How do you find partners for casual sex

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Christobal]

For me causal sex has run out of appeal. I was a whore thirty years ago. Another notch in my belt cause I was an asshole.

Now if I have sex with you it's because it means something.

 

[Emerson40]

Go to bar?
Use FB?
Any online matchmaker?
...?

Lit chat, naturally.

 

[hashtag4]

Go to bar?
Use FB?
Any online matchmaker?
...?

Hang around public toilets with your fly open.

 

[hashtag4]

I don't anymore. Last offer was exactly a month ago this weekend. I wore less me clothes and smiled a lot and was seen as 'available' by someone who is a friend of my husband's too. I thought it annoying but amusing at the time but it's bothered me a little since.

Funny. I never had such 'offers' even when I wore more revealing clothes.
Could be something about one's attitude, you reckon?

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Emerson40]

Nobody hasever propositioned you? Or taken casual chatting flirting beyond casual chatty flirting?

I am certain attitude etc has something to do with it, which is part of what frustrated me about that night. I was not concious of behaving differently around him. I was not wearing fewer clothes either. I was wearing a maxi dress that evening, with a wrap. There was some cleavage but, there often is . I was not, for example, wearing sunglasses with little plastic daisies on them

Bless your kind, kind heart.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[hashtag4]

Nobody hasever propositioned you? Or taken casual chatting flirting beyond casual chatty flirting?

I am certain attitude etc has something to do with it, which is part of what frustrated me about that night. I was not concious of behaving differently around him. I was not wearing fewer clothes either. I was wearing a maxi dress that evening, with a wrap. There was some cleavage but, there often is . I was not, for example, wearing sunglasses with little plastic daisies on them

I didn't and would never think that your attitude invited it as my post implied, God forbid.
It's just that you expressed it in such a funny way, that I couldn't help myself from poking you a bit. My post wasn't serious.

Not much actually, but it has more to do with societal attitudes I believe.

Lance was right in that things over here are Much more different than in Europe and even England. Men tend to be polite and cautious about such things and they don't impose themselves in such ways. (or maybe I'm wrong and Rainshine would be able to correct me if so)
There are of course doufuses who grossly misread signals like the guy that you were referring to, but they're much more cautious and less inclined to act on their thoughts.

Such a contrast to some countries in Europe where if you take a crowded bus, chances are that some frotteurist would rub his balls against your spine.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Emerson40]

Some pretty tall dudes must take the bus in Europe.


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[Wild_Honey_66]

Where to find casual sex? Redneck dive bars.

Oilfield workers are easy. Especially on karaoke night.

 

[suckonsimon]

Take your sketch pad to some elegant city and draw. Did that in Rome and I could have had French, German or British casual sex morning and afternoon. Shame was the chic Italian gals ignored me. They were busy.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Take your sketch pad to some elegant city and draw. Did that in Rome and I could have had French, German or British casual sex morning and afternoon. Shame was the chic Italian gals ignored me. They were busy.

I don't think it was the sketch pad that attracted them, Simon.

 

[suckonsimon]

I don't think it was the sketch pad that attracted them, Simon.

I guess it wasn't the shirt either; the German woman suggested I take that off come her third sentence: "Such a varum day vis the lovely sunshine! You not vant your shirt off?"

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I guess it wasn't the shirt either; the German woman suggested I take that off come her third sentence: "Such a varum day vis the lovely sunshine! You not vant your shirt off?"

Gotta hand it to those Germans for not pussyfooting around.

I'll have to try that line here and see if it works any better on American men!

 

[hashtag4]

Shouldn't one decide on what 'casual sex' entails first?

Because there's the Lit. standard and then there's the RL standard

 

[Desiremakesmeweak]

Shouldn't one decide on what 'casual sex' entails first?

Because there's the Lit. standard and then there's the RL standard

hehehehe.

Now that is funny. And probably true.

I find myself wa-a-a-y out of these discussions...

I'd like to participate but I find it quite difficult to cut across the reality of what it means to be "quote/unquote" normal - I've realized very late in life I am not necessarily 'normal.'

