Humiliation?

[sterculius]

I became a Cocksucker primarily because it excited me to be humiliated. When my best friend Larry and I first spoke about jerking off together it was before I’d seen his cock. I don’t think I had ever seen another boy’s cock with an erection. I must have assumed Larry’s cock was like mine, but I wasn’t prepared for the monster cock he pulled out of his pants!! Larry’s erect cock being the first one other than my own that I had ever seen, when I saw the huge size of it, I knew my own cock was very small. He was younger, shorter and skinnier than me but his cock was way out of proportion to the rest of him. I couldn’t take my eyes off it! Even as I was rubbing my little penis, I kept watching him stroke his big cock. It was my idea for us to take turns giving each other hand jobs because I wanted to hold his beautiful cock in my hands and also why I later suggested we taking turns sucking cock. He even remarked at how strange it felt jerking off my little prick. I loved holding and playing with Larry’s monster cock and marveling at how much heavier and bigger his cock was than mine. So when he made fun of my little prick I would agree with him!! It turned me on to be humiliated because of my tiny dick! My feelings of inferiority were what motivated me to want to be Larry’s cocksucker. He and I were best friends but he would occasionally make fun of my small penis. Even his loads were bigger than mine.It excited me to be humiliated by him.He would hold his thick, heavy cock in one hand and my small thin one in the other and smile. When he no longer sucked my cock, whenever I had finished giving him a blowjob and I’d swallowed his cum, he would instruct me to jerk off in front of him and tell me to eat my own cum as he watched, It was very humiliating, but it thrilled me to have to obey him and to perform whatever degrading acts he ordered me to do. My latest feeder has never seen my cock. I told him from the first that I was strictly a cocksucker but I never told him I had a small cock.

 

[cookiecat]

I could be on the phone with them and they would have to speak loud enough for others to hear.

As much as I'm a fan of humiliation, involving people who aren't in on it squicks me out. I'd hate to hear someone saying something weird and embarrassing in front of me.

If it were in a kink friendly setting, then have at it. But - in my book - never strangers.

 

[cookiecat]

I became a Cocksucker primarily because it excited me to be humiliated. When my best friend Larry and I first spoke about jerking off together it was before I’d seen his cock. I don’t think I had ever seen another boy’s cock with an erection. I must have assumed Larry’s cock was like mine, but I wasn’t prepared for the monster cock he pulled out of his pants!! Larry’s erect cock being the first one other than my own that I had ever seen, when I saw the huge size of it, I knew my own cock was very small. He was younger, shorter and skinnier than me but his cock was way out of proportion to the rest of him. I couldn’t take my eyes off it! Even as I was rubbing my little penis, I kept watching him stroke his big cock. It was my idea for us to take turns giving each other hand jobs because I wanted to hold his beautiful cock in my hands and also why I later suggested we taking turns sucking cock. He even remarked at how strange it felt jerking off my little prick. I loved holding and playing with Larry’s monster cock and marveling at how much heavier and bigger his cock was than mine. So when he made fun of my little prick I would agree with him!! It turned me on to be humiliated because of my tiny dick! My feelings of inferiority were what motivated me to want to be Larry’s cocksucker. He and I were best friends but he would occasionally make fun of my small penis. Even his loads were bigger than mine.It excited me to be humiliated by him.He would hold his thick, heavy cock in one hand and my small thin one in the other and smile. When he no longer sucked my cock, whenever I had finished giving him a blowjob and I’d swallowed his cum, he would instruct me to jerk off in front of him and tell me to eat my own cum as he watched, It was very humiliating, but it thrilled me to have to obey him and to perform whatever degrading acts he ordered me to do. My latest feeder has never seen my cock. I told him from the first that I was strictly a cocksucker but I never told him I had a small cock.

That's what friends are for.

 

[JayG88]

I am a new member and am writing a series of stories about a character i developed called pixie (I've discussed her and put details on my other posts if your interested) and in parts II and III there is going to be quite a bit of control and humiliation as my character Pixie is sexually submissive. I hope it'll interest you when the stories go live. I uploaded the first (though it's not been processed onto the site yet) and II and III will follow shortly after. I am in the middle of writing one of the scenes now, maybe I'll take advantage of you more experienced members to let me know what are popular aspects to a humiliation / submissive / sex slave scene between a girl (Pixie) and a guy (her manager) being dominated by a co-worker (bitter older woman) who si seeking revenge having walked in on the manager fucking the new girl. She's blackmailing them basically to do what she says after work once a week or she's going to ruin their lives, tell their family, tell the owner of the company etc.

