Women who don't orgasm

[Alison99]

My sister, who is 48, has never had an orgasm. She thinks masturbating is dirty, and oral sex disgusting, although she thinks ordinary intercourse feels nice. My mother thinks sex is "two minutes pleasure for the man and none at all for the woman" so I doubt if she even knows what an orgasm is.

Are there millions of women out there who don't cum?

 

[vibes]

My sister, who is 48, has never had an orgasm. She thinks masturbating is dirty, and oral sex disgusting, although she thinks ordinary intercourse feels nice. My mother thinks sex is "two minutes pleasure for the man and none at all for the woman" so I doubt if she even knows what an orgasm is.

Are there millions of women out there who don't cum?

Apparently and anachronisticly so

 

[Samday]

Have you talked this through with your sister? Sounds like some childhood repression - much like my own miserable wife!

 

[Samday]

repression

Have you talked this through with your sister? Sounds like some childhood repression - much like my own miserable wife!

 

[Nezhul]

Soulnds like your mother has a lot to do with your sister's views on sex, and probably is the cause of ehr uptightness and lack of orgasms as a result.

 

[SassySakura]

I've heard this before especially with women with a conservative or religious background (not sure if that's the case). The problem is that for so long sex was just viewed as a wifely duty not something the woman derived pleasure from. Mostly because it was very much a means for the man to get off while the woman lay there waiting for it to be done.

I think in more recent times some men have become more aware of wanting the woman to derive just as much pleasure as they do but not all women want to try and experiment because they were brought up by mothers stuck in the old ways when it came to sex. Anything but missionary is dirty and wrong and it's meant to be once a week to keep your husband happy and off your case.

 

[Nezhul]

I've heard this before especially with women with a conservative or religious background (not sure if that's the case). The problem is that for so long sex was just viewed as a wifely duty not something the woman derived pleasure from. Mostly because it was very much a means for the man to get off while the woman lay there waiting for it to be done.

I think in more recent times some men have become more aware of wanting the woman to derive just as much pleasure as they do but not all women want to try and experiment because they were brought up by mothers stuck in the old ways when it came to sex. Anything but missionary is dirty and wrong and it's meant to be once a week to keep your husband happy and off your case.

yeah... so sad.

And I really don't understand the men. I mean, those men who literally are ok with having it a 2-minute fuck to get off and roll back to sleep.

I mean, don't they want to see their wives cum? It's the best thing in the world, and they are missing out on it.

 

[SassySakura]

yeah... so sad.

And I really don't understand the men. I mean, those men who literally are ok with having it a 2-minute fuck to get off and roll back to sleep.

I mean, don't they want to see their wives cum? It's the best thing in the world, and they are missing out on it.

For some men that's probably all they know especially if they got married young I'm guessing they didn't get to experiment or experience much and probably don't know it does and can get much better than that. Everyone thinks their grass is the greenest if they haven't seen the other side.

 

[JamesRTickit]

Sad but....

My sister, who is 48, has never had an orgasm. She thinks masturbating is dirty, and oral sex disgusting, although she thinks ordinary intercourse feels nice. My mother thinks sex is "two minutes pleasure for the man and none at all for the woman" so I doubt if she even knows what an orgasm is.

Are there millions of women out there who don't cum?

There are lots of women who have never orgasmed.
Women are conditioned to please men.
Men are conditioned that their orgasm is the end product of sex.

We don't have adequate education and know kids are learning their expectations Tom porn.

So your sister is not alone by any means.

 

[Intoanythin]

I agree, making a woman cum should be the first priority! I'm saddened to hear about your sister and Mom, the pleasure they have missed... Wow. Hopefully there's still time for them to open up and learn to touch their bodies for pleasure if their sig others are not.

 

[live4thebj]

My sister, who is 48, has never had an orgasm. She thinks masturbating is dirty, and oral sex disgusting, although she thinks ordinary intercourse feels nice. My mother thinks sex is "two minutes pleasure for the man and none at all for the woman" so I doubt if she even knows what an orgasm is.

Are there millions of women out there who don't cum?

Your sister needs to be tied, gagged, her 4 limbs bonded, naked, and leave a Hitachi Magic Wand on and on her pussy. Your mom too.

Many moments later lets see what she thinks after that.

When I am with a woman and into it, my focus is to make her cum: more than once before I get mine.

 

[CeasarBoobage]

Your sister needs to be tied, gagged, her 4 limbs bonded, naked, and leave a Hitachi Magic Wand on and on her pussy. Your mom too.

Many moments later lets see what she thinks after that.

When I am with a woman and into it, my focus is to make her cum: more than once before I get mine.

I can't say you're wrong about this, but there's that whole thing about consent. For all we know, they DO NOT WANT AN ORGASM. Sure they may be curious about what the big deal is, but they may feel as if the end does not justify the means.

You may like think that the only way to enjoy cocaine is to snort it off a hooker's ass, but I have zero interest in that, thanks.

For a variety of reasons, people may not be into sex or want an orgasm. It's their loss, but maybe they just don't give a damn.

 

[live4thebj]

I can't say you're wrong about this, but there's that whole thing about consent. For all we know, they DO NOT WANT AN ORGASM. Sure they may be curious about what the big deal is, but they may feel as if the end does not justify the means.

You may like think that the only way to enjoy cocaine is to snort it off a hooker's ass, but I have zero interest in that, thanks.

For a variety of reasons, people may not be into sex or want an orgasm. It's their loss, but maybe they just don't give a damn.

Well lets just say there are ways.

Not giving a damn is due to them not having any idea how a good one feels. I am sure once they experience a good O, they will want it again and again.

