The "Fuck you cancer!" thread

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

So sorry, Denny and Lally.
Healing vibes headed towards your friends, and towards you.

 

[Shankara20]

Questions? Ask away! Want to hear more about our journey? Ask!

I fully support all your point here. Three of my own:

#1, If the side effect of Cialis are problematic Sildenafil (my choice) might be better...

#2, a support group might be helpful. I attend a monthly with Wife and find it worth the time...

#3, impotence does not = no orgasm. Dry orgasms are interesting and feel wonderful once you sort out how to do with no erection. Worth the effort to figure out. I have a new relationship with Wife's hitachi vibrator

PS: I hate the term "the new normal" but have come to work with what is available (most of the time)

PSS: Fuck You Cancer

 

[sexyblonde2015]

I fully support all your point here. Three of my own:

#1, If the side effect of Cialis are problematic Sildenafil (my choice) might be better...

#2, a support group might be helpful. I attend a monthly with Wife and find it worth the time...

#3, impotence does not = no orgasm. Dry orgasms are interesting and feel wonderful once you sort out how to do with no erection. Worth the effort to figure out. I have a new relationship with Wife's hitachi vibrator

PS: I hate the term "the new normal" but have come to work with what is available (most of the time)

PSS: Fuck You Cancer

Thanks!

I forgot to add about the dry orgasm. Yes, MrSB had dry orgasms. He says they feel good but. The closest he comes to having it feel like before the surgery is if he leaks a little. That happened a few times in the beginning but not now.

I've learned how to give FDO's. Otherwise affectionately known as Floppy Dick Orgasms. Takes a different technique but totally doable.

 

[cookiecat]

Oh Lally - best thoughts for your brother and even more for his friend.

Denny, Dollie - so good to hear it's contained and you can use the latest treatment for radiation.

Shankara / sexyblonde - Good information here!

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Lally, Dollie and Denny:



FYC.

 

[txgent101]

Brachytherapy Option

I shared this in another thread, but seems appropriate here also. I had a prostate cancer diagnosis in 1999.

In my own case, I chose radioactive seed implants (brachytherapy) which destroys the prostate but without surgery.

I had three choices:

- Surgery (which was probably not as efficacious as available today). I was concerned about nerve damage.
- External radiation: did not like the idea of the radiation passing through other organs.
- Seed implants: this sounded best to me because the seeds provide the radiation from within the prostate gland instead of passing through external organs.

The seed implant procedure took approximately 2 hours, done under general anesthesia. 98 very tiny Iodine-125 seeds implanted.
http://www.va.gov/health/images/seeds.jpg

My PSA declined quickly on the asymptotic curve over the next several years, and by 2004 was undetectable. Followups each year showed undetectable year by year. Only random testing since 2010, last one was August 2016, still undetectable.

Looking back I would still choose the brachytherapy seed implants.

As SB reported, my orgasms are 'dry'. But they are powerful.

As time went on, and I aged, ED did crop up, so I use a vacuum pump and cock rings which do the trick.

And I am cancer free! And I do agree: FYC.

 

[Shankara20]

And I am cancer free! And I do agree: FYC.

Thanks so much for this. Information is helpful, hopefully it will help those facing a new finding of cancer.

Congrats on being undetectable to date.

 

[BeautifulBlueSky218]

Yes! Fuck you Cancer! I actually almost had a cancer scare last summer only it was found on my cervix. It wasn't cancer completely- it could have been though. That's the thing and it freaked me out beyond belief. I laid in bed in total agony after the surgery and fell into a deep dark hole because something woke me up about how precious life is. I'm usually not the preachy kind either. Afterwards though I had so much to say and anger is all that came out because I was scared and alone. So many of my so called friends stopped talking to me because I became ill. In the end I realized that they truly weren't my friends to begin with and the ones who truly mattered to me would be understanding and be supportive of me.

Yes I'm aware that it wasn't Cancer, it was stage 4 and my doctor said she needed to do the surgery on me immediately because it was coming close to stage 5. My mother instantly cried and I was in this state of shock and I couldn't believe what I was hearing. All I could do was stare at the ground. I couldn't move, speak or react. Finally I told my mother to take me to the beach and once I got outside my car, I cried silently. Still remember that it was pouring down rain and I was holding the umbrella and watching all these surfers surfing the beach. It seriously woke me up, it shook my life up and changed me in many many ways. I've been wanting to write this out for the longest time, but I always held myself back from doing so.

 

[sexyblonde2015]

A friend of mine is probably going to pass away tonight after a long hard battle with pancreatic cancer. She's been in the hospital (this time) since Monday and family and close friends are with her.

Too many deaths in less than a month. My dad, MrSB's aunt, my sisters MIL and now a friend. It just sucks.

Another girlfriend was just diagnosed last week with breast cancer.

 

[Olderthanthat]

A friend of mine is probably going to pass away tonight after a long hard battle with pancreatic cancer. She's been in the hospital (this time) since Monday and family and close friends are with her.

Too many deaths in less than a month. My dad, MrSB's aunt, my sisters MIL and now a friend. It just sucks.

