Advice in matters of the heart

[Marija]

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Hello, I'm a foreign exchange student. I really need some advice, and would appreciate any comments. Thanks in advance.

I had a crush on a fellow student for many years. I lost a lot of weight last year and all of the sudden, he started to notice me and to flirt. He really seemed to like me.
I felt that we were going somewhere but the world came crushing down on me last week. Upon the advice of my best friend, I approached him and told him how I feel about him, and I asked him out. Since then, he has been avoiding me and is being very distant.

What made him change his mind or where did I go wrong, and how can I fix it? I would appreciate in particular the perspective of men who had similar experiences or had someone hitting on them, as some say.

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

Delete your post and run like hell.


You will be trolled here. Try the Personals Board, known as the Playground...

 

[BotanyBoy]

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[Stewart_Pidd]

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Hello, I'm a foreign exchange student. I really need some advice, and would appreciate any comments. Thanks in advance.

I had a crush on a fellow student for many years. I lost a lot of weight last year and all of the sudden, he started to notice me and to flirt. He really seemed to like me.
I felt that we were going somewhere but the world came crushing down on me last week. Upon the advice of my best friend, I approached him and told him how I feel about him, and I asked him out. Since then, he has been avoiding me and is being very distant.

What made him change his mind or where did I go wrong, and how can I fix it? I would appreciate in particular the perspective of men who had similar experiences or had someone hitting on them, as some say.

he's gay bro.

Stew

 

[NOIRTRASH]

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Hello, I'm a foreign exchange student. I really need some advice, and would appreciate any comments. Thanks in advance.

I had a crush on a fellow student for many years. I lost a lot of weight last year and all of the sudden, he started to notice me and to flirt. He really seemed to like me.
I felt that we were going somewhere but the world came crushing down on me last week. Upon the advice of my best friend, I approached him and told him how I feel about him, and I asked him out. Since then, he has been avoiding me and is being very distant.

What made him change his mind or where did I go wrong, and how can I fix it? I would appreciate in particular the perspective of men who had similar experiences or had someone hitting on them, as some say.

He's gay or married.

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

And so, it begins.


Now you've quoted and targeted for sport...


That's what the GB is, pretty much unmoderated blood sport.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Try starting your thread in this forum: How To. This one won't be of much help, although you may get a few helpful replies.

 

[JohnnySavage]

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Hello, I'm a foreign exchange student. I really need some advice, and would appreciate any comments. Thanks in advance.

I had a crush on a fellow student for many years. I lost a lot of weight last year and all of the sudden, he started to notice me and to flirt. He really seemed to like me.
I felt that we were going somewhere but the world came crushing down on me last week. Upon the advice of my best friend, I approached him and told him how I feel about him, and I asked him out. Since then, he has been avoiding me and is being very distant.

What made him change his mind or where did I go wrong, and how can I fix it? I would appreciate in particular the perspective of men who had similar experiences or had someone hitting on them, as some say.

Did you show him your titties?

 

[Debbie]

In this sort of situation it's difficult to tell you what might have happened. You may not have done anything wrong.

He might have been surprised. Or felt a bit on the spot after you asked him out.


You could try and ask him but if he's avoiding you then I guess he is really giving you the message that he doesn't feel comfortable with what happened.

I say leave him be. Go about enjoying your life and see what happens. He might approach you at some point or that's the end of that and sadly he is probably missing out on a lovely persona and getting to know you.

Welcome to the gb

 

[NOIRTRASH]

And so, it begins.


Now you've quoted and targeted for sport...


That's what the GB is, pretty much unmoderated blood sport.

He's gay or married.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

In this sort of situation it's difficult to tell you what might have happened. You may not have done anything wrong.

He might have been surprised. Or felt a bit on the spot after you asked him out.


You could try and ask him but if he's avoiding you then I guess he is really giving you the message that he doesn't feel comfortable with what happened.

I say leave him be. Go about enjoying your life and see what happens. He might approach you at some point or that's the end of that and sadly he is probably missing out on a lovely persona and getting to know you.

