests I share, and whom I would not care to have a 'relationship' with, but that seems to be a minority attitude.

Wait...what is a minority attitude? Not wanting to have a relationship?

 

[mikey858]

Well since I just started interacting this week...
... I guess, I'm still trying to figure out the "why" exactly. But that in itself is probably an indication. It's all about exploration.

I first started visiting Lit years ago to read stories. Then stumbled upon the audio section (!!). I don't remember exactly how I stumbled upon the boards. But I signed up many, many years ago and just lurked (very, very occasionally).

I'd say in the last 6 months or so, I've felt the urge to be a bit more adventurous in life. I've found, in very tiny corner within myself, a slight exhibitionist. Have tried some online play, and I even found it in me to visit a fetish house for some light, safe exploration. I've found these experiences to be ... I dunno ... liberating? Digging around on the Lit boards I saw a fun--and welcoming--environment for people to express and explore their fantasies and desires. For someone pretty shy and reserved, it's nice to know there's a community to at least dip a toe in.

 

[quietlylooking]

I've been on Lit for about 5 years. My experiences have been mostly positive. As a happily married woman, I joined without any expectation of interacting with anyone. While my sex drive is higher (at times, much higher) than my husband's, I thought that by writing and reading about other people and their sexual adventures, my needs might be in some way fulfilled.

I didn't expect to meet men who would be interested in a middle-aged woman who lacked confidence. However... there are many more men than women here. I've met some truly special men over the years. Men who would never have glanced my way in real life (nor guessed my secret inner world). In some cases, I strayed farther than I probably should have. Yes, definitely, I have. Their interest in me made me feel confident again, gave me hope, made me feel alive. I don't regret any of that.

I have realized that many men here are primarily looking for something different from what I was seeking. Over years, passions may fade, and emotional connection... while it made the physical intensity stronger, it's perhaps not what they were seeking here as they have plenty of that it in their real lives. I have learned to appreciate what I have in my real life, and while I miss my past virtual life, I don't regret it.

 

[DrDelirium]

Wait...what is a minority attitude? Not wanting to have a relationship?

Not wanting to have an online-only relationship.
Your theory might have weight. Of course, so far the only people, if that's the right word, that I've talked to at this vanilla dating site are running some kind of scam, and I'm pretty sure English isn't their first language. Perhaps they are quite articulate in Yoruba.
All in all, it's starting to look like picking up chicks in sleazy bars or, if you have a van, the parking lot of the Seven Eleven, is a better bet for establishing face-to-face communications than any of these sites.

 

[Freckles4]

Well since I just started interacting this week...
... I guess, I'm still trying to figure out the "why" exactly. But that in itself is probably an indication. It's all about exploration.

I first started visiting Lit years ago to read stories. Then stumbled upon the audio section (!!). I don't remember exactly how I stumbled upon the boards. But I signed up many, many years ago and just lurked (very, very occasionally).

I'd say in the last 6 months or so, I've felt the urge to be a bit more adventurous in life. I've found, in very tiny corner within myself, a slight exhibitionist. Have tried some online play, and I even found it in me to visit a fetish house for some light, safe exploration. I've found these experiences to be ... I dunno ... liberating? Digging around on the Lit boards I saw a fun--and welcoming--environment for people to express and explore their fantasies and desires. For someone pretty shy and reserved, it's nice to know there's a community to at least dip a toe in.

For you Lit was a kind of starting point to "dip your toe in"....same here. Seems to be a common theme in some of the pm's I received. It sounds like Lit gave you the confidence to do some exploring in real life. What is this fetish house that you speak of?!! Lol

 

[Freckles4]

Quietlylooking.....Thank you for sharing! If you don't mind me asking....what do you mean when you say you strayed further than you should have? In what way? Also, Is/was your husband aware that you visit Lit? Do you consider virtual relationships....or chatting with other men cheating? Do you think your interactions on Lit enhanced your marriage or affected in negatively in any way? Feel free to pm if you don't feel comfortable sharing here.

Why do I ask so many questions.....Human interactions fascinate me.

