Endless Curiosity

[1sickbastard]

H.O.L.Y. F.U.

Sickie!!!!!!!!!!!!

You're welcome.

 

[ViciousTease]

You're welcome.

LMBO You are on a roll tonight, Sir. Cracking me up!

 

[Endless_Night]

And this is what you two are like drinking. Thank goodness Texas is a large place.

 

[1sickbastard]

LMBO You are on a roll tonight, Sir. Cracking me up!

So, my evil plan is working!
http://data.whicdn.com/images/45821940/large.jpg
Eeeeexcellent!

 

[1sickbastard]

And this is what you two are like drinking. Thank goodness Texas is a large place.

Oh, you love it.

 

[ViciousTease]

And this is what you two are like drinking. Thank goodness Texas is a large place.

I'm fairly certain you would like us drinking. *Hums "It's a small world after all ..."*

 

[ViciousTease]

So, my evil plan is working!
http://data.whicdn.com/images/45821940/large.jpg
Eeeeexcellent!

*giggling*

Indeed, Sir.

 

[1sickbastard]

I'm fairly certain you would like us drinking. *Hums "It's a small world after all ..."*

I'm fairly certain she would like to join us....
Uhm, drinking.
Sure, we'll go with that.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I want to add my thanks to Sassy for opening up like that. It's never easy, especially in a place like this where you might be opening yourself up to attack by some ass or another as well. Not likely to happen in this thread, but even so. I appreciate the additional depth of understanding as to what some people might be going through.

I rather like the concept of knowing who likes you for you, and who is paying lip service to you due to whatever their fucked up notion of what's cool may be I suppose it's human nature, and something we all might go through in youth. But with age and maturity, you would hope that people learn what is important in life and what isn't. Unfortunately, lots of people don't ever seem to learn that lesson. Knowing right up front who is shallow and who isn't seems to me to be a pretty nifty way to just cut through all the bullshit.

Thank you.

You are right though, I guess that is still why I'm trying to understand the attacks and name calling.

I think as we have learned from places like this, age does not always mean maturity. Sadly.

I've played with my Avatar a lot and it is interesting to see how many more people talk to me when I have pictures vs when I don't.

 

[1sickbastard]

Thank you.

You are right though, I guess that is still why I'm trying to understand the attacks and name calling.

I think as we have learned from places like this, age does not always mean maturity. Sadly.

I've played with my Avatar a lot and it is interesting to see how many more people talk to me when I have pictures vs when I don't.

The sort of attacks and insults used by a person is far more revealing to that person's character that it is to the object of said attacks and insults.

And it's true, I'm freaking old, but my maturity level is well below my chronological age, something for which I'm kinda grateful most of the time.

 

[ViciousTease]

I'm just going to say that I am really inspired by y'all. I look like Homer Simpson naked, so y'all are awesome just the way you are. Thin, fat, tall, short, y'all rock!

Back at ya, darlin.

To me, that feeling of betrayal, hurt, humiliation, and embarrassment is a toxic combination that can easily take control if you let it.

This is where I fall off of my high horse and land hard on my butt. I can control most emotions, but embarrassment and humiliation can push me right over the edge. If you must hurt me, please do so in private. I can take it. But if you take it public, I tend to lash out. That, or I withdraw completely and internalize everything that was said. I haven't figured out how to handle public humiliation with dignity yet. I'm still a work in progress.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I'm just going to say that I am really inspired by y'all. I look like Homer Simpson naked, so y'all are awesome just the way you are. Thin, fat, tall, short, y'all rock!

You are about as sweet as they come. So take that advice as well.

The sort of attacks and insults used by a person is far more revealing to that person's character that it is to the object of said attacks and insults.

And it's true, I'm freaking old, but my maturity level is well below my chronological age, something for which I'm kinda grateful most of the time.

haha I have my days where mine dips pretty low too, but knowing I am a sensitie thing, I try to be careful of others feelings, unless they have earned it, and I admit, I have felt as though some have.

 

[1sickbastard]

This is where I fall off of my high horse and land hard on my butt. I can control most emotions, but embarrassment and humiliation can push me right over the edge. If you must hurt me, please do so in private. I can take it. But if you take it public, I tend to lash out. That, or I withdraw completely and internalize everything that was said. I haven't figured out how to handle public humiliation with dignity yet. I'm still a work in progress.

Humor.
Especially if you can laugh, publicly, at yourself, then turn it back on those who humiliated you.

