I have a stupid question that I may know the answer but find it hard to believe.

[SusanJillParker]

Perhaps horny men are, perhaps perverted men are, and/or perhaps lonely men are too but are normal men turned on by female merely touching them but not in a sexual way, such as doctors, female nurses, dental hygienists, hair stylists, physical therapists, and/or massage therapists who are just going about their jobs?

I imagine they would be if she was sexy enough and attractive enough. Yet, what if she's just average?

Does it take nothing more than the subtle touch of a woman, any woman, to turn on a horny man, a perverted man, a lonely man, or any man?

I suppose if the man was horny enough, perverted enough, and/or lonely but it just seems odd that men are so easy sexually and women are more particular. Perhaps that would explain the slam bam sexual behavior of some men.

"Oh, my God! She kept touching me while taking my blood pressure...cleaning my teeth...cutting my hair...and massaging my shoulder. I think she likes me," said Jack. "I'm going to ask her out and maybe even ask her to marry me (lol)."

I'm trying to develop a character for a story of a man who's easily, sexually aroused. Would any of the above be believable? What do you think?

 

[jburton042]

Describing said man as horny, perverted, or lonely would make sense. It would make the situation automatically creepy, though. I think said man would be better described as awkward or lacking self-confidence to fit that situation more naturally. Unless, of course, you're going for creepy.

 

[AwkwardMD]

You should look into a youtube phenomenon called ASMR, and the wildly different responses that male ASMRtists get vs femalr ASMRtists.

 

[oggbashan]

The answer to the original post is:

Probably.

It's not just that she is a woman, but that she is providing some sort of personal care. That in itself can be seen as a sexual act.

For most men it wouldn't make any difference that the personal care is provided by a man or a woman. If the man is prone to experience a high degree of sexual attraction in normal social situations the closeness of the woman and the intimate action would be arousing.

But the normal reaction would be to ignore it, not take it as an invitation. But if the man has a high sex drive and has been without contact with women for some time, the situation could be awkward.

In the words of the song from "South Pacific" - "There Ain't Nothing Like A Dame".

 

[zotique]

I suppose if a man was lonely enough, horny enough, selfish enough and disrespectful enough he might.

There is a time and a place for everything.

If a woman is a professional at her trade, just because she is nice to me and has to touch me as part of the job, there is no way I am going to assume it is anything else but the job she is doing, be it cutting hair, fitting shoes, cleaning teeth or whatever.

 

[Sir Victor]

I had a cute, mid 20s dental hygenist who used to recline the chair, and somehow
lean over my head to look in my mouth and do her work. The geometry doesn't
seem quite right but somehow her tits would very gently touch my face. I loved the
tease, thought it was cute as could be, but no, though I enjoyed it, I did not get hard
or much aroused other than thinking how nice it would be to feel her up.
What you are asking is much more true for a guy in his teens or early 20s where
anything sexual springs up a hardon.

My girlfriends got me hard in public often when I was a teen!

This was fun, I'd been drinking and didn't much care:
http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=84612350&postcount=141

 

[SimonDoom]

Absolutely, yes, this can be a sensual and erotic experience for a man. Not always, but it can be. I can think of examples of getting a hair cut, or having my teeth cleaned by a dental hygienist, or receiving a massage, where the touch of a woman's hands or her proximity was in one way or another somewhat erotic. I've been working on the idea for a story along these lines.

Part of what makes something erotic -- for me, anyway -- is the unexpected: the experience of something as erotic that isn't supposed to be, or meant to be, erotic.

 

[oggbashan]

Being aroused by the situation is a normal response by a young man.

Doing anything about it? That would not be normal, nor polite.

 

[8letters]

Perhaps horny men are, perhaps perverted men are, and/or perhaps lonely men are too but are normal men turned on by female merely touching them but not in a sexual way, such as doctors, female nurses, dental hygienists, hair stylists, physical therapists, and/or massage therapists who are just going about their jobs?

I imagine they would be if she was sexy enough and attractive enough. Yet, what if she's just average?