 

[yukonnights]

The words written here on this thread are wonderful descriptions. I can feel a little bit of each in my own idea of humiliation.

My first thoughts on Humiliation is that it is very close to teasing in my mind. The teasing part gets me erect, the humiliation part makes me feel embarrassed for getting erect. That is where the control part comes in for me. She has caused me to lose control and get erect, when she wanted me to, not when I wanted to. I no longer have control of my dick, and she teases me about it. That causes the humiliation. She may do something as simple as rubbing my dick with a pair of panties, if I get hard she teases me about wanting to wear panties. That causes humiliation and I get turned on even more. I know it is not big deal. I am turned on by the silk material of the panties and that it is okay for men to wear panties and have that kind of fetish. BUT with the right woman teasing me as mentioned above, I feel the humiliation flow through my whole body like a warm glow and I get very turned on.


It is about someone else taking control, me giving up control, and being sent into sensations and pleasures beyond what I thought was possible physically and mentally.

ES

Very nicely put. For the most part it seems most are discussing a "consensual humiliation" rather than "forced humiliation". Sometimes being "forced" is still a version of consensual and more like an act in a play, so to speak. It seems to me that in order to feel humiliated one must have a residual societal belief that the act or thoughts they are having from their submission are taboo. We cannot have humiliation without the feeling of stepping outside of the "rules". Eroticspank mentioned the humiliation of panties, and even acknowledged his rational belief that there is nothing wrong with men in panties...and yet, obviously a deeper remembrance of societies frown on such activity sparks shame resulting in humiliation. The casting aside of the constraints of society is freeing, and thus the humiliation morphs into an erotic pleasure...I suppose when and if our personal "taboos" vanish, then it would be hard to enjoy the same humiliation for what once was so shameful.

 

[sterculius]

Very nicely put. For the most part it seems most are discussing a "consensual humiliation" rather than "forced humiliation". Sometimes being "forced" is still a version of consensual and more like an act in a play, so to speak. It seems to me that in order to feel humiliated one must have a residual societal belief that the act or thoughts they are having from their submission are taboo. We cannot have humiliation without the feeling of stepping outside of the "rules". Eroticspank mentioned the humiliation of panties, and even acknowledged his rational belief that there is nothing wrong with men in panties...and yet, obviously a deeper remembrance of societies frown on such activity sparks shame resulting in humiliation. The casting aside of the constraints of society is freeing, and thus the humiliation morphs into an erotic pleasure...I suppose when and if our personal "taboos" vanish, then it would be hard to enjoy the same humiliation for what once was so shameful.

As much as we might want to deny it, for the majority, a projection of macho virility is the default role for men and any quasi voluntary acceptance of subjugation or feminization on his part triggers a sense of humiliation. I'm a cocksucker, traditionally a female role. That I should not just willingly, but enthusiastically embrace this activity carries with it a certain degree of embarrassment. My best friend Larry, whose willing cocksucker I became took pleasure in reminding me of my inferior identity and in emphasizing the size difference between his very large cock and my very small one, The feelings of humiliation and denigration that washed over me as a result were deliciously palpable and extremely arousing to me!

 

[yukonnights]

As much as we might want to deny it, for the majority, a projection of macho virility is the default role for men and any quasi voluntary acceptance of subjugation or feminization on his part triggers a sense of humiliation. I'm a cocksucker, traditionally a female role. That I should not just willingly, but enthusiastically embrace this activity carries with it a certain degree of embarrassment. My best friend Larry, whose willing cocksucker I became took pleasure in reminding me of my inferior identity and in emphasizing the size difference between his very large cock and my very small one, The feelings of humiliation and denigration that washed over me as a result were deliciously palpable and extremely arousing to me!

Such an interesting "confession". It really drives home in a very real way what I was trying to say. I hope others might consider and comment on this hypothesis that "ingrained shame of violating a societal taboo" is the root of humiliation. How such shame becomes eroticized in our individual circumstances is still somewhat of a mystery, beyond the brain's equation of; {This feels good + this is taboo = new kink}

 

[DrMurdock]

Not everyone is as into it as you are, but that what makes women lake you so fucking awesome!

