What pissed you off today? Mark II

[Bramblethorn]

It doesn't piss me off. It just makes me sad that I just can't give up on a treasured relationship even though I keep getting billboards and skywriting and 10-foot-tall graffiti saying NO. CHANCE. AT. SAVING. THIS.

Please tell me someone else here has ever been as embarrassingly, stubbornly clinging to that 1 percent chance of reconciling with a love. Please?

Spent a lot of last year doing that, yeah.

 

[fma20fma]

hi

The guy who was rubbing on my rear clevage in the suburban train was very obvious in his movement.lucky others dodnt pay much attention. That pissed me off, but i refrained from retorting.

 

[Farawyn]

It doesn't piss me off. It just makes me sad that I just can't give up on a treasured relationship even though I keep getting billboards and skywriting and 10-foot-tall graffiti saying NO. CHANCE. AT. SAVING. THIS.

Please tell me someone else here has ever been as embarrassingly, stubbornly clinging to that 1 percent chance of reconciling with a love. Please?

I've been guilty of that, and no amount of good advice could sway me. You've got to come to your own conclusions. Only then can you look back, say you tried your best, and be able to move on.

I also go for those that, in all honesty, deserve far better than me.

But I'll never stop doing that, because I'm a stubborn bastard who wants to be happy in spite of myself

Yes. It sucks.

Spent a lot of last year doing that, yeah.

*sits with you all*

 

[Farawyn]

The guy who was rubbing on my rear clevage in the suburban train was very obvious in his movement.lucky others dodnt pay much attention. That pissed me off, but i refrained from retorting.

A dude jerked off on my coat in the subway once. Happened to my SIL, too.

 

[Vixandra]

A dude jerked off on my coat in the subway once. Happened to my SIL, too.

Omfg eww. Not sure whether my retort would be to turn around and vomit on him cause sharing fluids or contact to police and press charges for sexual assault based off his DNA. Maybe both.

 

[Mindfondler]

Pseuds
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[Misshotndeep]

• My team. WTF was that last night? How embarrassing.
• It came to bed and broke my peace. It needs to go far far away and quickly. it causes to much drama and stress. I have enough with out it.

 

[Farawyn]

Omfg eww. Not sure whether my retort would be to turn around and vomit on him cause sharing fluids or contact to police and press charges for sexual assault based off his DNA. Maybe both.

The train was so crowded I really couldn't turn around. I was also young and pretty scared at the time. Ugh.

 

[Blue]

A dude jerked off on my coat in the subway once. Happened to my SIL, too.

More reasons we should encourage WW3 to begin over Syria.

 

[Farawyn]

More reasons we should encourage WW3 to begin over Syria.

Ahahahaaaaa!

 

[MeekMe]

(p_-) Things I read about. Stupid people.

 

[Farawyn]

(p_-) Things I read about. Stupid people.

I like your monocle.

 

[MeekMe]

I like your monocle.

That's a face palm. (-｡-; A monocle would be cool. I should invest in one. I think I'd look pretty cool. Maybe some Lolita steampunk clothes to make it all work.

 

[Farawyn]

That's a face palm. (-｡-; A monocle would be cool. I should invest in one. I think I'd look pretty cool. Maybe some Lolita steampunk clothes to make it all work.

Hahha! I saw it as one of those hand held monocles.

I am about to throw my work computer across the room. I love my patients, I hate this computer glitchy crapola.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Anytime.

Yes. It sucks.

Spent a lot of last year doing that, yeah.

*sits with you all*

Thank you. I hope you all find peace and maybe even some growth in whatever feelings you have about those painful times.

 

[Farawyn]

Thank you. I hope you all find peace and maybe even some growth in whatever feelings you have about those painful times.

Thank you. Right now I'm thinking "FUCK GROWTH!!!"
But I'm sure I'll come 'round...

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Thank you. Right now I'm thinking "FUCK GROWTH!!!"
But I'm sure I'll come 'round...

Oh, hell yeah. When you get a deep physical wound, it just stabs and pulses and keeps you up at night. I'll spare you metaphors about scabs, but you know what I mean.

I hope you get some catharsis out of your rage. It can help a lot. It's something I have to watch though. My av used to be the Hulk; not so much for the green aspect (although that was a nice bonus) but because I have a nasty tendency to sub in anger for lots of other stuff I'm trying not to feel. I'm thinking you're probably more self-aware than me. But I do hope you get where you feel good, whatever that looks like for you.

 

[MeekMe]

Hm...

Reading about these relationship things. It makes me think, I don't have a lot of experience. The experience I have was when I was young, so perhaps it isn't as helpful. I think that there's something to be said about staying beyond being welcomed. I stayed in a relationship that I was sure I had to make work. That went up in flames and staying was the worst thing I could have done. Another relationship, I ended it when it dawned on me how far we'd grown apart. We were just sort of friends at that point and not even good friends. I didn't hate him, I just noticed we were naturally heading in that direction and because I noticed, I felt I needed to be the one to step up and say it. He told me to choke on a razor blade. I see him now, he's turned out really great and I'm quite happy we both went our separate ways because it worked out for the best.

I don't really know what I'm getting at here. Just thinking about it I guess.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Hm...