Does it take nothing more than the subtle touch of a woman, any woman, to turn on a horny man, a perverted man, a lonely man, or any man?

I suppose if the man was horny enough, perverted enough, and/or lonely but it just seems odd that men are so easy sexually and women are more particular. Perhaps that would explain the slam bam sexual behavior of some men.

"Oh, my God! She kept touching me while taking my blood pressure...cleaning my teeth...cutting my hair...and massaging my shoulder. I think she likes me," said Jack. "I'm going to ask her out and maybe even ask her to marry me (lol)."

I'm trying to develop a character for a story of a man who's easily, sexually aroused. Would any of the above be believable? What do you think?

You're confusing a number of issues.
#1 There are guys who will ask out any attractive female they have a casual acquaintance with regardless of age difference, etc.
#2 I think that some guys find a certain type of touch erotic even though the vast majority of guys don't. When I was 24, I worked with a guy who was probably 30 years my senior. He strongly recommend going to a particular stylist to get my hair cut. I did. She was young, attractive and professional. She did a nice job of cutting my hair, but nothing special. I talked to the guy later and he said, "Didn't you love the way she rubbed the shampoo into your hair?" He then went on and on about how good her fingers felt. The whole time, I was thinking, "She just rubbed shampoo into my hair. It was no big deal."
#3 For a guy who is easily sexually aroused, visual stimulus will effect him more than touch as there is so much visual stimulus. Every time he sees a pretty woman who is attractively dressed, he gets aroused.

 

[AwkwardMD]

Look into ASMR. Seriously.

Of course, if what you want is to bait argument and get into mud slinging, then continue.

 

[AwkwardMD]

Autonomous sensory meridian response (ASMR) is an experience characterised by a static-like or tingling sensation on the skin that typically begins on the scalp and moves down the back of the neck and upper spine. It has been compared with auditory-tactile synesthesia.[1][2] ASMR signifies the subjective experience of "low-grade euphoria" characterised by "a combination of positive feelings and a distinct static-like tingling sensation on the skin". It is most commonly triggered by specific acoustic, visual and digital media stimuli, and less commonly by intentional attentional control.

The ASMRtist films themselves performing a variety of tasks directly to or around the camera, creating a variety of sounds, while the viewer watches and listens with a good pair of ear buds. Personal attention of a non-sexual nature is a massively-popular trigger for this calming, euphoric sensation. ASMR is an unconscious response that not everyone experiences, but those of us that do know it can be triggered by just about anything. The fact that it's an unconscious response speaks volumes about human beings as social creatures and our deep need for attention, understanding, and interaction.

 

[AwkwardMD]

I could link hundreds of videos, each with 100,000+ views, for each of those kinds of jobs; dental hygenest, doctor or nurse performing a cranial nerve exam, head massage, hair cut, applying makeup, measuring facial dimensions for plastic surgery, energy healing/reiki.

 

[AwkwardMD]

The evolutionary purpose of ASMR is a neat discussion.

 

[holliday1960]

I have a different take on this. Think about this carefully. Humans convey messages using all their senses. Touch is certainly the most powerful of those. The way I look at someone or touch someone who I find unattractive is not going to be the same way I look at or touch someone to whom I do have an attraction.

Most people can sense if another is not receptive to their touch. Openness or receptiveness doesn't mean either party will act on touch alone. But, it is far more likely that if I touch a man in a way that indicates I am not repulsed by him, he may respond physically.

There are other less obvious examples, such as a cashier who hands you change, or a bartender who hands you a drink, a stranger who holds open a door for a woman. Over all body language will send more clues than just a look or touch alone. A woman who brushes your face with her breasts when cleaning your teeth, is most likely aware she is sending a signal. Otherwise, she would say, "Oops, Sorry!"

And, men are not the only ones who respond this way. My 19 yr old came home from work last week and said, "So-and-so grabbed me by the waist tonight to move me out of his way. I thought I would hit the floor. It was so sexy the way he touched me. It made me weak." I asked her if she liked the guy in a sexual way and she said,"I don't want to date him, but I like him. He's not unattractive. It was just the way he touched me. It got a big response."

