PSA if you are leaving a control or at all abusive relationship

[richard_daily]

She is still missing and has been for 30 yrs, I am pretty sure she and the kids have been dead since they day they went missing.

I originally wrote 20 but it happened in the 1980's, so 30.

I will let you know when they find their bodies.

That's fucked up.

There are some really horrible people in the world... and anyone who is abusive towards a partner deserves horrible things to happen to them. The first of which is to be alone. We have some litizens who are already on that stage, including a few who are posting in this very thread.

 

[Lancecastor]

We have some litizens who are already on that stage, including a few who are posting in this very thread.

Are you speaking for/of yourself?

 

[NOIRTRASH]

That's fucked up.

There are some really horrible people in the world... and anyone who is abusive towards a partner deserves horrible things to happen to them. The first of which is to be alone. We have some litizens who are already on that stage, including a few who are posting in this very thread.

NOOR conveniently ignores the fact that women top the child abuser pile.

 

[hashtag45]

NOOR conveniently ignores the fact that women top the child abuser pile.

you're right in a sense.
In that the balance might be a bit more tilted towards women when it comes to physical abuse.
But when it comes to sexual abuse: men top it by far

 

[Noor]

I haven't ignored men and children.
I said nothing about which sex was more abusive.
Show me where I made such a statement.

I have seen both sides.
The worst child abuse I have seen, short of death, was done by a mother.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

I haven't ignored men and children.
I said nothing about which sex was more abusive.
Show me where I made such a statement.

I have seen both sides.
The worst child abuse I have seen, short of death, was done by a mother.

Girls tend to go the whole hog. I stopped my mother from killing me and a sister, I was 3, and a junior gladiator. Every girl is a fair fight.

 

[hashtag45]

Girls tend to go the whole hog. I stopped my mother from killing me and a sister, I was 3, and a junior gladiator. Every girl is a fair fight.

Interesting that you had the reverse of Adjud.'s experience, and that transpires occasionally in what sort of things push your guys' buttons.

I was lucky.
Of course no family is perfect and mine wasn't either, but I was brought up feeling loved, and my parents and sister always supported me through thick and thin.

In saying that, I belong more to JBJ's side, so to speak.
Although, compared to my father, in her attitude towards us kids my mother was a lot more altruistic putting other people's needs first,
- in her relationship with my father and us kids, she was also less mellow and more controlling than my dad was.

So even if whatever was going on between them didn't spill into their attitude towards us, I'm certainly biased and inclined to see a bit more of the husband's side of things.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I think many go back because they don't want to be alone or the abuser does the whole spiel about it won't happen again, I love you blah blah blah or they're scared if they don't go back the abuser will kill them. Or maybe they'll change.


It's difficult getting away safely and it is hard to explain why some women go back. I think they're so beaten down physically and emotionally that they become like caged, mistreated animals. They don't know any different. Their spirit is broken. They feel worthless, ugly and shut down emotionally and try to survive each day...

...If this is your life of fear and pain please know you are not alone, There is hope and help. Be safe. You have nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. You are not weak or useless or responsible for someone who belittles you, beats you or treats you badly. You do have worth. You are stronger than you think you are. You are wonderful and you need to get out safely and never go back. You need to be a warrior for yourself and if you have children for them too.

Sometimes people are missing basic skills needed to live alone or provide for their children. If they have been in the relationship since high school, they may not even kow how to write a check.
Sometimes the evil you know is better than the evil you don't.
Often their spirit is broken.

It is not as easy as it seems.

 

[richard_daily]

I stopped my mother from killing me and a sister, I was 3, and a junior gladiator.

Do you ever stop lying?

 

[Christobal]

I find it interesting that we become outraged at other outrageous comments. The subject becomes unimportant. No longer a subject to be be discussed.

 

[stickygirl]

I find it interesting that we become outraged at other outrageous comments. The subject becomes unimportant. No longer a subject to be be discussed.

Interesting? I find it boring. It's like spending time with spoiled children: Me, me, me

 

[Noor]

Interesting? I find it boring. It's like spending time with spoiled children: Me, me, me

I just don't read them.