Open Relationship

[StormyWindows]

I have a friend who is in a very successful open relationship. How do you even begin to have that conversation to just even talk about it see if it is right for a relationship?

 

[NightL]

So how did your friend answer that question?

One scenario is both in a relationship are flirtatious by nature and both are comfortable and accepting of those flirtations. Progressively develops from both rather stemming from a conversation from one eager partner.

I am curious as to "very successful". Is that for both in the relationship? How long has the understanding been in place? How aware are you of their journey?

Not all that glitters is gold.

 

[LeinadVirgo]

I have a friend who is in a very successful open relationship. How do you even begin to have that conversation to just even talk about it see if it is right for a relationship?

My experience is going into an poly/open relationship, so that conversation never really came up. But the first thing you have to do before even bringing it up, really ask yourself why you want it. You want to throw a very complex question, you should start by knowing what you would want to get out of it, what you would give up, and have a understanding of how your relationship was built and its strengths/weaknesses.

I'm not an expert, but i feel these are things anybody in a commited relationship should occasionally ask themselves.

 

[SissySalina]

I have a friend who is in a very successful open relationship. How do you even begin to have that conversation to just even talk about it see if it is right for a relationship?

sissy wonders is StormyWindows asking about changing a relationship or curious what it would be like in an open relationship?
Would there be a reason to question the direction of the relationship?
Most people cannot understand an open relationship because relationships are complex and for both parties to want an open relationship is an un-natural thing.
What appears to be successful may not be. Do you know both parties that well or just going by one side of the relationship?

If both parties are open to an open relationship then there are signs of this in the relationship and bringing up the subject should be easy, just like any other conversation between involved parties.

 

[Lascivity]

It is, for what it's worth, much easier to find someone who is at ease with the idea than talk someone who isn't on board with the idea around to it. Some cultural things are just too ingrained - and, to be honest, poly just isn't right for some people.

If you just want to get talking about it, a good way to do so would be to mention the couple you talk about in this post to your significant other, and discuss what you think that kind of relationship must be like.

 

[tryn2Bgood]

You just say, "What do you think about couples that have an open relationship?" Then take it from there depending on their response...it either turns into a serious discussion, laugh it off as a joke, or toss it out the window if they had a drastically negative reaction. It's really not all that difficult.

 

[StormyWindows]

So how did your friend answer that question?

One scenario is both in a relationship are flirtatious by nature and both are comfortable and accepting of those flirtations. Progressively develops from both rather stemming from a conversation from one eager partner.

I am curious as to "very successful". Is that for both in the relationship? How long has the understanding been in place? How aware are you of their journey?

Not all that glitters is gold.

At least 4-5 years. Seems like what I have learned is they have open hearts, only judge each relationship on it's own merits and keep it separate with knowledge. We talk about it so pretty aware as we are good friends.

 

[StormyWindows]

It is, for what it's worth, much easier to find someone who is at ease with the idea than talk someone who isn't on board with the idea around to it. Some cultural things are just too ingrained - and, to be honest, poly just isn't right for some people.

If you just want to get talking about it, a good way to do so would be to mention the couple you talk about in this post to your significant other, and discuss what you think that kind of relationship must be like.

Makes sense.