What makes your S o u l F u l l?

Do they really exist?...I am on the fence...

Hello BC, hopefully this reply makes sense to you. :):rose:

First, you must decide on how you want to define "soulmate". The common assumption is chemistry, which when broken down, is usually one, or some, of the following: having a lot in common, being on the same wavelength, compatible levels of intellect, compatible ways of viewing life (more often than not this means sharing similar if not identical philosophies on how to live life). Mutual attraction may or may not be important depending on what outcome is desired.

It is possible to have a soul mate that is entirely platonic, also possible to have a soulmate that one marries and carries off to the sunset happiliy ever after. The second scenario is the stereotypical, popular one.

Do they exist? Yes. But the key point to understand is that they work out not because both people are soulmates. They work out because like every other relationship, the 2 people put in the time and effort to grow it. The same factors that determine whether a non soulmate couple end up together apply to soulmates as well, which very broadly, are timing, where each individual is in their life at that moment, what each individual wants out of life in that moment, etc.

On the flip side, it is also possible to have a soulmate no longer be a soulmate. This may sound apocryphal, but think about how messy life is. At some point in anyone's life, events will happen that will challenge their philosophies and change not only how they live their lives, but also how they view the world around them. This is a fundamental change that has wide ranging ripple effects. Attitudes will change, habits will change, a person's health and thus physical appearance will change.

The point is, should one soulmate undergo such a "transformation" while the other does not, they will most definitely not be soulmates anymore. In the case of soulmates who are in a relationship at the point of "transformation", some couples will find the change unbearable and the relationship will end, other couples will find a way around it, but while they may still be together, they may no longer share the same chemistry as they did prior to "transformation". Of course it is entirely possible that they remain together and still retain that chemistry.

An extension of this logic is that it is also entirely possible that at different points in one's life there are different soulmates for him or her, since everyone is slowly changing every day. Unfortunately, the probability of finding one is so low that finding two would be quite miraculous :D

TLDR; People change a lot over the course of their lives, and a soulmate today may not be a soulmate tomorrow. Multiple soulmates are possible (although that runs against the definition of the word).
 
Hello BC, hopefully this reply makes sense to you. :):rose:

First, you must decide on how you want to define "soulmate". The common assumption is chemistry, which when broken down, is usually one, or some, of the following: having a lot in common, being on the same wavelength, compatible levels of intellect, compatible ways of viewing life (more often than not this means sharing similar if not identical philosophies on how to live life). Mutual attraction may or may not be important depending on what outcome is desired.

It is possible to have a soul mate that is entirely platonic, also possible to have a soulmate that one marries and carries off to the sunset happiliy ever after. The second scenario is the stereotypical, popular one.

Do they exist? Yes. But the key point to understand is that they work out not because both people are soulmates. They work out because like every other relationship, the 2 people put in the time and effort to grow it. The same factors that determine whether a non soulmate couple end up together apply to soulmates as well, which very broadly, are timing, where each individual is in their life at that moment, what each individual wants out of life in that moment, etc.

On the flip side, it is also possible to have a soulmate no longer be a soulmate. This may sound apocryphal, but think about how messy life is. At some point in anyone's life, events will happen that will challenge their philosophies and change not only how they live their lives, but also how they view the world around them. This is a fundamental change that has wide ranging ripple effects. Attitudes will change, habits will change, a person's health and thus physical appearance will change.

The point is, should one soulmate undergo such a "transformation" while the other does not, they will most definitely not be soulmates anymore. In the case of soulmates who are in a relationship at the point of "transformation", some couples will find the change unbearable and the relationship will end, other couples will find a way around it, but while they may still be together, they may no longer share the same chemistry as they did prior to "transformation". Of course it is entirely possible that they remain together and still retain that chemistry.

An extension of this logic is that it is also entirely possible that at different points in one's life there are different soulmates for him or her, since everyone is slowly changing every day. Unfortunately, the probability of finding one is so low that finding two would be quite miraculous :D

TLDR; People change a lot over the course of their lives, and a soulmate today may not be a soulmate tomorrow. Multiple soulmates are possible (although that runs against the definition of the word).

Thank you my sweet friend for your insight...as always, so wonderful and thoughtful...I love and agree with everything you have written...I personally do believe in Soulmates...When I said I was on the fence, it was more about many discussions I have had in the recent past with friends who actually for the most part do not believe in them for differing reasons...Sometimes the hurt and pain disillusion souls as with other factors not necessarily positive....so all those nays...with my Yay, got me thinking and pondering what is real and not real...

So much we want to believe in the romance of life and what a soulmate is, and we all crave it I feel ...I also think it is a very often " thrown around" term and taken kind of lightly by many...It is more falling in love with the term than actually feeling it at times...

I love your perspective...more food for thought...love it...

And to you my sweet Penguin...Im blessed to have met you and to have become friends...Our discussions always intrigue and make me smile...I love our talks about world travels and sharing that...and hope for many more wonderful talks...

You are a dear...:heart::heart:
 
The soul is a deep thinker. It is not a visual being. It is the sum total of whom each of us are.

The soul picks and chooses wisely. The soul, in finding it's mate, could be screaming that it has found the "one", yet at times, the heart is it's nemesis as well as the mind. Those three are not always friends.

The one whom our soul loves can be a very elusive thing, yet when found, is a life shared and a connection which forms a bond that is stronger than what life's challenges bring. It is also the ultimate in the celebration of love.
 
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The soul is a deep thinker. It is not a visual being. It is the sum total of whom each of us are.

The soul picks and chooses wisely. The soul, in finding it's mate, could be screaming that it has found the "one", yet at times, the heart is it's nemesis as well as the mind. Those three are not always friends.

The one whom our soul loves can be a very elusive thing, yet when found, is a life shared and a connection which forms a bond that is stronger than what life's challenges bring. It is also the ultimate in the celebration of love.

Beautifully said my friend...adore you...:heart::rose:
 
The soul is a deep thinker. It is not a visual being. It is the sum total of whom each of us are.

The soul picks and chooses wisely. The soul, in finding it's mate, could be screaming that it has found the "one", yet at times, the heart is it's nemesis as well as the mind. Those three are not always friends.

The one whom our soul loves can be a very elusive thing, yet when found, is a life shared and a connection which forms a bond that is stronger than what life's challenges bring. It is also the ultimate in the celebration of love.

I love this. Thank you jb :rose:
 
I fell in love with a man. With all my heart, soul, and body he was my soulmate.

It was hard to be apart, you loved so hard your heart hurt. Yet it also soared to the heavens when you saw his smile, heard his voice, felt his touch.

Are they soulmates? Yes there are. They will touch your heart, claim your soul forever.
 
I fell in love with a man. With all my heart, soul, and body he was my soulmate.

It was hard to be apart, you loved so hard your heart hurt. Yet it also soared to the heavens when you saw his smile, heard his voice, felt his touch.

Are they soulmates? Yes there are. They will touch your heart, claim your soul forever.

That is beautiful, Lovely :rose:
 
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