 

[eroticspank]

Such an interesting "confession". It really drives home in a very real way what I was trying to say. I hope others might consider and comment on this hypothesis that "ingrained shame of violating a societal taboo" is the root of humiliation. How such shame becomes eroticized in our individual circumstances is still somewhat of a mystery, beyond the brain's equation of; {This feels good + this is taboo = new kink}

I am not sure where the humiliation, taboo, and turn on comes from but as a man, I think part of it is about our desire to seek approval from women. When we are little kids, we are guided by our Mothers. They are also the ones that scold us and shame us for doing things bad. Sometimes even for doing bad things with our dicks. It is always the Mother that catches you masturbating, having naughty magazines, looking at lingerie in catalogues.

Later on when we start dating as early teenagers or in our twenties we are still seeking approval from women. In this case we find ourselves very horny and seek out girlfriends to help us with sexual release and companionship, mainly release. The women that welcome us with open arms, (and legs) are showing their approval of us and that makes us happy. Once in a relationship, we learn she has needs to be met, so we do our best to perform well and make her happy. Once that is done, she shows her approval again. Etc etc.

The humiliation part comes when the woman takes over the Mother's role of shaming and controlling the son. That becomes a turn on for some of us, because the biggest pleasure comes from approval and pleasing the woman. So if I am not pleasing her, I get embarrassed, shamed, and hard. When it is pointed out that I am naughty, it puts me in that role of the naughty boy, and again because it is taboo, that becomes a a turn on. I know some find it hard to believe but even an orgasm can be humiliating depending upon how it is brought about, and what is said during.

ES

 

[yukonnights]

I am not sure where the humiliation, taboo, and turn on comes from but as a man, I think part of it is about our desire to seek approval from women. When we are little kids, we are guided by our Mothers. They are also the ones that scold us and shame us for doing things bad. Sometimes even for doing bad things with our dicks. It is always the Mother that catches you masturbating, having naughty magazines, looking at lingerie in catalogues.

Later on when we start dating as early teenagers or in our twenties we are still seeking approval from women. In this case we find ourselves very horny and seek out girlfriends to help us with sexual release and companionship, mainly release. The women that welcome us with open arms, (and legs) are showing their approval of us and that makes us happy. Once in a relationship, we learn she has needs to be met, so we do our best to perform well and make her happy. Once that is done, she shows her approval again. Etc etc.

The humiliation part comes when the woman takes over the Mother's role of shaming and controlling the son. That becomes a turn on for some of us, because the biggest pleasure comes from approval and pleasing the woman. So if I am not pleasing her, I get embarrassed, shamed, and hard. When it is pointed out that I am naughty, it puts me in that role of the naughty boy, and again because it is taboo, that becomes a a turn on. I know some find it hard to believe but even an orgasm can be humiliating depending upon how it is brought about, and what is said during.

ES

This is a really interesting perspective. One of the take-aways for me is; in all the examples you mentioned, there is always an element of trust required. This seems especially relevant when you summarize the dynamic between a man and woman. Without the trust, it is unlikely that humiliation will ever be allowed in such a relationship. But with trust, both are able to feel safe and drop some of the pretenses they project, embrace the "safe-zone" the other offers, and feel shame for some of the "naughty" things we do and think. This is really very applicable to the "submissive husband' kind of relationship, and one of the best explanations I've seen.

Sometimes this thread makes me want to shout; Is there a doctor in the house! (but, I have to admit to not wanting to be healed...so I never shout

 

[sterculius]

The desire to engage in performing a proscribed sexual act is strongest prior to reaching orgasm and afterward, in the absence of this irresistible motivating factor, self recrimination takes precedence and one feels shame for having succumbed to the compulsion. But when the pattern is repeated often enough, over time the emotions merge and the sense of shame becomes inseparably associated with the feeling of desire for the behavior. At first I would feel self revulsion for having allowed my best friend to orally ravage me with his huge cock and I'd resolve to never let it happen again, but when next faced with the opportunity, my resolve would vanish and my emotions would reassert themselves and I'd eagerly drop to my knees and offer my mouth to him to use for his sexual gratification and release. Eventually I began to enjoy feeling shamed and humiliated and I'd even assist in finding new ways for him to debase me.

