Looking for a mature woman's input

[phunandsex]

I really to want to write stories that women would really get into. It's no fun unless every one gets off.
I would like to get suggestions about what you as individuals find erotic. The more info the better, please help.

 

[MicheleRC]

49 years and still got it!

As an older woman, I find that not much has changed other than what my body can do. I'm not nearly as flexible because of age, accidents, and injuries. I prefer positions that allow me to lie down, like missionary (I love to see his eyes, so this has always been a favorite.) and scissors (me on my back with the left leg between his and the right leg over his hip, him on his side.)

I'm also perimenopausal, in the middle of menopause, so my periods are more random with more frequent spotting. The fact that he does not mind a bit of blood is a bonus, as you can imagine.

When alone, I still enjoy my toys, including vibrators, dildos, and etc. I do not need lubricants because I've always been overly wet. ;-p~~

I enjoy music during sex that reflects my mood and suits my partner. I am in a polyfidelity relationship, so I have a husband and a sister wife. I also have a lover, who has a girlfriend. My wife and I have never been in bed together to share our husband. That energy is not there between us. I have, however, played with my lover while his girlfriend played too. (That was quite fun!) With my husband, I listen to classical, romantic, or soft rock. With my lover, I prefer heavy metal. Not only does it suit my mood, it suits the relationships. My husband, 63 years old, is classical so we make love. My lover, 28 years old, is carnal so we fuck. lol

I enjoy shower play, as well as pool play. I'm more adventurous with my lover.

I hope this helps. If you have any questions, please ask.

 

[Suckurwetlips]

"Overly wet"...there's no such thing

 

[SusanJillParker]

I really to want to write stories that women would really get into. It's no fun unless every one gets off.
I would like to get suggestions about what you as individuals find erotic. The more info the better, please help.

Duh? You lost them with the word 'mature'.

Just as I'm a 44-year-old woman, I'm hardly mature. My emotional growth was stunted from all the sexual abuse I suffered.

There aren't any mature women here, just older women.

Every frigging time I go to see a movie, when they flash that disclaimer, "For Mature Audiences Only," I have to get up and leave. It's very embarrassing and I'm sick to death of being relegated to watching cartoons.

 

[LadyVer]

Intelligent characters and plot. If you have a difficult time coming up with words for dick, do not use snake. If you have difficulty with finding words for vagina, do not use flower. Mostly, I'd like to see more stories where both MC's are over 45, where they aren't written as perverted or TSTL.

 

[jsmiam]

I really to want to write stories that women would really get into. It's no fun unless every one gets off.
I would like to get suggestions about what you as individuals find erotic. The more info the better, please help.

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Admirable, but very difficult, probably impossible. Even with Michele and Ladyver's great advice, that would turn it into a story with far less appeal to the other 90% of the audience (you know.. Males?)

Fill it with soft music, emphasize the locale and the fabrics and the exotic lavender scented candles, yes, more appeal to women. And less to many, many men, looking for body parts and pistonic motions and women who want lots of anal, know how to deep throat, and want to invite their hot best friend for a threesome...

Part tongue in cheek, part hard truth. Try though. Good luck!

 

[Nezhul]

When writing a story for Women, you should remember that basically it would be the very same story that you would write for Men.

The wording will be the same, and women desire sex just the same, they want to find their love just the same.

Difference is perspective.

For example when you write for men, you would describe how pink and jusicy her pussy was, the softness and roundness of her tits, the sweetness of her maons etc. Things that MEN tend to pay much attention to. Women would probably not find a graphic long description of pussy to be very exciting.