Welcome to the gb

He could be aby goddamned thing bit GAY or MARRIED are the high probability answers.

 

[pensivepoet]

Do you have a mustache?
It turns some guys off

 

[chillywilly2]

Don't take stupid advice from your best friend...she likely wanted him

 

[pink]

Leave him alone, it seems like he doesn't reciprocate your feelings.

 

[1sickbastard]

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Hello, I'm a foreign exchange student. I really need some advice, and would appreciate any comments. Thanks in advance.

I had a crush on a fellow student for many years. I lost a lot of weight last year and all of the sudden, he started to notice me and to flirt. He really seemed to like me.
I felt that we were going somewhere but the world came crushing down on me last week. Upon the advice of my best friend, I approached him and told him how I feel about him, and I asked him out. Since then, he has been avoiding me and is being very distant.

What made him change his mind or where did I go wrong, and how can I fix it? I would appreciate in particular the perspective of men who had similar experiences or had someone hitting on them, as some say.

My guess, he was looking for a booty call, not a relationship.

You're not going to "fix" this because you're not going to be able to 'fix' him.

My advice; Quit crushing and move on with your life.

 

[pensivepoet]

Norman Lear says his secret to a long happy life is two words
Over and Next
Good advice I think

 

[Tryharder62]

Men - no one can figure them out.
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[Inverter]

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Maybe you should confront a person that's more your age.

 

[neci]

how many years have you been an exchange student?

 

[Noor]

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Hello, I'm a foreign exchange student. I really need some advice, and would appreciate any comments. Thanks in advance.

I had a crush on a fellow student for many years. I lost a lot of weight last year and all of the sudden, he started to notice me and to flirt. He really seemed to like me.
I felt that we were going somewhere but the world came crushing down on me last week. Upon the advice of my best friend, I approached him and told him how I feel about him, and I asked him out. Since then, he has been avoiding me and is being very distant.

What made him change his mind or where did I go wrong, and how can I fix it? I would appreciate in particular the perspective of men who had similar experiences or had someone hitting on them, as some say.

You may not done nothing wrong, he may have just gotten scared. I find that guys sometimes freak when you tell them how you feel about them or at the very least uncomfortable. Just treat him like a normal person and go about your life and he may come around.

I had a guy quit his job because of a friend of mine ask him if he was single because I thought he was the most gorgeous guy ever. Prior to that he had always been really nice and giving me large juices when I ordered a small.

I didn't know what happened, I thought he was pretty hot, but I assumed he was married since he was a foreign student and most of them were married where we were.

Eventually, I saw him and invited him to join me and some friends at the student center grill, we had french fries. Slowly we got to know each other a little, and he asked me out to a movie, Midnight Cowboy. It was the absolute worst movie to go on for a first date esp. with a nerd who never dated and me who hated dates.
Somehow we survived, our next date was a punk rock concert, also an amusing date for us. He turned out to be great.
We were together for quite a while, even lived together, he is the person I thought I would have kids with. A bunch of unfortunate circumstances split us up, and a big part of it me not wanting to be tied down.
We are still friends.

 

[Noor]

I should mention that if he didn't notice you when you weighed more, he probably doesn't deserve you anyway.

 

[Noor]

Don't take stupid advice from your best friend...she likely wanted him

I agree, some of the worst decisions I have made in my life were on the advice of a friend. It wasn't that they had a stake in my decision, it was just bad advice for me and the situation.

 

[neci]

I agree, some of the worst decisions I have made in my life were on the advice of a friend. It wasn't that they had a stake in my decision, it was just bad advice for me and the situation.

i've found the internet has so much better advice.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

He was never interested to begin with. It likely has nothing to do with your weight. It sucks, but that's life. Move on.

 

[Ms_Ann]

He was never interested to begin with. It likely has nothing to do with your weight. It sucks, but that's life. Move on.

Or he prefers plump women. Life is funny like that.