 

[eroticspank]

The desire to engage in performing a proscribed sexual act is strongest prior to reaching orgasm and afterward, in the absence of this irresistible motivating factor, self recrimination takes precedence and one feels shame for having succumbed to the compulsion. But when the pattern is repeated often enough, over time the emotions merge and the sense of shame becomes inseparably associated with the feeling of desire for the behavior. At first I would feel self revulsion for having allowed my best friend to orally ravage me with his huge cock and I'd resolve to never let it happen again, but when next faced with the opportunity, my resolve would vanish and my emotions would reassert themselves and I'd eagerly drop to my knees and offer my mouth to him to use for his sexual gratification and release. Eventually I began to enjoy feeling shamed and humiliated and I'd even assist in finding new ways for him to debase me.

Another great incite and perspective...one of the reasons I enjoy this site and this thread. Thoughtful reasoned discussion helps us understand who we are and why we are. I find that, at times, more powerful than an erotic story or photo.

ES

 

[BeautifulBlueSky218]

Yes there's different things that I like about this subject. Just haven't explored everything yet. It doesn't take much to make me blush at all. I love when certain things is being said to me and I have to repeat it back to them. They continue to tell me to say them over and over again. By the end of it I'm very very embarrassed and excited at the same time. Sure there's other forms of humiliation that I'll enjoy. Just haven't explored much of this area quite yet. I'm sure in time it will be though.

 

[yukonnights]

Yes there's different things that I like about this subject. Just haven't explored everything yet. It doesn't take much to make me blush at all. I love when certain things is being said to me and I have to repeat it back to them. They continue to tell me to say them over and over again. By the end of it I'm very very embarrassed and excited at the same time. Sure there's other forms of humiliation that I'll enjoy. Just haven't explored much of this area quite yet. I'm sure in time it will be though.

This is a very commonly shared arousal. The affirmation, like a child might be told; Repeat after me...no, that's not right! Do it again Another way to enhance this is using a mirror which reflects your submissive self back to you. Thus, we both see and hear ourselves saying and doing things that are just a wee bit out of our normal routine...and no doubt we'll all find or invent other forms of exploring this arousal.

 

[yummyhunny69]

Anyone into humiliation as their primary fetish? Don't get me wrong I love so many things, but nothing puts me over the edge like being degraded and humiliated in the most cruel and mean ways. Am I alone?

Your not alone by any means I'm right there with u girl I agree with everything u said in the post above

 

[petes478]

Anyone into humiliation as their primary fetish? Don't get me wrong I love so many things, but nothing puts me over the edge like being degraded and humiliated in the most cruel and mean ways. Am I alone?

I love degrading fucking and humiliating white and Asian women. Married or single.

 

[Kim_Burly]

Sir, my Husband, enjoys taking married women, and he especially loves doing it while the husband watches. One of the most truly humiliating things he has done is, after he has taken the woman, he makes the man masturbate into his palm and eat his own cum. As we all know, for most men, after the climax, there is a big letdown, and what what so hot moments before is no longer arousing, or even repulsive. Then the husband is tasked with cleaning another man's semen from his wife, without being sexually aroused. It is a powerful scene and what is very surprising to me is that the same couples wish to do it again.

I really wish he did not have this predilection, it has caused me the most angst of anything we have done in our marriage. Since we have stopped playing with other couples, it has been a rare occurrence, but if a woman he finds desirable rolls out the red carpet, he is not strong enough to resist.

Sir is a Master of humiliation and along with the S&M fun, it is an equal part of our repertoire. I am happiest when I am the one being humiliated .

 

[eroticspank]

This is a really interesting perspective. One of the take-aways for me is; in all the examples you mentioned, there is always an element of trust required. This seems especially relevant when you summarize the dynamic between a man and woman. Without the trust, it is unlikely that humiliation will ever be allowed in such a relationship. But with trust, both are able to feel safe and drop some of the pretenses they project, embrace the "safe-zone" the other offers, and feel shame for some of the "naughty" things we do and think. This is really very applicable to the "submissive husband' kind of relationship, and one of the best explanations I've seen.