 

[Bramblethorn]

Long ago, I read an advice-column letter from a young man who was terrified he might be gay because he enjoyed the feeling of having his hair shampooed by a hairdresser - who happened to be male. Some people will sexualise any physical contact with another human being, especially if it's enjoyable.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Starting in 1967 I studied people. I know people well and dislike most I collide with. I'm hard to impress.

Our senses are how we interact with others. Smell and sound are my most developed senses. Smell and sound are the road to my heart. Ivanka's voice turns me off. Skinny girls turn me off. I hate touch, and suspect I'm autistic. I generally dslike extreme skin coloring, so no Africans or Swede's for me. Mediterranean is what I want tho Greeks need not apply. Italians, Spaniards, and North Africans are the best.

I avoid being OCD about character traits, because traits effect readers, good and bad. I don't wanna read about blonde FOX girls.

 

[HectorBidon]

Look into ASMR. Seriously.

I'm so glad I happened upon your post. I was not aware of ASMR, although I've experienced a pleasurable tingling of my spine from time to time throughout my life. It could be triggered in different ways. One time a hairdresser was telling me that she was studying massage, and she demonstrated by pressing my back in a way that made me tingle. Another time a guy in study hall asked to see my slide rule, and I got the tingle just from watching him try to figure it out. I always thought that other people must get this sensation too, and thanks to your post I now see that it is widely known.

I hadn't experienced the feeling in a long time, and kind of figured that my susceptibility had worn out. But I tried one of the youtube videos you suggested and it made me tingle all over:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kovSSUiaUYI

The actress is quite pretty, and so the tingling had a pleasant sexual overtone. I think that the types of touching and intimacy that the OP mentions may evoke a range of responses, from nothing to ASMR to full blown arousal, depending on the person and the circumstances.

What I'm wondering now is whether ASMR can be triggered through prose. I can't call to mind any particular passages that made me tingle, but there probably have been some.

 

[SusanJillParker]

The ASMRtist films themselves performing a variety of tasks directly to or around the camera, creating a variety of sounds, while the viewer watches and listens with a good pair of ear buds. Personal attention of a non-sexual nature is a massively-popular trigger for this calming, euphoric sensation. ASMR is an unconscious response that not everyone experiences, but those of us that do know it can be triggered by just about anything. The fact that it's an unconscious response speaks volumes about human beings as social creatures and our deep need for attention, understanding, and interaction.

So...just so I understand. Is ASMR why monkey's groom themselves? I thought they were looking for bugs. In essence...we're no better than monkeys.

(Key monkey sounds in the background.)

Home from college, John and Mary were up in John's bedroom, um, studying ASMR,
autonomous, sensor,y meridian response.

"Hey," said Mary to John. "Lemme try that. It really feels as if you're breaking an imaginary egg over my head."

John stared at Mary's shapely body while removing his shirt.

"It works much better if we remove our clothes," said John.

"Okay," said Mary. "I'm always game for a, um, scientific experiment."

 

[AwkwardMD]

What I'm wondering now is whether ASMR can be triggered through prose. I can't call to mind any particular passages that made me tingle, but there probably have been some.

I wrote a story about a woman who makes erotic ASMR, and i experimented with alternating third and second person narrative to show which scenes were supposed to be ASMR. One reader left me a comment that it gave them tingles; mission accomplished!

 

[MoonlightandRoses]

Susan, I’m never sure how serious you are, but you are always interesting. But before I get into that how come you never finished your naked day story? Ok, now you asked a number of questions, but I’ll answer the last one – “Does it take nothing more than the subtle touch of a woman, any woman, to turn on a horny man, a perverted man, a lonely man, or any man?” My answer is sometimes. Gentle, caring touching can be pleasurable and that pleasure could be sexual, but on the other hand it may not be. I’m not sure what you mean by “perverted.” You also wrote “. . . it just seems odd that men are so easy sexually and women are more particular.” I’m not sure what you mean by “. . . women are more particular.” In my opinion women and men are much more similar than people in our culture seem to believe and that the major differences in the feelings of the average woman and the average man has more to do with our culture than anything that is biological.

