Humiliation?

[FrozenBlaze]

I watched one porn queen doing 2 guys and they were using humiliation, it's a turn on to watch another woman naturally loving it. And since I'm new to all this kink, my stories will reveal whether or not I would enjoy it when in empathy with my characters. Time will tell I guess.

 

[petes478]

Forced spankings forced orgasms

I find that a girl frequently likes to resist sexual overtures even though she may welcome the idea and the overture either in the present or later. Knowing this I enjoy giving voice to it in some low key way and I'm a pretty good reader of people. The times I've used a Hitachi Wand vibrator on a girl's pussy always starts with "oh, no, I don't think so Sir"....which always leads to "OH SIR!! I AM CUMMING AGAIN AND AGAIN!!....some of these result in simple pure enjoyment and squirting etc. some have resulted in the girl asking me to stop though she's orgasming multiple times. I enjoy play the insensitive ignoring Dom to a point. I'll continue it because I too am getting off doing it to her, giving her all this overwhelming pleasure. But I stop when I sense she's really not getting anything out of the experience. One positive sign is the liquid a girl can produce. It's a sure sign of involuntary pleasure. Causes her to feel embarrassed in many cases. Not all. I love it. I always encourage my girl to lose control and not to feel embarrassed. It's the shaming that's the humiliating thing. Sometimes I shame her. Frequently today girls shame themselves just by sheer embarrassment. I don't always have to say a word. Though if I know my girl wants to be shamed, degraded, humiliated, I do it. I enjoy it.

 

[petes478]

I'm not a fan of verbal humiliation. I don't see it as admirable that someone should derive pleasure or satisfaction by intentionally inflicting physical or emotional pain on another. What I do enjoy is the situational humiliation or embarrassment I experience when voluntarily allowing myself to be subjugated and orally used for the sexual gratification of other men.

http://brutal-whore-degrader.tumblr.com/post/159599375876/ruin-her-fucking-make-up

This works. Good humiliation shot. Enjoy.

 

[sazzyslut69]

For me, the ultimate humiliation is self humiliation. To allow and even encourage someone to treat you as if your feelings were irrelevant and of no significance, I'm a Cocksucker, and it thrills me when a man orally "uses" me for his sexual gratification and release, and even "passes me around" to his friends, not caring about how this makes me feel. That I want to be treated this way is humiliating, but SO exciting! I love it!

I can 100% relate to this!

 

[Larkfield61]

For me, the ultimate humiliation is self humiliation. To allow and even encourage someone to treat you as if your feelings were irrelevant and of no significance, I'm a Cocksucker, and it thrills me when a man orally "uses" me for his sexual gratification and release, and even "passes me around" to his friends, not caring about how this makes me feel. That I want to be treated this way is humiliating, but SO exciting! I love it!

This type of humiliation is more common than many people think, it is the basis of the dogging scene where wives or girlfriends are taken to locations where they are used by complete strangers, usually orally but increasingly it is for full sex. I have spoken to many women after a session and they all agree that the humiliation of being used like a common slut is a tremendous turn on. In the majority of cases these are women who from day to day are known as respectable women who their friends would never suspect that they live this parallel life.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Love it.
Went to a CMnf event not too long ago, was made to do quite a bit of humiliation stuff.
Very often have to lick up cum from floor.
Trouble is, when it happens regular, its not so humiliating, lol

Oh My, I think I would love to be kneeling on the floor with you.

 

[eroticspank]

I find that a girl frequently likes to resist sexual overtures even though she may welcome the idea and the overture either in the present or later. Knowing this I enjoy giving voice to it in some low key way and I'm a pretty good reader of people. The times I've used a Hitachi Wand vibrator on a girl's pussy always starts with "oh, no, I don't think so Sir"....which always leads to "OH SIR!! I AM CUMMING AGAIN AND AGAIN!!....some of these result in simple pure enjoyment and squirting etc. some have resulted in the girl asking me to stop though she's orgasming multiple times. I enjoy play the insensitive ignoring Dom to a point. I'll continue it because I too am getting off doing it to her, giving her all this overwhelming pleasure. But I stop when I sense she's really not getting anything out of the experience. One positive sign is the liquid a girl can produce. It's a sure sign of involuntary pleasure. Causes her to feel embarrassed in many cases. Not all. I love it. I always encourage my girl to lose control and not to feel embarrassed. It's the shaming that's the humiliating thing. Sometimes I shame her. Frequently today girls shame themselves just by sheer embarrassment. I don't always have to say a word. Though if I know my girl wants to be shamed, degraded, humiliated, I do it. I enjoy it.

Forced spankings and orgasms can be humiliating for men too. I can see a Domme doing this kind of stuff to a sub male.

ES

 

[yukonnights]

Forced spankings and orgasms can be humiliating for men too. I can see a Domme doing this kind of stuff to a sub male.

ES

I think even more so for a male because of the fact that it goes against social norms. As has been said before, the humiliation comes from breaking the rules of society. The physical act is just the instrument that gives voice to the inner song.