Normally, people hide their own peculiarities and inabilities to get on with others in spite of their self-promotion that they are ALL remarkably wonderful and easy to live with and to get on with - until you actually, and they actually become involved for any length of time ACTUALLY CLOSELY.

And then you get all the nonsense that is 'human beings.'

For years and years my parents and uncles and aunts and family friends would swear black and blue there was this alien 'cigar-shaped object' you see, and et cetera, and then, THEN I was born.

I used to think nothing of it to begin with. And then I thought they were crazy or for some reason of their own had decided to make up this stupid nonsense... And then eventually I learned that, nah, maybe they were right after all!

'Casual sex' means the capability to have sex with someone you have met recently, without too much financial spend/burden or this 'courting' type emotional suggestion of 'commitment' to something or other, and then to have good, educated, technical, and satisfying physical SEX together, and then separate and not be left with the emotional 'problem' of what to say or do in case, or WHEN, either one or both finds another, and different individual to next have sex with as well and to go on doing that ad infinitum, more or less.

Materialistic religions like Islam try to manufacture rules about multiple partners and 'sexual conquests' and forced sex and so on, and spiritual religions underscore the connection between children and the raising of them and the sex act.

The fact is, remove any question of future financial question-marks on any matter (children, survival, so on) and you will be left with the personal internal 'pleasure' or 'feelings' motives and also any tendency you may or might have to want this 'merged deep emotionality' consciousness experience that is often possible in sex.

Society and culture has let the human race down because they insufficiently address these pre-conditonal matters and nevertheless imply there is a right to sex without any broader societal obligation to look after the people and the children/families, other than very vaguely if not mysteriously through the wonderful liberty of 'the vote' and the presence of our wonderful media, be it MSM or YouTube/FB or Fox, and in the case of the Wahabis, the brilliant rules and sharia of the 'holy' pedophile 'prophet' Muhammad and his insane followers and modern oil-junkies in the ME.

I find the human race frankly, bizarrely backward in these respects.

And I can't honestly consider myself anything other than a facade human because for reasons which have become more and more obvious to me over the years, I made a serious lot of money on my own when I was very young which removed the 'problem' of how to fund a socio-sexual (as it were) lifestyle.

What I found was the following - which might be of help to the males:

1. never suggest anything other than a pure sexual drive as the motivation behind talking with any woman you find attractive;

2. only following that self-admission, may you treat them in any case responsibly and certainly as an intellectual equal - you should do that, at minimum. They can all see what motivates you and the more honest you are up front the less they will lead you on.

3. women who are sexually available make themselves known if you are unequivocally sexual and capable.

4. I have found, regardless of the appearance of misfortunes of life, ALL women are financially independent and capable - and this is not a good thing, but it is a real thing. Why it isn't good is because society's commercial and economic pathways have all been perverted as a result.

5. if you are attracted to someone they are always attracted to you but they may not want to show it. Yet, 'always' is the correct position. And it doesn't mean to say you will 'score' as they say but it is important to keep the fact in mind anyway.

6. 'casual' sex is a nonsensical phrase to advanced intelligent and social beings, but this does not yet include human beings on the whole.

7. there are a lot more 'hybrid' humans around who 'might' if you are lucky and brush your teeth and know when to shut up and do 'active listening' deign to give out a bit...

The world is already over with its head cut off and no one in the human race knows it much yet.

 

[Aphro]

I really feel that no sex should ever be THAT casual.

If it descends into the same realm as brushing one's teeth and clipping one's toenails, then it's probably not worth pursuing.

Without desire, it's just tab A into slot B.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Aphro]

Casual doesn't mean with out desire to me. It means with out desire for much more perhaps but just as I really am a huge proponent of the slow food movement....sometimes, sometimes I'd like something from a packet. A cookie, some crackers, some bought popcorn....casual food. The craving can be a strong desire.

Fair enough.

 

[Lancecastor]

Great post...can you expand on your thoughts?

hehehehe.

Now that is funny. And probably true.

I find myself wa-a-a-y out of these discussions...

I'd like to participate but I find it quite difficult to cut across the reality of what it means to be "quote/unquote" normal - I've realized very late in life I am not necessarily 'normal.'