Another girlfriend was just diagnosed last week with breast cancer.

So damn sorry!

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

A friend of mine is probably going to pass away tonight after a long hard battle with pancreatic cancer. She's been in the hospital (this time) since Monday and family and close friends are with her.

Too many deaths in less than a month. My dad, MrSB's aunt, my sisters MIL and now a friend. It just sucks.

Another girlfriend was just diagnosed last week with breast cancer.

I'm sorry.

Please take care.

 

[scotluvsoral]

A friend of mine is probably going to pass away tonight after a long hard battle with pancreatic cancer. She's been in the hospital (this time) since Monday and family and close friends are with her.

Too many deaths in less than a month. My dad, MrSB's aunt, my sisters MIL and now a friend. It just sucks.

Another girlfriend was just diagnosed last week with breast cancer.

So sorry for your losses SB...as they pile up, it wears us out!

 

[cmslt2326]

A friend of mine is probably going to pass away tonight after a long hard battle with pancreatic cancer. She's been in the hospital (this time) since Monday and family and close friends are with her.

Too many deaths in less than a month. My dad, MrSB's aunt, my sisters MIL and now a friend. It just sucks.

Another girlfriend was just diagnosed last week with breast cancer.

Wow...so much hardship...sorry for all of your pain...Sending hugs...

 

[Shankara20]

A friend of mine is probably going to pass away tonight after a long hard battle with pancreatic cancer. She's been in the hospital (this time) since Monday and family and close friends are with her.

Too many deaths in less than a month. My dad, MrSB's aunt, my sisters MIL and now a friend. It just sucks.

Another girlfriend was just diagnosed last week with breast cancer.

((heart))

 

[cmslt2326]

Saw my Doc the end of last week for my one-year-after-surgery PSA.

0.00 all clean. Very good news. Go back in 6 months...

Relieved, I am.



ps: Fuck You Cancer!

Yayyyy!! Happy to hear that Shank.

 

[Shankara20]

Yayyyy!! Happy to hear that Shank.

 

[sexyblonde2015]

Thank you all. My friend passed away on Sunday morning.

 

[cookiecat]

Thank you all. My friend passed away on Sunday morning.

Much love and support sent to you, family and your friend. It doesn't matter if you've had time to say good bye, a little time to grieve before. When it finally happens -- that's it. How final. Free of the disease for sure, but free from you too. Fuck you cancer.

 

[Azuldrgon]

The tenth anniversary of my MIL's death from lung cancer approaches.....

Plus all the heartbreak friends have felt on here and in real life....

Fuck You cancer.......

 

[Apple_of_Eden]

This is one thread that never seems to require a "bump". It appears cancer continues to take it's toll on so many.

Shank, I'm so happy for you. Congrats on the wonderful news. Stay strong.

SB, so sorry for you loss. Thoughts and positive energy to all of you.

cmslt...hope all is well. Happy to see your post.

Today is the second month anniversary of my brother's death. I miss him terribly and still have the moments when I forget he is gone. I actually think, "I need to call B" or "I need to tell B"...and then it hits me again.

I HATE this "new normal"...I truly hate it.

 

[scotluvsoral]

This is one thread that never seems to require a "bump". It appears cancer continues to take it's toll on so many.

Shank, I'm so happy for you. Congrats on the wonderful news. Stay strong.

SB, so sorry for you loss. Thoughts and positive energy to all of you.

cmslt...hope all is well. Happy to see your post.

Today is the second month anniversary of my brother's death. I miss him terribly and still have the moments when I forget he is gone. I actually think, "I need to call B" or "I need to tell B"...and then it hits me again.

I HATE this "new normal"...I truly hate it.

*Big Hugs* No words make the journey into the "new normal" any better...so just hugs for you Apple!

 

[Shankara20]

I HATE this "new normal"...I truly hate it.

I so have my own story around this, I don't know your own pain but will be here with you

 

[cmslt2326]

Thank you all. My friend passed away on Sunday morning.

I am very sorry to hear that...Said a prayer for you and your friend's family...

 

[cmslt2326]

This is one thread that never seems to require a "bump". It appears cancer continues to take it's toll on so many.

Shank, I'm so happy for you. Congrats on the wonderful news. Stay strong.

SB, so sorry for you loss. Thoughts and positive energy to all of you.

cmslt...hope all is well. Happy to see your post.

Today is the second month anniversary of my brother's death. I miss him terribly and still have the moments when I forget he is gone. I actually think, "I need to call B" or "I need to tell B"...and then it hits me again.

I HATE this "new normal"...I truly hate it.

Hi Apple...actually I am having some small setbacks from the long-term side effects of chemo and radiation but I love this very vital thread and I pop up when I can... I hate the new normal too.

I am so sorry that your brother is not there for you to call and I still pray for you...Please as you grieve remember to not let this cellfucker steal YOUR joy for life...Sending you big, huge, comforting hugs Apple....

 

[cmslt2326]

*Big Hugs* No words make the journey into the "new normal" any better...so just hugs for you Apple!

You are such a comforting influence on this thread and I just wanted you to know how nice it is sometimes to see other survivors who simply get it....