When writing for women you should consider their perspective. You should know what they find attractive. I may be off mark here somewhat, but women often enjoy the voice, the words that they hear. They enjoy attention to detail. They pay attention to how neat he's dressed, his haircut, if he's shaven or not. They value confidence, decisiveness, courage to look her straight in the eyes and make an advance.
It is much more important for a women (compared to men) to feel the connection between them. To feel that he loves her and cares for her and wants her deeply. Men? Mostly we see a pair of tits and are ready to go. For most girls there should be something on the emotional level too.
In bed they will be turned on by what he does, rather than purely the visuals.
At the same time girls still will love a good body, they will enjoy if you smell good too.
Big cock? They never measure it in inches, and even more - while some girls tend to pay attention to size, for most it's the technique that matters. And also there's such a thing as "too big", especially considering that vagina depth varies too. It's better to not give your character a baseball-bat between his legs, because most women will laugh upon reading that. Make it average or just slightly on the bigger side, and don't waste more than a few words for describing it (Def. no numbers).

That's how I see it, hope this helps.

 

[NotWise]

When writing a story for Women, you should remember that basically it would be the very same story that you would write for Men.

The wording will be the same, and women desire sex just the same, they want to find their love just the same.

Difference is perspective.

I've read that when a physical measure of response is used, psychological studies show that men and women react to sexual stimuli in the same way. That's almost irrelevant because socially men and women do not respond to stimuli in the same way. Men tend to respond in ways that are more consistent with their physical response while women respond in ways that often ignore their physical response.

I think that responsibility is the biggest difference. Our culture loads women with the burden of responsibility for child bearing -- not just with the fact of having a child, but also with the social and genetic results -- and that shapes a lot of responses. There are other differences.

I have an abiding story concept in which I outline the process that I think a woman might go through in deciding to have sex (or not), then writing a story in which her conflicting interests are expressed as the conflicts between different characters.

 

[Athalia]

When writing a story for Women, you should remember that basically it would be the very same story that you would write for Men.

The wording will be the same, and women desire sex just the same, they want to find their love just the same.

I will agree with you to some extent. Elsewhere on this forum, I've quoted William Blake:

What is it men in women do require?
The lineaments of gratified desire.
What is it women in men do require?
The lineaments of gratified desire.

But a mature woman may bring more to the table than that. (And "mature" means many things to many people, but for the sake of argument I'll define it here as beyond the age where they are perceived as young and desirable, but still have an interest in sexual fulfillment.)

A mature woman may be thinking, "Am I still desirable? Am I still in the game?" She's living in a world where actresses can forget about being the love interest in a movie if they're over forty or so, while men can get leading-man roles into their sixties and beyond. She knows that youth sells, and wonders if she still has the goods.

She may have been hurt, and is trying to recover from that pain. She may have had years of child-rearing behind her, which I think affects women more directly than men. She's seen enough of the world to be more clear-headed in matters of romance, but romance is still important, and she's looking for ways for romance to happen in a more practical way than when she was in her teens.

And if she's still in the child-bearing years, she's always thinking about the possibility of becoming pregnant. So if you're striving for realism, that's a factor you have to consider. (But if realism isn't a concern for you, you can safely ignore that...but then you're writing a male fantasy, not a female one, IMO.)

I started writing erotica because I couldn't find many stories that really addressed those issues. So if I couldn't find the stories, I decided that I would write them myself. I invite you to peruse the "Daughters of Priapus" series, and my story "The Pond" and maybe "The Dorm Mother" if you want a "mature woman's perspective" on life and romance. And there are surely other "mature women" who contribute to Literotica. Seek out their stories, and see for yourself how different their world is from yours.

 

[Nezhul]

I wrote a female-perspective 1st person story (A&A Kinks). I guess it turned okay.

And if she's still in the child-bearing years, she's always thinking about the possibility of becoming pregnant. So if you're striving for realism, that's a factor you have to consider. (But if realism isn't a concern for you, you can safely ignore that...but then you're writing a male fantasy, not a female one, IMO.)

Oh, men think about that too. That's why I didn't mention that specifically, but I guess women have to pay more attention to that.

One of the greatest concerns is getting someone pregnant unintentionally. That's why you always have a condom with yourself, even if you didn't even plan to date this evening. Because who knows what can happen?