I'm not as sure about the trigger for a women. The more passive role is considered more the norm in society in general... so I'm wondering is it's not more about being a "naughty" girl who likes being "slutty"?

 

[Iamsubmissive]

Okay, I'm still curious. Someone send me a totally degrading PM so I can see if it turns me on or not

 

[cascadiabound]

Okay, I'm still curious. Someone send me a totally degrading PM so I can see if it turns me on or not

I find humiliation to be a very subtle thing. I would not have said 2-3 years ago that humiliation held any kind if sexual energy in it for me...However, there is a wide spectrum of humiliation play and behavior. For me it only works with someone I completely love and trust. (i.e. my husband) and that I have complete confidence that he loves and respects me. Without that, I can't play on the knifes edge of humiliation...Whether that be degrading name calling, pushing my boundaries about exposure, or working on levels of submission and control that push at pet play, servitude, loss of control, etc.

I think someone who did not intimately understand how my mind works would not be able to push my humiliation buttons in a way that made me aroused. It would just piss me off. Or leave me with a "meh" reaction.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I find humiliation to be a very subtle thing. I would not have said 2-3 years ago that humiliation held any kind if sexual energy in it for me...However, there is a wide spectrum of humiliation play and behavior. For me it only works with someone I completely love and trust. (i.e. my husband) and that I have complete confidence that he loves and respects me. Without that, I can't play on the knifes edge of humiliation...Whether that be degrading name calling, pushing my boundaries about exposure, or working on levels of submission and control that push at pet play, servitude, loss of control, etc.

I think someone who did not intimately understand how my mind works would not be able to push my humiliation buttons in a way that made me aroused. It would just piss me off. Or leave me with a "meh" reaction.

Exactly the same. Some random person inboxing me degrading words would certainly not arouse me, but occasional degrading play with a partner I trust to put me back together afterwards can be delicious.

 

[sterculius]

I find a close, erotic association between humiliation and objectification, particularly when it's self imposed. I'm offended by intentional efforts to insult or to vilify me, but it arouses me to know that the person "using" me couldn't care less about how I feel. It excites me to voluntarily place myself in situations that allow others to impersonally fuck my mouth and throat while expressing no concern or interest in my comfort or welfare. I'm a Cocksucker, it's what I do. I'm there to be used.

 

[Iamsubmissive]

Everything everyone has said makes sense to me. I can understand all the different points of view. I just haven't experienced those feelings. (I'm missing the humiliation gene I think)

 

[cascadiabound]

Everything everyone has said makes sense to me. I can understand all the different points of view. I just haven't experienced those feelings. (I'm missing the humiliation gene I think)

You may be missing the humiliation gene (it's not for everyone) or you may simply not have lived long enough or had an encounter with the right partner.

I thought I knew everything about who I was sexually, until I found out I didn't. And I keep discovering things. And it is beginning to be ridiculous that I am *still* figuring stuff out at "my age" lol. Just going with it and having fun.

 

[Iamsubmissive]

You may be missing the humiliation gene (it's not for everyone) or you may simply not have lived long enough or had an encounter with the right partner.

I thought I knew everything about who I was sexually, until I found out I didn't. And I keep discovering things. And it is beginning to be ridiculous that I am *still* figuring stuff out at "my age" lol. Just going with it and having fun.

Reading everyone's posts did raise an interest or curiosity for me, but I think , for me, it might be a little too intense of an experience for me to explore right now. I'm just gonna sit this one out for a while Further down the road...who knows. I think most of us are still figuring stuff out until the day we die!

 

[petes478]

Anyone into humiliation as their primary fetish? Don't get me wrong I love so many things, but nothing puts me over the edge like being degraded and humiliated in the most cruel and mean ways. Am I alone?

I get off dominating degrading and humiliating girls. You're definitely not alone!!

 

[eroticspank]

Exactly the same. Some random person inboxing me degrading words would certainly not arouse me, but occasional degrading play with a partner I trust to put me back together afterwards can be delicious.

Well said, both of you!

ES

 

[Lord_Johnny]

I think most of us are still figuring stuff out until the day we die!

Agreed. I know that I still learn things about myself all the time. Especially sexual things.

 

[eroticspank]

I think even more so for a male because of the fact that it goes against social norms. As has been said before, the humiliation comes from breaking the rules of society. The physical act is just the instrument that gives voice to the inner song.

I'm not as sure about the trigger for a women. The more passive role is considered more the norm in society in general... so I'm wondering is it's not more about being a "naughty" girl who likes being "slutty"?

"The physical act is just the instrument that gives voice to the inner song."
What a great sentence! I think it can be applied to women as well. In a sub role the woman has to please the man, the desire for sex is okay because it becomes the desire to please. I can't help it if he wants to fuck me over and over. There may be some shame for enjoying the sex, but the strong feeling is of self worth from being physically desired. It is very hard to explain. I certainly am not saying the sub women have no self worth, it is just the feeling of being lusted after and pleasing your partner can be very satisfying. That satisfaction causes a sweet inner song...leading to sub space.

