Litiquette V

[Suz_anne]

It's been a bit. Like maybe 1 in the last year or so. I'm shy.

 

[ChainedUp]

A curious thought on a Friday. When you are a passenger in a car, and there isn't a time concern, do you feel compelled to comment on the route the driver takes to the destination? Does it matter if it's not the way you'd go? Do you always go the same way to destinations or do you change things up?

 

[LWulf]

In my mind, concern for which route is taken suggests that time is a concern. The only time I would express concern with which route taken is if the destination was, let's say, north and we were headed south...

I like taking new routes and finding different ways to a given destination. It doesn't bother me when there are differences. I like knowing knowledge and learning something new is usually welcomed. I welcome... surprises.

 

[Paul_Chance]

A curious thought on a Friday. When you are a passenger in a car, and there isn't a time concern, do you feel compelled to comment on the route the driver takes to the destination? Does it matter if it's not the way you'd go? Do you always go the same way to destinations or do you change things up?

I change things up all the time, just for the variety (and in a city, time of day and destination reflect traffic flow, often enough "the long way round" is faster).

When I am a passenger, I usually just enjoy the ride. I will chime in if we're going somewhere the driver isn't familiar with, then I will pretend I am the navigator. If I'm in the backseat I'll just pretend I am the door gunner and merrily strafe things as we drive by them. If the car has one of those really fancy electronic control consoles I'll pretend I'm the EWO until the driver gets mad and tells me to stop pushing buttons.

Always remember - "Jesus is my co-pilot. Satan is my bombardier."

 

[aussiegeekygal]

A curious thought on a Friday. When you are a passenger in a car, and there isn't a time concern, do you feel compelled to comment on the route the driver takes to the destination? Does it matter if it's not the way you'd go? Do you always go the same way to destinations or do you change things up?

Shit- is Friday?!?

I always have something to say about the route my husband chooses. It's the inner Uber driver in me. I know all the shortcuts and can't understand when he doesn't take them. I don't care if time is not an option, I hate sitting in traffic. If rather be moving and take longer than stalled and faster.

 

[may_I_please]

A curious thought on a Friday. When you are a passenger in a car, and there isn't a time concern, do you feel compelled to comment on the route the driver takes to the destination? Does it matter if it's not the way you'd go? Do you always go the same way to destinations or do you change things up?

What is this passenger of which you speak?

I'm only ever a passenger when I'm too tipsy to drive, in which case I don't care

Or I'm too busy to drive, in which case also don't care

I like getting a lost though, when I'm walking, I like city maps and finding things I've never seen before

 

[ChainedUp]

The puppy dog effect. We see it here all the time, someone following a person from these to thread and posting right after them. It's different than a back and forth banter within the same thread. My question is, at what point does it go from being cute to being a little creepy?

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

The puppy dog effect. We see it here all the time, someone following a person from these to thread and posting right after them. It's different than a back and forth banter within the same thread. My question is, at what point does it go from being cute to being a little creepy?

There is no transition period for this. It's Creepy from the word *go*.

 

[Lord Pmann]

The puppy dog effect. We see it here all the time, someone following a person from these to thread and posting right after them. It's different than a back and forth banter within the same thread. My question is, at what point does it go from being cute to being a little creepy?

It becomes creepy when you can smell their desperation and Drakkar Noir.

 

[LWulf]

I didn't want to answer this because maybe I myself have been "creepy" in the past without knowing it, judging by some of the below previous responses.

I don't associate the "puppy dog affect" as being anything other than that.

There is a "white knight" here who goes following me around, looking for a moment to pounce on me for some perceived ill will. For example of his dementia, I went into an old navy man's personal ad and I made a play on words regarding his ad that only a navy guy would understand. When he saw it, the navy guy understood my quip and saw it as the humor I intended, but not before the clueless valiant white knight stepped in to expose me for being a harasser on a person's personal ad.

My point is, while stalking isn't exactly the topic question, it DOES expresses the line that has been crossed.

The "puppy dog affect" to me, is just that. The person doesn't intend harm or anything "creepy," they just likely found someone interesting and thought "I find that person interesting, so what they find interesting is likely what I'll find interesting." To play devil's advocate, there are times when I have simply opened a thread someone else had just commented in and it was just a sheer coincidence that I "followed" them in.

There are certain subtle and not so subtle clues to alert you that someone doesn't find your "puppy-dogness" comfortable. When someone pointedly or subtlety ignores you, is an obvious statement. Of course, if you weren't following them, then you might not even have noticed they were in the thread to begin with.

I have been accused of stalking someone in just such a coincidence and they pointedly said "stop stalking me" and I really felt like saying "please get over yourself, you're not all that and a bag of chips!" but instead tried to use humor to lessen the blow of non-interest.

To me, it's not a gray area. Someone is either innocent or they are blatantly stalking you and the "puppy dog affect" is simply that. Stalking is when someone clearly doesn't appreciate the puppy dog affect. In that regard, the definition of the line crossed is based on the mood of the individual who is "followed."