Moonlight and Roses,

 

[fertile_babygirl]

As a Nurse, I have had to touch penises for medical reasons and probably because they didn't find me attractive (I dont try to go to work looking hot lol) or because I tried to make it as comfortable as I could and as professional.

But I think it's possible. Perhaps the individual is simply super sensitive to touch period?

 

[SusanJillParker]

Susan, I’m never sure how serious you are, but you are always interesting. But before I get into that how come you never finished your naked day story? Ok, now you asked a number of questions, but I’ll answer the last one – “Does it take nothing more than the subtle touch of a woman, any woman, to turn on a horny man, a perverted man, a lonely man, or any man?” My answer is sometimes. Gentle, caring touching can be pleasurable and that pleasure could be sexual, but on the other hand it may not be. I’m not sure what you mean by “perverted.” You also wrote “. . . it just seems odd that men are so easy sexually and women are more particular.” I’m not sure what you mean by “. . . women are more particular.” In my opinion women and men are much more similar than people in our culture seem to believe and that the major differences in the feelings of the average woman and the average man has more to do with our culture than anything that is biological.

Moonlight and Roses,

Huh?
What? Didn't finish my Nude Day story (lol)?

Mom, Sis, Aunt & Cuz Naked finished with 8 chapters and nearly 70,000 words the end of May. You must have missed reading the last chapter.

My new Nude Day story, Mom & Son Celebrate Nude Day Naked, about 45,000 words will post on June 20th.

In answer to your post, I suspect that men are horny and women, for the most part, being more realistic about pregnancy, abortion, and marriage, are not.

Thanks for your post.

 

[MoonlightandRoses]

Susan, help me out where is the rest of the story. I only found page 2 of chapter 1. But Susan “. . . being more realistic about pregnancy, abortion, and marriage” is logical. Being horny and getting turned on is emotional. My suspicion is that while the problems of unwanted pregnancy subconsciously plays a role, the main issue is that women are “conditioned” to downplay sexual desire for the opposite sex so as not to be “sluts” while men are “conditioned” to maximize sexual desire for the opposite sex so as not to be “gay.”

Moonlight and Roses,

 

[SusanJillParker]

Susan, help me out where is the rest of the story. I only found page 2 of chapter 1. But Susan “. . . being more realistic about pregnancy, abortion, and marriage” is logical. Being horny and getting turned on is emotional. My suspicion is that while the problems of unwanted pregnancy subconsciously plays a role, the main issue is that women are “conditioned” to downplay sexual desire for the opposite sex so as not to be “sluts” while men are “conditioned” to maximize sexual desire for the opposite sex so as not to be “gay.”

Moonlight and Roses,

The attached links to the story, Mom, Sis, Aunt, & Cuz Naked are below:

https://www.literotica.com/s/mom-sis-aunt-and-cuz-naked-ch-01

https://www.literotica.com/s/mom-sis-aunt-and-cuz-naked-ch-02

https://www.literotica.com/s/mom-sis-aunt-and-cuz-naked-ch-03

https://www.literotica.com/s/mom-sis-aunt-and-cuz-naked-ch-04

https://www.literotica.com/s/mom-sis-aunt-and-cuz-naked-ch-05

https://www.literotica.com/s/mom-sis-aunt-and-cuz-naked-ch-06

https://www.literotica.com/s/mom-sis-aunt-and-cuz-naked-ch-07

https://www.literotica.com/s/mom-sis-aunt-and-cuz-naked-ch-08

 

[AwkwardMD]

The conditioning is different depending on your experience. My mom talked to me about how the burden would be on me (with pregnancy; it was all about pregnancy), and that I had to be responsible, but other girls I grew up with got to the same place without their mom giving them 'the talk'.