 

[Alison99]

Soulnds like your mother has a lot to do with your sister's views on sex, and probably is the cause of ehr uptightness and lack of orgasms as a result.

I have the same mother, obviously, but her views on sex didn't repress me.

My own opinion is that in each case the main blame lies with their husbands. My father was clearly a no foreplay two minute fuck man, and my brother in law probably just needs to take more time. Although my sister has had more than one lover, without achieving a better result.

 

[o2baPrince]

hm

Back in high school and college, I dated several women that never had an orgasm. They both thought sex was ok, but it just had become a stumbling block for them. So, out of 35 women, I knew 2, so 1 in 17 women.

 

[plesmore]

While a girl's background can and does affect her pleasure, don't forget there are men who do not know how to bring a girl to climax. Not all me, of course, but there are quite a few who only go for their own orgasm - after all, some girls are not finished after 3 minuets....

 

[Nezhul]

I'll agree with live4thebj somewhat here. Maybe bondage part is the extreme bit, but point in question is that if your sister WANTS to have an orgasm - there are plenty of technology and toys available that will give it to her really fast.

The question here if she even wants that. That's, essentially, up to her. We all may think that she's deluded and mistaken - but there are a lot of people like that who are living it "wrong" in my opinion and a lot of times you can't persuade them

If you are on talking terms with your sister - try and convince her to try something - toys, oral sex, porn.
Also there are a lot of sites with advices for such women. Just like men have techniques to last longer - women have similar advices how to let go and cum easier. Try googling it.

If your sister really wants a change, she may try hypnosis. There are recordings available for women with her problems - it is a form of treatment, not perverted sexy thing. In the end even if they won't work - it's a great form of relaxation, and I liked them just for that when I was interested in hypnosis.

If your sister really doesn't want to fix this, however - I don't think there's anything you can do.
Having this conversation with your mom may be even harder, but if you want to try...

Anyway, good luck to the three of you. I hope your sister and your mom can discover their happiness, whatever it is.

p.s.And I didn't mean to offend you with my previous post. What I mean is that people are different, and your mom's disappointment in sex is definitely an influence, even if she doesn't try to implant man-hate in her daughters. It wasn't something special to you, that's why you grew okay - but human mind is a weird stuff. A few right words in the wrong moment may drastically change someone's word outlook and personality, and your sister may just have been hit by that. It's not really your mom's fault, and I digress anyway.

 

[Nezhul]

While a girl's background can and does affect her pleasure, don't forget there are men who do not know how to bring a girl to climax. Not all me, of course, but there are quite a few who only go for their own orgasm - after all, some girls are not finished after 3 minuets....

The education sucks in this regard. I was lucky enough to research the subject when I was young - and admittedly it was porn that made me do it. I couldn't fathom how they can last this long while it takes me barely a minute to pop with my hand, not even a woman.

I wanted to see my girlfriend (which I didn't have atm but I wanted to get) in as much pleasure as on video, and understood that I would be unable to.

That's how I got to some really great advices about lasting longer and sex in general. And here's the thing....
Lasting longer aside, there were a lot of sex things that I didn't even consider before. Like paying attention to foreplay, for example. For me it was just licking pussy before - but not something that was in any way beneficial to the whole experience.
Or for example if you pop too soon - you can switch back to eating pussy for 5 minutes and when you've rested - change the condom and go at it again. 95% of young men can do that, but this simple solution didn't even occur to me before. And it's a really great one.

There are a lot of things that no one teaches guys. That's why young men have to discover stuff on their own a lot of times, and this means lots of disappointed girls on the way who were, essentially, training material.

If I have a son - I'll make it my duty to teach him stuff or throw some links at him to study.
If I have a daughter - I'll try and teach her what to do with uneducated boys she may encounter.
And fuck those parents who think that graphic sex talk with their children is inappropriate. If I'm too shy to do that in person - I'll compile a word document with links and stuff and give it to them.

 

[Mike4fun]

The most sexual organ of a woman is her mind. When a woman doesn't orgasm, most of the to e it's her mind, some of the time, a physiological issue. IF she wants to orgasm, her first stem will be to open her mind to it, only then open her petals to it. I have never met a woman who didn't want to cum. I have only once been with a lover who didn't want to recieve oral (which is bizarre as I am exceptions skilled ), but she came quickly and hard from penetrative sex. I'm short, as other esteemed listers wrote, if she wants it, it's doable. I agree with the Hitachi guy above; I always make certain my lover climaxes at least once before I do..

 

[magicalmoments]

My sister, who is 48, has never had an orgasm. She thinks masturbating is dirty, and oral sex disgusting, although she thinks ordinary intercourse feels nice. My mother thinks sex is "two minutes pleasure for the man and none at all for the woman" so I doubt if she even knows what an orgasm is.

Are there millions of women out there who don't cum?

My current wife never orgasms whilst being fucked. She tells me she never has. She is very experienced and been fucked by a wide range of cocks, in terms of variety of sizes, in every position and for varying lengths of time. Never orgasmed. She loves being fucked and has enjoyable sensations and really gets into it but no orgasm. Mind you, put your tongue on her clitty and flick it for a few minutes and she orgasms like there is no tomorrow.

I used to chat with a woman, a widow, she was in her mid 60s, she told me she had never orgasmed, ever. She did used to masturbate and come close but would stop when the sensations started to build. She had several boyfriends and had regular sex but never came close to orgasm. She said she loved having the men cum in her and got pleasure from watching them as they came. Regretfully I never had the chance to fuck her myself.