If you can figure how to do that on the fly, you'll rarely lose face but you will always make those who attempt to embarrass you the objects of ridicule and scorn.
Unless, of course, they're the sorts who can also laugh at themselves, in which case you'll have earned their respect, grudging as it may be.

 

[AbsintheFather]

Thank you.

I think as we have learned from places like this, age does not always mean maturity. Sadly.
.

I'd be really boring if I acted my age

 

[ViciousTease]

Humor.
Especially if you can laugh, publicly, at yourself, then turn it back on those who humiliated you.

If you can figure how to do that on the fly, you'll rarely lose face but you will always make those who attempt to embarrass you the objects of ridicule and scorn.
Unless, of course, they're the sorts who can also laugh at themselves, in which case you'll have earned their respect, grudging as it may be.

You're right and I'm working on it.

 

[1sickbastard]

I'd be really boring if I acted my age

The best thing about getting old is not being some young idiot.
Of course, that's also the worst part of getting old.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I'd like to know why so many who have dealt with jealousy on the board lash out in mean ways vs dealing with it themselves internally.

Why is jealousy so hard to deal with? Why does it bring out the bully and make people mean?

*cracks knuckles*

The best thing about a public forum is that it is easy to hide behind a screen name.
Anonymous people can attack at will with no regards to repercussions.
Many friends of mine have been attacked by jealousy and have been jealous of different people.

It's one of those things that can bring out the bitch in folks. The truth is that people do get territorial. I am kinda lucky because no one owns me on here. I keep whatever I do of that nature private and i ask my partner to do the same. This isn't a protection thing as much as I prefer to keep things that way. I have experienced public concern before and the truth is I am not a fan of public declarations of my affections per se.

That's one reason I hug whoever I want and kiss whoever I want to. Because I'm not trying to own or be owned by anyone. Side effect is that I seem to avoid jealousies that way.
Whenever friends of mine do start showing the green eyed monster, I try to call them out on it in private and for the most part it works sometimes.

Life's too short for jealousies. If you get mad because your boy toy is hanging with another chick, do what you think is best. But again that's where communication comes in. If you want to be exclusive, say so and agree on it. Then do what you do.

I hope that makes sense. I just got home from work and I am bit dippy.

 

[lollypopmaid]

I'm happy being some young idiot making mistakes for the first time, so much better than being an old idiot making the same old mistakes over again .

The best thing about getting old is not being some young idiot.
Of course, that's also the worst part of getting old.

 

[ViciousTease]

So.....By my calculations tomorrow is Public Sex Saturday. How does this work? Dose VT just walk into the thread and say, “Game on.”?

- Are we supposed to recount public sex experiences?
- Are we supposed to ask questions about public sex experiences?
- Are we suppose to share fantasies of wanted public sex experiences?
- Are we suppose to share pictures that meet forum guidelines and link pictures that don't?
- All of the above????

Not that I’ll have anything to add to the conversation, you understand. (Not an exhibitionist ). But I’d still like to know the rules so I can rate contributors properly.

No worries. I’ll be gentle. As a judge.

Game on.

 

[Inspirinious]

Public Sex

OK, I'll go first, just to prime the pump.

This is a story from years ago, actually decades ago, in the 70's. Not about me, but some very close friends of mine at the time.

Sue and Ken were a crazy couple. They would try about anything. One night when they were stoned, which was actually common for them, they decided to have sex up in a big oak tree in a public park. That wasn't so bad. What made things really bad was they decided, for some stupid reason, that Icy Hot would be an interesting choice of lube. They almost fell out of the fucking tree!

They never used Icy Hot in that way again. But they did make it a regular thing to get high and have sex in trees. They were just crazy that way.

 

[ratherabsurd1]

But how do you learn to have confidence in yourself when you have been stupid enough to let the men you have had relationships with: convince you that you are not good enough, or pretty enough, or do enough for them, or they just cheat on you? Or like my soon to be ex-husband of 21 years, emotionally abuse you and withhold sex for seven years?? I'm not completely stupid, I started college for the first time a little over a year ago at the age of 50, got my Certificate for Veterinary Assist in May and will continue on for my Assoc. Degree., but I have no confidence in myself or trust my judgement anymore. I am working on my jealousy issues, but I am having problems convincing myself that I deserve better, or that any man who shows an interest in me isn't going to just use me. To top it off, even though I suspected it for a long time, I discovered less than a year ago, that I am a sub.(that's enough just by itself) and this is the main reason I need to get a handle on myself. Any suggestions are welcome on how I might be able to boost my confidence level. I realize it's ultimately all in my head, but...how do you learn to let go? I know this is not a good post and I apologize...