 

[quietlylooking]

I don't think he was aware that I was on Lit specifically, but I did have frank conversations with him at the time about my sexual needs and interests, and tried to include him... but he wasn't interested, became uncomfortable. He was aware I was spending time on the internet, and he knew I had online friends with whom I chatted. He's a smart guy; I'm sure he put two and two together. I tried to always find men who lived a great distance away.

I think in some ways my Lit interactions enhanced my marriage. They fulfilled certain needs related to sex that my husband was not interested in exploring. At times I spent more time online than I probably should have, although the same could have been true for other hobbies and interests and activities. However, the online relationships did energize me and motivate me and gave me a certain will to live my life more fully and vitally in other ways. The virtual interactions made me think a lot about relationships, and ultimately led me to realize how much I do love my husband and to gain a greater appreciation for him and us and what we do have (a strong and sustaining bond, albeit not matched in one area).

I became emotionally attached to one man in particular, and to some extent to another. In one case, I may have unintentionally and indirectly caused some stress in someone else's marriage (which I believe has healed and become strong again), and I greatly regret that.

On several rare occasions, geography ended up not being a total barrier because of work-related travel. I was fortunate enough to meet several of my Lit friends in person. They were positive experiences overall, and while I do have some guilt over them, I don't regret them other than the pain I inadvertently caused in one case. I did learn from all of this.

 

[LanguageOfLove]

Hi Frekles4,

My experience on being here was a great one. I only joined last month at first to get feedback on which stories to read. However, instead of finding more stories, I ended up having some good, funny, and helpful conversations in posts and chats about how to express certain things to my husband. This was very helpful, as I hadn't really talked about it much before.
My relationship with my husband is much better than before, in many ways. I believe sharing what I wanted in my relationship with others helped in that regard.

Happy Posting.

 

[InSearchofIncredible]

My experience here is somewhat short as I've been on for about six months. I've been mostly interested in the stories, which by the way are fabulous and so creative. But I also have been interested in starting up PMs. I have some success, but recently not so. I started about 3-4 chats with other women that continued for a bit, then all of a sudden I stopped hearing from all of them. I think if one is no longer interested, at least have the common courtesy to say so. I mean it's pretty safe to hide behind a keyboard and remain faceless and nameless, so what's the harm in being honest if one doesn't care to continue chatting. I realize there can be extenuating circumstances.

 

[txgent101]

Lit Experience

Have been on and off of Lit for several years. Enjoy stories, certain threads, occasional p.m. conversations, and (most recently) the Lit chat.
http://www.literotica.com/newchat/

I have learned many things about sexual matters since being on Lit. Stuff I would never have cottoned on to prior to the Internet. Most of it is good and enjoyable. The nice thing is that one gets to pick and choose which threads/stories to indulge in.

And the site is 'fair'; that is, it carefully excludes illegal or barbaric behavior in stories or posts. I feel fairly 'safe' interacting here. You can be anonymous and yet not unknown; just reveal or share as much as you wish. Someone used the word 'liberating'; yes I would agree with that.

I am single and retired, so have time for this. At my advanced age (80), Lit helps keep my fires 'Lit'.

Of course, Lit is free which is a plus!

 

[Blase]

Wait...what is a minority attitude? Not wanting to have a relationship?

Not wanting to have an online-only relationship.
Your theory might have weight. Of course, so far the only people, if that's the right word, that I've talked to at this vanilla dating site are running some kind of scam, and I'm pretty sure English isn't their first language. Perhaps they are quite articulate in Yoruba.
All in all, it's starting to look like picking up chicks in sleazy bars or, if you have a van, the parking lot of the Seven Eleven, is a better bet for establishing face-to-face communications than any of these sites.

Your dismay is perhaps a bit premature, Doctor.

It's certainly true that Lit presents straight males with at least two major challenges; namely, a lopsided ratio of men to women, and the fact that any given person one may meet on the site is unlikely to live close by (there is also the matter of a significant number of faux females, but never mind that, just now...) Even with those handicaps, I still prefer Lit as a venue for meeting people over either sleazy bars or convenience store parking lots.