For men, I think part of it is about control. We are told to be in control of our lives, our relationships, and just about everything. For some men a loss of control can be very humiliating. Example: A woman friend told me about giving her bf a rimjob. He was really enjoying it and eventually he lost control a had an orgasm. He was very upset and humiliated. He asked her to stop but she could tell he was going to cum and thought he would enjoy it. The bottom line is he did not like losing control especially when it comes to that "taboo" ass area.

If we(men) lose control of our bodies it can be humiliating because in society we are always in control.

ES

 

[yukonnights]

"The physical act is just the instrument that gives voice to the inner song."
What a great sentence! I think it can be applied to women as well. In a sub role the woman has to please the man, the desire for sex is okay because it becomes the desire to please. I can't help it if he wants to fuck me over and over. There may be some shame for enjoying the sex, but the strong feeling is of self worth from being physically desired. It is very hard to explain. I certainly am not saying the sub women have no self worth, it is just the feeling of being lusted after and pleasing your partner can be very satisfying. That satisfaction causes a sweet inner song...leading to sub space.

For men, I think part of it is about control. We are told to be in control of our lives, our relationships, and just about everything. For some men a loss of control can be very humiliating. Example: A woman friend told me about giving her bf a rimjob. He was really enjoying it and eventually he lost control a had an orgasm. He was very upset and humiliated. He asked her to stop but she could tell he was going to cum and thought he would enjoy it. The bottom line is he did not like losing control especially when it comes to that "taboo" ass area.

If we(men) lose control of our bodies it can be humiliating because in society we are always in control.

ES

for the kind words.

I agree that the surrender/loss of control is a trigger for most men to feel shamed in varying degrees. And this too, is a trespass of a societal expectation...and the societal expectation the male has put upon himself. And of course, these expectations vary with each person. For example, I have read other's who do not experience much humiliation in submissive acts, and it seems that they have accepted being in that "less than manly" role as more of a normal (and in some cases, the newness has worn off the once shameful acts). Having accepted that "whatever" is being done to him is just the norm, the humiliation trigger is no longer there???

When I write (or think) from a submissive woman's point of view, I try to imagine the thoughts and emotions such a woman would feel. Obviously, it's harder for me to understand her reality. Given that there are a lot of games that can be played which brings out a sub's humiliation, and that each woman has different triggers, I most often imagine in my "feminine thinking" along the lines of feeling small, weak, reluctant but willing... and of ultimately being desired and protected by the more dominant one. (In these imaginings, I don't often think of anything really degrading or harsh...more of a "being taken" by the stronger, etc.) The dynamic seems very much different...but again, it is theoretical (That's why I love reading what some of the female's say about humiliation).

 

[Paintingwithautumncolours]

The best form of humiliation play is when you find somebody who wants to be your personal toilet. I've met quite a few people who are really into scat play and piss play, and I really believe it is a more common occurance than one may think. I find it odd that people enjoy wanting to get shit and pissed on, but I love being able to find people who want to be humiliated that way. I get the biggest kick when I get to defecate on a human being, it brings out the sadist in me.

 

[eroticspank]

for the kind words.

I agree that the surrender/loss of control is a trigger for most men to feel shamed in varying degrees. And this too, is a trespass of a societal expectation...and the societal expectation the male has put upon himself. And of course, these expectations vary with each person. For example, I have read other's who do not experience much humiliation in submissive acts, and it seems that they have accepted being in that "less than manly" role as more of a normal (and in some cases, the newness has worn off the once shameful acts). Having accepted that "whatever" is being done to him is just the norm, the humiliation trigger is no longer there???

When I write (or think) from a submissive woman's point of view, I try to imagine the thoughts and emotions such a woman would feel. Obviously, it's harder for me to understand her reality. Given that there are a lot of games that can be played which brings out a sub's humiliation, and that each woman has different triggers, I most often imagine in my "feminine thinking" along the lines of feeling small, weak, reluctant but willing... and of ultimately being desired and protected by the more dominant one. (In these imaginings, I don't often think of anything really degrading or harsh...more of a "being taken" by the stronger, etc.) The dynamic seems very much different...but again, it is theoretical (That's why I love reading what some of the female's say about humiliation).

I agree. I find it a fun challenge to write from a different point of view, like as a woman for example. As a man, there is no way I could truly know what it is like to be a woman, but it is certainly fun to try.

I like this thread and others because it gives us a chance to talk, exchange thoughts and ideas about things. I enjoy looking at Xrated videos, erotic photos, and reading fantasy stories. But what I crave most is talk on threads like this where I can see things through other peoples eyes. The challenge is to be able to put it into words so others can understand what you see, are turned on by, or been through. Sometimes it can be a simple one liner, other times a full paragraph is what hits the spot. When it does "hit the spot" and I can say that is exactly how I feel, it feels great and that is what I really enjoy about these threads.

ES

 

[petes478]

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[petes478]

Bukakke ...

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[4yourpleasureiam]

Bukakke ...

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I dream of you doing that to me. Making me sit at your feet as you entertain your friends with your cum covering my face marking me as yours.