 

[may_I_please]

Lit moves slowly now. It looks like the last poster I'm a thread has take over the whole board sometimes

So if you're in a playful mood and looking for something to grab your attention it might be perfectly possible to be posting directly another poster in numerous threads with absolutely no intention of fostering any kind of impression

I find it interesting how it's all down to perception and how you read things

Perhaps we should all aim to read every post in either a Barry White or an Ertha Kitt voice ...or as Kermit or Miss Piggy

 

[ChainedUp]

may_I makes an interesting observation, people that appear as the last poster on threads. I've never quite understood the mentality of posting in so many threads, one after the other. I would rather look for one where my contribution helps the room along and that someone enjoys enough to reply to.

How many threads will you post to before you get bored?

 

[beachbaby179]

Usually 5 or 6. This is number 5 this morning so in order to maintain credibility, I will now go do something else. Like make coffee. Have a great day.

 

[Suz_anne]

How many threads will you post to before you get bored?

It is entirely mood dependent. Sometimes I just post on 2 or 3 of my favorite threads and other days I'm like a Chihuahua on crack cocaine who forgot her ADD meds and post on anything that moves and is shiny.

 

[LWulf]

for me, it depends on various different factors. mostly if I enjoy the topic and/or person, if I am responding to someone. I also don't necessarily need to have a crowd to perform to or need a crowd response. I say what I have to say for myself and if it makes sense to someone else, then jolly good. That person might read it months from now, or tomorrow and never respond, it's all the same to me.

I average between none and ten a day. More if the games are appealing to me, less if it seems the games are formed by a clique.

 

[Girly_girl]

For me it varies. Some days I won't post in the usual game threads and just post in my own thread. Other days it's just the opposite.

 

[Paul_Chance]

It's mood dependent on me as well. I routinely post in a dozen threads or so and read a dozen more. As long as something is going on I can be easily entertained. On a slow day though I either post everywhere to entertain myself, or wander off into the vast wildness of the internet.

 

[ChainedUp]

Monday once again, for those of you that may not have known.

I believe that driving in parking lots reveals the base humanity in us all. Are we polite and allow for others? Do we disregard all stop signs and directional arrows, assuming that they don't apply to us? Are we aggressive and willing to take what we want no matter what?

Are you who you drive yourself to be in a parking lot?

 

[Mrtenant]

Monday once again, for those of you that may not have known.

I believe that driving in parking lots reveals the base humanity in us all. Are we polite and allow for others? Do we disregard all stop signs and directional arrows, assuming that they don't apply to us? Are we aggressive and willing to take what we want no matter what?

Are you who you drive yourself to be in a parking lot?

I park in the back of the lot. I dont want my fucking car to get banged up by some careless idiot. I dont mind walking the extra 30-45 seconds it takes to get in the front door of my destination. I choose not to be part of the rat race for parking near the front door. Ever try parking a Monster Truck?

Also, I have little tolerance for people that drive like idiots in a parking lot, are selfish, block others way as they wait for some 'choice' spot. Or pedestrians that are oblivious to their surroundings.

 

[Endless_Night]

I do cut across rows, but aside from that I am polite and relaxed in parking lots.

Like MrT, I have little patience with for inconsiderate behavior. Blocking the store entry with your car while your passenger runs into the store "real quick" is a particular peeve. :|

 

[Suz_anne]

It's like the wild west in the parking lot at my office. People drive ridiculously fast through the lot - as if that extra 2 or 3 seconds will make a difference in them being 10 minutes late. I typically get in early and as a result, I don't have to deal with foolishness. But I constantly hear complaining from my co-workers about people parking in "their spot" (we don't have assigned parking) and people parking too close, etc. It's so dumb.

I live in a town with a big university and parking is a bitch. There are a lot of parking garages around, but still - it is often inconvenient when you just want to run into a store downtown. I don't think they even teach young drivers how to parallel park anymore, but I happen to have mad skills in that arena. So that can be a helpful advantage.

 

[ChainedUp]

Quick hitter today: how close to how you see yourself do you think others see you?

 

[girlyboi85]

Quick hitter today: how close to how you see yourself do you think others see you?

Probably not very. I think of myself as quite erudite, whereas most people just think I'm an annoying, pretentious wanker.

 

[Paul_Chance]

It depends on how well a person knows me. Some of them are pretty close. Of course I think the real question is how well do I know myself.

(Edited because Siri thought "knows me" should be Bozeman and I never noticed)

 

[Endless_Night]

Probably not close at all.

I'm often surprised at the difference between how I view people and how they view themselves. And, why not? We're all products of our beliefs, morality, experiences, and ego. None of which are likely to coincide between individuals. My personal self-perception is likely to be just as colored as the next person's.

It's the large shifts that occasionally leave me flummoxed. The grasping person who sees themselves as generous. The selfish who see themselves as kind. The judgmental that see themselves as loving.