Why? Because reading a woman's posts and profile, as well as exchanging messages, allows me to learn a fair amount about her manner, intellect, and fantasies before I ever meet her in real life - Or even contact her, in some cases. That, to me, is worth a great deal.

I note that you have only been here since May, and your posts currently number just over 300. That is a good beginning, but in an environment with such a widely spread membership, so many voices being raised, and people leaving and joining every day... It's just a start.

 

[Freckles4]

I don't think he was aware that I was on Lit specifically, but I did have frank conversations with him at the time about my sexual needs and interests, and tried to include him... but he wasn't interested, became uncomfortable. He was aware I was spending time on the internet, and he knew I had online friends with whom I chatted. He's a smart guy; I'm sure he put two and two together. I tried to always find men who lived a great distance away.

I think in some ways my Lit interactions enhanced my marriage. They fulfilled certain needs related to sex that my husband was not interested in exploring. At times I spent more time online than I probably should have, although the same could have been true for other hobbies and interests and activities. However, the online relationships did energize me and motivate me and gave me a certain will to live my life more fully and vitally in other ways. The virtual interactions made me think a lot about relationships, and ultimately led me to realize how much I do love my husband and to gain a greater appreciation for him and us and what we do have (a strong and sustaining bond, albeit not matched in one area).

I became emotionally attached to one man in particular, and to some extent to another. In one case, I may have unintentionally and indirectly caused some stress in someone else's marriage (which I believe has healed and become strong again), and I greatly regret that.

On several rare occasions, geography ended up not being a total barrier because of work-related travel. I was fortunate enough to meet several of my Lit friends in person. They were positive experiences overall, and while I do have some guilt over them, I don't regret them other than the pain I inadvertently caused in one case. I did learn from all of this.

It sounds like you have a very interesting experience with Lit. I'd love to know more but I won't push it! Lol. Thanks for sharing

 

[Freckles4]

Have been on and off of Lit for several years. Enjoy stories, certain threads, occasional p.m. conversations, and (most recently) the Lit chat.
http://www.literotica.com/newchat/

I have learned many things about sexual matters since being on Lit. Stuff I would never have cottoned on to prior to the Internet. Most of it is good and enjoyable. The nice thing is that one gets to pick and choose which threads/stories to indulge in.

And the site is 'fair'; that is, it carefully excludes illegal or barbaric behavior in stories or posts. I feel fairly 'safe' interacting here. You can be anonymous and yet not unknown; just reveal or share as much as you wish. Someone used the word 'liberating'; yes I would agree with that.

I am single and retired, so have time for this. At my advanced age (80), Lit helps keep my fires 'Lit'.

Of course, Lit is free which is a plus!

Amazing!! Have fun

 

[Freckles4]

My experience here is somewhat short as I've been on for about six months. I've been mostly interested in the stories, which by the way are fabulous and so creative. But I also have been interested in starting up PMs. I have some success, but recently not so. I started about 3-4 chats with other women that continued for a bit, then all of a sudden I stopped hearing from all of them. I think if one is no longer interested, at least have the common courtesy to say so. I mean it's pretty safe to hide behind a keyboard and remain faceless and nameless, so what's the harm in being honest if one doesn't care to continue chatting. I realize there can be extenuating circumstances.

If needing someone to let you know if they're not interested rather than them just going ghost is important to you....consider letting them know that early on in your chat. They may honor it, they may not. We can't control what other people do...

My experiences may give you some insight. I've chatted with quite a few people over the last month and sometimes the convo just fizzles out....It's nothing to be offended about, in my opinion, not everyone vibes well. With pm's, I sometimes read the pm and if I don't answer it right away due to time restrictions, I may forget to respond all together...or think I already responded when I really didn't. Sometimes it takes a bit to get through messages. As you stated, they may not be responding...well, because..*****. I do make an effort to respond to everyone because you never know who you may click with. There are times I'm at a loss on how to respond to those one line initial pm's...sometimes I don't because I just don't know what to say. Lol. Anyway, don't lose hope in finding whatever it is you seek in a chat partner. Thanks for posting