Normally, people hide their own peculiarities and inabilities to get on with others in spite of their self-promotion that they are ALL remarkably wonderful and easy to live with and to get on with - until you actually, and they actually become involved for any length of time ACTUALLY CLOSELY.

And then you get all the nonsense that is 'human beings.'

For years and years my parents and uncles and aunts and family friends would swear black and blue there was this alien 'cigar-shaped object' you see, and et cetera, and then, THEN I was born.

I used to think nothing of it to begin with. And then I thought they were crazy or for some reason of their own had decided to make up this stupid nonsense... And then eventually I learned that, nah, maybe they were right after all!

'Casual sex' means the capability to have sex with someone you have met recently, without too much financial spend/burden or this 'courting' type emotional suggestion of 'commitment' to something or other, and then to have good, educated, technical, and satisfying physical SEX together, and then separate and not be left with the emotional 'problem' of what to say or do in case, or WHEN, either one or both finds another, and different individual to next have sex with as well and to go on doing that ad infinitum, more or less.

Materialistic religions like Islam try to manufacture rules about multiple partners and 'sexual conquests' and forced sex and so on, and spiritual religions underscore the connection between children and the raising of them and the sex act.

The fact is, remove any question of future financial question-marks on any matter (children, survival, so on) and you will be left with the personal internal 'pleasure' or 'feelings' motives and also any tendency you may or might have to want this 'merged deep emotionality' consciousness experience that is often possible in sex.

Society and culture has let the human race down because they insufficiently address these pre-conditonal matters and nevertheless imply there is a right to sex without any broader societal obligation to look after the people and the children/families, other than very vaguely if not mysteriously through the wonderful liberty of 'the vote' and the presence of our wonderful media, be it MSM or YouTube/FB or Fox, and in the case of the Wahabis, the brilliant rules and sharia of the 'holy' pedophile 'prophet' Muhammad and his insane followers and modern oil-junkies in the ME.

I find the human race frankly, bizarrely backward in these respects.

And I can't honestly consider myself anything other than a facade human because for reasons which have become more and more obvious to me over the years, I made a serious lot of money on my own when I was very young which removed the 'problem' of how to fund a socio-sexual (as it were) lifestyle.

What I found was the following - which might be of help to the males:

1. never suggest anything other than a pure sexual drive as the motivation behind talking with any woman you find attractive;

2. only following that self-admission, may you treat them in any case responsibly and certainly as an intellectual equal - you should do that, at minimum. They can all see what motivates you and the more honest you are up front the less they will lead you on.

3. women who are sexually available make themselves known if you are unequivocally sexual and capable.

4. I have found, regardless of the appearance of misfortunes of life, ALL women are financially independent and capable - and this is not a good thing, but it is a real thing. Why it isn't good is because society's commercial and economic pathways have all been perverted as a result.

5. if you are attracted to someone they are always attracted to you but they may not want to show it. Yet, 'always' is the correct position. And it doesn't mean to say you will 'score' as they say but it is important to keep the fact in mind anyway.

6. 'casual' sex is a nonsensical phrase to advanced intelligent and social beings, but this does not yet include human beings on the whole.

7. there are a lot more 'hybrid' humans around who 'might' if you are lucky and brush your teeth and know when to shut up and do 'active listening' deign to give out a bit...

The world is already over with its head cut off and no one in the human race knows it much yet.

 

[Comshaw]

How do you find partners for casual sex
Go to bar?
Use FB?
Any online matchmaker?
...?

Damn dude, there really isn't much to it at all. Find a woman you want, march right up to her and be honest, as in,"Ya wanna' fuck?"

It works and works well. I do it all the time and women fall all over me. Here's a picture of me after my last conquest. I was so cool and she thought I was so damned good.

http://img.huffingtonpost.com/asset/scalefit_630_noupscale/565f310a1b0000810029efd9.jpeg?cache=ndtrxufw7d

OH wait....that's the wrong picture! Ignore it...that wasn't me.....damn how do I take this down????

Comshaw

 

[Stewart_Pidd]

sex is never casual for me bro.

Stew

 

[Hypoxia]

I'm more for causal sex -- it causes something.

But not caudal sex. I'm not into that. It's not into me.

Finding partners is easy. Humans, not so much.