Sometimes this thread makes me want to shout; Is there a doctor in the house! (but, I have to admit to not wanting to be healed...so I never shout

Thank you. I agree trust is a big part of it especially when it comes to getting in your partners' head. A stranger on the street I would dismiss and not think twice about her comments though they would normally be arousing words.

But your life partner or someone you are in a relationship with, those walls of protection are down, and D/s play is easier, much more fun. I am happy to engage in adult play when my partner is into it as well, we both like it, we both trust, and we are both able to jump in with both feet.

ES

 

[eroticspank]

CFNM or CMNF

I enjoy CFNM (Clothed Female Nude Male) or the reverse CMNF. This is another area where much of this and the humiliation is all about what is in our heads.

I am sure many of us have seen CFNM pictures and many of them are clear on who the dominant is, the woman. But I have found myself looking at some of them thinking the guy is the Dom. The same is true with CMNF, in some cases more so I feel. Maybe it is because I have a submissive side. But I have seen several photos of a nude woman attending to a fully clothed man and she looked like the one in control. It is all about what is in your head, if you feel submissive, or humiliated then you are.

In the case of CFNM there is no hiding the male arousal. That is part of the humiliation and a big turn on for some women to create that despite the man's attempt at not showing it.

ES

 

[yukonnights]

I enjoy CFNM (Clothed Female Nude Male) or the reverse CMNF. This is another area where much of this and the humiliation is all about what is in our heads.

I am sure many of us have seen CFNM pictures and many of them are clear on who the dominant is, the woman. But I have found myself looking at some of them thinking the guy is the Dom. The same is true with CMNF, in some cases more so I feel. Maybe it is because I have a submissive side. But I have seen several photos of a nude woman attending to a fully clothed man and she looked like the one in control. It is all about what is in your head, if you feel submissive, or humiliated then you are.

In the case of CFNM there is no hiding the male arousal. That is part of the humiliation and a big turn on for some women to create that despite the man's attempt at not showing it.

ES

I think you summed it all up very nicely in the highlighted statements above. The potential for humiliation is either in one's head or it isn't. To attempt to humiliate someone who isn't wired to respond would just be so much comedy...or tragedy depending on the ones involved.

 

[cookiecat]

yukonnights
sterculius
eroticspank

you're all amazingly hot in what you write.

thanks for being so open!

 

[eroticspank]

I think you summed it all up very nicely in the highlighted statements above. The potential for humiliation is either in one's head or it isn't. To attempt to humiliate someone who isn't wired to respond would just be so much comedy...or tragedy depending on the ones involved.

Now that is well said and hilarious!

ES

 

[eroticspank]

yukonnights
sterculius
eroticspank

you're all amazingly hot in what you write.

thanks for being so open!

Thanks a lot of great discussion here, including your comments

ES

 

[SexyHeavyLady]

I need degradation and humiliation with sex, it doesn't get me wet which is fine as I am into orgasm denial, but it just feels right to be crying as a guy or guy's fuck me. And I know why and that its messed up but in a weird way I enjoy it, I don't enjoy normal sex at all, I don't want to cum. I want the man to use me to cum.. I get off on misogyny, on feeling second class.

I might look into curing this if possible later on to have a normal life one day.

 

[yukonnights]

I need degradation and humiliation with sex, it doesn't get me wet which is fine as I am into orgasm denial, but it just feels right to be crying as a guy or guy's fuck me. And I know why and that its messed up but in a weird way I enjoy it, I don't enjoy normal sex at all, I don't want to cum. I want the man to use me to cum.. I get off on misogyny, on feeling second class.

I might look into curing this if possible later on to have a normal life one day.

A friend I have been having a discussion about life. I doubt our simple thoughts will end up in a university library, but this one seems to relate to what you said;
Often we feel confined to feed only the life that faces outside to the world in which we find ourselves...but what to do with the other life facing inward? Is the one more real than the other, or is it simply that we feed one more often and it grows stronger? Perhaps the truth is that both lives are equally valid, and should be tended to with equal care? And just maybe, in some future day, the two are finally able to join into one and dwell both within and out. Perhaps the words; honest and whole can describe what I am thinking...or maybe just 'peace in heart and soul'?

Maybe it wouldn't be wrong to at least look inward to that future "some day" where the image of a "normal life" dwells, and then feed it a bite or two and let it out to play? Most of us have these two lives, I think. The task seems to be; getting them to be friends.