Reading about these relationship things. It makes me think, I don't have a lot of experience. The experience I have was when I was young, so perhaps it isn't as helpful. I think that there's something to be said about staying beyond being welcomed. I stayed in a relationship that I was sure I had to make work. That went up in flames and staying was the worst thing I could have done. Another relationship, I ended it when it dawned on me how far we'd grown apart. We were just sort of friends at that point and not even good friends. I didn't hate him, I just noticed we were naturally heading in that direction and because I noticed, I felt I needed to be the one to step up and say it. He told me to choke on a razor blade. I see him now, he's turned out really great and I'm quite happy we both went our separate ways because it worked out for the best.

I don't really know what I'm getting at here. Just thinking about it I guess.

I think you're getting at something important, and I appreciate you sharing it. You have to trust yourself. As with most (everything?) in life, there is no one answer or approach. What you did was exactly the right thing for you, and that became even clearer in retrospect.

I am loathe to give up on things. I stay until the bitter end when my team is getting killed; I always want to believe that a miracle may happen. And I've been rewarded with that approach - I've seen utterly remarkable comebacks at football and basketball games - and in relationships. I've also seen plenty of sad and cold time wasted.

The difference, though, is that for it to happen in a relationship, there has to be buy-in from both parties. There is no way to dig deep, pull out some trick plays and snatch relationship-victory from defeat if one partner has decided uncategorically that it is time to stop. You may be able to convince them to give it another shot, but you cannot make them play if they don't want to. And that is for the best, ultimately.

 

[cookiecat]

^^^ At what point, though, do you know when to quit? When it comes to my heart, I tend to leave rather quickly. Left with my heart in hand, wondering what if I stayed?

I do believe everything leads you to where you need to end up. Even if it doesn't seem clear today.

 

[Farawyn]

Oh, hell yeah. When you get a deep physical wound, it just stabs and pulses and keeps you up at night. I'll spare you metaphors about scabs, but you know what I mean.

I hope you get some catharsis out of your rage. It can help a lot. It's something I have to watch though. My av used to be the Hulk; not so much for the green aspect (although that was a nice bonus) but because I have a nasty tendency to sub in anger for lots of other stuff I'm trying not to feel. I'm thinking you're probably more self-aware than me. But I do hope you get where you feel good, whatever that looks like for you.

Anger feels like strength. I know it's not, but I pretend it is. It propels me more than sadness, which stops me and throws me down.

The Lou Ferrigno, old school Hulk?

 

[Farawyn]

^^^ At what point, though, do you know when to quit? When it comes to my heart, I tend to leave rather quickly. Left with my heart in hand, wondering what if I stayed?

I do believe everything leads you to where you need to end up. Even if it doesn't seem clear today.

I'm tenacious and I hate change.
We shall see.

 

[Farawyn]

Hm...

Reading about these relationship things. It makes me think, I don't have a lot of experience. The experience I have was when I was young, so perhaps it isn't as helpful. I think that there's something to be said about staying beyond being welcomed. I stayed in a relationship that I was sure I had to make work. That went up in flames and staying was the worst thing I could have done. Another relationship, I ended it when it dawned on me how far we'd grown apart. We were just sort of friends at that point and not even good friends. I didn't hate him, I just noticed we were naturally heading in that direction and because I noticed, I felt I needed to be the one to step up and say it. He told me to choke on a razor blade. I see him now, he's turned out really great and I'm quite happy we both went our separate ways because it worked out for the best.

I don't really know what I'm getting at here. Just thinking about it I guess.

I used to feel this way. I appreciate it.
I said once, well, I can lead this horse to water, but I can't make him drink...

And a friend of mine said, yes, but you still gotta offer him the water.

After 4 years and no water? Fuck it. You know where the water is. Drink it yourself.

Ooooh. So bitter.

 

[Farawyn]

I think you're getting at something important, and I appreciate you sharing it. You have to trust yourself. As with most (everything?) in life, there is no one answer or approach. What you did was exactly the right thing for you, and that became even clearer in retrospect.

I am loathe to give up on things. I stay until the bitter end when my team is getting killed; I always want to believe that a miracle may happen. And I've been rewarded with that approach - I've seen utterly remarkable comebacks at football and basketball games - and in relationships. I've also seen plenty of sad and cold time wasted.

The difference, though, is that for it to happen in a relationship, there has to be buy-in from both parties. There is no way to dig deep, pull out some trick plays and snatch relationship-victory from defeat if one partner has decided uncategorically that it is time to stop. You may be able to convince them to give it another shot, but you cannot make them play if they don't want to. And that is for the best, ultimately.

Yes. I could have written this.
Some time ago.

 

[cookiecat]

I'm tenacious and I hate change.
We shall see.

I used to feel this way. I appreciate it.
I said once, well, I can lead this horse to water, but I can't make him drink...

And a friend of mine said, yes, but you still gotta offer him the water.

After 4 years and no water? Fuck it. You know where the water is. Drink it yourself.

Ooooh. So bitter.

Umm so yeah, about that change....

Loyalty is an incredible virtue. It seems like not enough people stick around long enough. (Like me in my past...)

Figuring out when sticking around just makes you stuck is the thing.