This is a very good post. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you. I am male but have learned over the years to put myself in a bubble of I am awesome and worth it. See you for who you are Unique and wonderful. Kent

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

But how do you learn to have confidence in yourself when you have been stupid enough to let the men you have had relationships with: convince you that you are not good enough, or pretty enough, or do enough for them, or they just cheat on you? Or like my soon to be ex-husband of 21 years, emotionally abuse you and withhold sex for seven years?? I'm not completely stupid, I started college for the first time a little over a year ago at the age of 50, got my Certificate for Veterinary Assist in May and will continue on for my Assoc. Degree., but I have no confidence in myself or trust my judgement anymore. I am working on my jealousy issues, but I am having problems convincing myself that I deserve better, or that any man who shows an interest in me isn't going to just use me. To top it off, even though I suspected it for a long time, I discovered less than a year ago, that I am a sub.(that's enough just by itself) and this is the main reason I need to get a handle on myself. Any suggestions are welcome on how I might be able to boost my confidence level. I realize it's ultimately all in my head, but...how do you learn to let go? I know this is not a good post and I apologize...

I'm sorry I missed this, I think I was writing while it posted. Unfortunately, there are no easy, fast fixes. It's baby steps. But the best part is, you are already taking some of them yourself!
Baby step: Realizing that the men you have been with were users. Check!
Baby step: Realizing not everything they said was true, or worthy of consideration. Check!
Big Step! Getting away from them. Check!
Baby step: Knowing you want to be a Vet Tech. Check!
Big Step! Getting your certificate and going back to school. Check!
Big Step! Realizing you have your own wants and needs sexually. Check!
And there are more things to add to that list. Things I could glean from your post, and things that only you know. Try making the list, it might be good for you. Realize all the positives and acknowledge them. Do you have support? Family members or friends? If not, look for a local divorce support group, or start your own thread here and talk about things as you go. I'm sure there are people here who will support you. Just keep moving forward.
Important! Learn your lessons and avoid similar situations! Tough, but you can do it Sometimes the only good thing that comes from a bad experience is a good life lesson. Don't ignore it. Write down objectives if need be and hang them up beside your mirror, so you can see them every morning (an easy Baby step to take!).

Stay Away From Jerks!

Or whatever sign would have meaning for you.

Do these things for the best reason, for you. Because we only get one time around on this merry go round, make it good! And even if we do get more, we don't remember them anyway, so this is the only one that counts for you.

Good luck!

 

[Inspirinious]

I'm sorry I missed this, I think I was writing while it posted. Unfortunately, there are no easy, fast fixes. It's baby steps. But the best part is, you are already taking some of them yourself!
Baby step: Realizing that the men you have been with were users. Check!
Baby step: Realizing not everything they said was true, or worthy of consideration. Check!
Big Step! Getting away from them. Check!
Baby step: Knowing you want to be a Vet Tech. Check!
Big Step! Getting your certificate and going back to school. Check!
Big Step! Realizing you have your own wants and needs sexually. Check!
And there are more things to add to that list. Things I could glean from your post, and things that only you know. Try making the list, it might be good for you. Realize all the positives and acknowledge them. Do you have support? Family members or friends? If not, look for a local divorce support group, or start your own thread here and talk about things as you go. I'm sure there are people here who will support you. Just keep moving forward.
Important! Learn your lessons and avoid similar situations! Tough, but you can do it Sometimes the only good thing that comes from a bad experience is a good life lesson. Don't ignore it. Write down objectives if need be and hang them up beside your mirror, so you can see them every morning (an easy Baby step to take!).

Stay Away From Jerks!

Or whatever sign would have meaning for you.

Do these things for the best reason, for you. Because we only get one time around on this merry go round, make it good! And even if we do get more, we don't remember them anyway, so this is the only one that counts for you.

Good luck!

Very well said. I totally agree.

 

[Endless_Night]

Really excellent reply, Collar.

 

[Endless_Night]

Now....

*taps foot impatiently*

How's about some of the below?

- Are we supposed to recount public sex experiences?
- Are we supposed to ask questions about public sex experiences?
- Are we suppose to share fantasies of wanted public sex experiences?
- Are we suppose to share pictures that meet forum guidelines and link pictures that don't?
- All of the above????